Daily thought: Shame expresses itself in two ways: embarassment
and/or anger/retaliation. In both cases, the source of shame is
usually imaginary - ''so and so shouldn't find out'' when so and
so doesn't care -- or its shame based on something you were told
when you were young (often by people who aren't even in your
life anymore, like old classmate taunting) -- a very common one
is people hiding t...heir teeth when they smile because they
were told they had funny teeth as a kid. (I was one of those
until I realized how silly it was) Shame appearing as
anger/retaliation is a more interesting response: feeling
defensive therefore going on the offensive. It's interesting
because that's when people say/do the strangest things, or
they're on high-sarcasm mode. Answer? Acknolwedge your
embarassment or anger/retaliation as based on shame. Identify
the source of the shame. Come to terms with it, accept your
flaws as gems instead, realize most people don't care about your
''shames'' as you think (and simply feel pity for those that do
oddly want you to be ashamed) and carry on without shame
(embarassment or anger/retaliation, however it shows itself).
Kenny's dime-store thunk of the day. Hope it helps somebody out
there get over something they'd like to get over.
