WHEN DO I HAVE TO MARRY?   WHEN MUST WE MARRY?
WHAT ABOUT PORN?

COPYRIGHT � JANUARY 14, 1995 All rights reserved.
Copyright � 01/14/'95; 01/12/�96  (Revised)
This file, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of
computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so
inclined.
This is an ASCII text only copy of a Macintosh
MicrosoftWord5 file made for non-Macintosh folks, so it is
very plain and basic in its form (footnotes, indentation and
page layout).   So when your text only version comes up with
Palatino 14, just find Select All (under File) and change it to
Geneva 10, Helvetica 12 or Palatino 12 .  That will smooth
out the paragraphs and lines, giving you a much more
readable file.

By Lee Tyler   P.O. Box 620763, SanDiego, CA 92162-0763
    [email protected]

For more information/material, please request it from the
above or get the older/mother file with your ftp tool from
URL   http://www.etext.org    in Etext Archives    or
FTP:   gopher.etext.org
name: ftp
password: your email address
location: pub/Politics/Essays
title: divorce.remarriage.concubines.jesus

What a shame most women have no idea of what the
average male's testosterone sex drive does to him, how it can
make him burn.  Granted about half of males have low mid-
range to low testosterone levels as well as nocturnal
emission, so they have little or no problem turning off or on
their sex lives.  The low testosterone level males may have a
great deal of difficulty turning on their sex lives.

Women have no idea that the sex drive in that half of the
male who have mid to high testosterone levels in their blood
is as burning and compelling as the hunger drive when the
stomach is growling and cramping for lack of food; or as the
thirst drive when the tongue, throat and mouth are so dry it
is even difficult to talk; as the rest drive when it is
impossible to keep the eyes open or the body erect due to
utter exhausion.  These same women would not normally
ignore such hunger/thirst signs, nor say that they would
take cold showers and exercise to overcome such
hunger/thirst signs.  If they chose to fast, go without food
and drink, by the second day they would be too weak to do
their daily work and chores, and by the third day they
would be too weak walk far or stand for long periods of time.
As one who has fasted and prayed three days without food
or drink, I know.

Yet they fault the mid to high testosterone blood level male
for not being able to ignore his burning and compelling sex
drive and do without.  When the men who are not blessed
with natural nocturnal emission (wet dreams) have gone
without sexual release for several days, the prostrate
becomes so congested that it begins to squeeze shut the
uretha so they cannot urinate normally and the effect on the
brain is that those males are so distracted and distractable,
especially by anything female, that quite literAlly their
minds could be said to be weakened in that it is very
difficult to concentrate or focus on necessary tasks.  If
women could think of their nasal sinuses being so congested
that they cannot breath, or of the problems with urination
that a woman has with urination when 8 or 9 months
pregnant, then maybe they could understand the problems
prostrate congestion can cause. Without release, ejaculation,
they could become so distracted and distractable by
anything that, as with too much alcohol, their judment and
thinking is impaired and foolish (risky), dangerous
(AIDS,HIV) or irrational behaviour resultswhich results in
burns.

To help his wife or daughter understand the effect of
testosterone on a male in relationship with his woman whom
he loves and desires passionately, a man might do the
following.  (1) Take his lady out to eat her favorite meal.
Order the meal, talking it up to maximize her anticipation
and desire for it (2).  When the meal is served, ask her take
a minute to look carefully at each item (how it is arranged,
how it appears).  Ask her to smell each item.  Ask her to take
one fork/spoon serving of each item and eat it, one at a time.
Ask her if she is pleased and still wants it (3).  If she replies
that she is ready and eager to eat and wants no more delay,
then gently, sweetly, carefully ask/beg/entreat her to trust
you in what you are about to do and that she go along with
what you are about to do.  If she will cooperate, ask the
waiter/waitress to doggy bag the meal(4).   She will
probably need a lot of reassurance at this point, so tell her
that if she will go along with you it will significantly improve
her marriage.  Hopefully she will believe you, reluctantly.
Ask her to carry the bagged food in the car on her lap, or on
the floor at her feet.  Turn on the heater of your car with a
little floor heat so the smell of the food will rise to her
face(5).  When you get home, ask her to carry it and put it in
the refrigerator (6).  She will probably need more
encouragement to do this.  Ask/beg/entreat her to trust you
and cooperate.  Ask her if she likes the way that the evening
has gone so far.  Ask her how she feels about her favorite
meal, cooling off in the refrigerator.  Sit her down and gently,
compassionately and wisely explain to her what follows next.

The �favorite meal� to him is HER (1).   He approaches,
anticipates, and awaits her with eager expectation(2).  Tell
her that everytime he sees, smells, hears, touches and/or
tastes her lips/skin, it is what she felt above (3).   Explain
that the bagging of the food in front of her (4) is what he
feels when she says to him �Honey! Not tonight.�, �I have a
headache and I just don�t feel like it right now.�, �All you
think of is sex! Chill out baby! Not tonight!�,  �What have you
done lately to deserve it, baby?�.  Explain to her that the
carrying of the pleasantly aromatic food home on her lap in
the car is like when he is near her but can�t feast on her,
can�t fully enjoy her(5).  Explain that her putting the nice
warm and delicious food in the refrigerator is what he
experiences when he has to go to bed or part from her
without having had the honor, the privilege, the delightful
pleasure, the soul fulfilling experience of feasting on her and
her many delectables (6).

Explain patiently and gently and that for him his sexual
drive is an appetite, and his appetite is for her - his favorite
feast.  Explain that to be near her is like ordering and
receiving his favorite meal, her.  Explain that when he is
denied his compelling hunger and thirst for her, it is painful
and hard to bear.  Explain that it is a soul wrenching
experience.  Explain that he NEEDS he even more than he
WANTS  her.  Appeal to her experience with the deferred
meal to understand how frustrating and emotionally
troubling it is to be denied her.  If nothing else, lay the Word
on her----how it is the will of God for her to feed the hungry,
and seeing his need and her ability to meet it -- pray that
she will be moved with compassion and meet his need.  And
explain that his responsibility is to receive the wonderful
and gracious gift that she is and has, is to gently and kindly
and thoughtfully enjoy her---seeking to give her as much
pleasure as possible.  If he doesn�t do that, then he is the
swine that had pearls thrown before him, the fool who has
no idea of the value of his precious possession and hides it
away from all, even from himself.  If the smile and
expressions of delight on her face and the utterances of
fulfillment and ecstasy on her lips are not as important to
him as his hunger for and need of her, then he is unworthy
of her.  Perhaps such an unworthy one could show genuine
repentance (2Cor7) and humble himself under the mighty
hand of His God and under the authority He has given his
wife over his body, and become a learner of how to please
and delight his woman.  A man who acts like Nabal with his
wife, will surely face the fate of a Nabal.

As a male with mid to high testosterone and no nocturnal
emission when I was in high school, my Urologist (Vital
Haynes,MD), told me I had a few options to prevent my
recurring prostrate congestion.  He said that I, at age 17,
could either get married and be intimate frequently, be
promiscuous frequently, self-stimulate quite frequently,
become homosexual (the penis in the anus squeezes the
seminal fluid out of the prostrate), or come into his office
two to three times a week for him to massage/press the
seminal fluid out of my prostrate (too expensive and
embarassing).   Cold showers, exercise and being spiritual
just did not empty the prostrate so I could urinate normally
and have my mind clear of testosterone distractions.
For the mid to high testosterone male, sexual release is just
as much as physical need as food, drink, and sleep.

The question such men have to deal with is, "How can I have
the testosterone  release I need so I can take care of daily
business and be acceptable to Jesus?"  The obvious answer is
marriage (1 Cor. 7:1,2,5,9) with a wife who understands his
sexual needs and is committed to ministering to him in his
need in Christ, and as unto Christ (Matt. 25:34,35,36), so that
his physical need of the release/ejaculation can be met and
they can get on with their lives.

The closest the female comes to this experience, except for
the women of the next paragraph, is in her PMS where her
mind is bombarded with hormones etc.  making many to be
quite distracted and temporarily not their normal selves.  It
is extremely difficult for a woman to understand that
testosterone can make a godly man  REALLY NEED (not just
want) the physical marital love making of a godly wife.  It is
not just a matter of the will and the mind, just like the
physical needs for food, drink and sleep.

The widow who is left burning for the sexual affection and
attention of her departed husband (1Cor.7:5; 1Tim.5:11-14),
has a very real and intense sex drive, not fueled by
testosterone, but by an emotional/affectionate need created
by the wonderful addiction to marital sex with her husband,
now departed.    She can actually feel, in her memory, the
stimulation of her whole body or particular erotic zones that
love making with her husband activated.   Those affectionate
and erogenous memories create an intense aching longing for
that whole body experience she had in orgasm with her
husband.

Even a formerly promiscuous woman who knew no other
love than that she had in sex with "tricks/Johns" or just guys,
feeling such an aching and yearning desire for affectionate
attention, can burn with desire for that sexual affection and
attention.  Mind, emotional and heart addictions can generate
such a desperate burning that their judgment is impaired,
their reasoning clouded, and their mind so distracted that
they are capable of doing very foolish and life threatening
things.

Before we look at when we  must marry, let�s find out the
meaning of �sexual immorality� or �fornication� which god by
paul indicates is the main reason for the need of marriage (1
COR. 7:1,2).

JESUS AND THE APOSTLES TOOK THE  SAME OLD TESTAMENT
HEBREW AND GREEK (LXX) WORDS FOR
IMMORALITY/FORNICA-TION AND USED THEM IN THE NEW
TESTAMENT GREEK WITHOUT CHANGING THEIR MEANINGS.
HE DID CHANGE THEIR PENALTIES/ PUNISHMENTS IN THIS
LIFE ON EARTH.  Matt. 5:17 � Think not that I am come to
make void the law or the prophets; I am not come to make
void, but to fulfil. 18  For verily I say unto you, Until the
heaven and the earth pass away, one iota or one tittle shall
in no wise pass from the law till all come to pass. 19
Whosoever then shall do away with one of these least
commandments, and shall teach men so, shall be called least
in the kingdom of the heavens; but whosoever shall practise
and teach [them], *he* shall be called great in the kingdom of
the heavens.  Matt. 23: 1 � Then Jesus spoke to the crowds
and to his disciples, 2  saying, The scribes and the Pharisees
have set themselves down in Moses' seat: 3  all things
therefore, whatever they may tell you, do and keep. But do
not after their works, for they say and do not,

***Sexual sin includes the following: (1)
Pressing/handling/embracing the genitals, a breast and/or
breast-nipple of a female who is not your wife or by a male
who is not your husband; (2) Coition/genital-to-genital
connection with someone who is not your husband/wife;(3)
Genital connection with orgasm with someone who is not
your husband/wife; (4) A "lover/ paramour" seeing the
genitals of the female he is involved with and she is not his
wife.
Ezekiel 23:2  "Son of man, there were two women, daughters
of one mother. 3  And they did sexual sin in Egypt; they did
sexual sin in their youth: there were their breasts pressed,
and there were handled the nipples of their virginity. . . . .  8
Neither left she her sexual sin [brought] from Egypt; for in
her youth they had lain with her, and had handled the
breasts of her virginity, and poured their fornication upon
her. 21  And you did look back to the lewdness of your
youth, in the handling of your nipples by the Egyptians, for
the breasts of your youth.  Proverbs 5:18  Let your fountain
be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of your youth.  19  [Let
her be as] the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts
satisfy you at all times; and be ravished
[enraptrured/intoxicated] always with her [erotic] love. 20
And why will you, my son, be ravished
[enraptrured/intoxicated] with some other woman, and
embrace the bosom of an alien stranger?  21  For the ways of
man [are] before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his
goings. 22  His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself,
and he shall be held with the cords of his sins."
Please read all of Ezekiel 16, Ezekiel 23 with 1 Corinthians 6.

