>THE PLIGHT OF WOMEN TODAY, 1999
>Keywords: The safety of women and children, the rights of
women and children, vigilance, precautions, pornography,
addictions, addictive behaviors, erotica, bestiality, babies,
brutality, brutal rape, brutal torture, sexual slavery
� by R. L. Tyler on 05/06/99
>Tyler, at
[email protected],
[email protected],
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>I am the father of three wonderful women and I love them
dearly. I am the step-father of two very attractive and lovely
daughters. I am the devoted friend of a single mother and her
four darling daughters. I have been "married" five times to five
wonderful women whom I love dearly, even the dead one. My
best friends are women. My world is full of the wonderfulness, the
delightfulness and the preciousness of women. I believe
women are the epitome of God's creation.
>As with all of God's creation, the Enemy's goal and desire is to
spoil it, ruin it, and/or destroy it. He succeeded in ruining the
Garden of Eden experience for Adam and Eve. He has succeeded
in making the life of most women on earth an inferior one, a
second class one, a vulnerable one, a life often marked with
exploitation of the woman and little thought being given to her
needs and wants.
>Generally men have fallen, like Adam, from his status and role
in the Garden, the role of taking care of and nurturing the
Garden and its contents, including Eve. Instead most men have
become insensitive to the needs of the women in their worlds.
Many have become users and abusers of women. Others have
actually become destroyers of women, destroying their minds,
their hearts, their souls, and/or their bodies. Only a minority of
men actually seek to care for and nurture their women, to help
them meet their needs, to nurture them so that they will be
emboldened and encouraged to fulfill their potential.
>So what is a woman to do in such a messed up world? As a
dad and husband and lover I realize my limitations to help and
care for the women in my life. Some times it is impossible for
me to be "there" when they need me. Often I cannot be "there"
with them when they go out into the hostile and cruel societies
that fill our earth. This means that often they must look
somewhere else for the protection, care and nurturing they
want, they need, and they deserve. As a committed follower
and disciple of the risen and living Jesus Christ, my hope is that
they would turn to Him for the protection, care and nurturing
they want, they need, and they deserve. But I know my women
and how human they are, some proud, some self-reliant, some
stubborn, some self-willed, and some foolish. So there needs to
be a plan B for these who prefer to go it on their own, not even
relying on Jesus to care for, nurture and deliver them.
>Let me explain why I feel there is a need for both plan A, the
Jesus plan, and plan B, the on-your-own plan. I have recently
run into a number of things and been reminded of things that
would alarm and greatly distress me about my women if it
weren't for my faith in Jesus, that He really does work
everything in this universe according to the counsel of His own
will, that He lets no evil happen to His own except for that
which is necessary to discipline them when they are messing
up, to bring them to the place where they hate the societies
and cultures of this world, to bring them to the place where
they do not trust in or rely on humans yet are enabled by Him
to unselfishly and compassionately cherish and Love humans in
His Name.
>WARNING WARNING WARNING WARNING
>If you would be offended by a frank discussion of the perils
for women in this world today, please read no further. Many of
these perils involve their sexuality. If you would be offended
by a frank discussion of the sexual perils women face today,
please read no further. If a frank discussion of human
depravity,
it�s evil and it�s remedies would offend you, please read no
further.
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One can give a testimony and testify as an educated expert
witness with only research and education to qualify him.
Another can give a testimony and testify as one who has had
experience, failed (like Abraham, David, Solomon, Peter, Thomas
etc.) and had a turning point experience that sensitized him to
the subject and gave him insights others would not have. I
have hurt women (though not in a criminal way) and I am
repentant.
Before the Lord saved me as an adolescent I was addicted to
pronography and I used women to satisfy my
sexual desires and needs. Because of early childhood trauma I
am powerfully and unconsciously touch and affection deficient
which sets me up for relationship (primarily) and sexual
(secondarily- as a part of the relationship) addiction. The Lord
miraculously intervened and delivered me from my porno-
graphy addiction 15 years after He saved me and ended15
years of my heartbreaking struggle in my own strength. The Lord
is still taking me through the valley of the shadow of relation-
ship-sexual addiction and He has shown me that His solution is
being married to a godly and passionate woman (1 Cor. 7:1-9).
My aim in the "Women's Plight" document is to prevent further
hurt to women, especially my daughters and my women and
my female friends.
The thing I ran across that has pushed me to write this is the
Usenet article below from Amsterdam and Belgium.
[These site names has been changed to protect the weak]
~~~ccoplanet.com!amsterdam1-tog1!
