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Who wants a New Year's do-over? (Or, making resolutions that last) • Daily Montanan [1]

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Date: 2025-03-25

Now that we’re a couple months into the new year, I have a question for you. How are those resolutions holding up?

If you’ve already ditched yours, you’re not alone. In fact, 90% of New Year’s resolutions have already failed by the middle of February. Yes, in just six weeks, which leads me to my next question.

Who wants a resolution do-over?

I have one I’d like to propose. It’s something we all can do, no special skills or equipment required. It’s not overly ambitious or cost prohibitive. And it’s never too late to get started. Promise.

This year, I encourage you to take responsibility for the way you think.

Let me explain.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you think the way you do? Whether it’s a strong opinion about politics, a preference for how things “should” be done, or even a snap judgment about someone you’ve just met, these thoughts don’t come out of nowhere. They’re shaped by your past experiences, the lessons you’ve learned (or perhaps misunderstood!), and the environments you grew up in.

Did you know that the first two years of your life stay with you forever? Yes, even though we may not have clear, conscious memories from that time, those early experiences affect us in profound ways. Implicit memories—those tied to emotions, behaviors, or sensations—are imprinted in subtle but meaningful ways and influence how we interact with the world.

The reality is, as children, we are completely at the mercy of our parents and caregivers–and that can have both positive and negative effects. A sense of security, attachment, or fear developed in infancy may persist and, in turn, impact the way a person thinks, behaves and engages with others. For example, an infant who is routinely neglected may grow up to question or distrust authority. On the other hand, a toddler who consistently receives positive affirmation and encouragement may become a highly motivated, self-confident adult.

Taking the time to reflect on what is behind your thinking gives you invaluable insight into the beliefs, assumptions and biases that influence your decisions, actions and relationships. It also deepens your self-awareness and enables you to take ownership for what you do and how you show up in the world. That, in and of itself, is a game-changing superpower. It opens doors to greater empathy and understanding of others. It helps you identify patterns rooted in past experiences, cultural influences, or personal fears. It enables you to make more intentional choices and communicate more effectively.

Taking responsibility for your thinking is equally important because it shifts the power back to you. Instead of blaming others or external circumstances, you can actively shape your own mindset and behavior. It empowers you to become a better version of yourself. And that is a beautiful thing for this year and for all of your new years to come.

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