***Pressing/handling/embracing a female's breast and/or
breast-nipple, coition/genital-to-genital connection,  genital
connection with orgasm OUTSIDE OF YOUR OWN MARRIAGE
IS UNACCEPTABLE TO GOD AND ETERNAL LIFE. Exodus 22:16
� And if a man seduce a virgin who is not covenanted-to-
marry, and lie [in genital connection] with her, he shall
certainly endow her to be his wife. 17  If her father utterly
refuse to give her unto him [as wife], he shall weigh money
according to the dowry of virgins.
Deut. 22:25  But if a man find a covenanted-to-marry young
woman in the field, and the man force her, and lie [in genital
connection] with her; then the man only that lay [in genital
connection] with her shall die: 26  But unto the young
woman you shall do nothing; [there is] in the young woman
no sin [worthy] of death; for as when a man rises against his
neighbour, and slays him, even so [is] this matter: 27  For he
found her in the field, [and] the covenanted-to-marry young
woman cried, and [there was] no one to save her. 28  If a
man find a young woman [who is] a virgin, who is not
covenanted-to-marry, and lay hold on her, and lie [in genital
connection] with her and they be found [by man or God]; 29
Then the man who lay [in genital connection] with her shall
give unto the young woman's father fifty [shekels] of silver,
and she shall be his wife; because he  humbled her, he may
not put her away all his days.
PROVERBS 5, 6, &7 on premarital &/or extramarital sex.
Lev. 18:20  And you shall not lie [in genital connection] with
your neighbour's wife, to become unclean [by
orgasm/adultery] with her.
1 Corinthians 6:9 � Do you not know that unrighteous
[persons] shall not inherit [the] kingdom of God? Do not err:
neither fornicators >*, nor idolaters, nor adulterers >~ , ...shall
inherit [the] kingdom of God. . . . 13  ... the body [is] not for
sexual sin, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 15
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?
Shall I then, taking the members of the Christ, make [them]
members of a female who does sexual sin? Far be the
thought. 16  Do you not know that he [that is] joined to the
female who does sexual sin is one body? for the two, he says,
shall be one flesh. 17  But he that [is] joined to the Lord is
one Spirit. 18  Flee sexual sin. Every sin which a man may
practice is without the body, but he that commits sexual sin,
sins against his own body...
[Footnotes>*=those who press/handle/embrace a female's
breast and/or breast-nipple,  and/or have coition/genital-to-
genital connection,  and/or genital connection with orgasm
OUTSIDE OF/WITHOUT MARRIAGE .
>~=males who press/handle/embrace the breast/nipple of
another male's female, and/or have genital connection  with
another male's female;  or females who let another male
besides her own male press/handle/embrace their
breast/nipple and or have genital connection with them]

1 Thess 4:1 � Furthermore, then, my brothers, we beseech
you and exhort
[you] in [the] Lord Jesus, that, as you have received of us
how you ought to walk and to please God, so you would
abound more [and more].  2 For we know what
commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus.  3 For this is
the will of God, your sanctification, that you should abstain
from fornication>^,  4 each one of you should know how to
know how to possess his vessel.
[Footnote:>^=Pressing/handling/embracing a female's breast
and/or breast-nipple, coition/genital-to-genital connection,
genital connection with orgasm OUTSIDE OF YOUR OWN
MARRIAGE]

OTHER  POSSIBLE TRANSLATIONS PUT FORTH BY OTHERS :
       1:  . . .�know that he is to  procure his own vessel [wife]
in  [personal]
holiness and honor, not in the passion of inordinate desire . .
�
       2. ..� learn to control his own body .. or . .�learn to live
with his
own wife; or . . .�learn to acquire a wife . . .
       3.   � know how to possess [control, manage] his own
body (in
purity, separated from things progfane, and) in consecration
and honor.".1b in sanctification and honor  5 (not in the
passion of lust, even as the nations
who know not God) ,  6 not to go beyond and defraud >1c
his brother in this matter, because the Lord [is the] avenger
concerning all these, as we also have forewarned you and
testified.  7 For God has not called us to uncleanness, but
unto sanctification.  8 He, therefore, who despises, does not
despise man but God, who also has given unto us His Holy
Spirit.
[Footnote: >1c This probably refers to adultery, defrauding
your brother by
adultery with his wife.]

IS IT PORNOGRAPHY (WHORE PHOTOS)? IS IT WRONG (SIN)?

       1. IF YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE BEING SEXUALLY
INTIMATE AND THEY ARE NOT MARRIED TO EACH OTHER,
THEN GET RID OF IT (1 THESS 5:21). To enjoy or delight in
their fornication is to  applaud, approve of or consent to
those who do the sinful actions, making you worthy of death.
(Rom. 1:32)
       2. Is the genital and/or anus exposed???  Ezek. ch. 16
and ch. 23 with Phil. 4:8 and  �I will set no vile thing before
my eyes� psa,101:3==YOU DON�T BUY/GET IT or set it before
your eyes   DON�T LOOK AT ANY PICTURES OF THoSE WHO DO
SUCH SINS, NO PICTURES OF PEOPLE WITH EXPOSED
GENITALS, OF EXTRAMARITAL SEX, OF LESBIANISM!
Psalm 101:3,4; Phil. 4:8
       3. DON�T GO TO/ASSOCIATE/FELLOWSHIP WITH
IMMORAL PEOPLE who want to have sexual intimacy with
each other or you outside of marriage. DON�T BE ALONE
WITH IMMORAL PEOPLE who want to have sexual intimacy
with you outside of marriage.    2 Cor. 6:14-7:1; 1 Cor. 5:9-11;
Proverbs chapters 5,6 & 7; ROM. 13:14
       4. GET RID OF ANY PICTURES, magazines, videos,
addresses, phone #�s OR ETC. THAT TEMPT YOU TO DO SIN, OR
CAUSE YOU TO SIN. Rom. 13:14; 2 Timothy 2:19-22
       5. KEEP YOURSELF FROM THEIR SINFUL ACTIONS AND
HAVE NO PLEASURE IN THOSE WHO DO SUCH SINFUL
ACTIONS, and so escape death. Do not applaud, approve of or
consent to thOSE who do sinful actions.  (Rom. 1:32;Psa. 15:4)
       6. GET RID OF ANYTHING THAT IS CLEARLY AND
PLAINLY SINFUL, FORBIDDEN, STUMBLING YOU, OFFENDING
YOU, GRIEVING YOU.  2 Cor. 7; Rom. 13:14; 2 Timothy 2:19-22
       7. Are they naked in public, IN magazines, in photos
for the public? It is not enough if the nude model is careful
not to let her vagina, labia, and anus be seen.  God didn�t
have nude Eve just be careful to keep her legs and buns
closed and her hand over her vagial labia.  God clothed her,
covering her vagina, vaginal labia and anus with something
in addition to her pubic and anal hair and hand.  It goes to
the �naked and bare� shame of Ezek 16 and 23 where public
nudity, bareness, exposure of vaginal labia and anus---are a
shame and a disgrace, a punishable offense in the eyes of
God. Definitely not a Phil. 4:8 for a believer. Gen. 3 God wants
our nakedness (genitalia) clothed in public and in public
photos.Gen.3;Matt. 25:36; Rev. 3:17
       8. �They exchanged the truth of God for a lie... Because
of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts...
Although they know God�s righteous decree that those who
do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do
these very things but also approve** of those who practice
them.� Romans 1  **=applaud, have pleasure in, agree with.
You don�t want to be found approving, applauding,
pleasuring in or agreeing with the vile doers or their vile
deeds unless you want to share their death. (Psa. 15:4;
101:3,4)