~~~From:
[email protected] (slaver)
~~~Newsgroups: .fotos.erotika.babies,
~~~.fotos.erotika.bestiality Subject: ~~~pain pleasure - 68w.jpg
~~~Date: Thu, 22 Apr 1999 23:14:40 GMT
~~~Message-ID: <
[email protected]>
~~~NNTP-Posting-~~~Host: p02-39.brus.online.be
~~~.fotos.erotika.bestiality:447221
[This site name has been changed to protect the weak]
~~~www.hergroans.com/warningpages/smwarning/smwarning
~~~.htm
~~~contains the most brutal, violent, rape and torture pictures.
~~~this content is only in this site, we produce every month
~~~new cult videos and pictures.
>That is so sick! This site, both the www one and the Usenet
one, are available to children at will. It is available to the
mentally ill and the perverted. We know that a man is what he
thinks. If one fills his mind with this stuff, he will live and do
this stuff. We all know that when you see something exciting,
your adrenaline imprints the scene or the incident in your long
term memory, which often slips into your subconscious and
influences you irrationally. In the movie ET there was a scene
where ET touched, momentarily, a Reese candy. For the
duration of the showing of ET at theaters the Reese candy
business picked up dramatically. What we see, especially in an
emotional or exciting context, influences us and is a part of our
memory, conscious or unconscious, for the rest of our lives.
>In erotika.babies they use babies to get their sexual thrills,
making irrational problems for those children for the rest of
their lives, imprinting pain and pleasure connections in their
developing brains that will irrationally that usually lead to
irrational sexual compulsions in their later lives. This warps the
parent's emotional relationship to the baby, warping the
parent's love for the child, changing it into a user relationship,
and exploitive relationship.
>In erotica. bestiality you find women letting animals do things
to their genitals. To the weak and vulnerable male this is
sexually exciting and is imprinted on their minds. When
testosterone is pressuring a man, these imprinted memories
are stimulated and involuntarily activated and retrieved and
become a mental movie in the mind.
>We perceive beasts as things, as subhuman, as pets, beasts of
burden or food. No woman wants to be perceived as subhuman,
as a pet, as a beast of burden, or as food because that would
mean that she has been reduced to the level of a thing, an
animal. We do things to animals we would never do to people.
When a weak and vulnerable man sees a woman having sex
with animals, he sees her on the same level and plane as an
animal. That means he can do things to such a woman that he
would never do to a woman he respects or admires.
>When a weak or vulnerable male sees brutal, violent, rape and
torture pictures of women, they are imprinted on his mind for
the rest of his life, and a testosterone surge can involuntarily
activate and retrieve those memories at any time. If such a
male gets a adrenaline and testosterone high from such
pictures, he can actually become addicted to that adrenaline
and testosterone high and seek more such pictures, or do such
things to what ever woman crosses his path.
>Weak and vulnerable men find no lack of opportunities to act
out their sick fantasies and predispositions. Women are easy to
get at most bars and dance bars. Prostitutes, drug addicts and
swingers are easy to get. One predatory drug dealer gets his
women addicts, stunningly beautiful and gorgeous women, high
on meth or etc. and in that drugged state gets them to
voluntarily pose in the most sexually explicit and demeaning
poses and then uses them sexually as he pleases. He then sells
and distributes the pictures. These women are demeaned in the
eyes of a sick and perverted male. He sees them not as women
to be respected and cherished, but as things to be used, to be
exploited and then cast aside like a used tissue or condom.
At least 90% of adolescent males are significantly exposed to
pornography in America. Over 25% of Christians, including
pastors and ministers, are struggling with pornography in their
daily lives. Pornography distorts the way males see females.
This means that 90% of adolescent males have been sexually
sensitized, their sexual awareness heightened, their perception
of sexual pleasure perverted, and their perception of women
distorted, seeing them as sex objects to be used casually with
no commitment or concern for their daily well being. He sees
the whores, the harlots, the lewd and licentious women in
pronography eager for immoral sex, so he projects this on the
women in his life and assumes they are secretly eager for
immoral sex. He sees the whores, the harlots, the lewd and
licentious women in pronography enjoying adultery, bestiality,
sex outside of their marriages, sex without marriage, group sex,
and immoral sex as entertainment; so he projects this on the
women in his life and assumes/hopes they would enjoy such
sex. They�ve grown up on TV and Hollywood and learned that
being beautiful, popular, clever and entertaining is good. They
see amazingly beautiful and attractive whores, lewd and
licentious women who are popular, clever and entertaining so
he assumes that such women are good. They see movie stars
and rich and successful men pursuing these women so they
assume that it is good to pursue such women. This is the world
as seen through porno saturated eyes.
