rape can go even deeper than fear or terror -- what about
  "grooming"? that's where it really gets fuzzy but not really -
  the same tactics that would be "wooing" somebody who is of
  appropriate age and mental status is COMPLETELY inappriopriate
  and would be rightly defined as rape if it was a child or
  someone who is mentally handicapped or an elderly with severe
  dementia or alzheimers. "