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| Need some advice | |
| By: TheJules2020 Date: October 14, 2020, 11:31 pm | |
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| Hey all, this is my first time posting on the new forum, I was a | |
| regular on the old one, as JulesCanada. | |
| Anyhow, I need some impartial advice. My sister in law is a | |
| wonderful lady, I love her dearly, but she has very bad odour. I | |
| don�t know what causes it, both my sister in laws have the same | |
| problem. When I was coming back from vacation last summer, they | |
| picked me up at the airport and I nearly hurled the whole ride | |
| home, and the smell stuck to me so bad, I had to jump in the | |
| shower as soon as I got home. | |
| My dilemma is that the more ripe of the two invited me to an out | |
| of town concert in May of next year (that is if it doesn�t get | |
| canceled due to Covid), and we would have to get a hotel room. I | |
| would love to go, but after the malodorous ride from the | |
| airport, I kind of sketchy about going. How do I tell her | |
| without really getting into details? I don�t even think that | |
| they realize that they smell offensive. | |
| #Post#: 58999-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Need some advice | |
| By: gramma dishes Date: October 15, 2020, 9:53 am | |
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| You have two sisters-in-law and both have the same problem? | |
| That seems unusual. Do they both really have really bad body | |
| odor or is there some fragrance that both wear that for some | |
| reason you find particularly offensive? | |
| #Post#: 59001-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Need some advice | |
| By: Hmmm Date: October 15, 2020, 10:06 am | |
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| [quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=1896.msg58999#msg58999 | |
| date=1602773635] | |
| You have two sisters-in-law and both have the same problem? | |
| That seems unusual. Do they both really have really bad body | |
| odor or is there some fragrance that both wear that for some | |
| reason you find particularly offensive? | |
| [/quote] | |
| I had similar questions. Do they live together? Do you think it | |
| is poor hygiene, or possibly something they eat or a medical | |
| issue? Is this something recent or has it always been an issue | |
| and getting worse? | |
| Unless you think you can bring up the issue tactfully, I think | |
| it would be best to either come up with an excuse of why you'd | |
| need your own room. You could say you are having issues with | |
| sleeping. But you'll still have the issue of staying in the car | |
| with her for the ride. | |
| #Post#: 59027-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Need some advice | |
| By: Rose Red Date: October 15, 2020, 12:49 pm | |
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| I'm wondering the same thing. Is it BO or something else? | |
| Medicinal cream? Food odors that cling? Perfume (musk makes me | |
| gag)? | |
| I think knowing the source may help us give better advice. | |
| #Post#: 59030-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Need some advice | |
| By: NFPwife Date: October 15, 2020, 1:08 pm | |
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| [quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1896.msg59027#msg59027 | |
| date=1602784178] | |
| I'm wondering the same thing. Is it BO or something else? | |
| Medicinal cream? Food odors that cling? Perfume (musk makes me | |
| gag)? | |
| I think knowing the source may help us give better advice. | |
| [/quote] | |
| Agree, if it's something medical you can point them to seeking | |
| consultation/ treatment. | |
| I think it's a kindness to mention it if you're close to the | |
| person. I'll acknowledge that it's really uncomfortable and hard | |
| to do. It's a vicious cycle no one wants to say anything but | |
| people start avoiding the person, as the person gets isolated | |
| the odor can worsen. I remember telling a kid in 6th grade that | |
| she had horrible foot odor. Everyone was talking about it and no | |
| one would be around her; she cornered me and asked me what was | |
| going on. I just said it. I don't think I softened it with "You | |
| might not have noticed" either. I just blurted it out. (I really | |
| liked her and couldn't lie to her and I felt so on the spot.) | |
| That actually cemented our friendship all through middle school. | |
| Apparently her family had noticed it and they weren't saying | |
| anything! She asked for foot powder or something to help with it | |
| and they were all, "Thank goodness you figured it out!" I | |
| remember thinking, "What good is having a family if they aren't | |
| going to tell you or help you with this?!" I saw her mother at | |
| Sam's Club and, almost 40 years later, it was the first thing I | |
| thought. | |
| #Post#: 59034-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Need some advice | |
| By: Codewoman1125 Date: October 15, 2020, 1:31 pm | |
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| It could be a diet issue. I recently upped the percent of | |
| protein that's in my diet and discovered (because I'm wearing a | |
| mask at work all day) that it gave me bad breath. I knew that | |
| was a recent change, so I Googled it. They call it Keto breath. | |
| Thank goodness, it wears off when your body adjusts and extra | |
| water helps. Also, gum! | |
| They might not notice because they're on the same diet or eat | |
| the same thing, so they smell the same. | |
| #Post#: 59134-------------------------------------------------- | |
| Re: Need some advice | |
| By: DaDancingPsych Date: October 18, 2020, 12:25 pm | |
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| Stupid question. Have you noted the odor other than this one car | |
| ride? | |
| Yes, I do think describing the odor would be helpful. I would | |
| address it depending on what you believe the cause might be. | |
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