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Toxic Masculinity and young men & women [1]

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Date: 2025-04-16

Has the right ever been right about anything? Everything they are telling young men are having the opposite effect. Even (most) young conservative women do not want a toxic man.

When someone says a man displays toxic masculinity… they are not challenging his masculinity but the “toxic” part. That’s the part they are criticizing not masculinity in and of itself.

I know this is not a tiktok so maybe it won’t get much traction, but I’m not a tiktok kind of person I’m a loner and a writer so endure my musings. If you want to know what women like… talk to women, really but mostly listen to women. Not women in those sit coms or movies, but the women around you. Mothers, sisters, aunties, chums, friends, pals, coworkers, grandmothers… talk to women, not men and lord please not men like Tate or Walsh. Ask yourself this, do you actually see women fawning or throwing themselves at them?

Women like men who are themselves, whatever that may be, the myth that good guys finish last, is a man made (made by men) myth by men who are toxic, their “niceness” is fake as demonstrated by the way they react when a woman says no to them. Not every woman is going to say yes to you especially if you’re not being real.

Mostly you guys are alone because you keep looking for those “hot girls” you think will fall for you and young women are also out there looking for the “perfect men” both of you need to ditch the dreams and land in reality. Most guys will not get hot girls and there’s no such thing as the perfect man.

And though we live in a society that has turned looks into some sort of asset, trust me, you’ll be perfectly happy with someone who fits your personality be they tall, short, skinny, chubby, or any shape or form. Looks have absolutely zero to do with love, yes yes I can hear you now about physical attraction and all that… did you know that when you are in love with someone physical attraction comes with the love? You think you gonna be “un attracted” to someone if they lose their beauty? Then you were not in love, you were in lust.

Don’t get me wrong lust is fine and dandy I’ve had the pleasure of lusting in my life, but it is not what you base a relationship on. Find someone you are comfortable with, that you can laugh with, talk with, not talk with, who knows your quirks and don’t care, where you don’t have to watch your words, that’s what you want to spend your life with, someone who you are comfortable with, that’s it that’s really all you need.

I’m always baffled by this trend of “needing to meet someone to fall in love with” as if love didn’t grow out of familiarity. When do you love someone? When you know them. Who do you know? Those you frequent. Go out with the gamer you spend hours online with, or the one you spill your secrets to, the one that laughs at your silly jokes, the one who you talk books with, it’s way more lasting than looks and it sure as hell beats perfect (perfect is boring).

#ThePoet

Muriel Vieux – April 16th, 2025, ©All rights reserved

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