^For anyone going through a breakup situation, these are the 7
stages that everybody goes through. It's all perfectly normal,
and nobody goes through it in exactly the same order. Sometimes
all at the same time. Just know, you are not broken. You are
normal. The process is normal. -Ken (source follows the list)
Denial
In the immediate time after a breakup, the griever may still
think that she and her partner will mend the relationship. Even
if the breakup was permanent, the griever may tell herself that
she and her former partner could reunite if the former partner
will change. According to recover-from-grief.com, this stage
allows for emotional protection to keep the griever from
experiencing overwhelming emotion. A person will move on from
the denial phase when she accepts the finality of the
relationship.
Guilt
After a relationship, the griever may blame himself for
everything that went wrong. He may tell himself that if only he
could have done certain things better, he and his former partner
would still be together. Getting through this stage requires
that the griever admit that the end of the relationship was
caused by both partners. He must learn from his mistakes.
Sadness
This period of sadness always follows a breakup. The griever
should spend the time experiencing the emotion rather than
trying to hide from it. This stage fills the griever with
insecurity and makes it hard to go about daily tasks. Supportive
friends, exercise and counseling may help the griever move past
this stage.
Anger
The griever may start to feel anger toward her previous partner.
She might also feel irrationally angry toward others in her
life. Healing comes when the griever allows herself to fully
feel the anger, according to grief.com. Journaling and
exercising may help the griever move past the anger.
Upward Turn
At one point during the grief process, the feelings become
easier to manage. This shows that the grief has run its course.
The griever learns to experience and live life without his
former partner.
Rebuilding
The griever begins to build life without her former partner. She
starts to think rationally again. A life forms apart from the
relationship.
Acceptance
This means that the griever fully accepts the breakup and can
move on with life. Dating becomes a reality again. The griever
shows acceptance when he starts to look for a new relationship
without giving much care to his old one.
Read more: The Seven Stages of Grief for Breaking Up | eHow.com
http://www.ehow.com/list_6973543_seven-stages-grief-breaking-up.html#ixzz1Yn5dztwu^