A CHECK OFF LIST

__ 1. Do the women involved open their feet/legs/thighs to
show their genitals publicly? One who does this is �lewd�,
�weak of heart�, and does the �work of a whore�, a vile
person to be condemned [psa. 15:4].EZ 16 & 23. GET RID OF
IT!    Rom. 13:14; 2 Timothy 2:19-22
___ 2. Do they scorn pay/reward for sex sin acts, and/or
even pay &/or reward their lovers for their sex? Then they
are whores. Ez 16       DON�T GO TO,watch or enjoy THEM.
Romans 1:32
___ 3. Do they accept salary/pay/reward for acts of sexual
sin? Pornography stars, models, people are harlots and vile.
Ez 16  DON�T GO TO,watch,or enjoy THEM! Psalm 15:4
___ 4. Are they having sex with someone else besides their
mate? This is adultery/fornication and worthy of death/ Hell
(Rom. 1:32). EZ 16  DON�T GO TO, watch or enjoy THEM!
___ 5. Do they have sex with others than their own mates
insatiably? They are  vile and whores worthy of death (Rom
1:32; 1 Cor. 6). Ez 16 DON�T GO TO, watch or enjoy THEM!
Psalm 101:3,4
___ 6. Are they involved in breast pressing and breast/ labia
handling by others than their own mates?  Proverbs 5,
Ezekiel 16 & 23.   Whores and the vile do this and are
worthy of death (Rom 1:32). It is fornication and those who
keep on doing it shall not inherit the kingdom of God (1 Cor.
6).     KEEP YOURSELF FROM THEIR SINFUL ACTIONS AND
HAVE NO PLEASURE IN them or THEIR SINFUL ACTIONS.
___7. Do you want to do sinful things in your mind with the
people in the pictures? You are snared by the Evil and are
worthy of death.  Ezek. 23:14-16; Matt. 5 KEEP YOURSELF
FROM them and THOSE PICTURES.
___ 8. Do they make public (in magazines, adds, movies, on
the street) their whorish behavior? Ez. 23:16-18
___9. Do they make public their genitals/labia? EZ. 23:16-18
Don�t enjoy them or their immodesty even in the pictures
where their genitals are covered because covered or
uncovered they are still them and they are to be avoided
and scornfully despised but prayed for (1 Tim 2:1; Psalm
15:4; 2 Cor. 6:14-7:1).
___10. Are they naked in public, in photos for the public?
Gen. 3      God wants our genitals clothed in public and in
public photos.Gen.3      Matt. 25:36; Rev. 3:17  COVER THEIR
NAKEDNESS? That is NOT ENOUGH BECAUSE THEY ARE STILL
THOSE WHO DO SUCH THINGS AND YOU MUST NOT TAKE
PLEASURE IN THEM. Don�t enjoy them or their immodest
EVEN IF THEIR GENITALS are covered.  Rom.1:32
___11. Did God tell them to be naked in public? Apparently a
male prophet can be naked publicly if God tells you to do
so.Isaiah 20
___12. Do they uncover their buts/bottoms so they are
naked publicly?  It is a shame before God. Isa. 20:2-4 ___14.
Does they show off, pridefully display their genitals?
PHILIPPIANS 3:19 with Ezek. 16 and 23.  Don�t enjoy them,
for they are to be rebuked and scornfully despised, but
prayed for.
___13. Does she dress or undress in such a place/way to
stumble, tempt, offend someone? Stay away from her and
keep her stuff away from you. Prov. 5 & 6 & 7; Rom. 14 + 1
Tim. 2:9,10
___14. Do you obey God by not setting before your eyes
       anything that is, according to God, worthless or evil or
wicked or ungodly--- like pictures of vile people showing
their genitals &/or immorality? Do you, even if they are
clothed decently and presentably, whether or not you/they
have covered their genitals?    Psa. 101:3;     Phil. 4:8
___15. Do you understand that a person is body, soul and
spirit (1 Thes. 5:23)?  Do you understand that this     means
that you are to scornfully despise the body, soul and spirit of
the vile/ wicked/ evil person who       does sexual sin?
(Psalm 15:4; 101:3,4)
___16. Do you understand that even if you can�t see their
faces, even if you don�t know WHO they are, that God
       wants you to scornfully despise their bodies, whatever
part of them you can see, while you pray for them?
       1 Tim 2:1  Psalm 15:4
___17..DO YOU SET NO WICKED THING BEFORE YOUR EYES AS
YOU WOULD HAVE TO IN ORDER TO CENSOR IT? No? I have a
woman do it? Then I have caused her to set a wicked thing
before her eyes and she could get hooked on it.  I do it in the
dark without my glasses so I can�t really see it? THE
QUESTION IS NOT �CAN YOU SEE THEM IN THEIR SIN?� BUT
DO YOU SET THE WICKED PEOPLE DOING THEIR THING BEFORE
YOUR EYES?  YES YOU DO SET THE WICKED PEOPLE DOING
THEIR WICED SIN BEFORE  YOUR EYES WHEN YOU
CENSOR/EDIT THEIR PICTURES.
SO YOU MUST NOT SET PORNOGRAPHIC PICTURES BEFORE
YOUR EYES EVEN IF YOU CAN�T SEE CLEARLY BECAUSE OF NO
GLASSES OR BECAUSE OF DARKNESS.
___18. DO YOU HATE THE PORNOGRAPHIC WORK OF THOSE
WHO SHOW GENITALS AND PRACTICE FORNICATION FOR PAY
AND FILMING?  �I cover their genitals, faces and their
personhood.� NOO GOOD BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO SET
WICKEDNESS BEFORE  YOUR FACE IN ORDER TO DO THAT.
___19. DO YOU DESPISE THE REPROBATE WHO BARES
GENITALS AND FORNICATES? �I cover their genitals, faces
and their personhood.�  NOO GOOD BECAUSE EVEN IF YOU
COVER THEIR GENITALS THEY ARE STILL THE REPROBATES
WHO BARED THEIR GENITALS AND/OR FORNICATED.
___20. Does the questionable behavior involve hand to
genital behavior?    Apparently you should have hand to
genital relations only with your own mate.
Deut. 25:11 11 KJV When men strive together one with
another, and the wife of the one draweth near for to deliver
her husband out of the hand of him that smiteth him, and
putteth forth her hand, and taketh him by the secrets:12
Then thou shalt cut off her hand, thine eye shall not pity
[her].
DBY 11 When men fight together one with another, and the
wife of the one come near to rescue her husband out of the
hand of him that smiteth him, and stretch out her hand, and
seize him by his secret parts,12 thou shalt cut off her hand;
thine eye shall not spare.
MKJV 11 When men strive together with one another, and
the wife of the one draws near to deliver her husband out of
the hand of him who strikes him, and puts forth her hand
and takes him by the secret parts, 12 then you shall cut off
her hand. Your eye shall not pity.
YLT 11 `When men strive together, one with another, and
the wife of the one hath drawn near to deliver her husband
out of the hand of his smiter, and hath put forth her hand,
and laid hold on his secrets,12 then thou hast cut off her
hand, thine eye doth not spare.
___21. Are the people doing things that are obviously sinful
and condemned by God (e.g. lesbianism,
homosexuality,bestiality, female with more than one male,
sodomy, violence etc.) 1 THESS 5:21            GET RID OF THE
STUFF Rom 13:14
___22. Are the people involved doing a sinful act (two
unmarried being intimate, lesbianism) ?
       GET RID OF IT
___23. Do you agree with God honoring those who fear Him
and scornfully despising those vile and depraved
       reprobates who sin by showing their genitals or
fornication in public, magazines &/or videos; whether
       or not they are clothed decently and presentably,
whether or not you/they have    covered         their genitals?
       Psalm 15:4
___24. Do you agree with God honoring those who fear Him
and hating the deeds/work of the fallen &/or faithless who
sin by showing their genitals &/or fornication in public,
magazines &/or videos? Do you, even if they are clothed
decently and presentably, whether or not you/they have
covered their genitals?         Psalm101:3
____25. Are their vaginas/labias exposed through/in their
sex sin? EZ 16:35,36    You shouldn�t even set it before your
eyes and do not delight* in (esteem, admire, applaud,
approve of, consent to, agree with, sympathize with, have a
favorable opinion of, have fellowship with, or accept as
satisfactory) the people who do sex sin and/or bare their
genitals? ROM. 1:32
Even if you cover their genitals and their faces, they are still
immoral women who open their legs to show their genitals
and you must not delight* in (esteem, admire, applaud,
approve of, consent     to, agree with, sympathize with, have
a favorable opinion of, have fellowship with, or accept as
satisfactory) the people who do sex sin and/or bare their
genitals? ROM. 1:32
___26. Do you agree with God honoring those who fear Him
and scornfully despising those vile and depraved
       reprobates who sin by showing their genitals or
fornication in public, magazines &/or videos? Psalm
       15:4
DO YOU CONTEMN THE VILE AND DEPRAVED PERSON WHO
BARES GENITALS AND FORNICATES? [psa. 15:4] �I cover their
genitals, faces and personhood.�  EVEN IF YOU COVER THEIR
GENITALS ETC THEY ARE STILL THOSE WHO DO WICKEDLY.
___27. In contrast to God, do you approve of them (clothed
or not) who sin by shewing their genitals &/or
       fornication in public, magazines, &/or videos? Do you
say they are okay? Do you accept them for your eyes
       and soul?  Got a problem![Rom. 1:32,    ANT&NIV]
       ___a. Do you have/express a favorable opinion of
them?   Got a problem!
       ___b. Do you accept them as okay/satisfactory?
       ___c. Do you accept them, giving them your esteem and
admiration?     Got a problem!
___28. In contrast to God, do you applaud those (clothed or
not) who show their genitals &/or fornication in        public,
magazines &/or videos?  Do you express  your approval and
delight in them [by arousal, erection,  orgasm, praise,
encouragement, celebration]? Got a problem![Rom.1:32, ANT]
___29. Do they please you who displease God by showing
their genitals &/or fornication in public,      magazines &/or
videos? Do you like them (clothed or not)? Do they give you
pleasure? Do they make you feel good sexually? Do you take
&/or get pleasure in &/or from  them? [Rom. 1:32, Wuest]
___30. Do you consent to them (clothed or not), making an
emotional/personal commitment/stand for/with them by
       agreeing/yielding/acquiescing to them so that they
have access to your soul/eyes/mind by mags, videos or
       etc.? [Rom 1:32, Berk.Int. + ASV + AG & TH.
___31.Do you * delight* in (esteem, admire, applaud, approve
of, consent to, agree with, sympathize with, have a favorable
opinion of, have fellowship with, or accept as satisfactory)
the people who do sex sin and/or bare their genitals? ROM.
1:32 No, I cover their faces so so they are no longer
personalities, but just bodies that can�t be identified as a
person.
       *Amp.B: ...but approve & applaud others who practice
them.
       *NIV: ...but also approve of those who practice
them(ag).
       approve:have or express a favorable opinion of them
       accept them as satisfactory, give them sanction to be
esteemed or admired
       *Peshita:.but also associate with those who practice
them
       *ASV:..but also consent with them that practise them.
       *AGTH:are pleased at the same time with those that do
them
               are consenting to those that do them (ag)
               are agreeing with those that do them (ag)
               are applauding those that do them
               are sympathizing with those who do them (ag)

*IF YOU KNOW/KNEW SHE BARES/D HER GENITALS
PUBLICLY,THEN YOU MUST NOt
       1.approve of HER OR HER BODY OR desire to do sin with
her
       2.express a     favorable opinion of HER OR HER BODY
,       3. accept HER OR HER BODY  as satisfactory,
       4. give sanction to HER OR HER BODY ,
       5. esteem HER OR HER BODY or    admire HER OR HER
BODY....

If you do not approve of what they do, say or practice it
would appear that you are not approving them. NOT
NECESSARILY SO.  YOU CAN STILL ADMIRE SOMEONE AND
DESPISE WHAT THEY DO.  If you have to cover them up
before you can approve of them, then you don�t approve of
them showing their nakedness.  If you   withhold your
approval until they are appropriately covered,  then you
don�t appprove of them uncovering and showing themselves.
BUT THE POINT IS, WHETHER THEY ARE COVERED OR NOT,
ARE THEY PEOPLE WHO DO SUCH SIN?  IF THEY ARE SUCH
PEOPLE WHO DO SUCH SIN, THEN YOU MUST NOt approve of
them [INCLUDING THEIR BODIES,  applaud them OR THEIR
BODIES, have or express a favorable opinion of them OR
THEIR BODIES, accept them OR THEIR BODIES as satisfactory,
give sanction to them OR THEIR BODIES, esteem them or
THEIR BODIES, OR admire them OR THEIR BODIES.  EVEN IF
YOU COVER THEIR FACES/GENITALS IT IS STILL THEM WHO
YOU MUST NOT ACCEPT, ESTEEM, ADMIRE OR ENJOY..
DOES THAT MEAN ESTEEMING OR ADMIRING THEIR BEAUTY?
Remember the Word about lusting after their beauty? �If I
cover their faces it is no longer their beauty, but just a
beautiful body belonging to who knows who?�  YOU KNEW
THAT IT WAS A WOMAN WHO WAS DOING SIN AND EVEN
AFTER YOU COVER HER FACE AND GENITALS YOU STILL
KNOW THAT IT WAS A WOMAN DOING SIN BY SHOWING HER
GENITALS/SIN.
*IF YOU KNOW/KNEW SHE IS/WAS A
FORNICATOR/ADULTERESS /HARLOT,
*IF YOU KNOW/KNEW SHE BARES/D HER GENITALS
PUBLICLY,
THEN YOU MUST NOt
       1.approve of HER OR HER BODY OR desire to do sin with
her
       2.express a     favorable opinion of HER OR HER BODY
,       3. accept HER OR HER BODY  as satisfactory,
       4. give sanction to HER OR HER BODY ,
       5. esteem HER OR HER BODY or    admire HER OR HER
BODY....
WHETHER OR NOT SHE IS BARE OR SEX SINNING IN THE
PICTURE AT HAND.
IF YOU KNOW SHE DOES THOSE KINDS OF THINGS, THEN YOU
HAVE NO BUSINESS ENJOYING, DELIGHTING IN, ESTEEMING
OR ADMIRING HER OR desiring to do sinful things with HER
BEAUTY, ???????BECAUSE HER BEAUTY IS A PART OF HER
JUST LIKE HER FACE IS HER OR FINGERPRINTS ARE
HER??????????
GET RID OF HER PICTURES SO YOU WONT BE TEMPTED TO
ENJOY, DELIGHT IN, ESTEEM OR ADMIRE HER IN HER BEAUTY
WHICH SHE USES TO SIN AND GET YOU INTO SIN.
Psalm 101:3  I will set no wicked/worthless thing before
mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall
not cleave to me. (Phil. 4:8)
***Prov. 5:8  Remove thy way far from her, and come not
nigh the door of her house:
***Prov. 5:20  And why shouldest thou, my son, be
enraptured with an immoral woman, and embrace the
       bosom of a seductress?
***Prov. 6:25  Lust not after her beauty in thy heart, neither
let her take thee with her eyelids;Matt. 5:32
***Prov. 6:32  Whoso committeth adultery with a woman is
void of understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own
soul.

IT�S NOT A QUESTION OF WHAT SHE IS DOING AT THE
MOMENT.
IT�S A QUESTION OF WHAT KIND OF WOMAN IS SHE AND
WHAT KIND OF THINGS DOES SHE DO, WHETHER OR NOT SHE
IS DOING IT NOW OR IN THE PICTURE.

If you don�t approve of the showing their genitals , then you
are not approving of WHAT THEY ARE DOING.  YOU CAN
STILL ADMIRE SOMEONE AND DESPISE WHAT THEY DO.  GOD
MAKE IT PLAIN IT IS SINFUL ERROR TO ADMIRE,ESTEEM
APPROVE OF PEOPLE WHO DO SIN.  YOU CAN PRAY FOR THEM
AND COMPASSIONATELY CHERISH THEM WITHOUT
ESTEEMING ADMIRING, ENJOYING THEM.  YOU CAN ADMIRE,
ESTEEM AND ENJOY THE GOOD THING SINNERS DO, BUT YOU
CANNOT ADMIRE, ESTEEM AND ENJOY THE SINNING SINNER.
***Prov. 5:8  Remove thy way far from her, and come not
       nigh the door of her house:
***Prov. 5:20  And why shouldest thou, my son, be
       enraptured with an immoral woman, and embrace the
       bosom of a seductress?
***Prov. 6:25  Lust not after her beauty in thy heart,
       neither let her take thee with her eyelids;Matt. 5:32
***Prov. 6:32  Whoso committeth adultery with a woman is
       void of understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth      his
own soul.

