Empathy instead of complaining.
That's the secret.
Eliminate "They should" out of your vocabulary for anything;
"they should" is a recipe for misery. Why should they? Who are
you? Fuck it. Empathize with people who matter to you, journey
with them, fuck everybody else. They can live happily ever after
or die in a hole or somewhere inbetween, but if you and yours
are a success by your own internal measures of satisfaction and
growth... you don't need even need delusions. Just give less of
a shit about the "rest of it" and more of a shit about what you
can DIRECTLY help to influence by your empathy.
