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| Shellfish in a restaurant etiquette | |
| By: jpcher Date: August 18, 2024, 5:47 pm | |
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| I went to a new (to me) Italian restaurant today. The food was | |
| delicious, the service was top notch. | |
| I ordered a lobster and shrimp dish (don't remember the Italian | |
| name for it) served over homemade pasta in a lemon/wine/garlic | |
| sauce. Oh.My.Goodness! It was dancing on my tastebuds. So | |
| awesome. I would definitely order it again. | |
| Except! The shrimp still had the shell on the tail. AND the | |
| lobster tail was served in its (cracked down the middle) shell. | |
| There is no easy way, that I know of, to extract this wonderful | |
| meat from its shell (after it's been covered in sauce). | |
| Okay, I did cut the tail-shell off the shrimp with fork and | |
| knife. Easy enough, but then I thought there's about 1/3 of the | |
| shrimp still in the shell and sucked it out. Was I rude for | |
| doing this? I've had tail-shell on shrimp before and always | |
| wondered why they did this? It's just hard to eat! | |
| Same with the lobster tail. Even though it was split down the | |
| middle, it was difficult getting the meat out of the shell with | |
| fork and knife. I ended up using my fingers to hold the sauce | |
| covered shell while using my fork to extract the meat. | |
| Is that how it's supposed to be done? Is it an experience thing | |
| that should be enjoyed? Or is there an easier way to get the | |
| shellfish meat off of the shell that I'm missing? | |
| OR would I be rude, if I went back and ordered the same thing, | |
| to ask them to make the dish shell-less? | |
| #Post#: 81483-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Shellfish in a restaurant etiquette | |
| By: Hmmm Date: August 19, 2024, 9:51 am | |
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| Tail on shrimp in pasta is pretty common in my area. It should | |
| only be the part of the tail that would be discarded anyway if | |
| they are peeled correctly. Some people eat the tail "shell" but | |
| I don't like it so just cut it off. The tails actually have a | |
| ton of flavor which is why they are often left on. | |
| For the lobster tail, you should be use a knife and fork to lift | |
| the tail out of the shell and then cut it into bit size pieces. | |
| You can always ask for a small plate to move the tails or | |
| lobster shell to if you don't want to leave them in your pasta | |
| bowl. | |
| If you ever order New Orleans style BBQ Shrimp, be warned they | |
| will come out with the head and entire shell still on in a very | |
| buttery sauce and you are to just supposed to peel and eat them | |
| with your fingers. Very messy but very good. | |
| #Post#: 81490-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Shellfish in a restaurant etiquette | |
| By: lowspark Date: August 21, 2024, 1:22 pm | |
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| I'm not a huge fan of serving shrimp in its shell, but as Hmmm | |
| says, it's pretty common around here. If it's shrimp, I can deal | |
| with it. Over time I've gotten pretty adept at it. But I'm not | |
| sure I could do lobster without digging in with my hands. So | |
| yeah, it's gonna get pretty messy. | |
| If it's enough of a nuisance, I probably just wouldn't order the | |
| dish again. | |
| [quote author=jpcher link=topic=2608.msg81476#msg81476 | |
| date=1724021250] | |
| would I be rude, if I went back and ordered the same thing, to | |
| ask them to make the dish shell-less? | |
| [/quote] | |
| I don't know if I'd call this "rude" but *I* would not do it. | |
| I'm a firm believer in ordering a dish as it was intended to be | |
| served. | |
| NOT saying this about you jpcher, but I know people who always | |
| order dishes with a bunch of changes to them. I understand "no | |
| onions" or "dressing on the side", those kind of minor things. | |
| But in the end, if you're finding yourself requesting a | |
| fundamental change to the dish, then maybe order something | |
| different. | |
| I would think that asking the kitchen to shell your seafood in a | |
| dish that was meant to be served shell-on would be a no-no. They | |
| might decline -- which is an issue in itself because it leaves | |
| both the kitchen and the customer with a bad feeling, or they | |
| might do it but resent it. I never want the kitchen to be | |
| unhappy when they are preparing my food. | |
| #Post#: 81491-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Shellfish in a restaurant etiquette | |
| By: Rose Red Date: August 21, 2024, 7:09 pm | |
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| I have a hard time with foods like spaghetti and large dumplings | |
| since I make a mess. Sometimes even using a knife gets messy or | |
| don't work. I recently brought a kid's food scissors with a | |
| cover that goes over the blades and keep it in my purse. The | |
| type of scissors that parents use to cut up their toddler's food | |
| into bite size chunks. I've already used it a few time and love | |
| the thing! | |
| I can see myself using it for the lobster unless it's at super | |
| fancy schmancy restaurants. | |
| #Post#: 81492-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Shellfish in a restaurant etiquette | |
| By: holly firestorm Date: August 21, 2024, 8:25 pm | |
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| Not only tail on shrimp, but some places serve them with the | |
| head on, too. Just make sure they are "de-veined" because that's | |
| not a vein. It's their poop shoot. | |
| I presume that those blanks mean the lobster was served with the | |
| roe intact. This is also considered a delicacy many places, | |
| including among seafood aficionados here in the US. My Dad | |
| always used to make it that way. He also used to broil it with a | |
| bread stuffing added. | |
| But, if you were having that much trouble dealing with it, you | |
| should have asked the waiter/waitress to assist you. They SHOULD | |
| be experienced in dealing with this. | |
| #Post#: 81493-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Shellfish in a restaurant etiquette | |
| By: Aleko Date: August 22, 2024, 1:46 am | |
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| I agree with lowspark that if seafood is served in the shell | |
| that�s how it�s meant to be, and I also wouldn�t ask them to | |
| change it. If not using one�s hands would mean leaving half the | |
| yummy stuff uneaten, I would say totally use hands. Just ask the | |
| staff to provide you with either a finger bowl and extra napkin, | |
| or a damp towelette. This is an absolutely legit thing to | |
| request: indeed, anywhere they serve crustaceans in such a way | |
| that you�re going to have to get them out of their shells | |
| yourself really ought to provide it as a matter of course. | |
| A harder call is, when they have just left the tails on the king | |
| prawns, to judge whether there�s enough meat left inside to | |
| justify picking them up. Sometimes restaurants leave half the | |
| tails still in the shell and then your course is clear: go for | |
| it! But if just the end of the shell is left and using knife and | |
| fork alone still leaves one delectable bit out of reach, then - | |
| with profound regret - I�d leave it. It�s like looking at a | |
| cutlet and seeing that there�s just one mouthful you could get | |
| by nibbling that you can�t get with cutlery; something you might | |
| do at a family meal but at a restaurant or dinner party, no. | |
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