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Please let me share with you my letter to my friend.
Dear and Precious Friend,
Please let me share some thoughts with you that have been in my head all night and now here at 5 am in the morning I finally have to put them on paper, just to have some peace. I hope they will be of some use to you.
First and most obviously is your great and wonderful beauty. But you seem to be so hurt and wounded, I guess by your divorce and what has become of your life, that I am sure that either you don�t feel very beautiful -- or -- you have found that your gre
at beauty does not guarantee you a happy and fulfilled life. You probably are even tired of all the male action that your beauty draws to you. You probably even wish, sometimes, that you weren�t so beautiful.
But beyond your wonderful beauty, I see a sweetness and a gentleness. By �sweetness� I mean a sensitivity, a goodness, a gentleness and a kindness that most people would like to see in their mothers, their sweethearts, in the mothers of their children
and finally in their dearly beloved daughters. I am trully blessed because I do have three black daughters (17, 21, 23) and they do have a sweet lovingkindness about them that fills my heart with joy, thankfulness and pride. The problem is that a woman
needs cherishing to maintain that sweet lovingkindness, and you are hurt, wounded and vulnerable from all that you have endured. I believe that if you don�t surround yourself with people who will cherish and encourage you, you may be overcome with bit
terness and grief -- and become hard and bitter, ruining your inner and outer beauty.
But what about your beauty? Is it a liability or an asset for you? Right now your beauty might seem meaningless or at least more trouble than good. Either way, you have it. It may be temporary, but if the Lord wills, you might live with your beauty fo
r many years to come. I hope you will use it for good. You see, in our shallow and superficial world, beauty is
POWER!!!
Yes, power! I�ll tell you more about Pat B. later, but she is an example how a woman can use the POWER of her beauty for good. She became a teacher and when her students see her they are really impressed by her lovely beauty and radiant smile. That�s
power! Immediately they WANT to like her and they WANT her to like them so they behave in such a way as to please her. Even when they get crazy and restless, they still WANT her to like them so they finally come around. Her beautiful smile and radian
t personality feed their hungry loved starved souls and they feel good just being around her. For the ones with no love, her love for them gives them the will to live, to work and to do well in school. Pat becomes the wind under their sails. Pat hopes
that eventually their pleasant experience of being loved and being loved by PAT, will addict them to Love so they can�t and wont want to live without it --- and hopefully even become loving people themselves.
You have this great beauty too. You can use it to build people, encourage people and help people if you package your beauty in sweet loving kindness. Right now your children love and adore their beautiful and sweet mother. Your smile can be their sunsh
ine, your laughter their music, your eyes their inspiration. Yes, and I raised three, that smile often has to become a frown when they disobey or do things that will hurt themselves. Like the Bible says, �Those whom the Lord Loves, the Lord disciplines
�, so you love for them has to include discipline because an undisciplined child is a child doomed to disaster and grief in life. Whether it be the chop sticks I used to flick my girls legs or the things (privileges, clothing, doors, furniture etc.) I
took away from them because of their disobediene, they knew that we loved them and as soon as the discipline was done, we went on loving and laughing with them. We always explained to them whey their disobedience was bad for them and why we had to disci
pline them.
The power of your beauty can be used to get your friends to listen to you and respect your say or opinion. They�ll hear you out because they like you and your beauty. That assumes that their is a beauty to the way you talk as well as the way you look.
Cursing, swearing and obscenities make even the most beautiful woman look bad. No one in their mind wants to be around a beautiful woman who has a bad mouth, except for money or sex and and soon as they get what theywant, they are gone and she is alon
e with her ugly mouth.
The power of your beauty on your man can make or break him. If he is a fool and doesn�t appreciate your sweet beauty or abuses it and you, then he has indeed played the fool and there is no hope for him except for God. Until he lets Jesus save him, he�
s no good to you or to God. If he is a wise man, he knows he has a treasure in your beauty, especially if it is the beauty of face and form coupled with the beauty of a kind mouth and heart. Such beauty moves him to desire you, moves him to want to be w
ith you. Such beauty moves him to be thankful for you, to appreciate and treasure you. He becomes addicted to your smile and your kind and harmless talk. He longs for your smile and laughter. When he is down or beat by the day or life in general, you
can speak encouragement to him, comfort him in his hurt, give him your wamth and soft loving to help him recover from the cold and hard world outside that he has to deal with. Your warm loving beauty in form and word can make an ordinary man a great man
, can make a small man a big man, can make a weak man a strong man, can make a wounded and hurting man a healed and recovering man.
Yes you have needs too. You need to be loved and cherished too. But your love can be powerful, inspiring and uplifting even when you feel weak and unloved. If you have come to Jesus, believed and accepted His great unconditional Love for you, given yo
ur whole life to Him and asked Him to come inside of you and make you His child, His Love in you can Love others even if they nail you to a cross. But your need for Love is why Jesus commanded husbands to have and show 1 Corinthians 13 loving kindness a
nd compassionate cherishing for their wives. Of course they can�t do that until they have believed in and accepted Jesus as the One who saves them from the evil in their lives and as the One who gives them a whole new life as they yield to Him living an
d loving in and through them. That kind of husband can ever be learning how to better love and cherish his precious wife and children.
I have been �abandoned� by my two black wives, the second the mother of my wonderful daughters. I know the grief of losing the ones I love, and to realize that I was partly to blame for them leaving, and to see how they suffered and how my children suff
ered because of the divorce. If the good Lord hadn�t got me into a good divorce/grief recovery support group, I would have had a miserable life. But he used the divorce/grief recovery support group to put me back on His track of Life, Compassionate Che
rishing, Light and Truth. The wounds of divorce are to great and too deep to handle by yourself. For sure you need His help, and the help He can give you through His children in the world.