       ROM. 1:32  who knowing the righteous judgment of
God, that they who do such things are worthy of death, not
only practice them, but have fellow delight in those who do
[them].
>>>>ROM. 1:32 WHO  KNOWING  THE JUDGMENT OF GOD , THAT
THEY WHICH COMMIT  SUCH THINGS  ARE  WORTHY  OF
DEATH , NOT  ONLY  DO <4160> THE SAME --------------
"do" =STRONGS:<4160> poieo {poy-eh'-o}          [IF IT IS IN
:"[*.......*]", THEN IT IS TYLER'S]
1a) produce [*such sins*] , construct [*such sinful pictures*]
,form [*such sinful objects*], fashion [*such sin*]
1b) . [are] the authors of [*such sin*], [are] the cause  [of]
[*such sin*];
1c). make ready [*such sin*],... prepare[*such sin*]
1i). make one  [*do such sin*]..
.1i1) cause one to... [*do such sin*]..
2b)  ... do ...[*such sin*].. ... unto one,
1e)... acquire [* such sin*]..,... provide ..[*such sin*]  for one's
self,
1j) .[are] the authors of [*such sin*] ...(... cause, bring about
[*such sin*] )
2a1)  ... carry out [*such sin*] , ... execute  [*such sin*] ..
 2d) . celebrate [*such sin*] , keep [*such sin*] ..
 2d1) ... make ready [*such sin*] . ,
2e) .. perform: to a promise [*such sin*] ...[as under contract] ,

>>>>BUT  HAVE PLEASURE IN  <4909> -------------

STRONG'S <4909>  suneudokeo {soon-yoo-dok-eh'-o}
1) to be pleased together with, to approve together (with
others)
2) *to be pleased at the same time with, consent, agree to
  2a) to applaud*   In Ronese: to like, permit, agree to, to
praise/celebrate and encourage
<4909> Tense - Present;  Voice - Active;  Mood  - Indicative
    *=Arndt & Gingrich and Thayer all agree with this def.
have pleasure in
are pleased together with
approve together with
are pleased at the same time with
consent/agree with
applaud [praise/celebrate/encourage]


>>>> THOSE WHO DO [THEM].

them who exercise them
them who practise them
them who are busy with them
them who carry them on
them who undertake them
them who do them
them who accomplish them
themwho perform them
them who commit them
them who perpetrate them
them who manage them publicly
them who transact them publicly
them who exact revenue from them
them who act them


KJV 1 Corinth. 7:  8 I say therefore to the unmarried and
widows, It is good
for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain,
let them marry:
for it is better to marry than to burn.

>>>1Co.7:9a BUT IF THEY CANNOT contain, let them
marry.<<<<<<<

<Strong�s 3756>12 Strong's exhaustive concordance; Baker
Book House;
Grand Rapids, Mich.12---------�3756 ou {oo} ..
a primary word, the absolute negative [cf 3361] adverb;
particle
1) no, not; in direct questions expecting an affirmative
answer�
So Strong's shows us that there is no Greek basis for the
word �can�.  It was
supplied by the translators. When the KJV translators
translated the very
same word, without the negative �not�, in 1 Cor. 9:25 (And
every man that
strives for the mastery  is temperate <1467> (5736) in all
things. ) they use
�is temperate�, not �can be temperate�, to translate <1467> so
even they are
inconsistent.

>>>1Co.7:9b- But if they cannont CONTAIN , let them
marry.<<<<<<<<

[Strong�s<1467> (5736)],
       Strong�s1467 egkrateuomai {eng-krat-yoo'-om-ahee}
middle voice from 1468
1) to be self-controlled, continent
1a) to exhibit self-government, conduct, one's self
temperately
  1b) in a figure drawn from athletes, who in preparing
themselves for the
games abstained from unwholesome food, wine, and sexual
indulgence
5736 Tense - Present;  Voice - Middle or Passive Deponent;
Mood - Indicative

>>>1Co.7:9c- But if they cannot contain, LET THEM MARRY
<<<<<<<<

[Strong�s <1060> (5657)]:
�Strong�s 1060: gameo {gam-eh'-o} from 1062>.>..
1) to lead in marriage, take to wife
  1a) to get married, to marry
  1b) to give one's self in marriage
2) to give a daughter in marriage
Strong�s 5657 Tense - Aorist;
Voice - Active-------
   The active voice represents the subject as the doer or
performer of the
action.  E.g., in the sentence, "The boy hit the ball," the boy
performs the
action.
Mood  - Imperative
The imperative mood corresponds to the English imperative,
and expresses a command to the hearer to perform a certain
action by the order and authority of the one commanding.
Thus, Jesus' phrase, "Repent ye, and believe the gospel"
(Mk.1:15)is not at all an "invitation," but an absolute
command requiring full obedience on the part of all hearers.�

Does "let them marry" mean "You let/permit/allow them to
marry"?  Is
�You� the �hearer [who is] to perform� the action of marrying
in this
passage?  J. Gresham Machen, D.D., Litt.D; in his Macmillan Co.
Greek manual, states the following:
"The imperative mood is used in commands>.>.It will be
observed that the
English language has, properly speaking, no imperative of
the third person.
Hence in translating the Greek imperative of the third person
we have to use
the helping verb let, so that the noun or pronoun that is the
subject of the
imperative in Greek becomes the object of the helping verb
in English."

So in �if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry.� it
means -------
�that the>..pronoun (them) that is the subject (third person
plural: they) of the imperative (marry) in Greek becomes the
object (them) of the helping verb (let) in English.�

So a literal translation of �let them marry� would be �they
are commanded
to marry" by the order and authority of the one commanding
(The Holy Spirit in Paul); or simply, �they are commanded to
marry.�  Who is commanded to marry? Those who don�t
exercise self-control. THERE IS NO INDICATION  AS TO WHO
THEY SHOULD MARRY.  IN THE OLD TESTAMENT THE "WHO"
WAS INDENTIFIED  (See Deut. 22 and Ex. 22) BUT WE ARE NO
LONGER BOUND BY THOSE LAWS  (Acts 15; Eph. 2; Col. 2).  We
know that He does not want us to marry the unsaved (2 Cor.
6) or saints living in sin (2 Th. 3:6-14; 1 Cor. 5:9-11; 1 Tim.
6:1-5; 2 Tim. 3:1-5).  It's obvious that He wants us to marry
"in the Lord".

>>>1 Cor.7:9----FOR IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO
BURN.<<<<


AND THE LORD SAID IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO
BURN.

1 Corinthians 7:9a in various versions:

DBY1>.13  Darby�s.3  "But if they have not control over
themselves, "
NEB1>.14  New English Bible (version 2) 1970.4  "if they
cannot control
themselves, "(So also NIV)
YLT1>.15  Young�s  Literal Translation.5  and "if they have
not continence--"
NKJV1>.16  New King James Version, 1984: This version uses
the word "cannot" with refernce to the exercise of self-
control, "cannot exercise self-control"
MKJV1>.17  OnLine Bible�s Modern King James Version: This
version uses "do not" with reference to having self-control.
ASV1>.18  American Standard Version, 1901.8 "But if they
have not continency, "
LP1>.19  Lamsa�s Peshitta, 1957.9 "But if they cannot endure
it, "
AB2>.20  Amplified Bible, 1965.0 "But if they have not self-
control (restraint
of their passions), "
WNT2>.21  Wuests�s New Testament, 1961.1 "But assuming
that they are not able to exercise self-control in the realm of
the continent life, "........

1 Cor. 7:9b invarious versions continued:

DBY  " let them marry; "  (so also LP)
NEB "they should marry."  (so also NIV)
ASV  "let them marry"   (so also YLT, MKJV, WNT  & NKJV)
AB they should marry.

1 Cor. 7:9c in various translations cont.:

DBY   "for it is better to marry than to burn."  (so also ASV,
MKJV
NEB "Better be married than burn with vain desire."
YLT      "for it is better to marry than to burn;"
LP" for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. " (So
also NIV, NKJV
AB "For it is better to marry than to be aflame (with passion
and tortured
continually with ungratified desire)."
WNT  "for it is more advantageous to marry than to continue
to burn [with the heat of sexual passion}"

So the way this writer gets it is a modified DBY:   �But if they
have not control over themselves,  they should marry;  For it
is better to marry than to burn. Now if the mighty God of the
universe tells me I should marry, just being thankful in
Christ that He has taken the time to know me and deal with
me, I would be asking �Who� and �When�.  Now I know I
need to obey my Lord Jesus (Heb.5:8,9;1John2:1-5), and since
He has told me I NEED to/SHOULD marry and promised to
supply all my needs according to His riches, then I need to
prepare myself forWHOEVER of the saints He provides (seek
and ye shall find), knowing that He will LEAD  that saint to
be willing to marry me ----- and shame on me if I am too
selfish and particular to accept the one He provides!

       1Tim. 5:11-15 show us another circumstance where
God inspires the
expression of His will that someone marry, whether or not
they want.  1 Cor. 7:5 shows why she cannot remain
unmarried, Satan tempting her because of her lack of self-
control.  1 Cor. 7:9 and 1 Tim. 5:11-15 show us God's will
when we fail to have or exercise self-control, it is better to
marry than to burn."Who" they should marry is not
indicated, as it used to be in the Old Testament, but certainly
they should marry "in the Lord".

The next  passage is seen in two ways, has three possible
translations, which
apply and pertain to believers in the world today.  The first
is that it applies
to a "brother" and his own virginity.  The second, that it
applies to a fianc�
and his fiancee (engaged but not married), or a couple in
some kind of relationship where they both agree that she is
"his virgin". The first and second translations are very much
like 1 Cor. 7:9 and 1 Tim. 5:11-15, the people involved come
under God's command to marry.  In the case of the fianc�
and fianc�e, the "who to marry" is clear and indicated. The
third translation, applies to a father and his virgin daughter,
may or may not involve the daughter's failure to exercise
self-control, and may involve other factors.  If the father's
virgin daughter is burning and failing to control herself, the
father would behave "unseemly" with regard to his daughter
if she has come under God's command to marry and he
refuses to let her marry.   Refusing to let her marry would
be to cast a stumbling block (Rom.14) in her way, setting her
up for the disgrace and dishonor of failing to control herself
in her "burning".  If the father's saved virgin daughter was
burning and failing ot control-self with her saved
sweetheart, the obvious
command to the father is "let them marry", i.e. they are
commanded to marry (1 Co. 7.9).

>>>1 Cor. 7:36 � BUT IF ANY ONE THINK THAT HE BEHAVES
UNSEEMLY. . <<<<<<<<<<<
       [Young's Literal Translation:  1 Cor. 7:36 � and if any
one doth think [it] to be unseemly2>.22c
       [Arndt & Gingrich: behave disgracefully, dishonorably,
indecently  . . .  1 Cor. 13:5 . . . if anyone   thinks he  is
behaving dishonorably toward his maiden  7:36.
       [Thayer: to act unbecomingly . . .  1 Co. xiii.5; . . .
contextually, to prepare disgrace for her, 1 Co. vii.  36.
       [ Harper & Brothers The Analytical Greek Lexicon:  to
behave in an
unbecoming manner, or indecorously,   1 Co. 13.5;  to behave
in a manner open to censure,1 Co. 7:36.2c to his virgin]

>>>1 Co. 7:36  TO HIS VIRGINITY, IF HE BE BEYOND THE
FLOWER OF HIS AGE. . .  <<<<<<<<<<<<
       [Arndt & Gingrich:  . . .  it may apply either to the
woman past one's prime, past marriageable age,  past the
bloom of youth  . . .  or to the man . . . with strong passions.
Thayer: . . . 2.  overripe, plump and ripe,  (and soin greater
danger of
defilement): of a virgin ]
       [R.V. past the flower of  her age ], 1 Co. vii. 36
       [( Harper & Brothers:  past the bloom of life)

>>>1 Cor. 7:36  AND SO IT MUST B E, LET HIM DO WHAT HE
WILL, HE DOES NOT SIN: LET THEM MARRY.  <<<<<<<<<<<<<

Does "let them marry" mean "You let/permit/allow them to
marry"?  Is
�You� the �hearer [who is] to perform� the action of marrying
in this
passage?  See  the  J. Gresham Machen, D.D., Litt.D, quote
above in the 1 Cor. 7:9 discussion. So in �if they cannot
exercise self-control, let them marry.� it means ---�that
the>..pronoun (them) that is the subject (third person plural:
they) of the imperative (marry) in Greek becomes the object
(them) of the helping verb (let) in English.�

So a literal translation of �let them marry� would be �they
are commanded
to marry" by the order and authority of the one commanding
(The Holy Spirit in Paul); or simply, �they are commanded to
marry.�

Agreeing  with the KJV and RV Greek meaning that �they are
commanded to
marry�   you have the NIV, Wuest's EXPANDED NEW
TESTAMENT, NEW KING  JAMES VERSION, AMPLIFIED BIBLE,
THE NEW ENGLISH BIBLE (1970), the  AMERICAN STANDARD
VERSION (1901), Berry's INTERLINEAR.

