Tfurrows has a wonderful post about story-telling [0]. The story of
his older friend is very touching, and reminded me of my own
experiences with seniors, first with my grandparents as a child,
then in high school as a volunteer teacher for an elderhostel
program (I taught basic computer usage to seniors - on Commodore
VIC-20s, if I may date myself) and later as a paramedic. The latter
was not always under the best of circumstances [1], of course, but
there were moments I enjoyed, generally routine inter-hospital
transfers of older patients who were well enough and willing to
engage in conversation as they rode in the back of an ambulance.
I think most of the joy in re-telling is for the teller of the
story, not the listener. When I tell stories of my youth to my own
children, the act of telling brings back fond memories. I suspect
this becomes a coping mechanism for aging and as such is perfectly
understandable (of course it might just be a failure of memory,
later in life, forgetting who and what you have told).
When we moved to Quebec over three years ago, the first people to
welcome us were a nice older, Quebecois couple who lived across the
street. They were both about 78 at the time. Over the next few years
we became close and would attend each other's birthdays and go out
to dinner together. We shoveled their driveway in the winter, and we
would watch each other's houses when we went on vacation. They both
had spent time in the States and spoke fluent English, in addition
to their native French, which helped us tremendously when we first
arrived. The husband was an investment advisor for many years, but
gave that life up in his 50s and moved to a country farm with his
wife, where they spent the next 20 years raising sheep and running
an apple farm. Their stories are fascinating! Finally, all this
reminds me of Story Corps [2]. My wife and I liked to listen to the
Story Corps segments on our local NPR affiliate when we lived in the
States.
[0]
gopher://zaibatsu.circumlunar.space/0/~tfurrows/phlog/2019-12-04_tellingStories.txt
[1]
gopher://sdf.org/0/users/slugmax/phlog/2017/tales-of-a-former-paramedic
[2]
https://storycorps.org/