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#Post#: 81542--------------------------------------------------
unwanted food from neighbor.
By: vintagegal Date: September 14, 2024, 4:44 pm
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A neighbor (who is also my landlord) has been "gifting" me food
lately. It's not what I like. This is their description of the
last "dish" when I asked what it was via text. "gluten free mac
& cheese with olives, onion, almonds, craisins, and cottage
cheese". Much more adventurous than I usually eat. Another dish
was stir fry vegs with mango salsa and nutella.
I have no trouble throwing it right out but I am wondering how
others would handle it. I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings.
This person is younger than me, so it's not a question of
dementia or anything like that. Right now I am hoping to let my
silence do the talking (where I would usually say "Thanks, that
was great" if someone gave me something actually good to eat). I
do text "thanks" when they leave something.
ETA - it is NOT a case of a romantic overture, the genders and
orientations do not line up.
#Post#: 81543--------------------------------------------------
Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: Rose Red Date: September 15, 2024, 10:48 am
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How about telling them it's very sweet but you have plain or old
fashioned meat and potatoes taste buds and they shouldn't waste
their talents on you. Or that you enjoy and look forward to
cooking your own food to relax. If any polite excuse makes you
uncomfortable (understandable), just dump the food.
#Post#: 81544--------------------------------------------------
Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: sandisadie Date: September 15, 2024, 10:50 am
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Maybe you could say something like "I appreciate your
thoughtfulness, but I'm not an adventurous eater so most of what
you have gifted me has gone to waste, I'm afraid". Because she
is your landlord, this is probably a thorny issue for you. I'm
actually not sure what I would do, if this happened to me.
#Post#: 81545--------------------------------------------------
Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: jpcher Date: September 15, 2024, 2:27 pm
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I wouldn't just toss it. She could ask you what you thought
about the dish, did it have too much nutella, which dish did you
like better, etc., and that would lead to a whole conversation
that you can't answer honestly because you didn't even taste it.
What size portions does she give you? To keep the peace you can
always tell her that while you appreciate her thoughtfulness she
always gives you too much. Then hand her the smallest tupperware
type container that you have and say "I don't have much of an
adventurous appetite but just a small taste would be nice." Then
do taste it so you can have a conversation about it later.
To be honest, the first example that you gave? Kinda is, well,
not appetizing sounding at all to me. But I would have given it
a try and then said "To be honest, it wasn't my cup of tea.
Others may love it, but olives and cottage cheese don't sit
right on my pallet." It's okay to be honest when blaming
yourself (and your taste buds) and not the cook.
#Post#: 81546--------------------------------------------------
Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: Rho Date: September 15, 2024, 9:25 pm
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"
To be honest, the first example that you gave? Kinda is, well,
not appetizing sounding at all to me"
not appetizing to me either. I wonder if she is experimenting
and passing off the fails to you. Handing her a small container
seems like a good solution for now.
#Post#: 81547--------------------------------------------------
Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: vintagegal Date: September 16, 2024, 5:54 am
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Well, they haven't asked so far. If asked, I will say I tasted
it but that I prefer, and make, very simple fare - salads,
soups, etc. Even if I didn't taste it. As I was dumping the "mac
& cheese" I did not see anything in it that resembled macaroni.
It was more like a pudding.
Now I am just hoping they don't invite me over for a meal. But
I have my reply ready for that - "as I have gotten older, my
stomach is more delicate and I don't do well eating anything but
my own cooking. But I could come over for a glass of wine?"
Let's hope I never have to use it.
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Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: lowspark Date: September 19, 2024, 11:14 am
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Can you just turn it down in the first place?
"I really appreciate you thinking of me but I'm afraid whatever
you give me will go to waste as I already have food prepared for
my next few meals."
#Post#: 81553--------------------------------------------------
Re: unwanted food from neighbor.
By: Hmmm Date: September 19, 2024, 12:15 pm
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=2613.msg81552#msg81552
date=1726762486]
Can you just turn it down in the first place?
"I really appreciate you thinking of me but I'm afraid whatever
you give me will go to waste as I already have food prepared for
my next few meals."
[/quote]
Yep, that is what I'd do.
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