TITLE: MATCHMAKER ISSUES, QUESTIONS & QUESTIONNAIRE

TITLE: MATCHMAKER ISSUES, QUESTIONS & QUESTIONNAIRE

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By Lee Tyler P.O. Box 620763, SanDiego, CA 92162-0763
(ruth#1 lee#2) = [email protected] =weekends
[email protected] = Sunday afternoon thru Thurs evening

DEAR SINGLE FRIEND,

There is no need to be alone! If you do not want to be
alone and you believe God does not want you to be alone,
then you can do something about it besides sitting and
waiting. If you have a phone, a pen, some spare coins and
the desire to meet others, then all you have to do is be a
Ruth and present yourself to the Boazes that are out there
looking for you, or be an Issac and let these resources be
your servants to bring you together with your Rebeckah.

Jesus said the sparrows are provided for, but even the
sparrows have to get out of their nests and get out into the
world to find the food God has provided for them. Even so,
you too will probably have to get out of your nest or rut and
get out into the world to find, or be found by, the mate God
has for you. The seekers are promised to find, so if you want
to find you had better be seeking.
Sexual harassment laws today make it almost impossible to
initiate relationships at work, and even at some educational
institutions. The resources below are specifically designed
for professionals and adults who want to meet like minded
people.The helps below are offered to help you get out of
your nest and find your provision from
God.
>>>I. Agencies that serve Christian singles. p.2
>>>II. Secular Agencies. p.4
>>>III.SOME SCRIPTURAL GUIDELINES p.5

>>>IV. THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 1 p.10
>>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 2 p.22

>>>FOOTNOTES & REFERENCES P. 29

>>>I. Agencies that serve Christian singles.
A. I don't know if this one is still operating. I would
write and ask first.
It is so interdenominational that even Catholics use this
one. It is interracial and cross cultural serving the Christian
community. I know this one personally and know a number
of people who say they are very happy with the people they
met. Don't list your phone number unless you are prepared
for numerous calls and are prepared to run the risk of
getting unwanted nut calls. Don't list your phone number if
your address is in the phone book because you don�t want
any nut cases knocking on your door.
Let the agency screen most of the inquiries. No fees,
donations only, free brochure/samples ---write
OUTREACH, Box 9020-F53, Van Nuys, CA 91409 or dial
800-323-8113 ext. #F53. I suggest that you send at least $5
to cover their printing and mailing costs, after you have
receive each printout.
B. My friends recommend this one highly by
experience: Christian Singles Profile Exchange, 800 So.
Pacific Coast Hwy. Ste. 8348, Redondo Beach 90277 or call
(310) 372 3779
C. Black-Interracial Singles (Christian), Rose of Sharon
Christian Club, P.O.Box 681642, Franklin Tennessee 37068-
1642
D. Christian Singles Exchange. For free information
write or call PO. Box 1042-SM, Oregon City, OR 97045 or 1-
800-841-5964.
E. Christian Singles News- Box 100SP, Harrison OH
45030
F. Christian Singles - Free information on hundreds of
profiles and your profile is published free-- call 1-800-
763-5683 ext. 400 or 404. [525-5784].
G. Equally Yoked: (619) 563-1853; 1-800-870-LOVE
(870-5683), serving Southern California.
H. Quality Christian Singles, CSC, Box 4037, Carlsbad, CA
92018; 619- 433- 2292
I. Living Choices, 5694 Mission Center Road, #137, San
Diego, 92108 or call (619) 285-8707.
J. �Over 50� "Christian Singles", 575-1241 or 443-5661
K. Christian Singles Connection, PO. Box 4037, Carlsbad,
CA 92008; 619-433- 2292)
L. Christian Singles-Living Choices, Exclusively
Christian Singles Profile Publication. Send for current
edition, P.O.Box 880383, San Diego, CA 92168; 1-800-
995-1912.
M. Christian Singles Network: 4193 University Ave.
#5682, San Diego CA 92165-5682, or Call for free info
(714) 647-7775.
N. Contact Christian, PO. Box 3212, Costa Mesa, Ca
92628 (714) 434-6929
O. Christian Roommate Connection, 433-2128
P. Singles Spectacular Events, free Calendar (714)778-
0244
Q. Christian Events, (619) 563-1853
R. Healthy Choices. Christian Singles Introductions. Free
Ad & Voice Mail. For free information: Call 619) 285-8707.
Send $10 for a current issue or write 5694 Mission Center.
Rd. Suite # 137, San Diego, CA 92108.
S. Christian Singles Event Line (714) 375-0400 for free
brochure
T. Contact Christian (Never Married/Widowed); free
publication; POBox 3212, Costa Mesa, CA 92628; 1-800-
550-7335;
U. Christian Friendship Connection: Free info.: 1-800-
488-4690; Free add and free responses: 1-800-374-9827
V. Volleyball: Foothill Singles under 50, volleyball at
7pm Tuesdays: 4031 Avocado Blvd. , La Mesa 670-4009
W. Over 50 Christian Singles: Candy 575-1241 or 443-
5661
X. Support group for the separated, divorced or
widowed at St. Mary Magdalene, call 276-1041
Y. Confidential Christian Introductions: (714) 375-0400

>>>II. Secular Agencies. This is the riskier and more
hazardous route. God makes it very clear in His Word#1 (see
the footnotes) that He, as our Heavenly Father, instructs us
not to �go with�, become engaged to, or marry anyone who is
not a believer who is obeying the Word of God.
D. (Black) �Unlimited Possibilities� Details $3 S/H:
Unlimited Possibilities, 7436 SW 117th Ave.
#179, Miami, FLA. 33183
H. Computers:
I. COMPUTERMATE, P.O.Box 1683, Hollywood, CA
90078-1683 or ` call 1-800-423-9199
L. DATELINE, 4193 University Ave #5682, San Diego,
CA 92165-5682, 3 to 20 introductions over 3 months for $??,
as seen in the Reader.
R. Great Expectations; The most effective secular singles
agency that has the best reputation for computer screening
and matching to your own social and spiritual criteria is
expensive but has definite quality results: Great
Expectations; 3465 Camino Del Rio South, Suite 300; San
Diego, 92108-9635 or call 1-800-432-9200, 283-6400 or fax
to 283-6513.
U. MUSIC LOVERS:
1.Phone 1-800-92MATCH
V. NATURE LOVERS: PO. Box 188, Youngstown, NY
14174
X. OVER 39:
1. The Group, P.O.Box 18, La Mesa 91944, 286-
7072
EE. Reader Phone Matches, PO. Box 85803, San Diego,
92186; Fax:233- 7907 or phone 235-8200 ext. 268
II. SCIENCE LOVERS: PO. Box 188, Youngstown, NY
14174
JJ. SCRABBLE: Sandee 463-4513
KK. SOULMATES CENTER, all races welcome, 619-584-
5902
PP. TALL SINGLES: Men 6'2"+, Women 5' 10"+, Box
81144, San Diego 92138, call 693-TALL.
QQ. Singles Only Travel Club, L. Martin P.O.Box 954,
Carlsbad 92018, 619-434-1171;

>>>SOME SCRIPTURAL GUIDELINES
1. God makes it very clear in His Word#1 (last page)
that He, as our Heavenly Father, instructs us not to �go with�,
become engaged to, or marry anyone who is not a believer
who is obeying the Word of God. Being the Loving Father
our God is, and the all wise King that Jesus is, God instructs#2
us for our own well being that an obedient believer should
not �go with�, become engaged to, or marry any �believer�
who is disobeying God�s instructions, or any �believer� who
believes or teaches things that contradict or are in conflict
with God�s teachings in the Bible. Yes, that really narrows
the way for finding a godly mate and drastically reduces the
number of eligible people but those who have been down the
road can tell you that it is better to marry right than wrong,
and that it is better not to marry than to marry wrong. It
just makes the miracle of God�s provision even more
miraculous, like Elijah pouring all that water over the
sacrifice to be burned before God sent the consuming fire
from Heaven. You have to have Faith in God to walk with
God. You have to really trust Him before you can turn your
hopes and dreams over to Him for His decision.
2. If you have no need of marital affectionate/sexual
intimacy, a gift from God, you have the wonderful
opportunity to serve God with fewer "distractions", to spend
much more time with Him in the Word and prayer, and with
others in ministry. David Hocking's book on singles
beautifully explains 1 Corinthians 7:1,7,,20,25-35 and the
great opportunity the single life presents to those who want
more fully to seek and follow God with their whole heart.
Singles groups for such people are fellowship opportunities,
and provide the opportunity to bond with friends and
minister to the Body of