The NIV agrees with the fianc� and fianc�e meaning, as do
the AMPLIFIED BIBLE, THE NEW ENGLISH BIBLE   (1970),
THE NEW KING JAMES VERSION, the footnote of the
AMERICAN STANDARD VERSION (1901),

Agreeing with the father and his virgin daughter meaning
are WUESTS
EXPANDED NEW TESTAMENT,  the footnote in the NEW KING
JAMES VERSION, Lamsa's HOLY BIBLE, the NEW AMERICAN
STANDARD BIBLE (1977), the footnote  of THE NEW ENGLISH
BIBLE (1970),  the AMERICAN STANDARD VERSION (1901),
Lamsa's HOLY BIBLE.

if she may be beyond the bloom of age, and it ought so to be,
what he willeth let him do; he doth not sin--let him marry =
Darby.  This is Darby's Online Bible 19th Cent. version, and
Berry's  Interlinear agrees with Darby that this is about one's
own virginity.   The Amplified  indicates that v.37 is about
one and his own virginity. The American Standard Version
gives this "one and his own virginity" as an option in its
notes

According to Harper & Brothers Analytical Greek, this is the
"3 per. pl. pres.
imper. act." [of gameeo] so its pronoun would have to be
"they".  The
imperative means that the third person, "they", are
commanded to marry.
Lockman's NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE, 1977, and
Lamsa's Holy Bible, change the "them" of "let them marry" to
"her" so that the meaning is changed to mean that the virgin
daughter is commanded to marry, she is commanded to
marry.  This writer, Tyler, believes it is �let them marry� or
�they should marry�.

Modern King James Version (Greene's OnLine Bible) and The
New King James Version gives this meaning in its main text.
The Amplified combines the two indicating that v.37 is
about one and his own virginity. The American Standard
Version gives this "one and his own virginity" as an option in
its notes.

1 Cor.7:37  And he who hath stood stedfast in the heart--not
having necessity--and hath authority over his own will, and
this he hath determined in his heart--to keep his own
virgin--doth well;  38 so that both he who is  giving in
marriage doth well, and he who is not giving in marriage
doth better.          KJV             The New King James Version
gives this meaning as an option in its notes. The American
Standard Version, Lamsa�s Peshitta, Young�s Literal
Translation seem to prefer this interpretation. The Amplified
gives verses 36,38 this meaning.   Wuest�s  seems to prefer
the father & virgin daughter meaning.The NEB gives the
father daughter option in its notes.The  NEB & NIV seem to
prefer the man and his fiance interpretation.

I believe that this is a shotgun verse, taking a number of
valid targets.  I believe it is up to the saint to be led by the
Spirit in the Word to see which application, if any , applies to
his or her case.  If you find you or your loved one under the
command to marry, then you should show Jesus your Love
for Him and have a marriage  (John14:15-21).  If you find
you and your loved one under His command to marry, it
becomes a "need" on your part that He has promised to fill
and your part is the "ask-knock-seek" part under the Spirit's
leading.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things about which
you wrote to me, [it is] good for a man not to be touching a
woman.  2. Nevertheless, [to avoid] sex sin every man is to
be having his own woman and every woman is to be having
her own man.....8.I say therefore, to the unmarried and
widows, It is good for them if they abide [unmarried] even
as I.  But if they do not abstain [from touching/having one],
they are [commanded] to marry.   For it is better to marry
than to burn  [lustfully/passionately]......36. But if anyone
think that he behaves himself improperly toward his virgin,
if she  has become marriageable,  and so it must be, he is
[commanded]  to do what he wishes; he does not sin; they are
[commanded] to marry.  37. Nevertheless he who stands
steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power
over his own will, and so has determined in his heart that he
will keep [as is] his virgin, does well. [See 1 Thessalonians
4:1-8.]  1 Timothy 5:11 But refuse [to enroll] younger
widows; for when they have sensuous impulses contrary to
Christ, they wish to marry.... 14. Therefore I desire that
younger [widows] marry, bear children, manage the house,
give no occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
[The difference between the old testament commands to
marry (see above) and the New Testament commands to
marry is that in the Old Testament God tells the one who
erred WHO he must marry, and in the New Testament He
just commands the uncontrolled one to marry and leaves it
up to the uncontrolled one to find out WHO to marry by Phil.
4:6,7,8 & Romans 8:14.  In other words, now, an uncontrolled
saint might be sinfully intimate intermittently without
commitment/covenant with an unsaved person, all the while
under great conviction.  That puts the uncontrolled saint
under command (1Cor.7:9) to marry, but that saint is also
under command not to marry the unsaved (2 Cor.6:14-7:3),
so the uncontrolled saint must marry ---but not to the
unsaved one of the intermittent intimacy without
commitment/covenant. ]

So there are two parts to the solution for a believer whose
struggle with
sex sin has more failures than bearable; 1. First  do 1Jn1:9
with 2 Cor. 7;   2.
Secondly marry the Spirit filled believer walking in the
Spirit that God provides, and have enough sense to drop your
own personal and preconceived prerequisites  e.g. bodily
appearance, education, social status, ethnic/racial status,
economic status) if they aren�t met by the one God provides.

SOME SCRIPTURAL GUIDELINES
       1. God makes it very clear in His Word  that He, as our
Heavenly Father, instructs us not to �go with�, become
engaged to, or marry anyone who is not a believer who is
obeying the Word of God>#1.  Being the Loving Father our
God is, and the all wise King that Jesus is, God instructs us for
our own well being  that an obedient believer should not �go
with�, become engaged to, or marry any �believer� who is
disobeying God�s instructions, or any �believer� who believes
or teaches things that contradict or are in conflict with God�s
teachings in the Bible>#2.  Yes, that really narrows the way
for finding a godly mate and drastically reduces the number
of eligible people but those who have been down the road
can tell you that it is better to marry right than wrong, and
that it is better not to marry than to marry wrong.  It just
makes the miracle of God�s provision even more miraculous,
like Elijah pouring all that water over the sacrifice to be
burned before God sent the consuming fire from Heaven. You
have to have Faith in God to walk with God. You have to
really trust Him before you can turn your hopes and dreams
over to Him for His decision.
[#1  2 Corinthians 6:11-7:1; 1 Corinthians 15:33; James 4:4;
Exodus 34:12; 23:33; 1 Kings 11:1,2; Ezra 9:11,12; Nehemiah
10:25-30;Psalms 1:1; 26:4,5; Prov. 12:26;13:20; 14:7; 24:1;
Amos 3:3.                               #2    1 Corinthians 5:9-11; 2
Thessalonians 3:6-14; Ephesians 5:7,11; NKJV 1 Timothy6:3-
5; Romans 16:17; 3 John 10,11; 2 Timothy 3:1-5]


2. If you have no need of marital affectionate/sexual
intimacy, a gift from God, you have the wonderful
opportunity to serve God with fewer "distractions", to spend
much more time with Him in the Word and prayer, and with
others in ministry.  David Hocking's book on singles
beautifully explains 1 Corinthians 7:1,7,,20,25-35 and the
great opportunity the single life presents to those who want
more fully to seek and follow God with their whole heart.
Singles groups for such people are fellowship opportunities,
and provide the opportunity to bond with friends and
minister to the Body of Christ.

3. If your calling and gift is to marry, how do you seek and
find that partner?  First of all you have to have your
priorities right because marriage can become an idol just like
anything else on earth can. You have to make very sure that
Matthew 6:33,34; Proverbs 3:1-8; Psalms 37:1-6; and 2
Timothy 2 are daily very real or else even our prayers are in
vain (1 John 3:22,23 and 1 John 5:14,15).

Next we have to come to the place of Luke 22:42 and Romans
6:4,11, 12,13----the place of death to self and resurrection to
Love which seeks not its own way/things---SO THAT WE
ARE READY TO ACCEPT WHOEVER HE GIVES TO US, EVEN IF
HIS CHOICE SEEMS TO FALL FAR SHORT OF OUR DREAMS AND
FANTASIES.  With our "seed" dead in the ground, He can
raise us to a new life of marriage in His will. You literally
have to die to your wants and tastes in physical appearance,
personality, color hair or eyes, height, talents, income, status
etc. and be ready to accept whoever He gives to you and you
will have doubt-free peace of heart and mind if you are
ready and accepting the one  He gives to you.  Your only
concern should be that your prospective mate meets God's
requirements in the Bible for a godly, Spirit-led and Spirit-
filled man/woman.

Jesus said seek and you shall find. Seeking one's mate can be
as active a process as Ruth's and Queen Esther's or it can be
as privately surprising as Adam's awakening to Eve for the
first time. You can count on God to lead you according to His
word (Proverbs 3:5,6; Romans 8:14). You can trust Him to put
His ideas/desires in your heart/mind and the opportunities
to act on them (Philippians 2:13; Hebrews 13:20,21).  Like
Adam, you can wake up to her in your life in His time.  Like
Issac, a parent figure can help you find God's choice for you.
You can just be going about your daily activities like
Rebekah and, in a moment of compassionate assistance to a
stranger, you can find your mate.

Like Ruth, you can commit yourself to God's service, make a
Godly decision to step out of one situation and into another
and in that new situation be led and advised to do what
seems like an ordinary work day decision but which results
in your meeting your mate quite unexpectedly.   Following
wise and Godly counsel of Godly counselors like Ruth, you
might be led to offer yourself as wife to a Godly man who
obviously cares for and admires you but for some reason
feels unworthy to ask you to be his wife.  Like David meeting
Abigail, you could just be going about your daily walk in the
Lord, meet a godly woman you admire and respect but who
seems unavailable just to quite unexpectedly find that she is
both available and ready to marry you.  Like Abigail, you
could find yourself in a trying and difficult situation with no
relief in sight, but by living wisely and Godly in that
situation impress and build a relationship with the one you
will eventually marry.

With today�s laws about sexual harassment, any wise male
will think long and hard before he compliments a female on
her female beauty or appearance, long and hard before he
will let her know he likes her and is interested in getting to
know her personally, long and hard before he will ask or
suggest that they go out on a date.  Because of the sexual
harassment laws the only way a woman might know a man
is interested in her is by what his eyes show, and it is now
virtually up to the woman to tell the man that if he is
interested, she would like to get to know him better and get
together to talk. This is very hard for a woman because of
the chance of misreading his eyes and being rejected and
embarrassed.  That�s why men and women more than ever
need Christian singles� and couples� agencies and fellowship
groups, as the Lord leads.

THE KEY IS IN GENESIS 24:27.  Being in His way, doing His
things, saying His Words He leads you to the where and the
who of your future. It may even seem like blind faith but it
has to be absolute trust in His working all things together
according to the counsel of His own will (Ephes. 1:11; Phil.
4:6,7) free of worry, anxiety and fretting, with a soul at rest
and in peace knowing that your Shepherd-King will take care
of the need for you in His time with the person of His choice,
not necessarily of your choice. YOU MUST TRUST HIM TO USE
HIS WORD AND THE TRUTH OF ROMANS 14:22,23 WITH
PHILIPPIANS 4:6,7 to guide you.  He can bring scriptures to
mind to guide and direct you.