I assume that most of the women you know are like most of
the women I know. The women in my world are the normal
women studied by counselors who have told us that such
normal women want positive relationships, positive friendships
and gentle affection more than they want coitus, fellatio or
cunnilingus. Most of the men these women encounter are not
into nurturing relationships and friendships, and consider
gentle affection a foreplay or postplay elective. Some men, as
hunters and predators, use what they know of the woman�s
need for nurturing relationships, friendships and affection; and
use it to get the sex they want from the woman. After they get
the sex they want, they rarely continue the feigned friendship,
relationship and affection. They behave according to their
hedonisitc, self-centered and selfish conditioning in a �me first�
society. Some guys actually boast to their buddies how they
tricked a woman into sex by feigning affection and friendship.
I have known a number of prisoners who boast of how many
women they have impregnanted, how many children they
have, and how many girlfriends they are stringing along.
>It is so ironic the way God made men and women so different.
Psychotherapists have long known and made known that the
average male has several sex related thoughts every conscious
hour, and many more than that if in the presence or sight of
women. On the other hand the average woman can go all day
with only several sex related thoughts, for the whole day. In a
Redbook survey of 150,000 women, most said that they would
rather have affectonate hugs and cuddles from their men
rather than sex. Elle magazine states that 37% of American
women would rather go shoe shopping than have sex. The
psychotherapists state that man's number one need of woman
is sex and secondly he needs her respect. They also state that
the woman's number one need of men is for affection and good
listening. The contrast is literally disarming.
Women are usually sexually victimized when they are alone
and vulnerable, either voluntarily or involuntarily. Because of
the difference between men and women in their consciousness
of sexuality, women are literally sitting ducks, easy targets,
easy prey. Most women are not even aware of this frequent
sexual consciousness and heightened sexual desire on the part
of men. Most women have great difficulty seeing themselves
hourly as objects of sexual desire. Even when men show
interest and desire, they often interpret it as the man desiring
friendship and companionship from them, rather than sex. It
would be obnoxious and offensive for the average woman to be
hourly conscious that men are looking at her thinking sexual
thoughts about her and her body, thinking of doing sexual
things with her. That is not the way she thinks of herself and
that is not the way she wants others to think about her.
So the woman entering a relatively empty and unattended
parking lot or structure is not thinking of herself as a sexual
object, as the object sexual desire or designs by a male.
She doesn't think there should be any danger. For the sex
addict, for the sexual criminal, for the predatory male she has
made herself an easy target, and such a male probably assumes
that she is showing willingness for sex by being alone in such a
place. The sexually compulsive male projects on her the
feelings and emotions of the licentious women, whores and
prostitutes he sees in his pornography and believes that she
secretly desires his sexual advances. The woman is thinking of
herself as a human being who should be treated with respect
and civility. The sex addict is watching her and undressing her
with his eyes and fantasizing about having sex with her. The
sexual criminal is thinking of her as a sexual object and
opportunity for sexual gratification and an adrenaline-
testosterone high.
The woman considers herself plain, unattractive and undesired.
She hasn't had a date in months no matter how hard she has
tried, maintaining her self-respect. Men are not on her mind at
all. It is a hot day and she opens her screened windows and
screened doors because she want to get a breeze and enjoy the
fresh air. She has on a bikini sunsuit not because she thinks
she is sexy but because it is cool and comfortable. She hasn't
had one sexual thought all day. She can be seen through her
windows and her open doors. She is a woman doing what she
considers to be normal and practical. She doesn't know that
the sex addict next door is watching her every move,
undressing her in his mind and having mental sex with her in
her different positions and moves. She doesn't realize that the
sexually addicted sex criminal walked by her apartment,
noticed her, studied the situation and is quite inconspicuously
waiting for the sex addict next door to tire and leave his
window, waiting until he can see no one watching, waiting until
he can make his move on her to satisfy his perverted fantasies
and compulsions, to have his adrenaline- testosterone high at
her expense. She doesn't have a clue. She notices him but
thinks he is just a tourist passing through, or that he is waiting
for someone to pick him up. Besides, he is clean shaven, neatly
dressed, well groomed and appears harmlessly friendly as he
waits. Today's woman must be heads up and alert.
When the coast is clear he goes to her door, cuts the screen
with his pocket knife, unlocks the screen door and is in and her
music drowns out his approach. Or he knocks on the door,
looking like a clean cut and pleasant enough young man
holding a map in his hand. He tells her he can't figure out
where he is on the map and asks her if she could show him.
She opens the door so she can see the map. With one quick
blow he renders her unconscious, before she could even
scream, and it is too late for her. She never had a clue. Today's
woman must not risk such situations.
