^7 WAYS OF DEALING WITH AN ENEMY Follow each step until SUCCESS:
COMBINING STEPS IS: A GOOD THING. a) AVOID: You are replacing
yourself. NOT YOU. Let someone else deal with it. Get someone to
handle the problem INSTEAD OF you. Say the magic words to the
right person and it's no longer your problem anymore. Monitor
the situation on occasion if you're curious if it worked, but
really, it's off your back, not your problem, you're free to
carry on with your life. AKA: SUBSTITUTE, PROXY, REPLACEMENT
YOU, It may make you feel strong because you are not alone and
have someone powerful to take your place completely. Drawbacks:
You might be considered a tattletale. If this is important to
you to NOT be a tattletale, then this method is a FAIL for you.
It doesn't fit you, doesn't suit your needs at all. It also
requires more than just you by yourself. You need an authority
figure (someone ABOVE you and your enemies). Teacher, parent,
police, lawyer, someone smarter than you, someone stronger than
you (if you want them to fight). You can also find someone who
is just like you to replace you. it may make you feel powerless
and weak because you couldn't handle it by yourself, If this is
important to you, consider it a FAIL. Effort required: 1) Find
the right KIND of person to tell. 2) Find the right person to
tell 3) Figure out the right words to say to make it happen 4)
See if it works the way you want to, if not REPEAT step a),
perhaps changing either the PERSON or KIND OF PERSON or WORDS
you use. Or consider it a FAIL: FAIL b) DUPLICATES: YOU +
ANOTHER: Get someone to handle the problem WITH you. The "at
least I'm not alone in this" answer. Share the effort, share the
victory, share the failure. The "army" of "You and What army?"
c) Don't care. ALONE I don't like you, love you, or hate you. I
just don't care about you. Do whatever you want to me, say
whatever you want to me. It doesn't affect me in any way at all.
You're not worth my time. But I'll play along and pretend. If
you want to talk, I'll talk. If you want to yell, I'll yell. If
you want to fight, I'll fight. But I really don't care if I win
or lose. I don't care of you win or lose. I don't care if I get
hurt because I'll heal. I don't care if you say mean things
about me or to me, because your words mean nothing to me. You
don't affect ME in any way at all. Want to start a rumor that I
eat pancakes with my cat while standing on a toilet? Go ahead.
Meaningless. Trying to get everybody to believe that I'm someone
who can't be trusted? Doesn't matter. Did you succeed in getting
people to think bad or wrong things about me? It's ok - if they
believe those things about me it doesn't matter. Are you telling
people my secrets that are true? It's ok. "If that's what you
want to believe" is all I'll say. Let them figure it out. Not
worth MY energy or time to figure it out for them. This is the
most powerful method that you can do by yourself, where you need
nobody else. Let them think or do what they want. They're not
important enough for you to care. This is of the Doesn't Apply,
Not Applicable, Your Argument is Invalid variety. In short,
"Enemy? What enemy? I don't have any enemies. What is an enemy?"
FAIL d) FLOW: try to make them your friend ALONE. Co-operation,
find something in common, act as if you want to be their friend,
find things to do together. Say I'm sorry/Please/Thank You. This
is how little kids solve it. But, that solution can be very hard
when you've already decided they're not worth that kind of
effort and don't want to do it / lazy / don't care / hate them
too much. This answer can take a lot of work and dedication.
IMPLICIT, INTERNAL, NATURAL, AUTOMATIC, FROM THE IN TO THE OUT.
UNCONSCIOUS, HABIT, FAST FAIL e) WRITE IT DOWN: Make a DEAL with
them. ALONE Find out something they need that you can provide.
"If I do this for you, can you be my friend/just leave me alone"
Much easier to do. If it works, it's a Verbal Contract. It's a
just like a written CONTRACT that you sign. And yes, you can
have it in writing too. EXPLICIT, EXTERNAL, FROM THE OUT TO THE
IN TO THE OUT, CONSCIOUS, SLOW FAIL f) AVOID. Neutral. No
Talking Needed. ALONE. This is a lot like a) but with nobody to
substitute for you. This takes a lot of PHYSICAL creativity.
Ducking around corners, hiding, scheduling your time so you
DON'T meet up with them. More permanent avoiding involves moving
to a different place completely, making the POTENTIAL for
meeting up with the enemy again LESS LIKELY. FAIL g) Fight. My
enemy is my best friend, in reverse. ALONE Fend for yourself,
with yourself, by yourself. You have a lot of ways to fight. You
can fight with your mind by thinking creatively how to win, you
can use your mouth by verbally fighting, you can fight with your
fists or feet or whole body or use tools or weapons. Stand tall
and proud and give it all you got if you choose the final
option. If keeping an enemy your enemy is important to you, then
they deserve NOTHING but the BEST FROM YOU. Fight like you mean
it. Your enemy is your best friend, but in reverse. I personally
prefer NOT breaking any LAWS or doing things that you feel are
WRONG. HOWEVER That's my opinion. Breaking laws and doing what's
wrong is something that people do every single day. It's just as
valid of a way to live your life as any. Mom and dad and teacher
and police and court and religion and neighbors and family and
friends may disagree with me saying that.. but it's true. Of
course you can do it. If you couldn't do it, nobody would be
doing it. I can't breath in the middle of the Sun, but I can
break a law. I just choose not to. I do choose to do what's
wrong sometimes. Choosing right and wrong and good and evil and
following laws or not is all CHOICE. If you choose this option,
you are likely to have to repeat it. Over and over and over
again, in many different ways. Or perhaps the same way over and
over again. With f) and g) you are likely to repeat them over
and over until your situation changes. WRITTEN BY KENNETH UDUT
7/1/2013 I simply applied the theory I'm working on, but
replaced those words with words that seem to have something do
with enemies or bullying. I have no idea if this is good advice
but I hope it helps.^