Christ.
3. If your calling and gift is to marry, how do you seek
and find that partner? First of all you have to have your
priorities right because marriage can become an idol just like
anything else on earth can. You have to make very sure that
Matthew 6:33,34; Proverbs 3:1-8; Psalms 37:1-6; and 2
Timothy 2 are daily very real or else even our prayers are in
vain (1 John 3:22,23 and 1 John 5:14,15). Next we have to
come to the place of Luke 22:42 and Romans 6:4,11, 12,13---
-the place of death to self and resurrection to Love which
seeks not its own way/things---SO THAT WE ARE READY TO
ACCEPT WHOEVER HE GIVES TO US, EVEN IF HIS CHOICE
SEEMS TO FALL FAR SHORT OF OUR DREAMS AND
FANTASIES. With our "seed" dead in the ground, He can
raise us to a new life of marriage in His will. You literally
have to die to your wants and tastes in physical appearance,
personality, color hair or eyes, height, talents, income, status
etc. and be ready to accept whoever He gives to you and you
will have doubt-free peace of heart and mind if you are
ready and accepting the one He gives to you. Your only
concern should be that your prospective mate meets God's
requirements in the Bible for a godly, Spirit-led and Spirit-
filled man/woman.
Jesus said, �Seek and you shall find.� Seeking one's
mate can be as active a process as Ruth's and Queen Esther's
or it can be as privately surprising as Adam's awakening to
Eve for the first time. You can count on God to lead you
according to His word (Proverbs 3:5,6; Romans 8:14). You can
trust Him to put His ideas/desires in your heart/mind and
the opportunities to act on them (Philippians 2:13; Hebrews
13:20,21). Like Adam, you can wake up to her in your life in
His time. Like Isaac, a parent figure can help you find God's
choice for you. You can just be going about your daily
activities like Rebekah and, in a moment of compassionate
assistance to a stranger, you can find your mate. Like Ruth,
you can commit yourself to God's service, make a Godly
decision to step out of one situation and into another and in
that new situation be led and advised to do what seems like
an ordinary work day decision but which results in your
meeting your mate quite unexpectedly.
Following wise and Godly counsel of Godly counselors
like Ruth, you might be led to offer yourself as wife to a
Godly man who obviously cares for and admires you but for
some reason feels unworthy to ask you to be his wife. Like
David meeting Abigail, you could just be going about your
daily walk in the Lord, meet a godly woman you admire and
respect but who seems unavailable just to quite
unexpectedly find that she is both available and ready to
marry you. Like Abigail, you could find yourself in a trying
and difficult situation with no relief in sight, but by living
wisely and Godly in that situation impress and build a
relationship with the one you will eventually marry.

With today�s laws about sexual harassment, any wise
male will think long and hard before he compliments a
female on her female beauty or appearance, long and hard
before he will let her know he likes her and is interested in
getting to know her personally, long and hard before he will
ask or suggest that they go out on a date. Because of the
sexual harassment laws the only way a woman might know a
man is interested in her is by what his eyes show, and it is
now virtually up to the woman to tell the man that if he is
interested, she would like to get to know him better and get
together to talk. This is very hard for a woman because of
the chance of misreading his eyes and being rejected and
embarrassed. That�s why women more than ever need
singles� and couples� agencies and the KEY described in the
next paragraph.
THE KEY IS IN GENESIS 24:27. Being in His way, doing
His things, saying His Words He leads you to the where and
the who of your future. It may even seem like blind faith
but it has to be absolute trust in His working all things
together according to the counsel of His own will (Ephes.
1:11; Phil. 4:6,7) free of worry, anxiety and fretting, with a
soul at rest and in peace knowing that your Shepherd-King
will take care of the need for you in His time with the person
of His choice, not necessarily of your choice. YOU MUST
TRUST HIM TO USE HIS WORD AND THE TRUTH OF ROMANS
14:22,23 WITH PHILIPPIANS 4:6,7 to guide you. He can
bring scriptures to mind to guide and direct you. But the
final test is the Spirit's gift of doubt-free peace of heart and
mind. Move and rest in that peace. Consider every doubt
and uneasiness of spirit to be God's Romans 14 and Phil. 4
signal to you that you shouldn't do the thing in question
because either it is the wrong thing and you don't realize it
yet, or it is the right thing but you shouldn't do it yet. So
you don't say it or do it until your consciousness is filled
with His doubt-free peace and rest of spirit about
it/him/her.
4. What does the Bible say about sexual morality?
JESUS AND THE APOSTLES TOOK THE SAME OLD
TESTAMENT HEBREW AND GREEK WORDS (SEPTUAGINT) FOR
IMMORALITY/FORNICATION AND USED THEM IN THE NEW
TESTAMENT WITHOUT CHANGING THEIR MEANINGS. HE DID
CHANGE THEIR PENALTIES/PUNISHMENTS IN THIS LIFE ON
EARTH. Matt. 5:17 � Think not that I am come to make void
the law or the prophets; I am not come to make void, but to
fulfill. 18 For verily I say unto you, Until the heaven and the
earth pass away, one iota or one tittle shall in no wise pass
from the law till all come to pass. 19 Whosoever then shall
do away with one of these least commandments, and shall
teach men so, shall be called least in the kingdom of the
heavens; but whosoever shall practice and teach [them], *he*
shall be called great in the kingdom of the heavens. Matt.
23: 1 � Then Jesus spoke to the crowds and to his disciples, 2
saying, The scribes and the Pharisees have set themselves
down in Moses' seat: 3 all things therefore, whatever they
may tell you, do and keep. But do not after their works, for
they say and do not,
PREMARITAL SEX AND PREMARITAL PETTING IS
FORNICATION. BREAST AND GENITAL INTIMACY ARE
APPROPRIATE ONLY WITH YOUR OWN MATE IN YOUR OWN
MARRIAGE. Ezekiel 23:2 Son of man, there were two women,
daughters of one mother. 3 And they did sexual sin in Egypt;
they did sexual sin in their youth: there were their breasts
pressed, and there were handled the nipples of their
virginity. 8 Neither left she her sexual sin [brought] from
Egypt; for in her youth they had lain with her, and had
handled the breasts of her virginity, and poured their
fornication upon her. 21 And you did look back to the
lewdness of your youth, in the handling of your nipples by
the Egyptians, for the breasts of your youth. Proverbs 5:18
Let your fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of
your youth. 19 [Let her be as] the loving hind and pleasant
roe; let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and be ravished
[enraptured/intoxicated] always with her [erotic] love. 20
And why will you, my son, be ravished
[enraptured/intoxicated] with some other woman, and
embrace the bosom of an alien stranger? 21 For the ways of
man [are] before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his
goings. 22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself,
and he shall be held with the cords of his sins.
SEXUAL INTIMACY OUTSIDE OF/WITHOUT MARRIAGE
IS UNACCEPTABLE TO GOD AND ETERNAL LIFE. Exodus 22:16
� And if a man seduce a virgin who is not covenanted-to-
marry, and lie [sexually] with her, he shall certainly endow
her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her
unto him [as wife], he shall weigh money according to the
dowry of virgins. Deut. 22:25 But if a man find a
covenanted-to-marry young woman in the field, and the
man force her, and lie [sexually] with her; then the man only
that lay [sexually] with her shall die: 26 But unto the young
woman you shall do nothing; [there is] in the young woman
no sin [worthy] of death; for as when a man rises against his
neighbor, and slays him, even so [is] this matter: 27 For he
found her in the field, [and] the covenanted-to-marry young
woman cried, and [there was] no one to save her. 28 If a
man find a young woman [who is] a virgin, who is not
covenanted-to-marry, and lay hold on her, and lie [sexually]
with her and they be found; 29 Then the man who lay
[sexually] with her shall give unto the young woman's father
fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he
humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
PROVERBS 5, 6, &7 on premarital extramarital sex. Lev.
18:20 And you shall not lie sexually with your neighbour's
wife, to become unclean with her. 1 Corinthians 6:9 � Do you
not know that unrighteous [persons] shall not inherit [the]
kingdom of God? Do not err: neither fornicators [those who
have sexual intimacy either outside of their own marriage or
without being married], nor idolaters, nor adulterers [those
who have sexual intimacy either with someone else�s mate or
without a godly marriage], ...shall inherit [the] kingdom of
God. 1 Corinth. 6:13 ... the body [is] not for sexual sin, but
for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 15 Do you not know
that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then, taking
the members of the Christ, make [them] members of a
female who does sexual sin? Far be the thought. 16 Do you
not know that he [that is] joined to the female who does
sexual sin is one body? for the two, he says, shall be one
flesh. 17 But he that [is] joined to the Lord is one Spirit. 18
Flee sexual sin. Every sin which a man may practice is
without the body, but he that commits sexual sin, sins
against his own body. .... 1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning
the things about which you wrote to me, [it is] good for a
man not to be touching a woman. 2. Nevertheless, [to avoid]
sex sin every man is to be having his own woman and every
woman is to be having her own man.....8.I say therefore, to
the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide
[unmarried] even as I. But if they do not abstain [from
touching/having one], they are [commanded] to marry. For
it is better to marry than to burn [passionately]......36. But if
anyone think that he behaves himself improperly toward his
virgin, if she has become marriageable, and so it must be,
he is [commanded] to do what he wishes; he does not sin;
they are [commanded] to marry. 37. Nevertheless he who
stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has
power over his own will, and so has determined in his heart
that he will keep [as is] his virgin, does well. [See 1
Thessalonians 4:1-8.] 1 Timothy 5:11 But refuse [to enroll]
younger widows; for when they have sensuous impulses
contrary to Christ, they wish to marry.... 14. Therefore I
desire that younger [widows] marry, bear children, manage
the house, give no occasion to the adversary to speak
reproachfully. [The difference between the old testament
commands to marry (see above) and the New Testament
commands to marry is that in the Old Testament God tells
one who He commands one to marry, and in the New
Testament He just commands one to marry and leaves it up
to the one to find out who to marry by Phil. 4:6 & Romans
8:14]

