Homosexual Marriage-The Marginalization of Women and the Family

L.M. Farrell, Ph. D.

The long term survival of civilization rests on two fundamental
institutions, the nuclear family and the right to private property
which is necessary to sustain the nuclear family. As David Frum
notes, (Saturday Night, December 1995), the dismal consequences of
the Russian experience in eliminating the right to private
property are now well known to all Less commonly acknowledged is
the social and economic crisis which has been unleashed as a
result of the revolutionary change in thinking about the family.
The traditional view is based on the common sense observation that
marriage and the family is a public institution, in which all
society has a stake in preserving, because families create the
next generation of society. More recently, society has fallen into
the bad habit of thinking of the family only as a private
relationship between two people. This has destabilized family life
and contributed to the growth of other social ills including an
increase in the number of children who will learn less in school,
earn less at work, commit more crimes, suffer more sexual
troubles, and adjust less well to society than previous
generations.

While the negative effects of family breakup are clear, policies
designed to re-engineer the family and re-educate public opinion
continue, often supported by taxpayer dollars. Attempts to
strengthen the family have been complicated by the complacency of
lawmakers, judges, public officials, and other members of society,
entrusted to defend the common good, who choose to regard changing
attitudes about the primary structure of the family as a mere
change in public taste, much like the disappearance of the hat, as
Frum observes, to be accommodated and even hurried along. Court
decisions which require employers to extend employee benefits,
originally provided to married spouses to help sustain the family,
to all cohabiting couples have effectively abolished marriage as a
distinct legal status. When homosexuals ask why their
cohabitational relationships should not be treated like
heterosexual relationships the only rational response is to treat
all cohabitations as private matters entitled to no special status
nor subsidies from third parties such as employers or government.

The rational legalistic trap in which society now finds itself
differs sharply from the traditional legal institution of marriage
which held that marriage endows husbands and wives with special
rights and claims against each other and against the rest of
society. Because parents create the next generation of humanity
common sense dictates that society has an immense interest in
helping them do that job well. The Victorians abolished the
ancient custom of common-law marriage to eliminate the practice of
people drifting into, and out of, quasi-marital relationships.
Victorian law put people on notice that the obligations of
marriage could be imposed on a couple only by a deliberate and
public act.

Society forces others to underwrite and support marriage, not
because marriage is good for the couple, but because it is good
for the children they produce. A union that can not produce
children is not one that the rest of society should be forced to
subsidize. Thus, even if homosexuals can and do form permanent,
emotionally serious partnerships, they do not merit the formal
recognition of marriage.

Attempts to redefine the institution of marriage to accommodate
same-sex or gay marriage diminish marriage and inflict serious
harm on the prestige and morale of those who make major economic
and personal sacrifices to create and sustain their families. To
the rest of society, laws to establish gay marriage will appear as
some type of practical joke at their expense, imposed from above
by the ruling elite, a campy parody of the central institution
which defines their lives and that of the families from which they
come.

Traditional Family Marginalized by Artificial Birth Control

Much of the economic and social confusion in society is the
logical consequence of the moral unraveling of the family and the
reduced status of women due to the artificial suppression of her
natural vocation within the home, which is motherhood. Scientific
and technological progress has had a leveling effect on society
which tends to minimize and marginalize this special vocation of
women. While some medical advances have extended life and made it
more livable, other technologies, particularly in the area of
biological and genetic engineering, have destabilized society and
confused the traditional understanding of the difference between
right and wrong. The invention of various birth control devices
has confused the fundamental relationship between love and sex and
challenged the collective wisdom concerning the general and
specific ends of human sexuality and human existence.

The widespread, uncritical acceptance of birth control has
unleashed a sexual revolution which based on the principle of sex
for pleasure which has lead to all and any form of sexual and
pseudosexual activity. The order and continuity of the long term
rhythm of the female sexual cycle which links past and future
generations has been destroyed and with it the sense of meaning in
life which is essential for the psychological growth of both men
and women. Having abandoned their own true sexuality, women are
now encouraged to emulate, the immaturity, insecurity and
aggression of male sexuality.

