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| Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: Venus193 Date: December 23, 2020, 9:55 pm | |
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| I haven't seen my ex since just before Covid. He called me last | |
| week to invite me over for tomorrow and asked if I could bring | |
| the salad and my preferred dressing. I said "No problem." | |
| Early this afternoon I was on my way home from the store and he | |
| called to say he just got a delivery of salad and asked me to | |
| bring some baguette bread instead. | |
| This is the second time this has happened to me in a month. | |
| When the Potluck Queen invited me for Thanksgiving she said she | |
| would buy the turkey breast and a ham. I said I would bring the | |
| gravy and cranberry sauce, which provoked a question mark. I | |
| bought the gravy (canned, jarred, and dry mix, so | |
| non-perishable) and the day before said she didn't need any. | |
| Is there a good way to prevent this from happening again? | |
| #Post#: 61921-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: Mrs Rat Date: December 23, 2020, 10:01 pm | |
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| Too late I've already made/bought what you asked for last week. | |
| #Post#: 61961-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: DaDancingPsych Date: December 24, 2020, 7:01 pm | |
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| I agree. Stop solving the problem for these people. "Sorry, I | |
| already bought everything for XYZ." | |
| #Post#: 62025-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: lakey Date: December 27, 2020, 11:41 am | |
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| This is why, when I do a meal involving a lot of people, I | |
| prefer to just provide all the food myself. Involving other | |
| people just complicates things. I don't even care about the cost | |
| anymore. | |
| #Post#: 62030-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: chigger Date: December 27, 2020, 3:28 pm | |
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| [quote author=lakey link=topic=1960.msg62025#msg62025 | |
| date=1609090880] | |
| This is why, when I do a meal involving a lot of people, I | |
| prefer to just provide all the food myself. Involving other | |
| people just complicates things. I don't even care about the cost | |
| anymore. | |
| [/quote] | |
| This! I can't even deal with people that OFFER to bring their | |
| "special" dish, so it gets worked into the menu, but then it | |
| doesn't appear, because they didn't "have time". Don't offer, | |
| then! | |
| #Post#: 62039-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: EtiquetteE Date: December 27, 2020, 5:30 pm | |
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| [quote author=lakey link=topic=1960.msg62025#msg62025 | |
| date=1609090880] | |
| This is why, when I do a meal involving a lot of people, I | |
| prefer to just provide all the food myself. Involving other | |
| people just complicates things. I don't even care about the cost | |
| anymore. | |
| [/quote] | |
| This! It also avoids the scenario where a guest shows up with | |
| ingredients and wants to make their contribution in your | |
| kitchen. | |
| #Post#: 62041-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: Venus193 Date: December 27, 2020, 7:12 pm | |
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| [quote author=lakey link=topic=1960.msg62025#msg62025 | |
| date=1609090880] | |
| This is why, when I do a meal involving a lot of people, I | |
| prefer to just provide all the food myself. Involving other | |
| people just complicates things. I don't even care about the cost | |
| anymore. | |
| [/quote] | |
| The Thanksgiving hostess doesn't cook and knows very little | |
| about cooking. She may not have realized that the purchase she | |
| made would include gravy, stuffing, and mash. When I got to her | |
| place she heate the oven, put the cooked turkey breasts in oven | |
| pans,and asked me if she should put the gravy in with them. I | |
| told her No, as it would dry out, and added a little water to | |
| each. The gravy was heated on top of the stove. | |
| #Post#: 62046-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: lakey Date: December 27, 2020, 11:09 pm | |
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| [quote]The Thanksgiving hostess doesn't cook and knows very | |
| little about cooking. [/quote] | |
| Thanksgiving dinner would be tough on someone who doesn't | |
| normally cook. Even with the premade Thanksgiving dinners that | |
| some grocery stores sell, you have to figure out the best way to | |
| heat everything, so that everything is ready at the same time. | |
| #Post#: 62473-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Last Minute Nonsense | |
| By: lowspark Date: January 8, 2021, 2:39 pm | |
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| [quote author=Mrs Rat link=topic=1960.msg61921#msg61921 | |
| date=1608782496] | |
| Too late I've already made/bought what you asked for last week. | |
| [/quote] | |
| And to that, I would add, "I can bring it, or not, your choice. | |
| But I won't be able to bring the [other thing] you requested." | |
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