Scanned a few feels today. I like the feels engine. It is an interesting way to
express things, and an interesting and non-intrusive way to share with others.
It is inline with gopher (and it publishes to gopher!) in the sense that it
lets you explore, express, and reciprocate, if you want. There is no demand, no
expectation.
I was reading tehfraga's feel about their dad's passing. I relate, as my father
passed away two years ago in March. I can't believe it's been two years
already, it feels like it just happened. My grandfather passed away a little
over a year after my father, so it's been a busy two years.
But anyway, I wanted to express some feelings that tehfraga's feels brought up.
They mentioned feeling unsteady, and some issues around how the family handled
things. I still feel unsteady, and there is a bit of a rift in my own family
right now that we're trying to heal, that came to a head after the funeral.
Family is difficult. It's wonderful, but it's not easy. It's not simple or
free, there is a cost. It's worth it, to me, but it still bears talking about.
I hope that the grief gets better tehfraga. Maybe it won't ever be gone, and
in that case I hope that you can bear it and find a way in your new reality. It
is hard to lose people. It's hard on everyone that is left.
