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| Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 6:50 am | |
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| PLEASE READ THIS FREE COPY OF THIS GREAT BOOK...written by Nick | |
| Totton. | |
| It is all VERY relevant to Post Orgasmic Illness Syndrome. Once | |
| you start the therapeutic process to end your POIS, you will | |
| come to understand this. | |
| Apologies for the way the wording goes wrong every now and then- | |
| it should still be readable though. | |
| Reichian Growth Work has been out of print for some years, and | |
| we have not yet managed tofind an English language publisher to | |
| reprint it, although editions have appeared in | |
| Spanish(Argentina) and in Dutch (Karnak Press). However, we | |
| frequently get asked where copies canbe found; and although our | |
| own work has moved on, along with our lives, we still feel | |
| thatthis book has a valuable contribution to make. Therefore we | |
| are making it freely available onthe Internet, in a version | |
| which almost exactly matches the most recent (Dutch) printed | |
| text:this offers some important updates to the original book, | |
| without attempting to incorporateeverything we have found out | |
| since 1988.We would be happy to hear from anyone interested in | |
| discussing the book with us, or infinding out more about our | |
| current work.(Click herefor Nick Totton's website,herefor | |
| EmEdmondson.) | |
| CONTENTS | |
| Chapter 1: ContextsChapter 2: Energy and ArmourChapter 3: | |
| SurrenderChapter 4: The SegmentsChapter 5: Growing UpChapter 6: | |
| Character PositionsChapter 7: More on CharacterChapter 8: | |
| TherapyChapter 9: PowerChapter 10: Primal PatternsChapter 11: | |
| Cosmic StreamingChapter 12: Connections and Directions | |
| Further Reading | |
| 1 CONTEXTS | |
| In this book we describe a form of therapeutic work with groups | |
| and individuals whichderives originally from the work of Wilhelm | |
| Reich, but also from a number of otherdevelopments in therapy | |
| and healing, especially since Reich's death in 1957. It is the | |
| style inwhich we, the authors, were trained, but which we have | |
| also developed in new directions.Although Reichian therapy has | |
| always attracted great interest - and still does - there is | |
| verylittle written about it which is useful for the ordinary | |
| reader.Some of Reich's own books areinspiring and moving, but | |
| those on the therapy itself and the theory behind it are | |
| verytechnical and hard to follow, aimed at an audience of | |
| medically-trained psychoanalysts. Theyare also very dated in | |
| relation to the sort of work actually being done at the | |
| presentIn writing this book, we have tried to avoid jargon as | |
| far as possible. New words aresometimes needed to describe new | |
| ideas and experiences, but we have defined each of theseclearly | |
| when it first appears, and remind you of its meaning when we use | |
| it again. Moregenerally, we have tried never to use a long word | |
| when a short one will do. We have writtenfor the sort of people | |
| who, we find, are interested in the work we do, many of whom are | |
| by nostretch of the imagination intellectuals. The new interest | |
| in therapy and growth work is part of a very broadly based | |
| concern with | |
| change, on an individual level and on a social one. Manypeople | |
| in our society are deeply dissatisfied with their conditions of | |
| life, and more and moreof them are no longer willing to be the | |
| sort of person that society expects and forces them tobe - | |
| mentally, emotionally, spiritually, even physically.This book is | |
| for people who want to change. | |
| Who Reich was | |
| If you want to know about Reich's life and work, several books | |
| are listed under 'FurtherReading' at the end of the book. In | |
| brief, Wilhelm Reich (1897-1957) trained as a young manwith | |
| Freud in Vienna, and worked as a psychoanalyst. Besides making | |
| some importantadvances in technique, he soon 'burst the bounds' | |
| of psychoanalysis, moving into a deeperconfrontation both with | |
| the clients themselves, and with the social conditions which he | |
| saw ascreating and maintaining their problems.An energetic, | |
| combative and 'difficult' man, Reich managed in a few short | |
| years to attract theenmity of the Nazis, the Communist Party (of | |
| which he was a member for several years), andthe psychoanalytic | |
| establishment. As he travelled around Scandinavia and eventually | |
