It's all subjective in the end. Girls-this or boys-that, can't
really generalize at all. Boys feel the need to fit to certain
expected standards, set by movies, pop stars, friends
(one-upmanship) and the expectations of mean-girls. [meangirls
often rule a school] Also, high school is all about stereotypes.
What stereotype do I fit in? What stereotype to the others fit
in? There's tons of stereotypes out there. The thing is: The
stereotypes aren't a reality. But people feel pressured to
conform to one stereotype of another while also feeling
compelled to stick EVERYBODY else in particular stereotypical
boxes. This is what I mean by "meangirls often rule a school".
They're often the first one to set the stereotypes of people in
the school. The thing is: The stereotypes are invalid but the
voices of the stereotypers are very loud and drown out even
one's own thoughts of individualism and make it difficult
sometimes to see others' individuality, except perhaps that of
their best friends. == Well, maybe consider providing this food
for thought: What most boys or girls do or don't want really
doesn't matter: She has to worry only about one. == Rachel
though, there's not much difference between fantasizing about
sex and fantasizing about romance. The way they're enacted may
be different (one more direct, one more all-encompassing) but
it's not really that different. == They're both forms of fantasy
and conquest though. == Point is, we're all individuals. A lot
of thing that we believe are generalized to one gender or
another are instead socially indoctrinated from a young age
through believing in roles. Not all role play life the same way.
Boys are under equal pressure as girls, they both fantasize
about romance and sex alike, both have interests OUTSIDE of sex
and romance and, to be honest, I think we humans like talking
about it far more than actually doing it. Many stereotypes
aboud. == I try to speak only for myself whenever I can. I can't
read others minds that well. Probably a cognitive flaw. ==
Having dealt with many mothers who thought they were MILF when I
was a teenager, I can confirm woman's libido. [I resisted their
advances though because their libido was FAR greater than my
own... and I wasn't interested]. I'd say my libido remained
pretty consistent from the age of 13 onwards. I'm 44 now. It's
there but about the same. It was never a dominating force in my
life. == But I fantasized a lot about romance at that age.
Perhaps I just straddle the genders or something, I dunno. I
never understood the binary gender thing and I'm frankly glad
that these days fluidic gender is more of a 'thing'. Seems more
proper. == I think more boys are romantic than either the adult
world or teenage girls often give them credit for. I wasn't mr
raging hormone, although of course the libido was there. But I
*was* very deer-y eyed, romantic, crushes, love poetry, stuff
like that. ==
