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| Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Elmore 2.0 Date: February 13, 2021, 7:58 pm | |
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| https://www.mercurynews.com/2021/02/13/ask-amy-its-sick-that-she-shows-up-in-my… | |
| First letter. While I liked Amy's answer, I thought it wasn't | |
| complete, because the situation strikes me as creepy too. | |
| What say ye? | |
| #Post#: 63596-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Rho Date: February 13, 2021, 9:05 pm | |
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| Creepy on two levels. | |
| Why does complainer have so many outfits that are so new they | |
| are still for sale in stores allowing copy catter can buy same | |
| items? | |
| I'm used to stores turning over merchandise twice a year. | |
| Also I don't understand why it's important to know they are in a | |
| medical field unless they wear uniforms and then it's easy to | |
| copy. | |
| In this situation I would be inclined to start shopping at | |
| vintage stores where clothes are one-of-a-kind. | |
| #Post#: 63599-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Elmore 2.0 Date: February 13, 2021, 10:04 pm | |
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| I might consider swapping out my current clothes and developing | |
| a new style, if she can afford it. | |
| I would still mention that while some imitation is supposed to | |
| flatter, she is taking it a bit far. | |
| In addition, I would request to move desks. I'm assuming they | |
| are in administrative roles. | |
| #Post#: 63604-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Aleko Date: February 14, 2021, 4:55 am | |
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| [quote]Also I don't understand why it's important to know they | |
| are in a medical field unless they wear uniforms and then it's | |
| easy to copy.[/quote] | |
| I take from this that they have to deal with patients, who might | |
| well assume that it�s some kind of staff uniform, or simply | |
| mistake them for each other. Either way, it can lead to | |
| confusion and embarrassment. | |
| If the copycat colleague doesn�t take hints that looking like | |
| Tweedledum and Tweedledee isn�t ideal, one option might be to | |
| keep a striking (and hard-to-replicate) accessory in the office, | |
| and whenever Colleague turns up in an identical outfit, say | |
| �We�re identical again! Okay, which of us is going to have to | |
| wear the pink pashmina today, so the patients can tell us apart? | |
| Let�s see; I wore it last Thursday, so today you have to wear | |
| it� - and really insist on it. | |
| #Post#: 63651-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Rose Red Date: February 16, 2021, 6:05 am | |
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| This letter showed up on Ask a Manager today. A member said they | |
| read it on at least four different advice columns. I guess the | |
| LW *really* want answers. | |
| #Post#: 63652-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Lula Date: February 16, 2021, 6:25 am | |
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| [quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1989.msg63651#msg63651 | |
| date=1613477133] | |
| This letter showed up on Ask a Manager today. A member said they | |
| read it on at least four different advice columns. I guess the | |
| LW *really* want answers. | |
| [/quote] | |
| Or Copycat has been posting an identical letter. | |
| #Post#: 63681-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: February 16, 2021, 7:01 pm | |
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| And from some of the responses on AAM, the same letter appeared | |
| in Dear Prudie on Feb 1st. The OP was commenting on AAM (posting | |
| as Red), and made a comment to the effect that with all these | |
| similar letters, it seems that this is a common problem among | |
| women in the work force. Some people pointed out that the | |
| letters have identical wording and descriptions of what is | |
| happening. Some also pointed out that duplicates sometimes | |
| happen (a person may really, really want an answer), and there | |
| is no shame in having done so. But pretending that they are | |
| surprised that someone has a similar situation (when it is in | |
| fact the exact same letter) made some people question the | |
| validity of the letter overall. | |
| I don't know about that, but why not just acknowledge it? | |
| #Post#: 63683-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Elmore 2.0 Date: February 16, 2021, 7:30 pm | |
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| I'll have to go to the comments on AAM now, I totally missed | |
| that she responded. Wow! That's strange to act like she doesn't | |
| know anything about the other letters. Do you get a sense she | |
| was embarrassed or are there some mental health concerns? | |
| #Post#: 63697-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: Rose Red Date: February 17, 2021, 10:56 am | |
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| It was weird. She didn't have to post anything at all and kept | |
| quiet. Nobody knows who she is. Why pretend they weren't the | |
| same letter from her? | |
| Although I laughed at the posters (above and in AAM) who joked | |
| that it was the copycat coworker who sent in the duplicates. | |
| #Post#: 63742-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Single White Female Situation | |
| By: bopper Date: February 18, 2021, 2:34 pm | |
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| I would just start getting more outlandish...add a scarf...then | |
| add a broach...then a hat..etc then suddenly stop. | |
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