People with a little less power hear the same things from the
  people with a little more power: Your right to complain is
  limited. You should consider yourself lucky. Be grateful.
  The thing is, it's not that those in power are wrong. They're
  right. But also, they're wrong. You see this pattern at every
  level, from the largest human organizations to the smallest
  social units. It's a strange pattern and it's likely we've each
  by on both sides of the conversation at one time or another. I'm
  not complaining - I'm grateful; just a strange thing.