The final test is the Spirit's gift of doubt-free peace of heart
and mind.  Move and rest in that peace.  Consider every
doubt and uneasiness of spirit to be God's Romans 14 and
Phil. 4 signal to you that you  shouldn't do the thing in
question because either it is the wrong thing and you don't
realize it yet, or it is the right thing but you shouldn't do it
yet.  So you don't say it or do it until your consciousness is
filled with His doubt-free peace and rest of spirit about
it/him/her and the Word of God in Scripture.

APPENDIX FOUR: What makes a wedding &/or a marriage?
       From many passages in the Bible (including Ezekiel
16:8, Exodus chapters 19 & 20, and Malachi 2:14,15) it
appears clear to me that marriage  of a couple is based on
their covenant/solemn agreement to be husband and wife to
each other in a relationship of marital/ sexual intimacy, - -
whether or not they do it legally or officially.  Adam and Eve
had no formal or official wedding and exchanged no formal
vows but they accepted each other as husband and wife and
lived accordingly.  There is no wedding formula in the Bible
and there is no wedding ceremony prescribed in the Bible.

When you study how they married in the Old Testament you
see that the
basis was either their covenant to be husband and wife to
each other, or they accepted their parents� covenant for them
to be married. The strongest statement I know of is the one
in Matthew 1:18,19,20 where, based on their
covenant/betrothal (v.18), the Holy Spirit callED Joseph her
husband (v.19) and the angel called Mary  his wife (v.20)
before  (Luke 1:26,34) their official wedding and
cohabitation (v.24).   God and His messengers call Mary and
Joseph wife and husband before their wedding and solely on
the basis of their covenants to be husband and wife to each
other. This agrees with the great weight God gives our
solemn word in such passages as DBY PSALM 15: Jehovah,
who shall sojourn in thy tent?  . . . 2 He that walketh
uprightly, . . .who, if he have sworn to his own hurt, changeth
it not; . . .
YLT ECCLES 5:4 � When thou vowest a vow to God, delay not
to complete it, for there is no pleasure in fools; that which
thou vowest--complete.  5 Better that thou do not vow, than
that thou dost vow and dost not complete.   6 Suffer not thy
mouth to cause thy flesh to sin, nor say before the
messenger, that `it [is] an error,' why is God wroth because of
thy voice, and hath destroyed the work of thy hands?

All of this is to say that if you and your mate have agreed
seriously
to be faithful to each other in and for marital/sexual
intimacy as husband and wife, then I believe that makes you
husband and wife.  Even if you haven�t used the magic words
�husband, wife, marriage�, if you two have agreed to be
faithful marital/sexual partners to each other, to me that�s
the same thing as Ezekiel 16:14 where God shows that
marriage is by covenant.  In Malachi 2 God shows again that
a woman becomes a wife by covenant, and to break that
covenant is to deal treacherously with you mate.  Sexual
intimacy>m with anyone else besides your mate is
fornication, sexual sin.  If you are maritally committed to
each other and then  you yourself --- but not your mate-----
genuinely  received Jesus Christ as your Lord and Ruler to be
obeyed and as Savior to deliver you from the penalty of your
sins- - but your guy hasn't, then I believe you find yourself
in the situation described in 1 Corinthians 7:12,13,14,15, the
saved mate of an unsaved person.
[>.m  see footnotes on breast pressing, petting,caressing
and/or genital contact  (Ezekiel 23:3,8,21; Prov. 5.)]

CIVIL LAW,  PERSONAL LIBERTY AND  A LOVING
CONSCIENCE!

Surely Romans 13 and related passages apply.  And certainly
the principles of Romans 14 and l Cor 8 & 10 apply.  The
following is a brief summary of those principles:
1. Receive the weak in faith (their faith allows them very
little personal liberty) but not to dispute doubtful
things/points>61  . Doubtful things are things that the Bible
is not explicitly clear about leaving a gray area for
individuals to exercise their own judgment (e.g. eating meat
vs. vegetarianism, length of dress, courtship and
engagement, television, movies, computer use etc.)
2. Don't despise or condemn your brother/sister in Christ if
(1) they feel free to do doubtful things or (2) they don't feel
free to do doubtful things>62
3. Don't put a stumbling block, an occasion to take offense,
put an obstacle in the way>82 , give someone an opportunity
for sinning>63
4. Don't make your brethren uneasy>83  or hurt, injure or
damage others' feelings>84.
5. Don't destroy your brethren's faith with your personal
liberty>64
6. Let not the personal liberty your faith allows be evil
spoken of>65
7. Do that which builds and helps the faith of your
brethren>66  .
8. Don't put a temptation to sin in someone's way>.85 , or do
that which leads another to sin>.86 .
9. Have your faith from the Word that allows you your
personal liberty privately, discretely and personally before
God and be happy in it>67
10. Don't do anything you have doubts about, doubts about
whether or not it is God's will for you to do, be or have)>68
11. If your faith is strong allowing you a great deal of
personal liberty, you should bear the weaknesses of those
whose faith allows little personal liberty, not pleasing
ourselves.  Seek to please your brethren for their good,
growth and development in the Lord and Word>69  .
[Footnote: [>61    (Rm.14:1)        >62   . (Rm. 14:3,4)        >.82
Please see Arndt & Gingrich's Lexicon.      >83 Please see
Thayer's Lexicon.       >63  . (Rm. 14:13).      >.84  Please see
Arndt & Gingrich's Lexicon.       >64  . (Rm 14:15).      >65
(Rm. 14:16,17).      >66    (Rm. 14:18,19).       >.85  (Rm.
14:13)Please see Arndt & Gingrich's Lexicon.        >.86  Please
see Thayer's Lexicon.       >67  (Rm.14:22).        >68   . (Rm.
14:23).       >69   . (Rm. 15:1-3)]

But how do these principles apply?  Obviously polygyny or
concubinage is a felony to officially marry (by man's laws)
more than one woman in terms of the government's law,
public records, inheritance laws and divorce laws in most
Western or industrial nations.  Obviously it is socially
acceptable, legal and not a felony in most Asian nations, the
Mid East, Africa and Indian tribes in the Americas.  That is
as clear as black and white.  But there is a great big
gray area.  Many Western states recognize informal marriage
(concubinage) as common law marriages but as soon as they
become official they come under the monogamy laws.  But
they can live for years in the morally acceptable informal
and unofficial common law status without any illegality.

Under Administrative Law in California, County Welfare
officials set up semi-official marriages with   people  who
live together without being married where one or both
parties could still be legally married to others.
Administrative Welfare law recognizes them as a semi-
married couple and will grant them AFDC aid and even help
them get divorces so they can eventually marry IF THEY
WISH.  With the state's approval they live together as a
family sometimes for years, but they have no IRS rights, or
inheritance rights or marital tax status from the state as a
married  couple. It is legal and approved of by state law.

California's courts have also established palimony rights
where they protect the covenant/contractual rights of people
living in unofficial marriage or concubinage.  While they
have no official tax status or inheritance rights the courts
have established that a marital relationship and the
members of that relationship have protection under the law
in terms of their covenants, contracts, vows, espousal or
betrothal.  The courts have awarded "palimony", property
and child custody rights in and from these relationships.  The
new no-discrimination-against-one's-sexual-orientation laws
protect those who practice informal contractual polygyny  or
concubinage.

Since God prescribes no "wedding ceremony", ritual, vows or
rite>87 to make two people married, leaving it to the local
churches to have their own redeemed local and indigenous
marital customs>88 .   The vows, covenants, betrothals and
prenuptial contracts seem to be covered by God's standards
in the following:
[Footnote: >87 See appendix #4 .      >.88 See appendix #4 .]
MKJV EZEKIEL 16: 3 �And say, So says the Lord Jehovah to
Jerusalem, . . . 8 And I passed by you and looked on you,
and, behold, your time [was] the time of love. And I spread
my skirt over you and covered your nakedness. And I swore
to you and entered into a covenant with you, says the Lord
Jehovah. And you became Mine.�
MKJV MALACHI 2:14 �Yet you say, Why? Because the LORD
has been witness between you and the wife of your youth,
against whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she [is] your
companion and your covenant wife. 15 And did He not make
[you] one? Yet the vestige of the Spirit [is in] him. And what
[of] the one? He was seeking a godly seed. Then guard your
spirit, and do not act treacherously with the wife of your
youth. 16 The LORD, the God of Israel, says He hates sending
away; and to cover [with] violence on his garment, says the
LORD of hosts. Then guard your spirit, and do not act
treacherously.�   Here "act treacherously" means " break
covenant" or "fail to honor your covenant/commitment".
MKJV ECCLES. 5:4 �� When you vow a vow to God, do not
wait to pay it. For He has no pleasure in fools. Pay that which
you have vowed.  5 [it is] better that you should not vow,
than that you should vow and not pay.  6 Do not allow your
mouth to cause your flesh to sin; do not say before the angel
that it [was] an error. Why should God be angry at your voice
and destroy the work of your hands? �
MKJV PSALM 15:1 � �A Psalm of David. LORD, who shall
dwell in Your tabernacle?  . . . 2 He who walks uprightly, and
works righteousness, and speaks the truth in his heart; . . .
[he] has sworn to his hurt, and does not change it; 5. . . He
who does these [things] shall not be moved forever.�
MKJV ROMANS 1:28 �And even as they did not think fit to
have God in [their] knowledge, God gave them over to a
reprobate mind, to do the things not right, 29 being filled
with all unrighteousness . . . 31 . . . covenant-breakers. . . 32
who, knowing the righteous order of God, that those
practicing such things are worthy of death, not only do them,
but have pleasure in those practicing [them].�

       It is the treachery of  breaking marital covenants that
God condemns in these passages and that which he hates.
"Yes, I swore an oath to you and entered into covenant with
you, and you became Mine," says the Lord God>70  .  We
become a part of the bride of Christ in the same way.  The
Spirit considered Mary and Joseph as husband and wife on
the basis of their espousal/betrothal/ covenants even before
the wedding and the coming together>71.
[Footnote: >70   (Ezek. 16:8).      >71   (Mat. 1:18-25 ;Deut.
22:23-27)]

So why can't two Christians exchange espousal/betrothal
covenants and become each other's marital partners without
a formal marriage which would be illegal?  Of course they
can since common law marriages are legally acceptable in
most of America�s states and in most of the countries of the
world.   But should they?  We are bound by our covenants
and God makes it clear He has no pleasure in the fools who
break them >72  .  We enter into the gray zone of the liberty
we have in Christ>73  that is limited by the cords of Agape
love.  Yes two Christians could exchange their vows/
covenants without a formal/legal wedding day but if they
became involved in intimacy and that intimacy became an
offense or stumbling block to another saint it would be sin
and could destroy the work of Christ in another or embolden
a weak one to be intimate contrary to his/her conscience>74
 So is such  intimacy a sin between two Christians who have
solemnly and formally covenanted before God that they are
maritally one flesh as long as they both live? It is neither
illegal nor sinful but it becomes sin if it stumbles, offends,
grieves another in Christ> 75 .
[Footnote: >72  (Eccles. 5:5; Psalm 15).      >73    (Rom 14).
>74   (l Cor. 8 & 10).       >75    (Rom. 14; 1 Cor. 8 & 10).]

