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| #Post#: 81820-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Edamame warning? | |
| By: NFPwife Date: March 3, 2025, 8:47 pm | |
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| This has happened twice so I'm wondering if it's a me thing and | |
| if I should be doing something different. | |
| I met friends for lunch the other day and was the first to | |
| arrive. I got seated and ordered two apps for table. I asked the | |
| waiter to hold them and put them in when everyone arrived. (I | |
| did this because I was starving and expected that everyone would | |
| alternate between catching up and looking at the menu.) | |
| As predicted we were all chatting and nowhere near ready to | |
| order when the waiter put the appetizers down. One was edamame. | |
| I made a motion that they were for everyone, but didn't want to | |
| interrupt the the friend next to me who was talking. | |
| Out of the corner of my eye I saw the friend seated diagonally | |
| from me take an edamame pod and put the whole thing in her | |
| mouth. I tried not to watch but she appeared surprised and then | |
| undid her napkin and spat the inedible part into it. | |
| She watched another friend and me do the nibble and wiggle | |
| strategy and did the same to eat the edamame. | |
| This is the second time I've ordered edamame and had someone pop | |
| the whole pod in their mouth. Other people have asked me how to | |
| eat it. (My husband said "Is this another 'forage for your | |
| calories' food?") I've never instructed someone on how to eat it | |
| unless they asked. I'm wondering if I should say something and, | |
| if so, what? | |
| *edit - clarity | |
| #Post#: 81821-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Edamame warning? | |
| By: oogyda Date: March 4, 2025, 6:53 am | |
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| I don't think you should say anything. People learn quickly | |
| enough by observing. If they've decided they don't like it and | |
| will not eat more? That's just more for me!! | |
| #Post#: 81822-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Edamame warning? | |
| By: lowspark Date: March 4, 2025, 11:16 am | |
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| Particularly in this situation, since as you said, you didn't | |
| want to interrupt the the friend who was talking, I'm not sure | |
| there was a whole lot you could do. | |
| Maybe make sure to grab the first one so that people see you | |
| eating it? | |
| If you do want to say something, you might say, "I love edamame! | |
| Does everyone know how to eat it?" | |
| That way you're not instructing people unless they ask. | |
| #Post#: 81823-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Edamame warning? | |
| By: Rose Red Date: March 4, 2025, 2:45 pm | |
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| Yes please say something. I didn't know how to eat them the | |
| first time either and would have welcomed a heads up. | |
| #Post#: 81824-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Edamame warning? | |
| By: EmmaJ Date: March 4, 2025, 5:23 pm | |
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| My ex-SIL mocked me for �wasting food� and popped the whole pod | |
| in her mouth and started chewing. She was obviously startled, | |
| but too stubborn to spit it out, and I just watched her struggle | |
| to chew that fibrous inedible pod. She actually swallowed it. | |
| When I offered her more, she said no thanks, I�m full. | |
| Still roll my eyes every time I think of her. | |
| #Post#: 81825-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Edamame warning? | |
| By: NFPwife Date: March 5, 2025, 2:15 pm | |
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| [quote author=oogyda link=topic=2629.msg81821#msg81821 | |
| date=1741092799] | |
| I don't think you should say anything. People learn quickly | |
| enough by observing. If they've decided they don't like it and | |
| will not eat more? That's just more for me!! | |
| [/quote] | |
| This is my strategy with foods I'm unfamiliar with. My | |
| pod-eating friend figured it out. I think edamame is a little | |
| deceiving - it seems straightforward but - surprise! | |
| [quote author=lowspark link=topic=2629.msg81822#msg81822 | |
| date=1741108576] | |
| Particularly in this situation, since as you said, you didn't | |
| want to interrupt the the friend who was talking, I'm not sure | |
| there was a whole lot you could do. | |
| Maybe make sure to grab the first one so that people see you | |
| eating it? | |
| If you do want to say something, you might say, "I love edamame! | |
| Does everyone know how to eat it?" | |
| That way you're not instructing people unless they ask. | |
| [/quote] | |
| The friend who was speaking was sharing something fairly deep, | |
| if had been more surface level conversation, I might have broken | |
| it. | |
| I'm going to use the bolded- thank you! Like I said above, | |
| edamame might be an easy food to assume with. | |
| [quote author=Rose Red link=topic=2629.msg81823#msg81823 | |
| date=1741121108] | |
| Yes please say something. I didn't know how to eat them the | |
| first time either and would have welcomed a heads up. | |
| [/quote] | |
| I will be from now on! | |
| [quote author=EmmaJ link=topic=2629.msg81824#msg81824 | |
| date=1741130622] | |
| My ex-SIL mocked me for �wasting food� and popped the whole pod | |
| in her mouth and started chewing. She was obviously startled, | |
| but too stubborn to spit it out, and I just watched her struggle | |
| to chew that fibrous inedible pod. She actually swallowed it. | |
| When I offered her more, she said no thanks, I�m full. | |
| Still roll my eyes every time I think of her. | |
| [/quote] | |
| Bwah ha ha! That's incredibly stubborn! Thanks for the laugh. | |
| #Post#: 81884-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Edamame warning? | |
| By: Lula Date: April 25, 2025, 5:37 pm | |
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| The title of this thread makes me giggle every time I visit this | |
| forum. | |
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