>>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE
I have prepared this screening questionnaire to be used to
screen contacts or to use as a get acquainted tool before the
first date to be discussed and compared on the first date. No
one should date a complete stranger without using some well
prepared screening device. These aren�t the good old days.
If you have any questions or comments about my screening
questionnaire, please contact me at: L. Tyler, P.O.Box 620763,
San Diego, CA 92162-0763

Test/Examine/Scrutinize Everything! That includes the
people you meet and become involved with. Hold
Fast/Tightly That Which is Good! After you have found that
the person has God and His goodness filling that person�s life,
HANG ON TO THAT PERSON! 1 Thess. 5:21
He who finds a godly mate, finds a good thing! It is good to
be zealous about good things.
Whatever you find to do, do with all your might as unto the
Lord. Seek and you shall find.

SO DO IT! BUT DO IT BEFORE YOUR HEART IS HOOKED ON A
FEELING! DO IT BEFORE YOU START SEEING EACH OTHER
REGULARLY OR MAKING COMMITMENTS.

AT LEAST MAKE SURE BOTH OF YOU HAVE DONE THE
FOLLOWING COMPATIBILITY QUESTIONNAIRE (ALONE BY
YOURSELVES), AND HAVE HAD A DATE WHERE YOU CAME
TOGETHER TO DISCUSS THE COMPLETED QUESTIONAIRE
BEFORE THE LADY GIVES HIM HER HOME ADDRESS, WHICH
MEANS YOU HE DOESN'T PICK HER UP AT HOME UNTIL THEN.
DO THE QUESTIONNAIRE SEPARATELY, EXCHANGE THEM AND
GO OVER EACH OTHER�S SEPARATELY AND THEN COME
TOGETHER OR PHONE TO DISCUSS THE PROBLEMS, PLEASANT
SURPRISES ETC. THAT YOU�VE DISCOVERED.

THE MATCHMAKER QUESTIONNAIRE
PART I - The Spiritual Dimension and Priorities
******************************************************
#1. Jesus Christ is my Lord, Master, Shepherd, Director and
King in and over all of my ways and doings. The proof that I
am born again and know Him is my obedience to His Word,
teachings and commandments.>3 (see footnotes) #1
Yes___ No___
#2. I trust the Lord with all my heart, not myself or my own
understanding.>4 (See footnotes) #2 No__Yes__
#3. I agree, confess, admit and acknowledge that the things
which Paul the Apostle wrote in the Bible are the
commandments and teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ.>5
#3 Yes___ No___
#4. I agree, admit and confess that the Holy Spirit
impregnated the virgin Mary so that her "flesh and blood"
Child, the Lord Jesus Christ-God in the flesh, is in deed the
very and only begotten Son of the God of Abraham, Issac and
Israel.>6 #4No__Yes__
#5. I believe that all Old and New Testament Scriptures are
given by inspiration of God, holy men of God speaking and
writing as moved/worked by the Holy Spirit of God so that
the words and ideas are commandments.> 7
#5 Yes___ No___
#6. I believe that the Lord Jesus Christ, born in Bethlehem,
Judea, and crucified/ killed on Golgotha/Calvary, will return
to earth in His "flesh and bone" body as He promised.>8 #6
No__Yes__
#7. I believe that Jesus Christ created everything in, on and
around the earth, including Lucifer/Satan and angels.>17
#7 Yes___ No___
#8. I believe that before Jesus Christ was born in Bethlehem
Judea, God had NO flesh, blood and bone body, had no wife
and had no sexual relations. I believe that when Jesus Christ
was walking on the earth before He let them crucify Him, He
never had a wife and had no sexual relations.>18
#8 No__Yes__
#9. I accepted/received Jesus Christ as my own personal
Lord, Master and Savior in the following manner:
________________________________________________

________________________________________________

________________________________________________

________________________________________________
If you need more space, please use the back of this
page or another sheet.
#10. The "born again Christian" husband should be sensitive
and submissive to his wife humbly in the fearful reverence
of our Holy God, by laying down his life/soul/being for her
by nourishing and cherishing her compassionately, by
dwelling with her wisely with godly understanding, by
giving her honor and respect whether or not she deserves it,
and by serving her as a shepherd-teacher-exemplar in the
Word of God.>19 #10 No__Yes__
#11. The "born again Christian" wife should let her own
husband be the leader in the marriage in everything as is fit
in the Lord (with hers being the choice whether or not to
follow his lead according to 1 Thess 5:21 and with him
having no right to make her obey him), giving him loving
affection and respect (whether or not he deserves it).>20
#11Yes __No __
#12. The "born again Christian" wife should not teach her
husband what to do and she shouldn't have or exercise
authority over (bossing, commanding, intimidating, running,
controlling, manipulating) him.>21
#12 No__Yes__
#13. I believe one should sexually lay [genital
connection/interaction] only with one's own marital
partner.>22 #13 Yes___ No___
#14. In a godly marriage I believe the married couples�
genitalia can be "instruments of righteousness" for the
blessing, rejoicing, loving, satisfaction, enrapturing, and
ecstasy of sexual marital intimacy. I believe that
sexual/genital nakedness and pleasuring with a partner
should take place only in marriage and with one's own
marital partner.>23 #14
No__Yes__
#15. I believe that breast/bosom pressing, embracing &
caressing in sexual pleasure belongs only in male+female
marriage with one's own marital partner.>24
#15 Yes_ No_
#16. I believe that if a single believer in Christ fails to
consistently and regularly exercise self-control sexually (i.e.
failing to abstain consistently from premarital and/or
extramarital breast &/or genital intimacy with another), that
believer should marry a godly mate because it is better to
marry than to be burning with sexual desire or failing to
control one's own sexual desire.>25
#16 No__Yes__
#17. My belief is:
(1) I am not sure I believe in God.
(2) I believe that Jesus is Michael the Archangel of God.
(3) I believe that Jesus is Lucifer's brother by one of
God's wives.
(4) I believe that Jesus is a reincarnation of Krishna or
Shiva.
(5) I believe that Jesus is a spirit and never came to
earth to die in a human body.
(6) I believe that Jesus left his body in the grave and is
with us and will be with us only in spirit to show us the way.
(7) I believe in God but I am not sure about
Christ being God.
(8) I believe that Christ is God, the only begotten Son of
God but I'm not sure that I have received Christ as my
personal King and Savior.
(9) I am sure that I have received Jesus as King and
Savior into my own life/soul/ being and I know that His Holy
Spirit lives and works in me.
(10) In addition to #9, I am filled with the Spirit and
His fruits and I am actively trying to expand Christ's
kingdom by telling others the good news about Jesus.
#18. I prefer that my date's belief be (1), (2), (3), (4), (5), (6),
(7), (8), (9), (10) of the above.
#19. I attend church: (1) Once a year (2) once a month (3)
About twice a month (4) Weekly (5)More
#20. I prefer that my ideal date attend church at least (1),
(2), (3), (4), (5) of the above.
#21. The name of my church
is__________________________________
and its address is
________________________________________________
#22. My pastor name and phone number is
________________________