Men have also been induced to abandon meaningful growth enhancing
male sexuality in favor of meaningless, dead-end sex. The
homosexualization of society is one telling indicator of the
flight from femininity in modern society. While many have hailed
what they perceive as the sexually liberating effects of the
development of birth control technology the real effects have
degraded the psychosexual environment and destroy millions of
lives. The unwillingness or the inability of society to face the
effects of birth control, which include an increase in violence
against women, abortion, illegitimacy and poverty, suicide, and a
variety of other crimes against humanity, suggests that widespread
fear of responsible sex, and a desire to escape from female
sexuality, is still the dominant emotion when dealing with human
sexuality.

The difficulties faced by women who choose the traditional
vocation of wife and mother are compounded by the moral relativism
which has accompanied the scientific revolution. In the past, most
cultures have recognized the relationship between a common
morality based on a solid concept of right and wrong, and long
term survival. They knew from bitter experience that morality,
religion, stories and myth are bound together in some vital if
poorly understood way, and that to destroy or sever these
connections would not lead to strong independent ethical
principles but weaken and disconnect society, and ultimately lead
to its destruction.

Historically, societal recognition and protection of the
traditional family, consisting of one father, one mother, and
their natural children, was a necessary pre-requisite for the
development of modern western society. Western culture has always
respected and honored married motherhood, and has always frowned
on motherhood out of wedlock for practical as well as ethical
reasons. It has also held up the ideal that sex is to be reserved
for marriage.

Natural Male-Female Balance in the Home is Undermined

A massive exercise in social engineering has been unleashed to
undermine and destroy the traditional rights and power which women
have long enjoyed in traditional society. Briefly stated the
emphasis has been shifted from content to process. As George
Gilder observed over 20 years ago in his book Sexual Suicide, most
people enjoy their real satisfaction and gratification, not at
work, but in the domestic and sexual aspects of life.

In reality, women possess enormous influence over men and most
women do not feel subordinate. The conspicuous and calculable
power of males is largely illusory, and is counterbalanced by the
deep and inexorable capacity of women which is based on the
psychological primacy of the role of the female in sexual love,
marriage, conception of children, child bearing and breast
feeding.

The implications of the new technology of reproduction has been
widely accepted as an important weapon in the struggle to liberate
women. In fact it separates women from their own femininity and
assures the bondage of women to male technocracy and removes men
from the civilizing and socialization process of responsible
fatherhood. Men are freed to pursue their own sterile and, without
woman, meaningless, sexual cycles in uncivilized groups, while
technology sustains the community. In the pursuit of a nonexistent
and unattainable equality women have been induced to forsake their
true nature and to relinquish their natural erotic power over men.
In the process women have been deluded into becoming a subordinate
class.

In an authentic sexual society, the female physique is dominant.
Man becomes dependent on the woman's love for him. He relies on
her for sexual identity in a way in which she, who already has a
sexual identity, never has to rely on him. She can bear a child
whether he stays or not, while he loses his child if she leaves.
His tie to the future, and his engagement in civilized society,
passes through her womb. As Gilder states, in a sexually suicidal
society, the male body becomes the physical ideal, and the male
pattern of insecurity, dominance, and group aggression will
prevail over domestic, and individual values.

Kinsey, Fraud, and the Flight from Human Sexuality

The rational analysis of human sexuality has been confounded by
the scientific fraud first perpetrated by Alfred Kinsey in 1948 in
his work on male sexuality. Kinsey, now believed to have been a
homosexual pederast, has, until quite recently, gone unchallenged
by the scientific community. Fraudulent sexual experiments,
performed by homosexual assistants on prison inmates and others,
including children and infants who were sexually abused, were used
by Kinsey to "prove" that human sexuality followed a seven point
scale from heterosexuality to homosexuality with bisexuality in
the middle. Kinsey concluded that bisexuality was the normal way
of being. This scientific fraud became the basis of the
conventional wisdom that homosexuality is normal when Kinsey
testified before California legislators that sodomy should be
decriminalized because 10 per cent of all Americans were
homosexual. Claims by the "gay rights movement" that homosexuality
is a genetic trait that homosexuals are born with and cannot
change, and that all types of sexual activity are equal and
indistinguishable, are based on the fraudulent Kinsey results.

They also form the basis for the new pseudo-science of sexology
and sex education courses taught in elementary and secondary
schools, colleges and universities and are based on the Kinsey
claim that all types of genital activity- regardless of the sex or
age of the partner and including violent and perverted actions-was
normal.