A woman can't assume that because she thinks she is plain and
undesirable, therefore men will not desire her. If a plain, flat
chested, pot bellied woman walked around in her house nude,
or with just panties and a bra on, with the windows and doors
open it would not be long before some sex addict got a fix on
her and went into fantasy, not long before some horny dude
high on testosterone walking by and noticing her and plans her
seduction, not long before some sex criminal would spot her
and work up a plan to use her against her will. The
compounded tragedy is that even though the sex criminal
wants to sexually use the plain, flat chested and pot bellied
woman, he despises her for not being beautiful and so
since she is not beautiful he feels he can abuse her even more
since he sees her as an inferior being. Sex criminals are
assaulting senior women in broad daylight on their way home
from church, assaulting flat chested elementary school girls
walking in daytime to school or back. If a woman is a woman
she must assume that a testosterone driven sex addict or
criminal could want her sexually, no matter how bad or
undesirable she feels she may look.
These are the innocent and naive women who become
vulnerable when they are alone and not conscious of how they
are seen by the sexually addicted and sexual criminals. The
woman, the sexual addict, and the sexual criminal are all
victims of the various forms of pornography. Prisoners make
and draw their own pornography when they are not allowed to
buy it or receive it in the mail. I have seen the work of some
of these criminals and it is as good or better than the drawings
found in prono mags. Most of them don't give a second thought
to the feelings and personhood of the women they crave and
dream of using.
It is as if women have a target painted on their bottoms, on the
back of their pants/ skirts or etc. and they aren't even aware of
it. We all have seen this trick played on someone else. The
target on women is one that they are not aware of, one that
primarily is seen only by sexualized males. The bulls eye of
that unseen target varies from male to male, depending on
their fixation. It could be her face, or her breasts, or her
genital, her bottom or etc. The fact that the target moves is
even more exciting to the sexualized male. All this time, the
average woman is totally unaware of the target that she is.
But what about the women who actually encourage the use and
abuse of women as sex objects?
>Often desperate women will demean themselves before a man
out of what they perceive to be genuine need. When the
adrenaline and the testosterone kick in the drive and the
temptation is to exploit and use the opportunity. I am not a
swinger and I am not promiscuous and Jesus has been real
in my life since I was 12 years of age. He has enabled me
to handle such situations whenever I have called on Him, but I
don't believe the average male could have usually resisted
them easily or successfully.
>An incredibly beautiful Filipina acquaintance of mine in
college asked me to give her a ride home one night. When we
got to a dark residential street she took off all of her clothes
and asked me to have sex with her, saying her husband
couldn't give her a baby, that I looked like him, and she
wanted a baby by me. Miraculously I declined, asked her to
dress and explained that I couldn't do that because of Jesus and
her husband. That incident was indelibly burned into my mind
and remains there. Because of Jesus I knew that she was to be
cherished, but if I were a godless man she would have just
been another woman to use and exploit selfishly, another
victim.
>There are so many places and ways that a man can be exposed
to addictive, exploitive and harmful sexual behavior. One day
in Tijuana, on my way to work at a Tijuana orphanage, I was
walking down the sidewalk and boy (who appeared to 14)
called to me from a doorway, and offered my his 12 year old
little sister for $5 to do with her whatever sexual thing I
wanted to do with her. I almost vomited and wanted to beat
the kid to the ground. This experience would have fueled the
addiction to sexual abuse and the idea that women are objects
to be used and abused.
>My wife and I were in Tijuana to shop and see the sites. In
broad day light in the middle of the day in the middle of the
sidewalk was an amazingly beautiful Black woman wearing
only a G-string laying on her back, spread out and either asleep
or sun bathing. That kind of experience can cause I guy to flip
out, and with no respect for her feelings or needs, use and
abuse her.
We went on to some of the flea markets. We entered
a large building and just inside the door was a sweet and lovely
young lady, clothed modestly (covered from feet to neck),
sitting in a rocking chair knitting. An older man that appeared
to be her father was near. I lingered looking at all the stuff she
had to sell and my wife went on to other parts of the building.
She was still in sight and less than 30 yards away when three
young (8-14) children stepped out of the clothing racks and
asked me if I wanted to sexually have their mother for only
$10. I was startled and amazed. I didn't want to hurt their
feelings because they were so polite and respectful so I said
that their mother was very pretty and desirable and would
make a lovely wife. Before I could continue the lovely woman
stood up with a big smile and began to move towards me along
with her father. Then I said I couldn't because I was already
married. Immediately they apologetically began to back up and
withdraw. Daughters and a father offering their mother/
daughter for full blown sex for only $10! Sick world! Such an
experience would cause the vulnerable and perverted male to
see women without respect, as objects to be used and left.
