There is a great motivational speaker, tony robbins, who says to
the audience "I have The Secret to getting anything you want in
life and it comes down to one word. (Dramatic pause while
audience talks amongst themselves) ASK." You have to ask the
right question. Ask the right person. Ask at the right
time/right place. Ask in the right way (tone of voice, body
language...). And Ask Specifically. I would love to master this
stuff, but at least I know how I'm supposed to do it. And I
believe he's 100% right. "