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You can be “nice” and still be a POS. [1]

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Date: 2025-07-03

As I’ve said, I often will not post a lot of things I write, it’s just my way of going through my thoughts. Due to some recent events I’ve decided to post this one. Believe me I’ve met blue voters that make some conservatives and even maga look like angels. Some of you (not a lot) have evolved the art of shaming and victim blaming to the heights of Kilimanjaro, some of you misuse phrases like virtue signaling and self-righteousness to try and silence others you do not agree with. Some think that by the unique act of having cast a blue vote you are somehow elevated to goodness and sainthood even if every other word and action you pose drip with malice and hate. It DOES NOT. The most vicious attacks I’ve received online, be it regarding racism, bigotry or other have come from blue voters, the so called “nice ones”! Go figure. And to those that will come here to tell me to “let it go” the answer is NO. I will keep calling out the undercurrent of bullying that goes on here as long as I am here.

On June 13th, (not on Dkos) I posted a call for raising money for a 12-year-old Haitian girl who tried to unalive herself when she found out she was pregnant after a rape… I received 25$ (only stating this so people don’t think I’m hording money raised, I’ve learned people always think it’s about the money, even if I had raised the amount needed, money wouldn’t have saved her)... Malah died early this morning (June 14th). It’s no one’s fault but the rapist, but it contributed to my current mood. Not to mention the murder and attempted murders in Minnesota against democratic lawmakers (RIP).

I had 5 medical emergencies on my hands, I didn’t raise the money I requested so I used my salary for the last person on my list, and this week that caught up with me and I asked for help for myself, I’ve done so on other occasions too. I feel ZERO shame for asking for help. None. Zilch. Nada. I don’t have a guilty conscience.

I got attacked again on this site today by someone who is apparently following me around waiting for what they see as an opportunity to strike at me. The ONLY times I’m ever “mean” to anyone is when they attack me or attack someone else in my presence, and I don’t mean attack as in criticize or disagree no… I mean real attacks. Some people feel that people that ask for money either for themselves or for a cause are easy marks, because we need money don’t you know so we won’t push back, we’ll even send them pics or shit like that… fuck off.

There is on this site an undercurrent of bad, fed by a few very few bad apples, you really should do something about that.

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Being nice isn’t the same as being good. Niceness is connected to being polite, you say the right words, you don’t swear, you’re well behaved, etc… and that’s all fine and dandy but while that can go hand in hand with being a good person, it is often particularly in the present era, a cover for a LACK of goodness.

Being good, is connected to actions, you help people, you try not to hurt people, you are aware of others in other words you care, you can have the worse manners, be vulgar, etc… and still be a good person you don’t have to be nice to be good. Think Anti-Hero, like Wolverine, ruff, gruff, but heart of gold.

Nice people abound, but good people are less common. I’m going to talk about a certain type of “nice” people, who only cos-play at being nice and think they are fooling people with their polite sweet words filled with slow acting poison.

These nice people expect that you take their “goodness” at face value, just because they smile you should ignore the sneer lurking underneath or the glare from their eyes or the condescension dripping from their words. Because well how can you be insulted if they didn’t say “Fuck you”? or outright insult you? They often will play the victim “you’re being mean to me” or victim blaming “you’re to sensitive” they are used to getting away with such behaviors and are flabbergasted when someone calls their bluff.

These nice people are experts at passive aggressive behavior, there’s always a target to their snide attacks, they say something to one person while looking out the corner of their eyes to see if the target flinches, if their arrow hit their mark.

Do not be fooled, that kind of nice people are nothing but bullies, and the only way to handle bullies is to stand up to them and call them out. Some think I’m a problem here because a couple of people have gotten into confrontations with me… nope I just refused to be a carpet and let people walk all over me just because I’m new and they are not used to new people standing up to their bullying. You come for me on my stuff? Better be ready to meet me standing up. I’ve told you before, I’m no one’s punching ball.

So, remember Santa’s advice you better be good for goodness’s sake!

#TheAmericanHaitianPoet #Woke #SocialPoetry

Paypal.me/murielvieux

Muriel Vieux – June 4th, 2025 – ©All rights reserved

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