>Even church women can fuel these addictions. One college age
girl I knew bragged about how many ministers, church youth
workers and Christian camp counselors with whom she had
done oral sex. Another very attractive woman in another
college age group confided in me, as she tried to get me to have
sex with her, how it was her goal to have sex with as many of
the members of the church as possible. Two church college
group leaders told me, when I was in college, how they felt it
was not fornication for them to be having sexual relations with
four or five of the "Christian" women in their college age group.
One church worker told me he had nude petting and oral sex
with over 20 women from the various churches he was and
had been involved with. In two different Baptist churches two
"Christian" women, members of choir and youth workers, told
me that I could have sex with them if I needed it. Such
experiences for a vulnerable and/or perverted male demean
women in his eyes, reducing them to sex objects to be used and
left.
>When I was working as an administrative assistant for a
rehabilitation program for the developmentally disabled one of
the resource people was a stunningly beautiful buxom young
woman who interpreted for the deaf. One day when she caught
me alone, wearing a blouse that showed all of her bare
cleavage, she propositioned me. She invited me to have a date
with her, strip her, tie her to a bed and do whatever I wanted
to do with her. She told me how she did this regularly with one
male friend and wanted me to "do" her. It was a struggle to
over come my adrenaline and testosterone surge, but I
managed and tried to warn her that someday she will let a
pervert tie her down and he will gravely hurt her, if not kill
her. She laughed it off and said she was careful. She couldn't
see how her sexual behavior demeaned her and reduced her to
a thing to be used for pleasure and thrills. The emotional
imprint of that encounter made subsequent contacts with her
difficult and I got the boss to require her to wear less revealing
clothing. I still believe she is playing Russian roulette with her
life. Why?
>Ted Bundy, the serial killer who brutally misused and killed at
least 28 women before he was caught, appeared to be a
popular, clean cut, respected and successful man. College
educated and politically active, people in high places thought
he was an ascending star in the world of activism and politics.
He used his attractive and charming appearance to strike up
acquaintances with attractive women. After the woman let him
talk with her and be in her company, the two of them alone, he
would appeal to the helping and nurturing nature of woman
and ask for her help with something, usually his car. Glad to be
of some assistance to this young slim, fit and attractive male,
they agreed and let him be alone with them. As soon as he felt
it was time to strike, he stuck viciously and brutally rendering
the woman unconscious within seconds. The rest is history.
>Ted Bundy was addicted to brutal, violent, rape and torture
pornography. In his last interview with James Dobson (Focus on
the Family) shortly before his death, he shared with Dobson
that every sexually violent criminal he knew in his years in
prison was also addicted to brutal, violent, rape and torture
pornography. Sites like the above bring the weak and
vulnerable male into an adrenaline and testosterone addiction
that often results in acting it out with a female victim.
>Prostitutes and swingers are the most frequent victims,
although none of Ted Bundy's victims were prostitutes or
swingers. The brutal, violent, rape and torture crimes
committed against over 100 young women in the Mexican
border town Juarez were not committed against swingers or
prostitutes. These 100+ young women were sweet and lovely
ladies filled with hope and ambition to make something of their
lives, loved by their friends and families. On their way to work
or from work, alone, they would catch the bus, a reasonable
thing to do especially after a long day of work if you have no
car. A couple of the bus drivers would wait until their victim
was alone with them on the bus, drive them to an isolated
place and brutally and violently rape and torture them to
death; or render them unconscious and take them to a site
where they could make videos of their brutal and violent rape
and torture of the woman They would sell the videos on the
black market as "snuff" videos, snuffing out the life of a human
being.
It could happen the other way. One sex criminal was attracted
to a female bus driver. He made a note of her days and hours.
He waited until she had a late shift. He got on the bus late and
waited until all the other passengers had left. When she got to
a dark and isolated area, he asked her to stop and let him off.
When she stopped, he turned and grabbed her, yanking her out
of her chair before she could electronically sound the alarm.
He raped and abuse her and left broken and bleeding. Up until
the attack she though he was just an okay normal guy who
tried to be friendly.