________________________________________________
His wife's name is
______________________________________
#23. The names of two church officials you may contact as
my

references are__________________________________

Phone # __________________________________

Phone #___________________________________
#24. I attend Bible discussion and/or prayer groups: (1)
Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Monthly (5)
Weekly
#25. I prefer that my ideal date attend such groups at least
(1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above.
#26. I have a private quiet time of prayer, Bible study and
personal devotions: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally
(4) Often each week (5) Usually daily
#27. I prefer that my ideal date have such a private quiet
time at least: (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above.
#28. I lead Bible studies and/or teach the Bible to others: (1)
Never (2)Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often each month (5)
Weekly
#29. I prefer that my Ideal date lead such studies or teach at
least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above.
#30. With regard to making a vocation of Christian service, I
would: (1) Not consider it (2) Not prefer it (3) Be open to it
(4) Prefer it (5) Definitely plan on it
#31. I prefer that my ideal date at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5)
of the above.
#32. Theologically I am: (1) Very liberal (2) Liberal (3)
Conservative & Evangelical (4) Conservative, fundamental
and evangelical
#33. Theologically I prefer that my ideal date be (1), (2), (3),
(4) of the above.
#34. I witness about salvation in Jesus Christ: (1) Never (2)
Rarely
(3) Occasionally (4) Often (5) Usually once a week or more
#35. I prefer that my ideal date witness about Jesus (1), (2),
(3), (4), (5) of the above.
#36. The church I attend is: (1) Baptist (2) Catholic (3)
Christian, Church of Christ, Congregational (4) Episcopal
(5) Lutheran (6) Methodist (7) Pentecostal, Assembly of
God, Church of God, Foursquare (8) Presbyterian (9)
Interdenominational, Bible Church, Evangelical Free (10)
or________________________
#37. My ideal date would attend

_____________________________ of the above. I would
consider dating someone who attended

_______________________of the above.

Part II- The Physical Aspects
******************************************************
1. My nationality or ethnic heritage is _____________
2. My age is _____________
3. My ideal date's minimum age may be: _____
4. My ideal date's maximum age may be _____
5. I hope my date's age would be _____
6. My height is _______________
7. My ideal date's minimum height may be _____
8. My ideal date's maximum height may be _____
9. I hope my date's height would be ______
10. My weight is ________________
11. My ideal date's minimum weight may be ________ (very
thin, slender, average or ______________)
12. My ideal date's maximum weight may be ________
(average, slightly overweight, stocky, very overweight, or
_________________)
13. My race/nationality is ________________
14. My ideal date's race may be _________________ but may
not be ________________________________________________
15. My ideal date's nationality may be ______________ but
may not be
_______________________________________________
16. My education level (highest grade) is
___________________
17. My ideal date's education level may range from
_______________ to _________________.
18. Most people think of my physical appearance as: (1)
Unattractive (2) Below Average (3) Average (4) Above
average (5) Very attractive
19. Personal grooming and dress are: (1) Not at all important
(2) Slightly important (3) Fairly important (4) Very
important (5) Extremely important
20. My date's physical appearance is: (1) Of little importance
(2) Fairly important (3) Quite important (4) Very
important (5) Extremely important

PART 111 THE SOCIAL FACTORS
******************************************************1. My
marital status is: (1) Single (2) Widow/Widower (3)
Divorced #of times_ (4) Separated
2. Would you be willing to date a person who is described as
follows:
A. Lost a mate to death? (1) Yes (2) No
B. Abandoned and/or divorced by a mate who didn�t
obediently believe in Jesus Christ at the time of the
abandonment/divorce? (1) Yes (2) No
C. Has been abandoned and ordivorced by a professing
Christian? (1) Yes (2) No
D. Divorced &/or abandoned a professing Christian?
(1) Yes (2) No
E. Is separated but not divorced from a mate who
doesn�t obediently believe in Jesus Christ? (1) Yes (2) No
F. Is separated but not divorced from a professing
Christian? (1) Yes (2) No
G. Is married if _____________________________?
(1) Yes (2) No
3. I have one or more children dependent on or living with
me.
(1) Yes (2)No
4. My date may have one or _______ children. (1) Yes (2) No
5. I consider my childhood family cultured, sophisticated and
refined: 1) Not at all (2) Somewhat (3) Average (4) Above
average (5) Very much so. Personally I am
__________________
6. My father-figure and I have/had a very good relationship.
(1) Yes (2) No
Why?

________________________________________________

________________________________________________
His phone # is:_________________________
7. My mother-figure and I have/had a very good
relationship.
(1) Yes (2)No
Why?
________________________________________________

________________________________________________
Her phone # is:________________________
8. When my parents made significant decisions: (1) My
mother made all of them, (2) My mother made most of
them, (3) They made them jointly in cooperation, (4) My
father made most of them, (5) My father made all of them.
Personally I believe _____________ should make ________ of
the decisions.
9. When two people are dating regularly they should: (1)
Have a good deal of personal freedom, (2) Frequently do
things separately, (3) occasionally do things separately, (4)
Do almost every social thing together, (5) Do every social
thing together
10. In relations with people of the opposite sex, I prefer to
be: (1) Dominant, (2) Moderately dominant, (3) Very
cooperative, (4) Moderately submissive, (5) Submissive
rarely insisting on having my own way. I prefer that my
date be __________________
11. With a person I have been dating frequently, I am: (1)
Intimately affectionate, (2) Very warm and very affectionate
but not intimate (just hugs and kisses and not sexual), (3)
Usually affectionate (hugs and kisses and not sexual),
(4) Moderately affectionate (safe hugs, closed lip kisses, not
sexual), (5) Rarely affectionate (only holding hands and
cheek kisses), (6) Not affectionate (no touching of skin).
I PREFER THAT MY DATE BE
_________________________________
12. How emotionally involved without commitment do you
wish to become with your dates? (1) Very involved, (2)
Moderately involved, (3) Not involved at all
13. I am dating because: (1) I want to be married, (2) I like
to have a lot of friends, (3) I want to have a couple of close
friends, (4) I want a close friend, (5) I am lonely and don�t
like to be alone.
14. Spending time with relatives is: (1) Not at all important,
(2) Slightly important, (3) Fairly important, (4) Very
important, (5) Extremely imporant
15. In family financial affairs: (1) I tend to live beyond our
income, (2) I tend to charge items on our accounts, (3) I live
for the here and now and don�t think about our future,
(4) I save a little, (5) I save and invest for our future.
16. I give about _______% of my monthly pay to churches or
charities like
________________________________________________
17. I earn about $ ____________ net each month. I prefer
that my date should earn at least $ ____________ net per
month.
18. For the past five years I have worked as a
________________________________________________
19. I currently work as a
_______________________________________
20. I believe that children are a God-given solemn trust, gift
and opportunity to serve by training, teaching, nurturing,
�discipling�, disciplining and admonishing in the Way and
Word of God.26 Please cross out that with which you
disagree.
21. I believe that I must obediently love God more than I
love my children so that I can be objective in helping them
learn to do God�s good instead of their own pleasure. >27 (See
footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree.
22. I believe that God wants me to rebuke, teach, admonish,
correct, discipline and warn my children when they do what
God says, or I say, is wrong.>28 Please cross out that with
which you disagree.
23. I understand that it is the will of God for my children to
show respect to me, to talk respectfully to and about me, and
that they are commanded by God to obey me as long as I
don�t cause them to disobey God. I realize that this is one of
God�s basic rules for humanity and gravely serious
consequences are ordained by God for children who don�t
obey Him in this matter.>29 (See footnotes) Please cross out
that with which you disagree.
24. I believe that I am God�s ordained authority in charge of
my children so I am to be in charge of my children and they
are to obey me for God�s sake. If my children or I discount
or ignore my authority, then I am discounting and ignoring
God.>30 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you
disagree.
25. I believe that, as the authority in charge of -- and to be
obeyed by my children, I am not to be a tyrant or abusive
dictator. As the servant of God I serve my children as their
parent with patience, gentleness, kindness, longsuffering,
unselfishness, optimism, sincerity and without wrath so that
even when I have to spank/discipline/punish them for
rebellion or evil I do it for their own good, not for their harm
and not for my own personal pleasure/gratification.>30b
Please cross out that with which you disagree.