Popular illusions and self deception have been a part of human
history since Adam and Eve. Convinced by the serpent that they
were dissatisfied with their place in the order of the universe,
Eve and then Adam were, it would seem, quite willing to reject
their true nature as creatures of God, in an attempt to become
gods themselves. Things do not appear to have changed much over
the ages. The rejection of femininity has created a lot of
confusion, pain and havoc in the "post sexual revolutionary"
society. Not only have women been deluded into trying to suppress
their true femininity but men have been cut adrift from the
natural expression of their true masculinity and abandoned to
dangle and twist in the impotent winds of perpetual emotional
turbulence.

The vacuum created by the rejection of true human sexuality has
been filled by a growth in the frequency of sexual confusion
particularly among the young. As early as 1982, a homosexual
author named Dennis Altman reported in his book, The
Homosexualization of America, on the increased acceptance of
homosexuality in society. Not only was homosexuality more
acceptable but it was becoming a fashionable and preferred
expression of personal behavior. More and more people, he said
were thinking like gays, and more and more people were acting like
gays. In one editorial in a gay publication, dated May 1991, the
writer wrote that the objective of the gay movement was to promote
the homosexual life style. "Our work will only be finished when we
can say that the whole world is gay."

In 1993, according to an article in The Washington Post,
homosexuality and bisexuality has suddenly become fashionable
among high school and junior high school students. Not only are
students now wearing pink ribbons, and kissing members of the same
sex in the hallways, but many believe that everyone is bisexual.
In some U.S. colleges, a substantial number of young women are
experimenting with lesbianism as a political act.

According to Dennis Altman, society in general, like the gay
community, is forsaking the "traditional canons of sexual and
familial morality." Same-sex sex has attained a certain status and
acceptability. He suggests that for many young boys, frequently
the victims of divorce deprived of the love and example of a
father, homosexuality may seem preferable to the old fashioned
kind.

A society which discourages the practice of sexual maturity may
experience an increase in immature, deviant sexual behavior and
sexual addiction. In the moral vacuum created by the sexual
revolution a gay movement has evolved which promotes itself with
gay magazines and gay films, gay theater and gay literature, gay
parades for gay pride that receive endorsements from official
bodies.

At the heart of the nation's most prestigious universities the gay
myth has taken hold, a destructive ideology which says that not
only that gay is good, but that gay is better. In the onslaught
against the family, the cornerstone, the most basic institution of
society has been under attack while the nation's traditional
watchdogs-the press, the academy, the churches, etc.-have been
unconcerned or have actively joined in the attack.

Homosexuality is a Psychological Disorder not a Genetic Trait

In Homosexuality: A Freedom Too Far, (Adam Margrave Books,
Phoenix, Ariz., 800-507-BOOK), psychoanalyst Charles W. Socarides,
M.D., disputes Kinsey's claim that homosexuality is a genetic
trait and reports on a number of successful attempts to cure
homosexual behavior.

Socarides distinguishes between homosexuality and the gay rights
movement. He defines homosexuality, or same-sex sex, as a
psychological disorder and one of over 40 types of known deviant
sexual behavior, paraphilias or "alternate loves" which have been
identified. Such sexual deviations are compulsive addictions,
which have little to do with love, are harmful to the one who is
caught up in the particular psychological disorder, almost always
against his own will in response to imperative psychological
drives, and sometimes harm those who are victimized by these
deviant behaviors.

The author defines the gay rights movement as a political movement
which attempts to establish same-sex sex as a basic human freedom
and an acceptable alternate lifestyle. According to Dr. Socarides
same-sex sex is a kind of substitute, or simulation, for sex
between men and women, practiced by two types of homosexuals;
obligatory and optional.

Obligatory homosexuals engage in same-sex sex because they are
compelled by unconscious forces and early life traumas over which
they have no control and little understanding. They don't know
that something went wrong in their early years. As a result, they
fear women, and feel there's something lacking in their manhood.
They go looking for that manhood, compulsively, in other men.
Neither sexually aroused by, nor attracted to, women, their
activity is not a preference, but a neurotic adaptation to
unconscious fears of women.

A maze of rationalizations to justify their avoidance of the
opposite sex, including the claim that "homosexuals are born that
way" have been created to obscure their intense needs, entirely
unconscious, to find their masculinity. They have sex repeatedly
out of this inner compulsion to fill the void within by taking in
the masculinity of another man.

