I love tolkein and damn, he's right about that - but OUCH - wish
  you could say to someone, "it'd be better if you didn't do that
  - it will hurt you in the end" - but experience always teaches
  best, unfortunately, and so every generation, every individual
  has to learn the same things in the same ways as those who came
  before. Through pain experienced rather than listening and
  thinking about things. "