PART IV: THE PERSONALITY FACTORS
******************************************************
1. Ordinarily, I am: (1) Emotional, (2) Slightly more
emotional than rational, (3) Slightly more rational than
emotional, (4) Very rational.
I prefer that my date be ___________________
2. My personality is that of: (1) An extrovert, (2) A
moderate extrovert, (3) A moderate introvert, (4) An
introvert.
I prefer that my date have a personality of
_________________
3. I am: (1) Always very neat and organized, (2) Usually neat
and organized, (3) sometimes neat and organized, (4) Rarely
neat and organized but hire a housecleaner, (5) Not neat and
organized but I know where almost everything is. I prefer
that my date be__________________________
4. I prefer to be: (1) Dominant, (2) Moderately dominant, (3)
Very cooperative, (4) Moderately submissive, (5)
Submissive rarely insisting on having my own way. I prefer
that my date be ____
5. Ordinarily I am: (1) Talkative, (2) Moderately talkative,
(3) Moderately quiet, (4) Quiet. I prefer that my date should
be ____________________
6. Real love is best expressed to me, or I prefer to be loved
by: (1) Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, (2) Words and
tone of voice, (3) Facial expressions, (4) Touch and feeling.
7. I express real love best by: (1) Acts of kindness and
thoughtfulness, (2) Words and tone of voice, (3) Facial
expressions, (4) Touch and feeling, (5) Other
_______________________.
8. My basic attitude toward life is that it is: (1) Boring, (2)
Dull, (3) Moderately interesting, (4) Interesting, (5) Exciting.
9. My favorite kinds of music are

________________________________________________
10. My favorite TV shows are

________________________________________________
11. My favorite movies are

________________________________________________
12. I like radio stations that
________________________________________________
13. In my personal financial affairs: (1) I tend to live
beyond my income, (2) I tend to charge items, (3) I live for
the here and now and don�t think about the future, (4) I save
a little, (5) I save and invest for the future.
14. When I go out for an evening, I would prefer to be: (1)
Alone, (2) With one person, (3) Double dating, (4) In a small
group, (5) In a large group.
15. Basically I consider myself: (1) A loner, (2) Retiring, (3)
Quiet, (4) Gregarious- friendly-merry, (5) Very gregarious-
friendly-merry.
16. Having a good sense of humor is to me: (1) Not at all
important, (2) Slightly important, (3) Fairly important, (4)
Very important (5) Extremely important
17. I would like to spend most of my life in a: (1) Ranch or
farm community, (2) Small town, (3) Average size city, (4)
Fairly large city, (5) Large metropolitan area, (6) In a
suburb of a city.
18. My basic attitude about people is that they are usually:
(1) Boring, (2) Dull, (3) Moderately interesting, (4)
Interesting, (5) Exciting
19. It is important that my home be kept dusted, neat and
clean: (1) All of the time, (2) Most of the time, (3) Some of
the time (once a week), (4)Occasionally (once a month or for
company)
20. I smoke
________________________________________________
I prefer that my date smoke
_______________________________________________
21. I drink alcoholic beverages
________________________________________________
I prefer that my date drink
________________________________________________
22. I use legal prescription drugs like
______________________________________________
23. In my opinion, illegal drugs like marijuana, cocaine,
Heroin, etc. are
________________________________________________
24. Politically, I am: (1) Very conservative and and feel I
don't have to obey laws I disagree with, (2) Very
conservative and very law abiding, (3) Conservative and
usually law abiding, (4) Moderate and can compromise, (4)
Liberal and want some laws changed and disobey
others, (5) Very liberal and I feel I don't have to obey laws I
disagree with. Politically my date may be
__________________________________________
25. My highest level of academic attainment is: (1) Attending
high school, (2) High School diploma, (3) Attended
(attending) vocational trade school, (4) Attended (attending)
college, (5) College bachelor degree, (6) Master�s degree or
above. I prefer that my date�s minimum level of academic
attainment should be______________
26. I would estimate my IQ to be: (1) Lower than average
but okay, (2) Average, (3) Above average, (4) Well above
average, (5) Genius or gifted.
I prefer that my date�s IQ should be at least #______
or High_______Moderate________Average_______Low______
27. Please rate the following items 1 through 5 as follows:
(1) Not at all interested, (2) Slightly interested, (3) Fairly
interested, (4) Very interested, (5) Extremely interested.
The items are as follows:
Art ____, Attend athletic events ____,
Ballets and operas ___,
Bible studies and prayer meetings ___, Bowling
____,
Bridge ____, Camping ____, Card games ____,
Chess ____, Church services ____, Church specials
____,
Popular dancing ____, Fishing ____, Golf
____, Happy hours ____, Hunting with camera ____,
Hunting with weapons _, Movie theaters ____,
Music (singing/playing) ____, Parties ____,
Photography ____, Picnics ____, Ping
pong ____, Plays or musicals ____, Political activity
____,
Sailing ____, Scuba diving ____, Skating _____,
Snow skiing ____, Sports cars ____,
Square/folk dancing ____, Sunbathing _____,
Support groups _____, Swimming _____,
Tennis _____, Racquet ball ____,
Badminton _____, Travel-foreign _____, Travel-
USA ____,
Visiting friends ____, Volleyball ____,
Watching TV ____, Watching videos ____,
Water skiing ____,
The following:
________________________________________________

________________________________________________
28. We haven't touched on this yet but what I tell you in the
following is very important to me and I hope it is important
to you too. Please tell me how you feel about it.

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>>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 2

WHEN YOU HAVE HAD Several DATES and ARE
THINKING OR TALKING ABOUT GETTING SERIOUS, MAKING
COMMITMENTS, BECOMING ENGAGED, OR PREPARING TO
COMMIT FOR MARRIAGE, DO THESE SEPARATELY, EXCHANGE
AND COMPARE THEM SEPARATELY, THEN make a date to
DISCUSS WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ABOUT EACH OTHER.

1. I believe marital/sexual intimacy with your own marital
partner is honorable, undefiled, good, wonderful, delightful,
pleasant, desirable and God ordained.>footnote 31 Yes
______ No ______
2. I believe that a married male+female couple should be
sexually/genitally intimate and active with each other in
order to avoid sexual immorality.>footnote 32 No
______ Yes _____
3. I believe that a male and female married to each other
should be sexually/genitally affectionate with each other
whenever one wants or needs it.>footnote 33 Yes
______ No ______
4. I believe that the wife has sexual authority over her
husband's body and that the husband has sexual authority
over her body and such authority is to be submitted to just
as to any other Romans 13 authority set up by God. This
sexual authority is to be exercised humbly, meekly and
gently in unselfish, compassionately cherishing service to the
other.>footnote 34 No _______Yes _______
5. I believe that a married male+female couple should
sexually deprive/ deny each other only for fasting and
prayer if they both agree to it and then only for a mutually
acceptable time.>footnote35
Yes _____ No _______
6. I believe that it is God's best for a born again Christian
wife to not dessert/divorce/ leave her born again Christian
husband, but if she sins and does, she should remain
unmarried or be reconciled to her husband since she is
bound by God to him as wife as long as he lives.>footnote 36
Yes ____ No _____
7. I believe a born again Christian husband is not to
divorce/send away/ask to leave his born again Christian
wife because she is bound by God to him as wife as long as
he lives.>footnote 37
No ____ Yes ______
8. I believe a born again Christian mate should not
associate/keep company with his/her "born again" Christian"
mate if that mate claims to be a "born again Christian" and
lives in sexual immorality, covetousness, idolatry, verbal
abuse of others, drunkenness, drug addiction, extortion, open
disobedience to clear and explicit commands/teachings of the
Word of God. >footnote 38
Yes ___ No __
9. I believe a married believer should not
leave/divorce/send away his/her "unsaved" spouse as long
as that unsaved spouse actually lives or wants to continue
living/dwelling with him/her.>footnote 39
Yes ___ No ___
10. I believe that if the "unsaved" spouse does not want to
live/dwell with the believer and leaves (departs, divorces,
separates, etc.) the believer, that believer is not morally
bound (under bondage, subject, held by necessity) in such
cases and is free to seek a "born again Christian"
mate>footnote 40 No ___ Yes __
11. For the past five years I have worked as
a_________________________
at (company�s name & location)
_________________________________
12. I currently work as a
______________________________________
at (company�s name & location)
_________________________________

for _____ years and ____ months, and my supervisor�s name
and title is
________________________________________________
13. My resume and work references for the last six years
are attached/enclosed.