>This use and abuse of women destroys the women. I have a
dear friend who constantly has to take psych meds to help her
overcome the emotional and psychological wounds inflicted on
her in her youth. From age 6 through 16 her brother and his
friends would corner her in a remote part of her home and
gang rape her repeatedly almost daily. When she told her
mother, her mother attacked her for daring to say such evil
things about her brother and warned her never to say such
again. Her father was unapproachable. She fled the house at 16
and married an abusive and exploitive male and the cycle of
abuse continued. Many years later she daringly rescued her
widowed mother from her brother who was raping her at will
and forcing her to support his addictions. These vicious and
horrendously destructive cycles are begun, continue and are
spread by their perpetrators and their victims. Any woman
caught in such a cycle needs to be helped to escape. Any male
causing such a cycle is a real and present danger both to
himself and every woman he meets.
>Given this environment, it is a miracle if any male escapes
pornography and/or exploitive sex and its addiction. Given this
environment a wise and prudent woman would be very careful
about letting herself be alone with a man, even one who is
pleasant and charming, like Ted Bundy. Yet most women take
such foolish chances in this sick environment. Date rape is
widespread and rarely prosecuted, often leaving their victims
infected with hepatitis or HIV. Women often walk out alone
into parking towers and parking lots where a predatory male
could be hiding out and waiting. All he has to do is sit in his car
and wait until the opportunity presents itself to use and abuse
the woman. Women often walk alone at night going to or from
such legitimate places as theaters, stores, neighbors� dwellings
etc. There have been a number of recent incidents where the
predatory male is in a van waiting until the chosen victim is
alone and no one is watching. Then they pull up and park a
little in front of the victim and as soon as she comes next to the
van the predator opens the door and leaps out, startles her,
knocks her unconscious before she can scream, drags her into
his van for him to do to her as he pleases. The whole incident
can take place in less than 20 seconds. They've done this in
broad daylight to women on the way to school and on the way
home from church.
>A successful professional woman, an educator with a master's
degree, will often leave her doors open and her screens
unlocked, in a neighborhood where there have occasionally
been daylight break ins. Her front door is visible from many of
her neighbors houses, but door-to-door sales strangers are not
uncommon. Her back door opens to the back yard which is
visible to only one neighbor and bushes and trees come right
up to her fence which would allow a predator to approach her
fence unseen, wait until the coast is clear and jump the fence.
He would be in with no witnesses. Given this situation, she will
often be upstairs with one or both doors open and screens
unlocked. Why is she so foolish?
>Women do not think like men. Men readily think as hunters
and predators. Women are usually trusting, innocent, naive,
and vulnerable. I absolutely believe that it is this mindset that
enables so many predators to victimize them. In former times a
good woman was protected and escorted by either the father or
by another male relative. She didn't have to be on guard
because her escort was. Many men on a date have a hunter's
awareness of danger, dangerous situations, dangerous people.
They are prepared to defend their lady in case escape is not
possible. Many men on a date have a predator's awareness of
what is going on, and how to exploit it to his advantage. How is
a woman to know if she is out with an evil predator or with a
benevolent hunter? Often she won't know until she is alone and
vulnerable with him.
>Alone and vulnerable is a recurring theme in the exploitation
and abuse of women. Being alone and vulnerable with a man
could be very dangerous, or very fulfilling, depending on the
man. It is my sincere desire by this document to alert women
to be very careful when they are alone and vulnerable. If I
were a woman today I would discipline myself to think
defensively, to evaluate "alone and vulnerable" situations as to
their danger, and to think through defensive and escape
options. They need to go even further and think through such
things when they are alone and vulnerable with a man. If I
were a woman today, I would meet a new date at a public
place for a public date (movie, church, dances, etc.). I would do
that at least for the first three to six dates. After that I would
consider double dates with another couple well known to me.
After several months of such dates, the usual predator would
have wearied of the chase and turned to easier prey.
>A woman needs to learn to listen to that inner voice of a
peaceful spirit and a troubled spirit. If she FEELS troubled or
doubtful about dating a certain man or going to a particular
place with a man, she should respect that FEELING as a whole
brain reaction to the situation, and even though she can't
verbalize it at the time, she should respond to that FEELING as
a "Not now", "Not yet", or "Not him" indicator and act
accordingly. Even though we are human, we have animal
bodies and brains that have built in excellent sensing
capabilities. We ignore them to our own peril.
>This is very real for the obedient believer of Jesus. He has
promised peace of mind for his obedient and believing
children. In Romans 14 He instructs us how to deal with
doubtful situations, people and places. He instructs us to act in
faith in His Word with a peaceful spirit and peace of mind.
When we have doubts, when our faith about the situation,
people or place is not at peace (not giving us a peace of mind),
such doubts, such a troubling of our spirit, are to be our
indicators that we should not do that which we have doubts
about, that which troubles our spirit, giving us no peace of
mind and heart about the person, place, or thing. The baby
believer is thereby enabled to walk in the Spirit even when he
doesn't know the answers and instructions in the Bible. If he
has peace about it and knows of nothing wrong with it, he is
free to act on it. If he has doubts and troubled emotions,
feelings or thoughts about it; he should not do it.
