NPD isn't a horrible thing. I know a number of people who suffer
from it. THEY don't know they're suffering but they got the
diagnosis and are rather proud of it in fact. So, you learn to
work around them. NPD isn't something to be scared of. It's just
something one has to work around when a family member has it.
It's not a big bad scary thing. Same with Oppositional Defiant
Disorder. If you have it, you work on yourself. If you know
someone who has it, you work around it.