Ok, intersecting paradigms might be:

  Paradigm 1:
  "I am a man in the USA. I am expected to be tough like John
  Wayne."

  Paradigm 2:
  "I am a man in the USA. I am expected to be understanding and
  thoughtful like Hugh Grant once he gets over himself."

  Paradigm 3:
  I am a human. Beyond the plumbing and some hormonal differences,
  gender is a socially constructed collective fantasy.

  Paradigm 4:
  I am rational and think logically.

  Paradigm 5:
  I am a little boy trapped in a man's body, confused about what's
  happening around me.

  Paradigm 6:
  I must be authentic as authentic people are. [see John Wayne for
  male archetype]

  Paradigm 7:
  I must pretend in order to tie these intersecting paradigms
  together.