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Giving and gratitude |
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By: vintagegal Date: August 26, 2023, 11:05 am |
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In discussions of gifts that don't get acknowledged or given |
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thanks for, there are always some people who get upset, like |
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"Well you only gave the gift to get the thanks, you should just |
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be happy that you can give something." I think this video, which |
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I stumbled across on Youtube, expresses it very well. The whole |
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video is worth watching, but especially the part starting at |
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6:43, where she says it's not about the giving or the gratitude, |
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it's about the reciprocity, the connection, the relationship |
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between the donor and the donee. |
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAnjfYYTXnA |
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Re: Giving and gratitude |
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By: sandisadie Date: August 26, 2023, 1:58 pm |
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Thank you for putting this video out on this site. I was in |
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this kind of a relationship and it took me years to realize it |
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for what it was. I've never come across this book but if I had |
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I would have probably thought it was a good child's book |
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(without first reading it, of course). I, too, was taught that |
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the act of giving was, in itself, the reward. Sometimes I've |
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been in a position of being able to give help to someone without |
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them knowing that. But that is always a decision on my part, to |
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not be outed and I don't expect to be thanked or acknowledged. |
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However, if I give gifts, etc to someone and am not thanked, as |
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I should be, then I just don't do that again. It wasn't always |
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that way, but it is now and I don't apologize for feeling this |
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way at all. Again, thank you. |
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