A normal man approaches a woman with an intact sense of his own
identity as a man, seeking to complement his maleness by joining
it to a woman's femaleness. Whereas a normal man holds a sense of
his own masculinity intact within himself, the homosexual
approaches another man with a deficient sense of his own
masculinity and tries to fill up the void within himself by
narcissistically taking in the masculinity of another man. Whereas
the normal man is fulfilled and complimented by the woman's
femininity and does not go out immediately to look for another
woman, the homosexual is never fulfilled and always wants more and
can only be relieved by repeated, and often anonymous and serial,
sex with a variety of other men.

"Optional" homosexuals engage in same-sex sex by choice, faut de
mieux, for want of something better, out of simple utility and
searching for varied experience. Homosexual behavior among prison
inmates and so called bisexuality practiced by sex addicted
heterosexuals are examples of optional homosexuality.

Language has been an important weapon to promote homosexuality as
"an alternate life style." A monolithic public relations campaign,
initiated in 1973, when gay rights activists infiltrated the
American Psychiatric Association and succeeded in striking
homosexuality off the APA's list of psychological disorders, has
promoted the use of the word "gay" to refer to social and
political issues, and "homosexual" to refer to clinical or
psychological issues. Public attention has been diverted away from
what homosexuals do to what they are. The shift from behavior to
identity has lent credibility to the false analogy which compares
gays and lesbians to legitimate minority racial groups in need of
full societal approval and civil rights protection.

Gays and lesbians have pre-empted criticism from political
leaders, academe, the media, and some religious groups by defining
any opposition to the "normalcy" of same-sex sex as a disease
called "homophobia" based on individual cultural values. Anyone
who questions the gay agenda is portrayed as being afraid to face
his own sexual inclinations or/and as attacking the civil rights
of homosexual citizens rather than expressing concern about what
he sees as destructive antisocial behavior. Legal recognition of
"gay rights," encourages optional homosexuals and other
practitioners of deviant sex, and disenfranchises obligatory
homosexuals who will be discouraged from seeking the medical care
they need to change their self destructive behavior.

Unraveling the Prudish Sexual Revolution

As attempts to at first conceal and then deny the causal
relationship between sexual irresponsibility and social
disintegration become more difficult, society will almost
certainty try to reverse the excesses of the sexual revolution
which began in the 1960's. The survival of civilized society,
depends on how future generations of children are raised. To
ensure that, in the future, children rearing practices are
improved, current practices and policies derived from the sexual
revolution will have to be reversed. Recognition of the natural
socializing effects of female sexuality on young males will have
to be reinstated along with the preferential status of traditional
marriage and the formation of traditional, lasting nuclear
families.

This can not be done without widespread opposition from the
various interest groups who have carved out special status and
privilege in the wake of the social change brought about by the
destruction of the traditional sexual order. Like their
ideological soul mates in the former Soviet Union, they oppose
every type of private property, except their own, because they
realized that without the right to private property the
independent family can not exist

While homosexuals may number less than three per cent of the
population, they have the ear of the media. That their power and
influence greatly exceeds their numbers may be due, in part, to
fact that the argument over gay rights is really a continuation of
the great social upheavals of the 1960's and 1970's to which may
of the generation in power still owe emotional allegiance. Some
see the restructuring of the family, the weakening of marital
ties, the loosening of the standards of sexual morality, as
desirable social changes, welcome in themselves. Others may
passively accept the destruction of the existing social order as
the inevitable price of liberation from what they perceived to be
a stultifying morality imposed by a society dominated by sexual
prudery and prejudice.

Ironically, the new sexual order embraced by this rapidly aging
generation of sex addicts and would be revolutionaries is more
fraudulent and stultifying than the traditional value system it
seeks to replace. Not only is it prudish in its attempt to ignore
the role of sexual activity in the creation of new life but it
betrays an undercurrent of serious psychological disease by
removing a sense of the long term meaning of life. It dishonestly
attempts to conceal the fact that the existence of the individual
person is part of the continuous stream of life from one
generation to the next which connects the past with the future and
gives meaning to the present. In mindlessly refusing to respect
the humanity of unborn human life, the current generation of would
be revolutionaries reveal a pathetic inability to deal with their
own sexual identity and their own existence.

(originally published in hearth Magazine, Volume IV, No. 2)

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