| to theUSA as a refugee from the Nazis, he managed to achieve | |
| some fundamental breakthroughs intherapeutic methods; in | |
| particular, he created the whole new field of bodywork.Reich | |
| became increasingly focused on life energy itself, and on | |
| finding ways to unblock,condense, channel and strengthen that | |
| energy, both in the human body and in the atmosphere.Above all, | |
| Reich was a person with open eyes: he noticed a lot of things | |
| which most peopleprefer to ignore, and this led him into many | |
| exciting new areas of enquiry - and attracted a lotof | |
| hostility.As well as giving therapy to individuals, and becoming | |
| involved with the healthy upbringingof children, Reich created | |
| devices like the 'orgone accumulator' (to concentrate life | |
| energy)and the 'cloudbuster' (with which he believed he could | |
| affect pollution and weather). Hebecame acutely sensitive to | |
| oppressive conditions in the physical and social atmosphere, | |
| andstruggled to find ways of combating these 'plagues' | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 6:53 am | |
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| At the same time, Reich continued to come up against anger and | |
| aggression; very largelybecause of his open and celebratory | |
| approach to sex, which got him in hot water throughouthis life. | |
| In the last few years of Reich and his circle, there was a | |
| steady 'darkening', adistortion of feelings and perceptions, | |
| which derived at least partly from a disastrous | |
| 'oranur'experiment using orgone accumulators to neutralise | |
| radiation, but also from the constantpressure of both outside | |
| enemies and internal disciples.Finally, Reich was prosecuted by | |
| the US federal authorities, accused - quite falsely - of | |
| peddling his accumulators as a fake cancer cure. Reich could | |
| almost certainly have won thecase if he had fought on legal | |
| grounds: instead he refused to recognise the court's | |
| jurisdictionover 'issues of scientific truth'. The legal system | |
| in turn saw Reich as an awkward, suspectforeign crackpot; he was | |
| jailed for contempt, and died in prison of a heart attack | |
| shortlybefore he was due for release. His accumulators were | |
| destroyed, and his books burned by theAmerican government.Using | |
| Reich's techniques and reading his books, it is sometimes hard | |
| not to fall intodiscipleship. He was a person of extraordinary | |
| perceptions, and of great compassion andcourage: a big-hearted | |
| man. He was also, clearly, an extremely awkward customer, | |
| andsomeone who expected to get his own way. He also had his own | |
| hangups - an anti-homosexual stance, for example, with which we | |
| very strongly disagree. | |
| Who we are | |
| We live together in Leeds with our young baby daughter and with | |
| Em's son. We both work astherapists and group leaders, moving | |
| into this work through doing a training in Reichiantherapy led | |
| by William West. This training, which finished in 1982, was only | |
| the beginning.As we started to work with clients, we found much | |
| that we didn't know, and searched outways of learning it, | |
| through books, through further training, and through talking out | |
| ourexperiences together and with other people.A result of that | |
| first Reichian training led by William was the creation of | |
| 'Energy Stream: thePost Reichian Therapy Association'. Three | |
| training courses later - one led by William, two byourselves - | |
| Energy Stream includes some thirty practising therapists, all | |
| working in their ownpersonal style and with a range of | |
| techniques, but all sharing the same commitment toReichian | |
| work.We talk about 'Reichian work', but what is it? There are | |
| many approaches which could claima right to that label. During | |
| his career Reich worked differently at different times, and | |
| thereare several schools of therapy descended from people he | |
| trained in various ways. There arealso several schools developed | |
| after Reich's death which have consciously changed his ideasand | |
| methods; many of these call themselves 'neo-Reichian'.We see our | |
| own work as very close to the essence of Reich's, but not | |
| everyone would agreewith us. We certainly don't know whether | |
| Reich would agree with us! We sometimes like tothink that he | |
| might be working in this sort of way if he was still alive, but | |
| there are manythings we do of which he strongly disapproved. So | |
| this book is about | |
