* I think we lose the idealism of youth; we sometimes accept
      the positions of our elders, or we find *new* parents - a
      guru, an ideology, whatever the case may be... and latch
      onto it as: ABSOLUTE TRUTH and use it as our new measuring
      stick. This happens in our teens and especially in our 20s I
      believe.

      Some people stick with it. Some put it aside and might chase
      after ideal after ideal (if one is an idealist)... and
      then... at least for me, I find that I have been piecing
      together something that's, well, "just for me"; some
      combination of absolutes and relative positions on various
      things.

      I'm 42 now. I'm convinced that we've learned almost
      everything we needed to know by the age of 4 years old.
      Everything beyond that, is roleplaying.

      [we first absorb society by mirroring, then as we become
      social beings - almost as if some kind of explosion takes
      place around the age of 7 like a "HI WORLD HERE I AM... omg
      they're attacking me... I can't let them know my weaknesses"

      and it's roleplay after roleplay.... acting out the models
      of our youth in various forms. Replacing our parents with
      new parents; an ideology replaces Mom or Dad... etc.

      and right and wrong... well... yeah, its' hard not to lose
      your certainty in some matters...but then we gain certainty
      in other things - often ones that are from experience.
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      [12]Kenneth Udut [13]Dan Schuberth Good manipulators; I try
      play "SPOT THE BULLSHIT" quietly - to myself - with
      everybody. [including myself... although it's hard to spot
      one's own bullshittary]

      I find the areas I can trust a person with and those areas
      that I can't trust them.

      Then, I work around the areas of mistrust by being careful
      what I say and do around them. I'm slow to judge but slow to
      believe.

      And I accept my losses when master maniuplators win over me.
      But then I do a "post mortem analysis" so I am better
      prepared in the future.
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      [18]Kenneth Udut [actually thats a lie I tell myself.
      Rather, I'm quick to judge but I allow plenty of room for
      myself to be mistaken]



    * Seems like handling the truth increases with age and wisdom
      as well
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      [23]Kenneth Udut [24]Dan SchuberthIt can, if one works on
      it. I've seen the opposite happen as well. Some people find
      themselves changing ideologies later in life. I've seen many
      older people (a relative term - I'm older than some, others
      are older than me, etc) - get more conservative as they get
      older, losing their liberalism of youth and becoming more
      concrete and absolute in their convictions.

      I've also seen concrete thinkers in their youth, lose their
      ideology and lose their ideological footing, while
      reconstructing themselves from within.

      I wish wisdom-increases-with-age was a truth. But 9 year old
      nephew is wiser than me in some respects, while i am wiser
      than him in other respects.



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