IF THE LORD LEADS YOU, PLEASE COMPLETE THE NEXT STEP,
�ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE�, BEFORE YOU BECOME
ENGAGED OR MAKE YOUR MARITAL COMMITMENT OR
BECOME MARITALLY INTIMATE. IF YOU WANT THE NEXT
STEP, PLEASE CONTACT R. TYLER AT PO. BOX 620763, SAN
DIEGO, CA 92162-0763
PLEASE DON�T SEND/GIVE THE "ARE WE READY FOR
MARRIAGE" TO A POTENTIAL/ PROSPECTIVE DATE. THE
QUESTIONNAIRE LETS YOU REALLY GET TO KNOW EACH
OTHER IN A VERY SHORT TIME AND ALLOWS YOU TO DO
DEAL WITH POTENTIAL PROBLEMS/CONFLICTS VERY EARLY
IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. REMEMBER YOU SHOULD BE
PREPARED TO ACCEPT THE PERSON THE WAY HE/SHE IS
WHEN YOU MEET WITH THE HOPE THAT A REASONABLE
PERSON WOULD MAKE MINOR/ MODEST COMPROMISES. ANY
PLAN ON YOUR OR HIS/HER PART TO MAKE OR EXPECT
MAJOR CHANGES IN THE OTHER PERSON IS NOT REALISTIC
AND PAVES THE WAY FOR HEARTBREAK LATER. REMEMBER
THE ROMANS 14 DOUBT PRINCIPLE: WHEN IN DOUBT,
DON�T!!!!!! SAVE YOUR HEART! WHEN THE DOUBTS
ARE COMPLETELY GONE AND YOU HAVE PEACE OF MIND AND
HEART ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, YOU�VE PRAYED
ASKING AND TRUSTING HIM FOR HIS SHEPHERDING/
GUIDANCE, YOU MEET THE BIBLE'S REQUIREMENTS FOR
ANSWERED PRAYER41 , AND YOU ARE AWARE OF NOTHING
IN THE BIBLE THAT SAYS YOU SHOULDN�T DO IT, DO IT!!!

FOOD FOR THOUGHT ABOUT COURTSHIP BEHAVIOR

PUBLIC NUDITY (BLACK�S BEACH, PORNOGRAPHY ETC.) IS
NOT ACCEPTABLE TO GOD OR FOR A GODLY WOMAN. Ezekiel
16:7 I caused you to multiply, as the bud of the field; and
you did increase and grow great, and you came to fullness of
beauty; [your] breasts were fashioned, and your hair grew:
but you were naked and bare. 8 And I passed by you, and
looked upon you, and behold, you time was the time of love;
and I spread my skirt over you, and covered your
nakedness; and I swore unto you, and entered into a
covenant with you, said the Lord Jehovah, and you became
mine. Ezekiel 16:25 You did build your high place at every
head of the way, and made your beauty to be abhorred, and
you did open wide your feet [offering yourself] to every one
that passed by, and multiply your sexual immorality.. 36
Thus says the Lord GOD; Because your filthiness was poured
out, and your genitalia were seen through your sexual
immorality with your lovers, and with all the idols of your
abominations....; 37 Behold, therefore I will gather all your
lovers, with whom you have taken pleasure, and all [them]
that you have loved, with all [them] that you have hated; I
will even gather them round about against you, and will
show your genitalia unto them, that they may see all your
genitalia. Compare Genesis 3:7, 10,11, 21
SEXUAL INTIMACY WITH SOMEONE ELSE BESIDES YOUR
MATE BY MEANS OF PORNOGRAPHIC OBJECTS IS SEXUAL SIN.
Ezekiel 16:17 And you did take your fair jewels of my gold
and of my silver, which I had given you, and made to
yourself images of males, and did sexual sin with them.
PAYING IN ANY WAY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT YOUR
MARITAL PARTNER TO BE SEXUALLY INTIMATE WITH YOU
IS SEXUAL SIN. Ezekiel 16:33 They give rewards to all
harlots; but you gave your rewards to all your lovers, and
rewarded them, that they might come unto you on every
side for your sexual immorality. 34 And in you is the
contrary from [other] women, in your sexual immorality, in
that none follows you to commit fornication; and whereas
you give a reward, and no reward is given unto you, so are
you contrary. [Note! So a harlot is also a female who does
sexual sin for free or who pays for it, for a feelling or for a
service, for advantage or for a favor..]
HOMOSEXUALITY, LESBIANISM, SODOMY, SEX WITH
ANIMALS AND OTHER PERVERSIONS ARE UNACCEPTABLE TO
GOD AND EXCLUDES THEIR SUPPORTERS FROM HEAVEN. Lev.
18:6 � None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin
to him, to uncover [their] genitalia: I [am] the LORD. Lev.
18:22 And you shall not lie [sexually] with male persons as
one lies [sexually] with a female person: it is an abomination.
Lev. 20:13 And if a man lie [sexually] with mankind, as he
lies [sexually] with a woman, both of them have committed
an abomination: they shall certainly be put to death; their
blood is upon them. Exodus 22:19 --Every one who lies
[sexually] with a beast shall certainly be put to death. Lev.
18:23 And you shall lie [sexually] with no beast to become
unclean it; and a woman shall not stand before a beast to
mate with it: it is perversion. Lev. 20:15 And if a man lie
[sexually] with a beast for copulation, he shall certainly be
put to death, and you shall kill the beast.16 And if a woman
approach unto any beast to mate with it, you shalt kill the
woman and the beast. They shall certainly be put to death;
their blood is upon them. Lev. 18:26 But you shall observe
my statutes and my judgments, and shall not commit any of
all these abominations: the home-born, and the stranger who
sojourns among you; 27 (for all these abominations have
the men of the land done, who were before you, and the land
has been made unclean); 28 that the land vomit you not
out, when you make it unclean, as it vomited out the nation
that was before you. 29 For whoever commits any of these
abominations, ...the souls that commit them shall be cut off
from among their people. Romans 1:24 Wherefore God gave
them up [also] in the lusts of their hearts to uncleanness, to
dishonour their bodies between themselves: 25 who
changed the truth of God into falsehood, and honoured and
served the creature more than him who had created [it], who
is blessed for ever. Amen. 26 For this reason God gave them
up to vile lusts; for both their females exchanged the natural
use for what is against nature; 27 and in the same way the
males also, leaving the natural use of the female, were
inflamed in their lust towards one another; males with males
working [out what is sexually] shameful, and receiving in
themselves the penalty of their error which was due. 1
Corinthians 6:9 � Do ye not know that unrighteous [persons]
shall not inherit [the] kingdom of God? Do not err: neither
fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor males who
make women [catamite homosexuals] of themselves, nor
[male homosexuals/ pederasts] who abuse themselves
[sodomize] with male persons, 10 ......shall inherit [the]
kingdom of God. 1 Tim.1:8 Now we know that the law [is]
good if any one uses it lawfully, 9 knowing this, that law has
not its application to a righteous person, but to [the] lawless
and insubordinate, to [the] impious and sinful, to [the] unholy
and profane, to smiters of fathers and smiters of mothers; to
murderers,10 fornicators, [male homosexual] sodomites,
kidnappers, liars, perjurers; and if any other thing is opposed
to sound teaching, 11 according to the glad tidings of the
glory of the blessed God, with which *I* have been
entrusted. [See Jude 7 also.]
Normally women seek marital relationships because
they want loving companionship with sexual cherishing and
men seek marital relationships because they need sexual
cherishing with loving companionship. Either way marital
relationships involve sex. God in the Bible makes it crystal
clear what sexual intimacy is (see above), that it includes
breast and genital petting/ caressing as well as genital
intercourse/coitus/penetration; and the sinful perversions of
lesbianism, homosexuality, sodomy, pederasty etc.. God in
the Bible makes it crystal clear that sexual intimacy is to be
expressed only in marriage with your marital partner in the
way He tells us in the Bible ( 1 Corinth. 7; 1 Thess. 4; 1
Timothy 1:9.10; Hebrews 13 etc.). God also makes it very
clear that any obedient believer who is not successfully
controlling one's self in the Spirit by abstaining from sexual
intimacy until married comes under God's command to
marry an obedient believer in the Lord (1 Corinthians
7:1,2,9,17,36,37,39; and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8; 1 Timothy
5:11-15). According to Proverbs chapter 5 and chapter 31
and the Song of Solomon in the Bible, it is quite evident that
for those led by God or by hormonal need- sexual intimacy
should be ecstatic, orgasmic, fulfilling, fun, playful and a
wonderful opportunity to bring thrilling joy into the life of
your marital partner. God says our bodies are instruments
(Romans 6), and you should become an artist in the playing
of yourself and your mate as instruments in harmony.