| our work; and not,either, specifically about Energy Stream's | |
| methods. However. we are very grateful toeveryone in Energy | |
| Stream for their support, stimulation and encouragement, | |
| especiallyWilliam West who originally trained us and gave us | |
| therapy; Annie Morgan, Rika Petersen | |
| and Sean Doherty, who helped lead the last training course; | |
| Mary Swale; and HollyClutterbuck, Maxine Higham and Pam | |
| Wilkinson, with whom Nick sorted out many of theseideas in a | |
| supervision group.This book is not intended to be a manual for | |
| therapists - although we hope it will be useful fortherapists. | |
| It is aimed mainly at anyone trying to change, searching for | |
| ideas about how tochange, about how we are and why we are like | |
| that. We are writing about 'human nature',human beings as part | |
| of nature, as natural beings. It is for a vision of | |
| naturalness | |
| , above all,that we thank Reich; and it is in pursuit of | |
| naturalness (which ultimately cannot be pursued)that we have | |
| learnt from and adapted many other ways of perceiving and | |
| working withpeople. Thank you to everyone who has helped us | |
| learn.We want to make it very clear that in writing a book about | |
| therapy we are not claiming to be'super shrinks'. Still less are | |
| we claiming to be totally clear, enlightened individuals who | |
| havesorted out all our problems. Anyone who knows us would find | |
| such an idea laughable. Wefelt that the book needed writing, and | |
| we felt able to do it. Now we have to go on trying tolive up to | |
| these ideas.You may notice that there are no case histories | |
| included in this book. It's always good fun toread about a | |
| therapist's clients and their sessions - as good as a novel - | |
| and in some ways it isvery informative. But it is also very easy | |
| - in fact, inevitable - to over-simplify the wholenessof a | |
| person's life and struggle. We felt that any of our clients | |
| would be bound to recognisethemselves, and that this sort of | |
| thumbnail sketch would be disrespectful to their courage | |
| andcomplexity. However, all our clients do of course feature in | |
| these pages, and we want to thank them as well. together with | |
| those who have attended our workshops, and especially thosewhom | |
| we have trained. There could be no book without you.Our method | |
| of collaboration has been for Nick (the verbally oriented one) | |
| to write chunks of it and show them to Em (the feeling oriented | |
| one), who has read them and explained to Nick how no ordinary | |
| person could make head or tail of it. Nick then went away and | |
| re-wrote untilit passed the test. Of course. we don't always | |
| agree on every detail, and some of what followsreflects more the | |
| views of one or other of us. But to a remarkable extent we do | |
| agree aboutpeople and therapy (after all, it was through | |
| Reichian therapy that we met in the first place).Meanwhile our | |
| own work moves on. Like the rest of Energy Stream, we have other | |
| interests,other skills. We have recently formed a separate | |
| identity, 'Selfheal', as a vehicle for the wholeof our healing | |
| work, including but not restricted to the 'Reichian' element. | |
| This doesn't meanthat we have turned our backs on anything we | |
| describe in this book. simply that the streamgoes on flowing, | |
| broadening and deepening, meeting with other streams, merging | |
| into agreater river, on the way to the sea.We hope that what | |
| follows helps you to flow | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 6:57 am | |
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| 2 ENERGY AND ARMOUR | |
| Our feelings and our bodies are like water flowing into water. | |
| We learn to swim within theenergies of the senses. | |
| Tarthang Tulku, Kum Nye Relaxation | |
| He who remains passive when overwhelmed with grief loses his | |
| best chance of recoveringelasticity of mind. | |
| Charles Darwin, The Expression of the Emotions in Man and | |
| AnimalsLife has energy.Or rather, life | |
| is | |
| energy: moving, vibrating, seeking, pulsing. We may not be able | |
| to definelife energy, but we all experience it in our own | |
| beings, and perceive it in other people:watching a fine dancer | |
| or mime or Tai Chi exponent, making love, meditating, | |
| expressingstrong emotion, receiving or giving hand healing. Many | |
| people over the ages have givennames to the life energy and its | |
| different forms - 'prana'. 'magnetic fluid', 'vital essence', | |
