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| �Formal� wedding - UPDATE at #40 | |
| By: Gellchom Date: July 17, 2021, 3:34 pm | |
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| I�m very much looking forward to my nephew�s wedding this fall. | |
| The invitations are not out yet, but they have a wedding | |
| website. The dress code for the wedding is �formal.� I don�t | |
| know whether they want long gowns and tuxedos or cocktail | |
| dresses and suits or what. The ceremony begins at 4:30 in the | |
| afternoon, followed by a cocktail hour, a �reception,� which | |
| lasts an hour, so I assume means dinner, followed by �dance | |
| party,� and then an after party. So late afternoon into late | |
| night. The only other clue is on an FAQ page, which says | |
| WHAT'S THE DRESS CODE? | |
| Formal - look nice! | |
| Not much help (I�d like to think that people would look nice | |
| going to a wedding no matter what the dress code is!). | |
| I will ask, but I am curious to know how you all would interpret | |
| this. And anyway they may change the wording by the time they | |
| send out the invitations. | |
| We will most likely dress at the dressier end of whatever the | |
| range turns out to be, as we are close relatives. I think hosts | |
| like that, anyway. It shows you consider their event an extra | |
| special occasion, worthy of some extra effort. | |
| #Post#: 68311-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: DaDancingPsych Date: July 17, 2021, 5:20 pm | |
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| Yes, ask. But... I'll play along. | |
| Formal to my family and circle of friends would mean cocktail | |
| dresses and suits. The idea of having anyone outside of the | |
| wedding party wear long gowns and tuxedos is unheard of. But I | |
| think that it could easily mean that in other circles. | |
| #Post#: 68313-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: gramma dishes Date: July 17, 2021, 6:46 pm | |
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| [quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2113.msg68311#msg68311 | |
| date=1626560439] | |
| Yes, ask. But... I'll play along. | |
| Formal to my family and circle of friends would mean cocktail | |
| dresses and suits. The idea of having anyone outside of the | |
| wedding party wear long gowns and tuxedos is unheard of. But I | |
| think that it could easily mean that in other circles. | |
| [/quote] | |
| I agree. If they want women in evening gowns and men in tuxes | |
| they would probably specify black or white tie. On the other | |
| hand, if you wanted to wear an evening dress it would not be out | |
| of place at a 'formal' event. | |
| #Post#: 68314-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: kckgirl Date: July 17, 2021, 7:00 pm | |
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| I would take it to mean sparkly cocktail dresses and navy blue | |
| or black suits. | |
| #Post#: 68316-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: Rho Date: July 17, 2021, 10:03 pm | |
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| Here, Chicago area, I would also take it mean sparkly cocktail | |
| dresses and suits. On Long Island I would ask if a tux were | |
| needed. In Tel Aviv I would expect women to wear dresses with | |
| sleeves and men to wear button down dress shirts. | |
| #Post#: 68326-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: Lilipons Date: July 18, 2021, 9:49 am | |
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| I side with the others here. Depending on where the Wedding is | |
| held, true gowns might be a bit much. | |
| However, you can�t go wrong with a long black skirt, a white | |
| shell and a festive jacket. Tasteful but interesting jewelry | |
| could add a finishing touch. | |
| Get in touch with other invited family members and decide on a | |
| plan. | |
| #Post#: 68327-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: Gellchom Date: July 18, 2021, 9:53 am | |
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| Thanks, everyone! | |
| That�s what I�m guessing, too. If so, they could have written | |
| �cocktail attire.� Then they wouldn�t get questions! But maybe | |
| they want something more. Or less. We will see. | |
| I should have said, the wedding is in Portland, Oregon. | |
| #Post#: 68328-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: gramma dishes Date: July 18, 2021, 10:34 am | |
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| Never mind. We need a way to 'delete' here if we change our | |
| minds. | |
| #Post#: 68330-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: oogyda Date: July 18, 2021, 11:02 am | |
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| I think the meanings of dress in dress codes have gotten lost | |
| over the years. At least to the general population. | |
| #Post#: 68361-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: �Formal� wedding | |
| By: Hmmm Date: July 19, 2021, 9:10 am | |
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| For me, "Formal" is equal to Black Tie Optional. So a man could | |
| wear a tux but a suit is ok. A women could wear a floor length | |
| dress but cocktail attire is ok too. | |
| But with "Formal - Look nice" I'm thinking the couple is not | |
| using Formal in the traditional since. I think they are trying | |
| to say don't wear jeans. It would be great if people did follow | |
| dress codes. At my nephew's wedding a few years back, I was | |
| surprised two of the bride's first cousins and uncle arrived in | |
| jeans. This was a very traditional church/country club wedding. | |
| The cousins were their early 20's and the family wasn't hurting | |
| for money. The mom/wife was dressed beautifully. | |
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