>>>>FOOTNOTES & REFERENCES P. 29
Please don�t give/send this page to a potential date since it is
the answer key and a deceptive date could tell you what you
want to hear instead of what is real for the date. You could
use it later to discuss differences or problems.
#1 2 Corinthians 6:11-7:1; 1 Corinthians 15:33; James 4:4;
Exodus 34:12; 23:33; 1 Kings 11:1,2; Ezra 9:11,12; Nehemiah
10:25-30;Psalms 1:1; 26:4,5; Prov. 12:26;13:20; 14:7;
24:1; Amos 3:3.
#1 2 Corinthians 6:11-7:1; 1 Corinthians 15:33; James 4:4;
Exodus 34:12; 23:33; 1 Kings 11:1,2; Ezra 9:11,12; Nehemiah
10:25-30;Psalms 1:1; 26:4,5; Prov. 12:26;13:20; 14:7;
24:1; Amos 3:3.
#2 1 Corinthians 5:9-11; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-14; Ephesians
5:7,11; NKJV 1 Timothy6:3-5; Romans 16:17;
3 John 10,11; 2 Timothy 3:1-5
3 Hebrews 5:8,9; 1 John 2:1-5; Revelations 20; Psalms 23;
John 14:15,21
4 Prov. 3:5,6; I Corinth. 12:3; Prov. 16:24; Hebrews 11
5 1 Corinth. 14:37; 1 Thess. 4:8; 2 Peter 3:15, 16
6 1 John 4:2; Matthew 1; John 1; Luke 2 7 2 Tim.
3:16,17; 2 Peter 1:20,21; 1 John 2:3-5

8 2 John 7-11; Luke 24; Acts 1
17 Coloss. 1; John 1.
18 Matthew 22:28-32; Galatians 3:26,27,28; John 4; 1 John
3:2;
19 Ephes. 5:21-33; 1 Peter 3:7; 5:1-5. 1 Corinth 13.
20. Ephes. 5:22,23,24,33; Colos. 3:18- 4:1; 1 Peter 3:1-6;
Titus 2:4; 1 Thess. 5:21; Hebrews 13:7,17.
21 1 Peter 3:1; 1 Timothy 2:11-15; 1 Corinth. 14:34-37.
22 Ezekiel 23:8,17,18,20; 1 Corinth 5 & 6 & 718 Matthew
22:28-32; Galatians 3:26,27,28; John 4; 1 John 3:2;
23 Ezekiel 16:15, 25, 31-37; 1 Corinth. 5 & 6 & 7; Proverbs
5:18-20 with Roman 6:13.
24 Ezek. 23:3,8,21; Prov.5:19,20; 1Corinth. 6:13-19
25 1 Corinth. 7:9,7,28,36; 1 Thess. 4:3-8; Prov. 5:19,20.
26 Psalm 127:3,4,5; Psalm 113:9; Psalm 128:2,3; Ephesians
6:1-4; Proverbs 1:8,9; 4:1-27; 15:5,20; 22:6; 30:17; 1 Peter
1:12,13; 1 Thessalonians 2:11; 1 Samuel 2:12-3:14
27 Matthew 10:34,39
28 See note 3 and Galatians 6:1, Ephesians 5:7,11; Matthew
18:15-18; 2 Timothy 2:24-26.
Hebrews 12:3-11
29 Ephesians 6:2; 2 Tim. 3:2; 1 Tim. 5:5; Matt. 15:4; Exodus
21:17; Leviticus 19:3; Deuteronomy 27:6,16; Proverbs 23:22;
28:24; Isaiah 3:5; Ezekiel 22:7
30 Ephesians 6:1,2,3; Romans 13:1-13
30b Luke 22:25,26,27,28; 1 Corinthians 13; 2 Timothy 2:24-
26; 1 Peter 5:1-5; Hebrews 12:3-11
31 Hebrews 13:4; Proverbs 5:15-21; 30:18,19; Song of
Solomon
32 1 Corinth. 7:1,2,3,4,5; Proverbs 5
33 1 Corinth. 7:3,4,5; Proverbs 5
34 Luke 22:25,26,27 and 1 Peter 5:1-5. 1 Corinth 7:3,4,5
35 1 Corinth. 7:1,2,5; 1 John 3:16,17.
36 1 Corinth.7:10,11,39; Romans 7:2; Luke16:18.
37 First Corinth. 7:11; Ephes. 4:31, 32; 1 Peter3:7; Hosea 2;
Malachi 3.
38 Matthew 18:16-18; 1 Corinth. 5; 2 Tim. 3; 1 Tim. 1:9-11;
6:1-5; 2 Thess. 3:6-14.
39 1 Corinth.7:13-16
40 1 Corinth.7:12-39.
41 1JOHN 3:22,23,24; 1 JOHN 5:3,14,15

The following files are available as described below. Please
request any that seem interesting or of use to you.
1. Husband rule over the wife? Which cave did you crawl out
of?
2. Informal marriage, common law marriage, what makes a
wedding?
3.Interracial,interethnic marriage and relationships in JESUS
4. JESUS, IS HE GOD, JEHOVAH, THE SON OF GOD, THE SON OF
MAN, THE ONLY WAY TO GOD?
5. Oaths, formal swearings, solemn promises, covenants and
JESUS
6. The power for good of feminine beauty and male
handsomeness.
7. Racisim, ethnocentrism, nationalism vs JESUS
8. Underage burning--the financially dependent who are not
successfully controlling themselves sexually
9. Unequal yoke???Do i look like a farmer?? So why
shouldn't I marry this unbelieving/unsaved person, or this
person who claims to be saved but has a sin problem????
10. Why the Christian Woman Has Only One Husband.
11. When do i have to marry, in JESUS, and with whom?
12. Angels and you today
13. Biblical Morality, Porn, Sex etc.
14. The Black Family Crisis, and the Plight of the Black
Female.
15. The Tithe and the Christian
16. A Manual of Marital Intimacy for My Daughters
17. Why Do The Innocent Suffer?
18. Divorce/Abandonment, How Can a Follower of Christ
Survive It?
19. Keeping One's Word.
20. Quotes on polygyny
21.Divorce,remarriage, concubines, jesus and genuine
believers
22. Polygynous Christians and Christian concubines
23. Why Would the Christian Woman Share Her Husband?

1. HUSBAND RULE OVER THE WIFE? WHICH CAVE DID YOU
CRAWL OUT OF?
This ascii text file addresses the issues of communication
between man and woman, their roles in Jesus, their need to
understand how very different they are and how very
different their needs are, the husbands need to really listen
to his wife before he leads out, the wife's critical need to
realize that a marriage is primarily a sexual relationship
with a man who needs her for the fulfillment of his sexual
needs-usually more often than she wants to meet them----
etc.----and how a man can lead and follow his star with a
wife following at his side with bated breath.
[Available by email or by ftp as an appendix of a larger file ]

2. INFORMAL MARRIAGE, COMMON LAW MARRIAGE, WHAT
MAKES A WEDDING?
This file deals with such questions as the following:
1. What makes a marriage/wedding?
2. What makes a marriage/wedding acceptable to God?
3. Can you legally be married to someone and the marriage
be against the laws of God?
4. What about common law marriage?
5. What about California's Pal relationships and Palimony?
6. What about California's Man-Assuming-The-Role-0f-
Spouse (MARS) relationships in Welfare households?
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as
"commonlaw", or by email. See below]