>Women can't depend on the police to protect them because
they are too few. Women are foolish to trust their martial arts
abilities to save them because most predators rely on the
element of surprise, giving their victim no opportunity to go
martial. If there are more than one attackers, then her martial
arts will do her little good, except to infuriate the attackers.
When a predatory male is in full attack mode he is almost
totally oblivious to pain, pain inflicted by martial arts. Women
are foolish to trust their mace and pepper sprays because if a
wind is blowing into her face it will blow most of the mace
back into her face, disabling her. Sprays are only effective for
8' to 10' with no wind or a breeze coming from behind you. A
predatory male is only a few seconds away her at that range
and he can shield his face with his coat, hold his breath, and be
on her in seconds unaffected by the spray. If a woman has
been wise enough to have a girl friend with her, their
combined sprays would stop a single attacker. If the two
women are attacked by two or men their sprays would
probably not be enough to stop a smart attacker. Spray will not
deter an attacker with gun.
>Alone and vulnerable, a situation for women to avoid. Alone
and vulnerable with a man, a situation for a woman to evaluate
very carefully. Assumptions disarm so many women. Feminists
out to prove their freedom and right to go where and do what
they please place themselves needlessly in those alone and
vulnerable situations. A woman naively proud of her body and
face and dresses in such a way as to show her beauty makes
herself a target for a sexual predator. The more skin a woman
shows the more she stimulates the adrenaline and testosterone
in the male. Most men believe that if she shows the skin, that
means they can touch that visible skin.
>Please, women, be careful in this sick world. Sexually
transmitted diseases almost always affect the woman more
than the male, causing greater harm to the woman than to the
man. At least one out of every four women have been
sexually abused in their life times. The usual victim of a violent
sex crime is a woman alone and vulnerable. Please women,
when you are alone and vulnerable, think defensively and get
out of the situation as soon as possible.
>Aren't Christians protected by the Lord? If you read Foxe's
book of martyrs you can readily see the horrible things He
allowed His children to go through WITH HIM. He is always
present with His children and He has promised that no trial or
temptation will every come our way that is more than we can
endure. Either we are enabled to endure, or we are delivered
from the trial, or He makes an end of it before it becomes
more than we can bear ( 1 Corinth,. 10:13). A woman who
proudly and presumptuously assumes her safety and
invulnerability is a prime target. This is not faith nor is it
wisdom. Any child of God who thinks that people and the
societies of this world are basically good, and that it is a safe
world to go about in at will, is a child of God that has some
bitter lessons ahead. Remember He lets no evil happen to His
own except for that which is necessary to discipline them when
they are messing up, to bring them to the place where they
hate the societies and cultures of this world, to bring them to
the place where they do not trust in or rely on humans yet are
enabled by Him to unselfishly and compassionately cherish and
Love humans in His Name.
Ps 46:1 To the Chief Musician. For the sons of Korah. A Song
"For the Virgins." God [is] our refuge and strength, a very
present help in trouble.
**A song for the virgins, the sexually chaste and pure! What is
the song of sexually chaste and pure? �God [is] our refuge and
strength, a very present help in trouble.� Jesus is a woman�s
refuge, strength and very present help in the trouble of this
world, in the trouble of male-female relationships in this world
today. She needs to acknowledge to God her own personal
inadequacy for the trials of this world. She needs to
acknowledge to God that apart from Him she is part of the
problem of this world, not a part of the remedy for this world.
She needs to agree with God that apart from Jesus she can do
no good thing of eternal merit. She needs to give her body, soul,
strength and mind to Him by Jesus. She needs to accept only
Jesus as her King, her Saviour, her Director, her Shepherd and
her daily Deliverer. She needs to ask Jesus to come into her
and live in her and work in her to become the child of God He
wants her to be. She needs to daily acknowledge her total need
of Him and her total dependence on Him to live well, safely and
successfully. What does she have then? Consider the
following.
Ps 3:6 I am not afraid of ten thousands of people who have set
against me all around.
Ps 27:1 A Psalm of David. The LORD [is] my light and my
salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD [is] the strength of my
life; of whom shall I be afraid? [We are to fear no one while
recognizing that God may allow someone to do great evil to us,
perhaps even to kill us, as they killed His body, and killed
eleven of the apostles. Knowing that, we can be fearless if we
trust Him to keep His promise that He will never allow us to be
tried by more than we can bear, because He has promised to
make an end of the trial or a way out (even death) of the trial
when it is too much to bear.]
