the best answer I found for the LENDing aspect of money: JUST
GIVE. When it leaves your hands, you can HOPE you'll get it
back, but you need to be resigned to the fact that you may NOT
get it back - and BE OKAY with that result. When you lend, you
are giving it away for free, with no anxious anticipation of it
being returned - yet you can still HOPE lightly that it may come
back to you - and you can even put together a payment schedule,
etc. But never EXPECT to get it back, else you will drive
yourself BATTY. "