The Little Purple Notebook On How To Escape From This Universe
Copyleft � 1998 by Maximilian J. Sandor, Ph.D.
Subscription Information: Maria Loren
[email protected]
Website:
http://transmillennium.net/pnohteftu/
Reasons Why People Get Upset
Contemplating a male exemplar of the human species who decided to witness
an event that is able to prompt him to be angry or upset, the following
can be observed:
His face gets as red as this screen. His blood pressure skyrockets.
All systems are on overload. (All of this is very unhealthy, of
course.) Then his increasingly irrational emotions are making him more
and more unhappy. He starts getting more and more aggressive and may
begin to hurt others, especially those around him that he loves or
that he wants to love him.
In short, things are not getting better for him nor anyone around him. And
in the end he always hurt himself.
Why, then, did he do what he did?
There is no logical explanation for this behavior no matter how clever the
justifications for it may be. It is part of the 'case' of a person. Which
is that in-sane part of man that is at the root of all his misery.
For some people it appears to be just a habit that they acquired from
others, like their parents. Others think they need it for their system
every once a while. Some get rarely upset; a very, very few once every
quarter century.
In any case, again, he hurts himself with his upset and anger.
So why doesn't he stop hurting himself?
To begin with, he rarely recognizes that he is punishing himself more than
anyone else.
But even then, in order to hide his own evil intentions or past aggressive
acts or failures to help, he pretends the 'reason' for his upset is
whatever he decided to experience. Which is what he thinks that happened
'to' him.
Since he knows deep inside that the pain coming with his anger and upset is
foremost his own problem, he needs to continue to justify every upset in
the future in order to remain 'right' and not 'wrong'. This way, the upset
persists in time and may even escalate. In any case, it can be triggered
again at any given time in the future unless he would something about it.
How is it working?
In brief words, an upset or anger is a kind of self-punishment because of a
past misdeed or a failure to act and is commonly accompagnied by an evil
intention to harm someone.
Anything that reminds him of his own unwanted conditions, past or present,
can serve as a trigger to go into self-punishment mode.
But is someone did wrong to him, isn't that a good reason to be upset?
There are two possible (re)actions if someone did something wrong:
* fight back, or
* lean back and tolerate it.
In both cases, being upset doesn't help a bit. A clouded mind only makes it
more difficult to fight back and it makes it much harder to tolerate
whatever was happening 'to' him.
Even if this would not be a circumstance that can be observed every day and
everywhere, there is still another little factlet:
Everybody determines his own fate.
Of course, this is hard to swallow for low-responsibility personalities.
But complaints do belong into the in-sanity department. Always.
But one can't just simply change one's emotions...
One can sit down and find one's own evil intentions and past deeds that
were triggered by the 'reason' of the upset and, once found, dissolve them.
This is easier said than done and may require assistance by a qualified
practitioner.
In the meantime, it very often helps to just look at similar outbreaks in
the past and compare it to the present situation.
If there is some experience already there with 'running processes' by
oneself, one can try to look closely and repetivitely at the exact moment
of time at which the emotion began.
In any case, the sheer existence of the tiniest bit of rage or upset in
one's mind should be more than ample reason to read on in this marvelous
piece of under- and overground literature:
the space- and timeless
'Little Purple Notebook On How To Escape From This Universe'
Last question: isn't upset and anger in our genes? Inherited from
our ancestors, the apes?
Hmm, if you should really think you would be an ape, how about getting
yourself a banana?
------------------------------------------------------------------------
Copyleft � 1998 by Maximilian J. Sandor, Ph.D.