Ps 118:6 The LORD [is] for me, I will not fear; what can man do
to me?
[He can kill you, torture you, abuse you, rape you, beat you and
torment you only if it is God�s will for you. If it is God�s will for
you, then you can rest assured that it has been allowed to
happen for your own spiritual growth or for a blessing to
someone else. If it is God�s will for you, we can be fearless if we
trust Him to keep His promise that He will never allow us to be
tried by more than we can bear, because He has promised to
make an end of the trial or a way out (even death) of the trial
when it is too much to bear.]
Ps 138:7 If I walk in the midst of trouble, You will give me life;
You shall stretch forth Your hand against the wrath of my
enemies, and Your right hand shall save me.
Isa 41:10 Do not fear; for I [am] with you; be not dismayed; for
I [am] your God. I will make you strong; yes, I will help you;
yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of My righteousness.
Ac 18:9 And the Lord spoke to Paul in [the] night by a vision,
Do not be afraid, but speak, and be not silent. 10 For I am with
you, and no one shall set on you to hurt you, for I have many
people in this city.
Isa 43:1 But now so says the LORD who created you, O Jacob,
and He who formed you, O Israel; Fear not, for I have
redeemed you; I have called [you] by your name; you [are]
Mine. 2 When you pass through the waters, I [will be] with you;
and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you
walk through the fire, you shall not be burned; nor shall the
flame kindle on you. [Even though this is a promise made to
Israel, it teaches us that we are able to go through anything as
long as God goes with us.]
Ps 46:11 The LORD of hosts [is] with us; the God of Jacob [is] our
refuge. Selah.
A PRAYER FOR YOUR TODAY
Holy Father, I praise You for the wonder that You are. God, I
thank You for showing and proving Your Love for me by
revealing Yourself as Jesus Christ of Bethlehem. I accept Jesus
as my refuge, strength and very present help in the trouble of
this world, in the trouble of male-female relationships in this
world today. Holy Father, I acknowledge my own personal
inadequacy for the trials of this world. Merciful God, I
acknowledge that apart from You I am a part of the
problem of this world, not a part of the remedy for this world.
Holy Father, I agree with You that apart from Jesus I can do
no good thing of eternal merit. I give my body, soul,
strength and mind to You as Jesus enables me. I accept only
Jesus as my King, my Saviour, my Director, my Shepherd and
my daily Deliverer. Holy Father, I ask Jesus to come into me
and live in me and work in me to become Your child, and
to become what You want me to be, whatever that may be.
Father, I acknowledge my total daily need of You and my total
dependence on You to live well, safely and successfully. Thank
You for being my Father, my Shepherd, my Counselor, my
Companion and my Comforter. Please keep me safe in Your
hand, and in Your loving embrace.
>Dear ladies, remember that the serpent of the Garden is still
loose in this world and out to do you harm.
Below are listed some other files I believe you will find useful
in dealing with the opposite sex, in understanding the opposite
sex.
FILE TITLES, DOCUMENTS AVAILABLE
� Abortion, Malicious Bias, & Genocide
� Biblical Insights on Sex, Morality & Pornography
� Cherishing Your Women
� Christian Divorce and Remarriage
� Common Law & Informal Marriages
� Crisis Resolution in the Unity of the Spirit
� Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage, Adultery and Those Bound in Marriage
by Jesus Until Death Parts Them.
� How and When to Marry
� How to Survive Divorce
� Husband Wife Relations
� Husbands Rule Wives?
� Interracial/Interethnic Marriage
� Keys to Loving Unity in Families and Fellowships
� Man's Need Of Woman
�The Marriage of the Godly Lasts Until Death Separates
� Matchmaker Resources
� Me In Christ, What Does It All Mean Really?
� Me In This World, Why?
� Plight Of the Black Family
� Plight Of the Black Female
� Pornography, Homosexuality, Concubines and Erotica
� Power Of Female Beauty
� Prayers for Loved Ones,Paraphrased Bible Prayers
� Racism, Nationalism and Bigotry vs Jesus
� The Myth of Safe Sex
� Sex and Dependent Jesus-believing Singles
� Spiritual Warfare
� Underage Sexual Burning and 1 Corinth. 10:13
� Unequal Yokes, Interfaith Marriages
� Wedding Covenants vs. Wedding Vows.
� Why Only One Husband?
� Polygamy/Polygyny in the Scriptures
� Polygamy/Polygyny in the Judeo-Christian tradition.
� Can Ungodly Divorce/Separation of the Godly Result in a Repentance
That Involves Christian Polygamy/Polygyny?
These documents are available at
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