| 'chi','od', 'archeus', 'kundalini', and many more. Reich's name | |
| for it was Orgone, which he made upfrom words like 'orgasm' and | |
| 'organism'.This life energy is the vitality of our being: when | |
| we are moved, this is what moves. Emotionsare e-motions, | |
| movements out; they are not just in our minds, but in our | |
| bodies, in the chargeof energy that builds up and. with luck, | |
| discharges; in the flooding of hormones, the surge of bodily | |
| fluids and electrical potential, expanding from deep within us | |
| towards the surface, orretreating into the caves of the abdomen, | |
| or flowing through and out via head and hands andlegs and | |
| pelvis, shifting form easily between muscular or electrical | |
| tension, fluid, sound,movement sensation, emotion.For example: I | |
| feel sorrow, but am inhibited about showing it. So as it 'rises' | |
| in me, maybe mythroat contracts - I'm 'all choked up', mucus | |
| forms and my throat aches; my chin tightens andtucks in as part | |
| of the effort to restrict flow in my neck; maybe my fists tense, | |
| and transmitthat 'holding' up my arms to my shoulders and throat | |
| - I'm 'keeping a grip on myself'.If my grief starts to break | |
| through the holding, probably I'll first sigh, cough or groan, | |
| releasewhat I'm 'swallowing down' in the form of sound or mucus. | |
| As a channel opens up, asensation of softening and melting flows | |
| up the sides of my throat and jaw. Another personcan actually | |
| watch my cheeks suffuse with fluid and colour, my face softening | |
| as the emotionex-presses (pushes out) through my eyes in the | |
| form of tears, with the piercing sweetness of release. At the | |
| same time my hands will open, my shoulders come forward in a | |
| vulnerable'giving' gesture as my chest heaves with sobs, my | |
| 'full heart melts'. As I surrender physicallyto my grief, my | |
| mind may fill with corresponding thoughts, memories and | |
| images.Thoughts, emotions, sensations, changes in electrolytic | |
| fluid, muscle tension and hormonebalance, flow of life energy: | |
| there is no point in saying that any one of these causes or | |
| comesbefore the others. They are different aspects of a single | |
| whole event in a single wholebodymind. We will focus on one or | |
| other of these aspects depending on what we are trying tofind | |
| out or do.Focusing on the play of life energy has the advantage | |
| of being fresh and uncompromised byour society's dubious | |
| assumptions about what feelings are. It gives the space to | |
| include manydifferent aspects of the bodymind. It's a good | |
| starting point, but we don't want to give theimpression that we | |
| think energy 'causes' thoughts. feelings or bodily changes. | |
| There is onlythe endless dance of transformation. | |
| In fact we are all used to speaking about ourselves in | |
| energy-images. These metaphors areoften very literal, as when we | |
| say we feel full of energy, or drained and empty; our head | |
| iswhirling or stuffed up; we feel electric; someone else is | |
| magnetically attractive; we have itchyfeet; we melt with | |
| desire.If we look at the human being as an organism among other | |
| organisms, to see what it shareswith the rest of life, from | |
| amoebae to elephants, then we will almost certainly notice the | |
| role of pulsation. | |
| Life is constantly expanding and shrinking, reaching out and | |
| pulling back inresponse to internal needs and to outside | |
| influences - the 'friendliness' or 'hostility' of | |
| theenvironment. These continuous wavelike vibrations are the | |
| organism's ongoing 'conversation'with the rest of the universe. | |
| In humans, one expression of this continuous pulsing is | |
| ourheartbeat, sending oxygenated blood out to the extremities of | |
| the organism and bringing wasteproducts back. Another, and | |
| particularly important for our purpose, is the breath. | |
| Watch a small baby breathe, and you'll see how the whole of her | |
| body is involved, committed,swept up in the smooth wavelike | |
| expansion and contraction that reaches from top to toes. Forthe | |
| healthy baby there's no resistance, no avoidance of the | |
| involuntary breath-pulse; at the topof the out-breath the | |
| in-breath is born and the top of the in-breath turns out again, | |
| Yin fromYang and Yang from Yin, a constant exchange of | |
| polarities with the universe (Yin and Yangare ancient Chinese | |
| names for the two complementary poles of existence, the Active | |
| and the Receptive).As we grow up and confront this difficult | |
