Re: Social Media, gallowsgryph 03/19/24
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User gallowsgryph recently wrote about "dumping social media"[1].
Though I still have a facebook account for work pages, it has been a
few years since I deleted all of my person content (not easy to do,
and some of it kept showing up randomly years later; in other words,
it isn't really deleted). I remember the feeling of freedom after
finally exiting that world.
I took quite a while to join facebook. It was 2009, and my older
brother told me it was a great way to connect with family and friends.
What wasn't made clear (and I'm not blaming him) was how much of a
dumpster fire it was and would become. The fact that manipulative
idiots would be controlling what I and other saw was also not
explained. But all of that is fine now, because I'm not longer a
victim.
The part of gallowsgryph's post that I wanted to respond to was this:
"In the end, gopher and the like might be the perfect /community/ for
me. You're not expected to be terminally online and constantly
knowledgeable about everything going on. You can write as much or as
little as you want. And you can "disappear" for days or weeks at a
time without people freaking out that you've not said anything in the
last few hours."
Amen to that! People come and go in gopher/gemini/pubnix/etc space,
and we accept it. That's the culture. There are people I miss when
they're gone, and who I'm glad to see return. There are some who have
left and may never return. It's more natural, I think; this is how
relationships in meatspace work, at least for me.
So, contracts to you, gallowsgryph. You made the right choice.
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gopher://sdf.org:70/0/users/gallowsgryph/phlog/2024-03-18_social_media.txt