But what about the command in Romans 14 that states that
if you have a solid controversial conviction from the Word,
have it to yourself before God?  Happy is the one who does
not condemn himself in what he approves>76  .  But woe to
him if he does it with doubts or offense to another in Christ.
So it seems to be with post covenant but pre-wedding day
intimacy.  It seems to be the same case with polygyny /
concubinage.  Do you practice/believe in
polygyny /concubinage?  Have it and do so privately and
very discreetly before God.  Happy is the one who does not
condemn one's self in what he approves in the liberty of
Christ. But she who practices/believes in polygyny
/concubinage with doubts is condemned if she indulges
because she does not practice it  out of conviction from the
Spirit and the Word.  polygyny/concubinage is indeed pure,
but it is evil to practice it if it stumble, offends,
grieves or weakens your brethren in Christ>77  .
[Footnote: >76    (Rom 14:22,23).      >77    (Rom. 14; 1 Cor. 8
& 10)]

Foreign Christian polygynists visiting Western monogamous
societies encounter a special challenge.   Spiritual and Godly
Christians would be able to handle it well and in the Lord,
but the unsaved, the carnal,  the Spiritual milk drinkers, the
legalists, the ignorant,  and those weak of conscience would
all have varying problems with a Christian polygynist and
his wives visiting their Western/Occidental church>78  .   The
visiting Christian polygynist should do all within his power
to not let his liberty hinder the
effectiveness of his testimony and witness to these people, if
they would be willing to receive it.
[Footnote: >78    (1 Cor. 8 & 10; Rom. 14 & 15)]

Hopefully mercy and compassion would move the Christian
polygynist to not flaunt his polygyny in the face of such
"Christians" even though they are so unlike Christ.  Mercy
would move the polygynist to not lay a heavier burden on
the weak than they can bear, not wanting their liberty to
cause their weak brethren to fall into sin.  Compassion would
move the polygynists to be sensitive to the weakness and
doubts of the weak saints.  Obviously the
polygynist would not be an official leader in the church and
would not be visiting local churches as a
leader/elder/deacon/ bishop/ overseer/etc.>79  .   Ideally
the local saints would be bearing the fruits of the Spirit and
receive such foreign visitors with mercy and compassion.  If
they agreed and were able>80  for a short while to be
separated, the polygynist could visit the Western church
bringing one or none of his wives so as to reduce the
controversy.  The same would be true of a polygynist wife
visiting the West without her husband, under the rule of 1
Cor. 7:4,5.
[Footnote:  >79  (1 Tim. 3 and Ti. 1).       >80   (1 Cor. 7:5)]
MKJV 1 CORINTH. 7: 4 �The wife does not have authority
over [her] own body, but the husband. And likewise also the
husband does not have power [over his] own body, but the
wife.  5 Do not deprive one another, unless [it is] with
consent for a time, so that you may [give yourselves to]
fasting and prayer. And come together again so that Satan
does not tempt you for your incontinence.�

XXIII.  BIBLIOGRAPHY

>1. A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers of
The Christian
Church, Vol. IV; edited by Philip Schaff (D.d., LL.D.);  W.B.
Eerdmans
Publishing Co., Grand Rapids Mich; 1956
>2. A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers of
The Christian
Church, Vol. V; edited by Philip Schaff (D.d., LL.D.); ; W.B.
Eerdmans
Publishing Co., Grand Rapids Mich; 1956; p. 267
>3. A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers of
The Christian
Church, Vol. VIII; edited by Philip Schaff (D.d., LL.D.) and
Henry Wace (D.D.) ;  W.B.       Eerdmans Publishing Co., Grand
Rapids Mich; 1956
>4. A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers of
The Christian
Church, Vol. XIV; edited by Philip Schaff (D.D., LL.D.) and
Henry Wace (D.D.) ; W.B.        Eerdmans  Publishing Co., Grand
Rapids Mich; 1956
>5. Amplified Bible, The; 1965, Zondervan Publishing House
>6. ANALYTICAL GREEK LEXICON, THE: Harper & Brothers,
New York
>7. Arndt & Gingrich: A GREEK-ENGLISH LEXICON OF THE
NEW TESTAMENT and Other Early Christian Literature  ; By
W.F.Arndt & F. W. Gingrich; The Univ. of Chicago Press,
Chicago, Ill.; Cambridge at the Univ. Press.; 1957
>8. ASV: The Holy Bible, American Standard Version 1901 &
1929; Thomas
Nelson & Sons, New York
>9. Gold Cord, by Amy Carmichael, Christian Literature
Crusade, Fort Worthington, Penna.; London's Society for the
Promotion of Christian Knowledge, Holy Trinity Church,
Marylebone Rd., N.W. (N.Y. The Macmillan Company).
>10.  CUSTOMS AND CULTURES, Anthropology for Christian
Missions, by Eugene A. Nida1954, Harper & Brothers, New
York
>11. Darby's 1890 translation: Most of the scriptures quoted
in this work, if
not otherwise indicated, are from the a modernized version
of J. N. Darby's
translation, the  OnLine Bible computer program of  "Online
Bible f ", Ken
Hammil  1-908-741-4298; [E-Mail: [email protected]].
>12. DIVORCE, John Murray, Presbyterian and Reformed
Publishing Co.  \
>13. G. Duty's book on divorce and remarriage , Downers
Grove, Ill.
>14. HASTING'S DICTIONARY OF THE BIBLE; 1989,
Hendrickson Publishers, Inc., Peabody, Mass;, Editor James
Hastings, DD.,
>15. I LOVED A GIRL;  Walter Trobisch,  Inter-Varsity Press,
Downers Grove, Ill.
>16. INTERNATIONAL BIBLE COMMENTARY, THE; Editor,
F.F.Bruce; 1979; Zondervan      Publishing House, Grand Rapids
Michigan.
>17.    Jay Adam's� book on divorce and remarriage
>18. JEWISH: The Holy Scriptures according to the Masoretic
Text,  1955, The Jewish         Publication Society.
>19. KINSHIP & MARRIAGE, Robin Fox, 1967,  Penguin Books,
Inc., USA & England
>20. LAMSA: The Holy Bible from Ancient Eastern
Manuscripts, 1940, Holman Co., by G.            Lamsa.
>21. MARRIAGE EAST AND WEST; David & Vera Mace, 1960,
Dolphin Books, Double Day & Co., Inc. Garden City, NY
>22.MARRYING AGAIN; David Hocking, 1977, Fleming H.
Revell Co.
>23. MKJV: MODERN KING JAMES VERSION, 1993, by Jay P.
Green Sr., in Online Bible 2.5.1; the  OnLine Bible computer
program of  "Online Bible f ", Ken Hammil  1-   908-741-
4298; [E-Mail: [email protected]].
>24. MY WIFE MADE ME A POLYGAMIST; Walter Trobisch,
1971, Inter-Varsity Press,
>25. NASB: Holy Bible New American Standard; Broadman &
Holman Publishers, Nashville Tenn.; The Lockman
Foundation, 1977
>26. NEB: NEW ENGLISH BIBLE, 1970; Oxford/Cambridge
University Press
>27.  NEW BIBLE DICTIONARY, THE; Editor J.D.Douglas Ph.D;
1962; W. B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., Grand Rapids, Mich.
>28.  NEW TESTAMENT GREEK FOR BEGINNERS, By, J. Gresham
Machen, D.D, Litt. D.,1959
>29. NIV:  "Scripture taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW
INTERNATIONAL VERSION. Copyright @ 1973, 1978, 1984
International Bible Society." Used as required by Zondervan
Bible Publishers.
>30. NKJV:  New King James Version, 1984, Thomas Nelson,
Inc.
>31. OnLine Bible computer program of  "Online Bible f ", Ken
Hammil  1-908-741-4298; [E-Mail: [email protected]].
>32.  PLEASE HELP ME! PLEASE LOVE ME!; Walter Trobisch,
Inter-Varsity Press,
>33. St. Augustin: On The Trinity; translated by Arthur West
Haddan, B.D.; W.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., Grand Rapids
Mich; 1956
>34. Strong�s Lexicon, Open Bible "Online Bible f", Ken Hammil
1-908-741-
4298.  Also Baker Book House, Grand Rapids, Mich.
>35. Thayer: Greek English Lexicon of the New Testament;
Joseph Henry Thayer, D.D.; American Book Co., New York,
1889
>36.  The Septuagint of the Old Testament and Apocrypha
With an English
Translation; Zondervan Publishing House, Grand Rapids,
Michigan; 1972;
Samuel Bagster & Sons, Ltd. London
>37. WOMEN'S LIVES IN MEDIEVAL EUROPE  - A
SOURCEBOOK;  Edited by Emile Amt;       Routledge, Chapman,
Hall; NY, NY; 1993
>38. Wuest's THE NEW TESTAMENT, An Expanded
Translation, Kenneth S. Wuest, 1961
>39. YLT; Young's Literal Translation, 1898: OnLine Bible
computer program of  "Online Bible f ", Ken Hammil  1-908-
741-4298; [E-Mail: [email protected]].

TOPICS: FOREVER MARRIAGES CROSS CULTURALLY,  FORMAL
AND INFORMAL  CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE, COMMON LAW
MARRIAGE, CHRISTIAN DIVORCE, CHRISTIAN REMARRIAGE,
CHRISTIAN CONCUBINES, CHRISTIAN POLYGYNY
(POLYGAMY), RACISM, ETHNOCENTRICITY, AND  THE
SWEARING  OF OATHS

TITLE: DIVORCE, REMARRIAGE, CONCUBINES, & JESUS;
Another Look for Christians.

COPYRIGHT � JANUARY 14, 1995 All rights reserved.
Copyright � 01/14/'95; 01/12/�96  (Revised)
This file, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of
computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so
inclined.
This is an ASCII text only copy of a Macintosh
MicrosoftWord5 file made for non-Macintosh folks, so it is
very plain and basic in its form (footnotes, indentation and
page layout).  The document is 6" wide and Palatino 12 plain
font in the original.  So when your text only version comes
up with Palatino 14, just select all and change it to Palatino
12 or 10. There are no bold or underline options.   The
distinctions between footnotes of sources and footnotes of
reference are lost.  So please be patient with the footnote
numbering. The footnotes are put at the end of the
paragraphs instead of in the text itself, making it more
readable.  You may find extra >�s and some >�s where r�s
should be.  Didn�t get to proof that far yet. Please be patient.

By L. Tyler   P.O. Box 620763, SanDiego, CA 92162-0763
 [email protected]         [email protected]
[email protected]

TABLE OF CONTENTS  (These page numbers are correct with
Palatino 14 ,left and right margins of 1.25"each, and top and
bottom margins at 1" each.)
I. INTRODUCTION:  PRIORITIES  RECONSIDERED.  P. 4
II. DIVORCE!  A PLAGUE AND ITS CONSEQUENCES.  P. 8
III. DIVORCE DEFINED.  P. 23
IV.  VARIETIES OF MARRIAGE  IN THE BIBLE, OLD AND NEW
       TESTAMENTS -- LET THE WORD SPEAK ABOUT
POLYGYNY        AND CONCUBINES!  P. 25
V. WHAT DO CHRISTIAN LEADERS SAY ABOUT CONCUBINES
       &       POLYGYNY?  P. 50
VI.  ADULTERY DEFINED:  A SURPRISE!  ISN�T POLYGYNY
       ADULTERY?   P. 66
VII. SO, WHAT ABOUT CONCUBINES & POLYGYNY TODAY IN
       MY      COUNTRY? P. 73
VIII. ARE POLYGYNISTS AND CONCUBINES LIVING  IN
       ERROR   TODAY?  P. 82
IX.  MARRIAGE, CONCUBINES, CIVIL LAW, PERSONAL
LIBERTY AND     A LOVING CONSCIENCE!  P. 87
X. DOES GOD FORGIVE BROKEN VOWS, DIVORCE AND
       ADULTERY?       P.      91
XI. CAN YOU COME BACK TOGETHER & REMMARY AFTER
       ADULTEROUS REMARRIAGE?  P. 99
XII.  WHAT ABOUT THE HEALTH QUESTIONS INVOLVED IN
       SUCH  REUNIONS? P. 108
XIII.  CAN ADULTERY, DIVORCE, VOWS AND REPENTANCE
       RESULT IN  POLYGYNY/CONCUBINAGE?  P. 112
XIV. ADULTERY, DIVORCE, CONCUBINES,  POLYGYNY AND
       THE     UNSAVED. P. 119
XV. THE MARRIED MAN WHO WOULD ADD
WIVES/CONCUBINES        TO      HIS "HAREM".  P. 121
XVI. ARE POLYGYNY & CONCUBINES  OPTIONS FOR THE
       ABANDONED       MAN?  P. 126
XVII. POLYGYNISTS,  CONCUBINES  AND THE LEADERS OF
       GOD'S  PEOPLE.  P. 129
XVIII. POLYGYNY &  CONCUBINES AND THE WESTERN
       CHRISTIAN WOMAN.  P. 130
XIX. WHAT'S WRONG WITH POLYANDRY?  P. 134
XX. HUSBAND RULE OVER THE WIFE? IF SERVANT-TEACHERS
RULE    .P. 137
XXI. THREE CHEERS FOR MONOGAMY!  THE BEST FOR
       MOST!  P. 141
XXII. LISTEN TO THE WORD!  P. 145
XXIII. BIBLIOGRAPHY  P. 147
APPENDIX ONE -- WHAT ABOUT INTERRACIAL  AND
       INTERETHNIC     MARRIAGE?  P.150
APPENDIX TWO -- WHAT DO YOU THINK? THE FEEDING OF
       TWO     LEGGED OXEN.  P.157
APPENDIX THREE -- A WEDDING COVENANT FOR
       NONSWEARERS -   P. 159
APPENDIX FOUR -- WHAT MAKES A WEDDING/MARRIAGE? -
       P. 161
APPENDIX FIVE -- MARRYING THE UNSAVED AND "SAINTS"
       LIVING IN ERROR. - P.163
APPENDIX SIX -- WHEN DO I HAVE TO MARRY? - P. 167
APPENDIX SEVEN -- THE ERRR OF SWEARING, OF OATHS
       AND     SWEARING OATHS. -P.182