| world, however, a voluntary element soon creepsinto our | |
| breathing, a hesitation, a holding-back, which likewise affects | |
| our whole body fromtop to toes. In-breath and out-breath begin | |
| to separate from each other, to lose their seamlesscontinuity, | |
| to become more shallow and jerky, without the generous graceful | |
| flow. We maydevelop a tendency to constantly hold our breath, | |
| never fully emptying our lungs or,contrariwise, to keep our | |
| lungs permanently half empty. And so we lose our basic | |
| groundingin the universe, our identification with it. We become | |
| separate, lost, lonely, anxious beings.Why does this happen? If | |
| we | |
| breathe freely and fully, then we feel freely and fully. | |
| Openbreathing washes emotion through and out into expression; we | |
| are unable to hide it, eitherfrom ourselves or from each other. | |
| Yet from a very early age, most of us experience a need | |
| tosuppress some of our feelings.This is because our environment | |
| - initially mainly the adults who are caring for us - does | |
| notsupport us in our feelings. They reject our neediness or | |
| tears or anger. They threaten us withpunishment - including the | |
| withdrawal of love. Or they simply do not give the validation | |
| andcare which our baby-self needs in order to cope with powerful | |
| feelings. This process canbegin at birth or even sooner, as we | |
| shall see. It's no one's fault , generally speaking; all of | |
| uswho are parents know how our own anxiety and pain and | |
| practical problems interfere with thesincere wish to nurture our | |
| children. But the effect | |
| is that children learn to hold back onfeeling - by holding back | |
| on its expression - by holding back on breathing.Don't worry if | |
| you are finding this difficult to follow: it is a theme to which | |
| we'll be comingback over and over again. But to make it a little | |
| more concrete, consider two examples.Imagine a baby who cries | |
| out as her natural way of expressing a need - hunger, cold, a | |
| desirefor company - and no one comes. It will take a long time | |
| for this to sink in: she will cry andcry again, but eventually | |
| she will stop. She suppresses her crying by holding her breath | |
| -which holds back her grief and anger, not identified | |
| consciously as feelings, but implicit in the whole state of her | |
| body. | |
| Now imagine another baby who is picked up and manipulated by | |
| cold hands: not so much physically cold, but emotionally | |
| cold, uncaring. Babies feel thesethings, and there will be a | |
| reaction of shock, a gasp, like the way we gasp if we step into | |
| coldwater. If this experience of cold touch is repeated often | |
| enough, then that gasp, that heldbreath, will become built in to | |
| that baby's body nature.These are only examples from among many | |
| ways in which an unfriendly environment caninterrupt the full, | |
| whole-body, involuntary pulsation of natural breathing. Muscles | |
| tenseagainst it, first in the diaphragm, which is our primary | |
| breathing muscle (see Chapter 4), andthen spreading into the | |
| chest, throat, back, belly, pelvis, arms and legs, face, head. | |
| The entirebody is drawn into a battle against itself, against | |
| its own natural impulse to breathe and feel.In effect the energy | |
| 'splits'. turns back on itself and blocks its own natural | |
| movement; likeIndian wrestling with ourselves.Sometimes the | |
| battle is conscious - whenever we deliberately tighten our jaw, | |
| tense our belly,swallow down emotion. But the infant's basic | |
| holding-back against breathing quite soonbecomes unconscious. If | |
| you think about it, this must happen: the purpose of the holding | |
| isprecisely to stop us feeling our feelings, and this can only | |
| work if it stops us knowing whatour feelings are. Emotions are | |
| bodily events; if they are blocked in the body, then they | |
| don'thappen in the mind either. The fundamental holding acts as | |
| a pattern | |
| around which every laterdenial of feeling organises itself; we | |
| get very good at it indeed, artists and technicians of | |
| self-deception and self denial. | |
| Exercise 1 Take a moment now to check out how you are feeling | |
| and breathing. It's very likely that, whilereading the above, | |
| you've tightened yourself up to resist the inward stirring these | |
| ideascreate. So first put your attention in your belly and | |
| diaphragm - all around your navel. aboveand below. Is it gently | |
