ah! the "excuse-makers" - "sorry, can't do it. got
  lupus/fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue syndrome/connective tissue
  disorder" (yes, they're REAL but a lot of self-diagnosis goes
  on) - and you're right - a lot of self-diagnosed aspergers -- I
  figure I probably am somewhere on the autistic spectrum - but
  have no real idea - and it wouldn't matter if i had it or not -
  i'm still the same person. it's just a convenient thing. "