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Date: 2025-04-24
The breakdown of societal fabric the US is experiencing is because of the breakdown of the family, not because as they try to claim the breakdown of morals/religious ethos.
For some reason at a certain point in history it became shameful for children to stay with their parents past a certain age, married or not after college it was “time to leave the nest” (maybe it was housing developers who came up with that one) only when children leave the nest, they don’t stay near, the go to another district or another state. Family becomes people you call on holidays, sometimes visit if you don’t have other plans with your friends or if you’re married which family you spend a specific holiday with, again if you don’t have other plans.
I remember reading a story recently about a couple who had just had a new baby and their “boundaries’ that the grandparents couldn’t hold the baby until they decided or even visit the mother and newborn in the hospital. A lot of people applauded this as some grand declaration of setting boundaries; I found it horrifying.
Americans throw away their parents when they get old, the children are thrown out when they “come of age” or when they don’t “fit” (Gays, trans child etc). And then you wonder why your society is the way it is? Get real. The “nuclear” family mom/dad/kid seems to be the only unit that matters. But then you spout clichés like “it takes a village” or bemoan the fact that you don’t have familial support to raise your kids. Well duh.
Your “extended” (what does that even mean) family has become expendable ahhh maybe you mean expended family as in spent, done with. Have you ever wondered if maybe that’s why the young is in the crisis you talk about so much? Knowing that you have to “get out” at some point, in your early 20’s preferably and then you “have to” get married and then “have kids” so you can have “your own family”…. Don’t they already have a family?
For someone like me who has experienced multiple cultures, seen families live together mothers, aunts, uncles, grandparents etc… the concept of American family is a horrific. And even within this “nuclear” family there is a hierarchy of “who comes first” how are you a unit of anything if you have a filing system?
Most do not have families anymore, they are couples raising children, often on their own. Maybe focus on fixing that, revamping the meaning of what family means. A family is big, it includes every blood relation and hell some that are not blood related, it’s joyous, boisterous, loud and sometimes obnoxious but much more than that… it’s home, it’s roots.
Take care of your roots from them grows the family TREE, not branch.
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#ThePoet - Muriel Vieux – April 24th, 2025, ©All rights reserved
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