Yeah, I am surrounded by them... They are everywhere. I cannot stand my
co-worker who is being very moody again --- which really means not talking to
me. I have always been the one trying to start a conversation... Recently I
have realized she has not been genuinely talking to me... which means she was
not really asking me any questions about me, what I've been up to, etc... She
talks to me about her kids (more like showing off really -- telling the whole
world their accomplishments, etc), complaints -- her computer and her
'clients', etc... When I say good morning to her, she does not really look at
me when she responds. I do not think I am the problem here. I am a very
pleasant, friendly person... but I can be a real bitch when you disrespect me.
.. so enough is enough....
.. starting yesterday, I stopped making all those small conversations with
her. I have had issues with her in the past of her moodiness which I brought up
to my boss --- which ended up me making them both cry.
.. nope, I will not be swayed by emotions anymore.
So, that being said, I have not been talking to my moody co-worker since
yesterday. I still do say good morning and good night... but that's about it.
She and my boss (yup, she is also a problem for me... I will talk about her
later) still continue looking for my mistakes -- I am talking about minute
mistakes here... My boss -- still a very controlling/micromanaging lady... Very
early in the morning today, she emailed us ridiculing how wrong I was for
bringing up an issue in one of our vendors... She did not even try to
understand what I was trying to say... She did not even check the site I was
referring to... Both of them always think of me as an ever-erring guy. Oh yeah,
she also sent us an email to stop sending 'thank you' emails... and this was
not the first time. If she confronts me again, I will tell her 'too bad... if
they don't want my email, let them delete my emails, or let them come to me and
tell me to stop'... seriously! These are all just coming from her... this is
deeply rooted from her controlling personality --- She had been trying to
meddle with other departments' issues and then she would complain how they
stressed them out... God! Very poor managing skills. I don't know why she is
holding that position. She is kind, yes... caring... but I do not need that
from a manager. I want a SOUND manager who is capable of real managing --- not
micromanaging... we are all adults here.
I need to get out of this place. I will start looking for a new job.
I have been swamped with so much work, not just lately, in the past few months
now with the system that was shoved to our faces when we were acquired by a
larger company. I have been stressed out, BUT I have been very good at not
showing my frustrations or stress... I still remain calm at work.... just not
talking much. Much less contact would be better.
I need to get out of this place. I don't care anymore about financial
consequences.
I don't need more stress -- I have been stressed so much already.
.. by the way, I am not a moody person. You may have noticed that I am
sometimes being moody. I get moody only if someone is being moody at me or if
someone is making my life a living hell. It's really all about the people
around you.
Yes, I know... I just have toughen up a bit... develop a much better social
skills with this type of people... but I am human. I am also capable of being
angry.
OK, another postscript --- I am not sure if I have mentioned it before but I
will mention it again --- this team I am in right now has a really bad
reputation in the office for being the worst team (it's a 3 person team for
crying out loud!).... the person I replaced left the team because of the moody
coworker and the micromanaging/controlling boss lady. She left without notice.
She actually transferred to the other team in the office who took her out of
pity... and I have been told many times by my boss to be conscious about stuff
I say because of that reputation. She does not want us discussing things
outside, she always wants us to go inside the office because both of them get
really amped up and overly excited about things and people around us may think
that 'the thing' was happening again... well I think they have noticed some
irregularities with us already lately.