I know another black world class lady like yourself. To me she is awesome in her wonderful femininity, her beauty, her wisdom, her wonderful humor and her love for people. She was abused and abandonned by her husband, leaving her to survive on her own
with three children. I hope you will feel led to ask her for her advice on how you can survive and get on with the rest of your life and the life of your children. She is blunt, direct and up front with a smile lurking behind every serious look and wor
d. I think you will love her like I do. I believe she can be a source of great encouragement to you. Her name is Pat B. I hope you will ask her if the two of you could get together for a talk over coffee, tea or pepsi, so Pat could tell you her story
and give you advice that will show you how you can turn your life around to become something better than what you have today.
Iris A., another wonderful and lovely black lady, is a struggling single mother and teacher like Pat, who is a wise loving and caring person who could give you great advice on how to make it as a struggling single mom. You can reach her at the same add
ress.
I hope and pray you don�t surround yourself with people who are given to selfishness, pleasure and self-indulgence because they will only pull you down and harden you. Their selfishness will disappoint you and offend you. Their love of selfish pleasur
e will seem hollow, unfulfilling and diappoint-ing, especially if it is at your expense (like guys using you for sex). You will find that in their self-indulgence you often get used, or abused and they really aren�t there for you, they�re not committed
to you and your life, and you can�t rely on them or even trust them.
I hope you will surround yourself with people committed to Love, Truth, Light and Life, like Pat and Iris. I hope you will let Jesus have the broken pieces of your life, giving your whole life to Him to resurrect and make new. I hope you will surround
yourself with people who Love Him and through whom He can compassionately cherish you.
Forgive this old white dude while he shares from his heart the following:
She is black, dark brown, dark reddish brown---so many delicious shades.
Her skin looks like the richest of soils and I wonder, "Is she Mother Earth?"
She moves gracefully with strength and purpose in her steps, unaware of
her awesome beauty. She turns and looks me in the eye and then suddenly smiles so radiantly I almost lose my breath. How I love her eyes and her mouth, filled with kindness and gentleness----from which I never need fear hurt or unkindness. She laughs
and it sounds like music. We touch and my heart soars. We embrace and I put my lips on her delicious skin. She is sooooo soft and firm, so full of life! We look into each others eyes, hers sparkling----we look long and deep---and then a cloud of unce
rtainty, self-doubt, personal fears, and haunting memories moves across her face and the lovely pools of her eyes are troubled. I kiss her passionately and hold her ever so close, wishing I could pull right into my heart and soul. I look again and the c
loud has passed and her face is radiant. We two as one set out together to face and deal with our world. She lives and is loved in the deepest depths of my soul and my mind is filled with wonderful memories of her and us---and my heart rejoices.
Song of Solomon
1:1* � The song of songs, which is Solomon's.
[ The Black Shulamite to her friends]
2. He should kiss me with the kisses of his mouth;
[King Solomon]
For your lovemaking is better than wine.
Your ointments smell sweetly;
Your name is an ointment poured forth:
Therefore do the virgins love you.
[The Shulamite to Solomon]
4. Draw me [to you],
[Her friends, the Daughters of Jerusalem ]
--we will run after you!
[The Shulamite to her friends]
The king has brought me into his chambers*---
[Solomon's concubines/wives to Solomon]
-We will be glad and rejoice in you,
We will remember* your* lovemaking more than wine.
[ The Shulamite to Solomon]
They love you uprightly.*
5 I am black [as the raven*] , but comely, daughters of Jerusalem,
As the tents of Kedar,
As the curtains of Solomon.
6* Look not upon me, because I am black [as the raven*];
Because the sun has looked upon me.
My mother's children were angry with me:
They made me keeper of the vineyards;
Mine own vineyard have I not kept.
7* � Tell me, you whom my soul loves,
Where you feed [your flock],
Where you make it to rest at noon;
For why should I be as one veiled
Beside the flocks of your companions?
[ Solomon,the shepherd lover ]
8* If you know not, you fairest among women,
Go out your way by the footsteps of the flock,
And feed your kids* beside the shepherds' booths.
[The Shulamite]
12* � While the king is at* his table,
My spikenard sends forth its fragrance.
13* A bundle of myrrh is my beloved unto me;
He* shall pass the night between my breasts.
14 My beloved is unto me a cluster of henna-flowers
In the vineyards of Engedi.
[ Solomon]
15* Behold, you are fair, my love;
Behold, you are fair: your* eyes are [as] doves.
[The Shulamite ]
16* Behold, you are fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant;
[Solomon]
2:2* As the lily among thorns,
So is my love among the daughters.
[The Shulamite ]
3* � As the apple-tree among the trees of the wood,
So is my beloved among the sons:
In his shadow* have I [ecstatic] rapture* and sit down;
And his fruit is sweet to my taste.
[The Shulamite to her friends, the Daughters of Jerusalem]
4* He has brought me to the banqueting house*,
And his banner over me is [romantic] love*.
5* Sustain me with raisin-cakes,
Refresh me with apples;
For I am weak* from [romantic] love*.
6 His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces me.
7* I charge you, daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles, or by the hinds of the field,
That you stir not up, nor awake [my romantic] love*,
Till it* please.
As another poet wrote, and white me quotes:
It is with the sincere love of Our Creator that I present this
> Tribute to every Black woman across the countries of the globe.
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> Who is stronger than the mighty mountains
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> More gentle than flowers that grow
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> Who is sweeter, sweeter than honey
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> And far more beautiful than the rose
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> Who is more precious than the diamond
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> More to be desired than gold
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> All that the Black man should desire,
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> All that the Black man could ever need
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> The Black women, God's perfect gift to me...
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> ignore1996,Richard Dickerson / SoulBeat Communications