| rising and falling with your breath; or have you been holding it | |
| rigid? Are you able to deliberately relax it and let the tension | |
| flow out - perhaps with a sigh or agroan to help it along? Check | |
| out whether your chest, too, moves as you breathe - as part of | |
| acontinuous wavelike flow with your belly. If not, you are | |
| probably holding your shoulders,hands, and/or jaw stiff. Try to | |
| let them go, and experience the feeling they have been holdingon | |
| to. Allow yourself to breathe easily and fully; just watch where | |
| the holding is, if anywhere,and what thoughts cause an | |
| interruption to the flow. As you go on reading, try to come back | |
| periodically to a conscious awareness of your own breath and | |
| body state. | |
| Blocked breathing is the essence of armouring: | |
| Reich's name for the state of chronic muscle tension and | |
| emotional holding-back by which almost all adults in our society | |
| are imprisoned. | |
| Along with the suppression of breathing goes the suppression of | |
| specific impulses - to cry, to yell, to laugh, to hit to reach | |
| out for love, to run away. The muscles are tightened to stop us | |
| e-moting. moving out, and if this tightening happens regularly | |
| enough it becomes a chronic,unconscious habit, built into the | |
| structure of our bodies - part of our sense of ourselves, | |
| asfamiliar as an old scar.In fact, a lot of what we customarily | |
| identify as a person's 'self' is really their pattern of | |
| armouring: their high. tight shoulders, or stuck-out chest, or | |
| pulled-back jaw, or wide-open or narrowed-down eyes. 'Well, | |
| that's just the way I am,' they'll say. But in fact it's the way | |
| that person has | |
| become, by cutting off certain forms of self-expression and | |
| emphasising others.Maybe one individual is constantly angry and | |
| aggressive, never letting herself feel soft, sad and small. | |
| Another is continuously polite and meek, censoring any | |
| assertiveness. As we shall see later, there are specific | |
| relationships between muscular armouring and emotional | |
| armouring: these cut-off emotions are locked into tense muscle | |
| patterns, locked in permanent,frozen battle with the suppressing | |
| impulses. They are imprisoned there like genies, bottled upin | |
| the rigid 'no' of our bodies. And, like genies, they can often | |
| be released by rubbing!Our held-in feelings have power. | |
| When we liberate a feeling we can liberate not only the energy | |
| of the feeling itself, but also the split-off energy which has | |
| been devoted to holding it down. In doing this, we allow our | |
| breathing to open up, drawing on the infinite energy of the | |
| universe around us. | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 6:58 am | |
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| The 'Spastic I' | |
| Unfortunately this empowering process has a frightening side to | |
| it. It also involves releasingthe fear of consequences which | |
| made us shut down our feeling in the first place: the fear of | |
| adult anger or coldness or withdrawal, the fear of a dangerous | |
| universe. Even more, it meanschanging the whole basis of our | |
| identity - the sense of 'I' upon which our life is | |
| founded.Opening up can sometimes seem like a threat to our very | |
| survival.As Freud pointed out, our sense of 'I' (he used the | |
| German | |
| Ich | |
| , though it was translated intoEnglish with the Latin word | |
| Ego | |
| ) starts out in the | |
| body | |
| . As the infant grows, she begins toorganise bodily sensations | |
| and impulses into a whole, to 'take command' of them and | |
| developan image of 'me' - when she looks in the mirror she | |
| realises that this image is herself, that thisis how other | |
| people see her. In a healthy and supportive situation, she can | |
| grow into apowerful, realistic capacity for self-management, | |
| based on a strong but relaxed sense of identity and | |
| wholeness.Tragically, our culture doesn't generally let this | |
| process of self-management happen naturallyin its own time and | |
| rhythm. Most children are fed and put to bed and toilet-trained | |
| to fit inwith the needs and timetables of adults. They are often | |
| forced with threats to learn rigidcontrol of processes like | |
| excretion which should be developing spontaneously. Small | |
| childrenliterally | |
| cannot | |
| control their anal sphincters: the muscle-nerve connections | |
| aren't formed. Sothey must tense up the whole pelvic floor in a | |
