True. I use mental tricks. I call everybody friend. In the
friendship category, I assign no procreation status or
capabilities. I allow for shut doors, allowing life's processes
to remain a secret situation.
*So, universal friendship was my answer to it and it works. It's
a trick, yes, but it helps. When I want to understand someone's
point of view, I want to be made of neutrinos for a moment and
unseeingly/unfeelingly fill myself next to every quark in their
being and ride their brain waves, comprehend their nervous
system, feel their feelings, see what they see, comprehend
entirely THEM _as_ THEM and experience it without losing myself
in the process.
But I have to express myself in words or actions and participate
in the back-and-forth process. So limiting. But such as it is. I
believe I understand. I read a long book (well, heard a long
books-on-tape [which was really [1]Audible.com as it existed in
2000 on my Palm Pilot clone, the marvelous Handspring Visor) on
Emotional Intelligence. I believe at some point, I realized that
I am "thin walled". Empathic. My boundaries of self->other->self
are hazy and unclear or what he called "thin". Some people have
very thick boundaries. I'm quite ok with that but I have to
learn little tricks to keep identity intact. Are they fact? I
dunno. But pragmatist as always, they work well enough. Oh,
abstracting. yes, that was my main point. Pulling yourself OUT
OF yourself and placing it into a mirror image that faces you is
a completely reasonable solution. I like your robots + aliens.
For me, I see myself as alien, who makes attempts to appear
human as best I can. Same basic concept though - helpful in
preservation of identity without full absorption. and thank
you yet again; you drew something out of me (assisted in greatly
- I don't wish to assign impetus so drastically as conversation
is the connection itself with the parties involved
simultaneously, even if the conversation is spread out across
time a little) that I forgot was there. I don't think I've
mentioned my neutrino thing before elsewhere; a new one to add
to my database of collected thoughts.
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