3.INTERRACIAL,INTERETHNIC MARRIAGE AND
RELATIONSHIPS IN JESUS
This is an indepth Bible study dealing with the questions
surrounding racism, prejudice, bias, discrimination,
favoritism, bigotry etc from the historical and spiritual
perspective and thier denunciation as seen in James 2:1-14;
1 Tim. 5:20,21; Acts 10-15; Gen. 16:3; 41:45; and Num. 12:1-
10. Interracial/interethnic marriage have been with us since
the beginning of human existence and have been the subject
of Divine involement from Moses' marriage with the
Ethiopian Cushite to Solomon's black-as-a-crow Shulamite
wife to Phillip and the Ethiopian Eunuch and Peter with the
non-Jew Centurion. God makes it clear over 6000 years of
recorded history that race and ethnicity have no place
signicantly influencing human interpersonal relationships.
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as
"interracial=ethnic marriage", or by email. See below]

4. JESUS, IS HE GOD, JEHOVAH, THE SON OF GOD, THE SON OF
MAN, THE ONLY WAY TO GOD?
A Bible study collection of scriptures that address this issue
and the issue of the trinity. [Available only by emial]

5. OATHS, FORMAL SWEARINGS, SOLEMN PROMISES,
COVENANTS AND JESUS
This is an indepth Bible study dealing with the questions
surrounding oaths, sworn statements, solemn/legal promises,
solemn vows etc who believe Psa. 15:4 and Eccles. 5:1-5 but
also want to believe and obey Mat. 5:33-37 (swear not all)
and James 4:13-17 with James 5:12 (do not swear).
[Available by email, or ftp as an appendix of a larger file]

6. THE POWER FOR GOOD OF FEMININE BEAUTY AND MALE
HANDSOMENESS.
Feminine beauty and male handsomeness are gifts from our
Creator.
We are stewards of this socially significant gifts. We are
accountable to God and our fellow believers for how we use
these powerful and influential tools. We need the wisdom of
God to use them well. A file.
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as
"feml.power", or by email. See below]

7. RACISIM, ETHNOCENTRISM, NATIONALISM VS JESUS
This is an indepth Bible study dealing with the questions
surrounding racism, prejudice, bias, discrimination,
favoritism, bigotry etc from the historical and spiritual
perspective seen in James 2:1-14; 1 Tim. 5:20,21; Acts 10-15;
Gen. 16:3; 41:45; and Num. 12:1-10. Please let me know if
you want me to send it to you by Email or by US PO mail and
give me the correct address. Please let me know what you
think scripturally of the material. [Available by URL or ftp in
/pub/politics/polyamory as "racism.nationalism", or by
email. See below]

8. UNDERAGE BURNING--THE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT WHO
ARE NOT SUCCESSFULLY CONTROLLING THEMSELVES
SEXUALLY
1. What do I do if I am underage, too young to marry and a
financially dependent youth and I keep on blowing it
sexually, letting Jesus and myself down by not consistently
controlling myself sexually?
2.When do I know I don't have the gift of celibacy?
3.When do I know that I am not sexually controlling myself?
4.Where does pornography come in here?
5. When do I have to marry, according to the Word of God?
6. What makes a marriage/wedding?
7. What makes a marriage/wedding acceptable to God?
8. Can you legally be married to someone and the marriage
be against the laws of God?
9. What about common law marriage?
[Available only by email]

9. UNEQUAL YOKE???DO I LOOK LIKE A FARMER?? SO WHY
SHOULDN'T I MARRY THIS UNBELIEVING/UNSAVE PERSON,
OR THIS PERSON WHO CLAIMS TO BE SAVED BUT HAS A SIN
PROBLEM????
This is a careful and thoughtful study of the principles
involved in 2 Corinthian 6:14-7:1 and 1 Corinthians 5:9-14.
Read it. Act on it and save yourself and your loved ones
some grief.
[Available by email or by ftp as an appendix of a large file}

10. Why the Christian Woman Has Only One Husband.
If men practice polygyny, why shouldn't women practice
polyandry?
You find women having more than one male as mate from
Beverly Hills, to modern college neighborhoods, to the
jungles of South America. The woman at the well had five
husbands. On the other hand, Eve had Adam, not Adam +
Sam + Pete + Benhadad etc. A file for your consideration.
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as
"polyandry", or by email. See below]

11. WHEN DO I HAVE TO MARRY, IN JESUS, AND WITH
WHOM?
1.When do I know I don't have the gift of celibacy?
2.When do I know that I am not sexually controlling myself?
3.Where does pornography come in here?
4. When do I have to marry, according to the Word of God?
5. What makes a marriage/wedding?
6. What makes a marriage/wedding acceptable to God?
7. Can you legally be married to someone and the marriage
be against the laws of God?
8. What about common law marriage?
9. What about California's Pal relationships and Palimony?
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as
"when=how.to.marry", or by email. See below]

12. Angels and You Today
Some thoughts on how angels have been involved with we
humans, the historical origin of the god-man heroes of
Greece and Rome.
[Available by email only]

13. Biblical Morality, Porn, Sex etc. 118k
Some scriptures that deal with these issues directly.
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as
"poly.morality.porn", or by email. See below]

14. The Black Family Crisis, and the Plight of the Black
Female.
The crisis, what it means to Black Americans and an option
that can help some Christians save their children and their
families. [Available by URL or ftp in
/pub/politics/polyamory as "blk.fam.poly", or by email. See
below]

15. The Tithe and the Christian
Should we, and why? An indepth Bible study. [Available by
email only]

16. A Manual of Marital Intimacy for My Daughters
Want to help me put together this Manual for my college age
daughters as an engagement present? [Available by email
only]

17. Why Do The Godly Suffer?
Does it pay to be "good"? Why do the "good" suffer so much,
so often? [Available by email only]

18. Divorce/Abandonment, How Can a Follower of Christ
Survive It?
You love Jesus, but your mate doesn't even love you. Now
you find yourself divorced or abandonned but you want to
be married happily in the Lord, what can you do? Positive,
assertive, loving, godly and decisive things you can to once
again be married happily in the Lord. [Available by URL or
ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.and.divorce", or by
email. See below]

19. Keeping one's word.
A study of the scriptures dealing with breaking one's vows,
promises, covenants, oaths etc. and what God says about
those who do not keep
their word. [Available by email only]

20. Quotes on polygyny
A collection of quotes from Biblical scholars and saints (St.
Augustine etc) on
the nature and status of polygyny and concubines. [Available
by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.in.Bible",
or by email. See below]

21.DIVORCE,REMARRIAGE, CONCUBINES, JESUS AND GENUINE
BELIEVERS
This file deals with the following: (1) Are genuine Christians
who are married to each other bound maritally until death
parts them? (2) Can a genuine Christian married couple
separate, in the Lord? (3) Can a genuine Christian who is
divorced by a genuine Christian remarry some other genuine
Christian, in the Lord? (4) Is there a double standard, one
for the genuine Christian husband and one for the genuine
Christian wife? (5) Can a genuine Christian husband
reconcile with his genuine Christian wife after she had
divorced him and remarried someone else? Should he?
Should she? (6) What does "maritally bound until death do
us part" mean for genuine Christians involved in divorce and
remarriage? (7) Is a genuine Christian living in adultery with
his new mate if he legally divorced his genuine Christian
wife to marry his new mate? (8) Can divorce and
remarriage among Christians result in Christian polygyny
and Christian concubines? In America? This is a 470k
ASCII text only without linebreaks file that is also available
in 12 parts if your computer cannot receive large files.
[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/essays as
"divorce.remarriage. concubines", or by email. See below]

22. POLYGYNOUS CHRISTIANS AND CHRITIAN CONCUBINES
This is a file for (1) Christian concubines and for Christians
with more than one wife who feel ostracized and isolated
from the Christian community because of their controversial
marital status; (2) Those who don't realize that concubines
and polygynists are acceptable to the Lord Jesus Christ in
their marital status when they conduct themselves according
the Word of God in their controversial marital status; and (3)
Concrete and specific principles, applications and concepts
that can be useful to the Christian polygynist/concubine to
achieve happiness and success in their relationship.
This is an 240k ASCII text only without linebreaks file that
is also available in six parts if your computer cannot receive
large files. [Available by URL or ftp in
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"polygamy. polygyny.concubines" , or by email. See below]

23. Why Would the Christian Woman Share Her Husband?
Some thoughts about the conditions or situations that might
lead her to share her husband with another woman in a
marital relationship, a concubine, in today's western and
occidental world.[Available by URL or ftp in
/pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.western.woman", or by
email. See below]

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