RELATED THOUGHTS AND ISSUES FROM THE PARENT FILE

Since the harlot is one flesh with every fornicator she has
sexual union with and the husband is one flesh with his wife,
the �one flesh� principle is not unique to marriage and
cannot be an argument for monogamy or against polygyny .
The �one flesh� principle is physical reality that describes
only the result of sexual union, whether it involve a harlot, a
fornicator, a married couple or a polygamous marriage.
David, Israel and Abraham were �one flesh� with each of
their wives, just as the adulteress of Prov. 6 & 7 was one
flesh with each of her adulterers. Under the Law by Moses,
being �one flesh� could have been the basis for marriage>11
but not so for us after the Sinai Law of Moses was declared
voided in Eph. 2 and Col. 2, especially in the case of 1 Cor.
7:9; 1 Tm. 5:11-14.  If we do not control ourselves today, we
are commanded to marry>12 , but who to marry is not
specified, only that your mate be saved>13 and godly>14.
[Footnotes: >11   (Deut. 22:22-30; Ex. 22:16,17).    >12  1 Cor.
7:9,36;  1 Tim 5:14;  Appendix Six of this document.    >13. 2
Corinthians 6.    .>14 1 Corinthians 5:9-11; 2 Thess. 3:6-14]

The woman's repentance option explains the �double
standard� and apparent inequity of 1 Corinthians 7:10,11
where it appears that the woman who has left her husband
has the repentance option of  remaining single but the man
must never leave his wife. If a wife left her husband
according to 1 Cor. 7:11, he would immediately be put in the
hazardous position of 1 Corinth 7:1-5, being tempted to sin
because his wife will not give him the marital sexual outlet
since she is gone. It seemed to me to be quite unfair that she
could leave him and live  unmarried, and he, knowing he is
still bound to her for life, has to struggle with the burning
temptations predicted in 1 Corinth. 7:1-5, 9 with no
legitimate sexual outlet.

Then I realized that 1 Corinth. 7:1-5 predicted his need of
marital intimacy, how Satan would use the wife's absence to
tempt him, how marital intimacy is the prescription to avoid
Satan's temptations, and then the command  in verse 9
plainly commands the one to marry who is failing to have
successful self-control>100  .  Then I realized that the
polygyny  option balanced the equation.  The wife could
leave her husband and remain single and the husband who
was still bound to such a departed wife seems to have had a
Biblical option of polygyny / concubinage, (depending on the
laws of his land) if he found himself tempted and burning as
in 1 Cor. 7:5, 9,12.  She could leave and he could remarry
becoming a polygamist and the inequity was gone.  She could
separate and remain single, and he could remarry as long as
he recognized that he was still bound to his separated wife.
[Footnote: >100    See Appendix Six.]

So the divorce is only a  legal recognition of the wife's
departure and
unwillingness to be reconciled, while he still publicly
recognizes  the binding nature of their relationship.  Then he
remarries another  Christian because his burning and his 1
Cor. 7:5 predicted failures to control himself bring him under
the command to marry in l Cor. 7:9,36 (NIV & Amplified
"they should marry"),
1 Cor. 7:36 (NIV "They should get married);
1 Tim 5:14 (NIV "So I counsel younger widows to marry.."
       Amplified "So I would have younger [widows] marry..")
and
1 Thess 4:3-8 (NIV "that each of you should learn to control
his own body in a way that is holy and honorable . . ..") >101
[Footnote>101  Please see Appendix Six;   NIV  , NEW
INTERNA-TIONAL VERSION. ]

Seeing her brother-husband in need, she shuts up her
feelings of
compassion>88  .  But in the meantime she has killed   his
affections for her
by her words and deeds and his affection goes unanchored
now.  She refuses to welcome his affectionate and intimate
touch in disobedience to the Word>89  .    As predicted, Theo
is being sexually tempted by Satan and Theo finds himself
burning  and sometimes failing >90  to control himself when
exposed to things like pornography.  Tempted, burning and
sometimes failing to control himself,  Theo finds himself
under the command to marry (be having his own wife)>n89.
Safronia refuses to help him meet his needs, and he can't
divorce her because she claims to be saved >91  . Since she
cares not for affection with him, he might exercise his liberty
to have a concubine in the manner of Romans 14.  If his faith
allows him to have a concubine but having a concubine
would grieve, offend and/or stumble someone, perhaps even
his Arctic wife, then wouldn't he have to exercise his faith's
personal liberty by having his concubine  privately and
discretely between himself, her and God so as not to let his
liberty offend the Body of Christ.
[Footnote: >88    (1 John 3:14-18).      >89    (1 Cor. 7:2,3,4,5).
>90  (1 Cor. 7:9, see Appendix 6).        >.n89  See Appendix
Six.        >91   (1 Cor.7:10,11,39; Mark 10:1-12).]

He could be moved by her plight and pray for an
unencumbered husband for her.  But if God doesn�t provide
another and the sister is burning, having great trouble with
and almost succumbing to temptations, his continued prayer
alone would be empty piety like in the following:
MKJV JAMES 2: 14 � �My brothers, what profit [is it] if a man
says he has
faith and does not have works? Can faith save him?15 If a
brother or sister is
naked and destitute of daily food, 16 and if one of you says
to them, Go in
peace, be warmed and filled, but you do not give them those
things which are
needful to the body, what good [is it]? 17 Even so, if it does
not have works,
faith is dead, being by itself.�

He would seem to be compelled to intervene, offering
himself in marriage to her as he desires anyway, to enable
her to obey God�s solution for her problem>101  . This could
even be the case if his chastely separated and divorced
"Christian"� wife was carnal and too selfish/rebellious to be
moved by her plight and 1 John 3:17 to approve of her
divorced Christian man�s plan to marry her.  You don�t let the
saint who seeks God�s solution be destroyed because of a
carnal saint who resists or refuses compassion and God�s
solutions.
[Footnote: >101  (1 Cor. 7:1,2,3,9; see Appendix Six).]

Why would a Western/Occidental woman ever  consider
polygyny
/concubinage?  It is clearly a sin to marry an unsaved
person> 104 .  She
knows she must not marry an unsaved man>105 or a
snared-in-sin "saint">106.   If a Christian woman in a
Western church finds the usual shortage of godly brothers,
yet earnestly desires marriage or is commanded to marry>91
she may consider marrying a Christian brother (1) whose
�Christian� wife has divorced him exercising her option>107
to be separate and chaste,  or (2) who sinfully divorced his
�Christian� wife who now will not forgive him or be
reconciled to him, exercising her option to be separate and
chaste.
[Footnote: >104   (2 Cor. 6 & 7 etc.).      >105  (2 Cor. 6:14-7:2).
>106  See Appendix five.         >91  See Appendix Six.
>107 1 Cor 7:10.]

If this Western Christian sister is burning with passion and
not successfully
controlling her passions and/or imagination consistently, she
must marry>92.  If she finds herself in repeated defeat
morally and spiritually and the only Christian brother who is
available or interested is the one who is legally divorced
from a Christian wife who wants chaste separation without
reconciliation,  the choice to marry in Biblical polygyny
would be  more
acceptable than continued burning and moral defeats. It is
clearly a sin to
marry an unsaved>#5 or backslidden Christian>108 .  It is
not a sin to
exercise personal liberty in Christ  in covenanted polygyny
Yes, the polygyny
of being married to a divorced Christian man who is bound
for life to his
former wife who left/ divorced him and refuses to be
reconciled to him,
exercising her option of chaste separation.
[Footnote: >92See Appendix Six.      >#5  See Appendix #5.
>108 (l Cor. 5:11; 2 Thess 3:6,14).]
APPENDIX TWO: WHAT DO YOU THINK? THE FEEDING OF TWO
LEGGED OXEN.

        I am not trying to meddle or cause trouble.  I just
want to know if there are any mistakes in the ideas above in
terms of scripture alone, not in  terms of the  condemned
traditions and doctrines of people (Mark 7).I really want to
know what the Bible says about the subjects discussed
above.  I want to live by every Word of God, not by the
commandments and traditions of man (Mat. 15, Mark 7 and
Colos 2).

PLEASE ADVISE ME OF ANY AND ALL ERRORS (TYPOS,
DOCTRINAL, ETC.) THAT YOU FIND.  PLEASE GIVE ME CLEAR
AND EXPLICIT SCRIPTURES  DEALING WITH THE  ERROR
WHEN YOU WRITE.  I WANT THE WORD, NOT OPINIONS AND
PARADIGMS.
       Any and all donations are welcomed for the furthering
and the expense of this very controversial ministry.
Donations are welcome for the furthering of this ministry. It
has taken a great deal of time.  If the information in this
work has ministered to you, I would appreciate your
ministry to me to get this information out and to the Church.
Otherwise I have to "make tents".  If I  time from "making
tents" permits, this work will be revised monthly.  In the
next publication/distribution I hope to provide the actual
texts for all references.
Ro 15:27 Truly it has pleased them, and they are their
debtors. For if the
nations have been made partakers of their spiritual things,
their duty is also
to minister to them in carnal things.
1 Cor. 9:9 For it is written in the law of Moses, "You shall not
muzzle the
mouth of the ox treading out grain." Does God take care for
oxen? 10 Or does
He say [it] altogether for our sakes? It was written for us, so
that he who
plows should plow [in] hope, and so that he who threshes [in]
hope should be
partaker of his hope. 11 If we have sown to you spiritual
things, [is it] a great
thing if we shall reap your carnal things?  12 If others have
a share of [this]
authority [over] you, rather [should] not we? But we have
not used this
authority, but we endured all things lest we should hinder
the gospel of
Christ.
13 Do you not know that those who minister about holy
things live [of the things] of the temple? And those attending
the altar are partakers with the altar. 14 Even so, the Lord
ordained those announcing the gospel to live from the
gospel.Galatians 6:6 But let him who is taught in the Word
share with the [one] teaching in all good things.
1Ti 5:17 Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of
double honor, especially those who labor in word and
doctrine. 18 For the Scripture says, "You shall not muzzle the
ox treading out grain," and, "The laborer [is] worthy of his
reward."
AS THE LORD LEADS.
This  document before you now is a preface to MY LOVE IS A
GARDEN OF DELIGHTS! (my commentary on the Song of
Solomon for concubines and  polygynists) and is available in
MacWrite or Microsoft Word on a Mac DD 3.5  disk $5 ($7
overseas) for packaging, postage and copying; At least $10
USA--$12 overseas/foreign/Canada/Mexico --  for postage,
copying and handling. Contact L. Tyler, P.O.Box 620763,
SanDiego,CA 92162-0763; Internet E-Mail address:
[email protected] , or [email protected].   Donations are
welcome, for all the time it takes to prepare and mail the
items requested.  It costs about $2 computer online time
with my online service to upload and Email this Divorce and
Remarriage study.   Please feel free to donate more for the
time and expense of this ministry if the Lord has used it for
good in your life.

You are viewing proxied material from infinitelyremote.com. The copyright of proxied material belongs to its original authors. Any comments or complaints in relation to proxied material should be directed to the original authors of the content concerned. Please see the disclaimer for more details.