| massive, straining effort to 'hold it in', a tensionwhich easily | |
| becomes chronic, extending to the whole body and tightening the | |
| breath, so thatthe person 'holds themselves in' on every level. | |
| 11Similarly, if our feeding is controlled by timetable, or if we | |
| are forced to eat food we don'tlike, then we 'swallow' an | |
| external regulation of our bodily processes. and have to | |
| swallowdown our rage if we want to get fed at all. These are all | |
| examples of the way in which thewhole business of attaining | |
| self- management in our own body, which can be a proud and | |
| joyful affirmation of autonomy, very easily gets entangled with | |
| patterns of denial andnegative, so that our very sense of 'I' is | |
| bound up with bodily tension. Like boys at an old-fashioned | |
| public school, we learn to 'get a grip on ourselves'. and to | |
| identify | |
| with that grip.Feeling tense becomes part of our continuous | |
| background experience, so that full relaxationseems like a | |
| threat to our existence, as if we are going to melt and drain | |
| away completely.Just as muscles are forced into chronic spasm in | |
| order to comply with external restrictionsrather than inner | |
| self-regulation, so our 'I' develops a 'spastic', uncontrollably | |
| rigid emotionaltone - a set of fixed attitudes towards the world | |
| and other people which we are unable to varyin response to | |
| changing circumstances. The 'I' becomes identical with the body | |
| armour.'Armouring' is a good name for this process of physical | |
| and emotional rigidification. Musclearmour, like its medieval | |
| counterpart, is hard, stiff, restrictive, suffocating; also like | |
| ironarmour, its original purpose was | |
| defence | |
| . We have no reason to feel guilty and inadequateabout being | |
| armoured; on the contrary, it represents our skill and courage | |
| to survive in verydifficult circumstances.We have always done | |
| the best we can. making a rational decision to protect our | |
| vulnerableinsides from an unsafe world - and. since we're still | |
| here. we have succeeded! But the pricehas been high in lost | |
| pleasure and potential. Now that we are bigger and stronger we | |
| have theoption of melting our armour, re-experiencing our | |
| feelings in a safer way - and letting our softpink insides out | |
| to play in the sunshine!Of course, even now there isn't always | |
| sunshine; it isn't always safe or appropriate to be soft.People | |
| often get the idea that Reichian-type therapy will leave them | |
| vulnerable to whatevercomes along. But the whole aim is to | |
| regain the power to choose, the power to be loving andopen, or | |
| to scorch with righteous rage' or to close off totally for a | |
| while. Very few of us haveaccess to the whole range of possible | |
| reactions.Another way in which muscular armouring resembles its | |
| iron counterpart is that it tends to bearranged in | |
| segments | |
| : bands of tension that wrap horizontally round the body. | |
| constrictingflow along the head-to-feet axis. If you imagine how | |
| a worm or snake moves, in wavy pulses,this gives a good image of | |
| the free unarmoured body. But if something pins the serpent | |
| downat one point in its length, the graceful undulation turns | |
| into jerking and thrashing. | |
| 12This is like a human body becoming armoured in one segment: it | |
| can no longer expand andpulse in a smooth, expressive. unified | |
| way - expression becomes distorted and ugly, bothphysically and | |
| emotionally.Most of us are armoured in more than one place. It's | |
| as if the snake is a child's wooden toy,split up into separate | |
| stiff lengths and able to bend only at the joints between the | |
| segments, ina parody of undulation. Having lost our sense of | |
| unity with the world through disjointedbreathing, we lose our | |
| sense of | |
| internal | |
| unity through the disjointing effects of the armouring.We'll | |
| look in much more detail later on at the segments and what they | |
| mean, but it's worthemphasising here that the specific details | |
| of armouring, as Reich described them or as we usethem doing | |
| therapy - so many segments in such and such places - are rules | |
| of thumb ratherthan gospel truth. The human organism is | |
| immensely rich and complex, full of subtlechannels, links, | |
| patterns and mirrorings, and each human individual is in many | |
| ways unique.But the more each of us is armoured, the less | |
| freedom of expression we have, the lessindividuality and | |
| richness; and the more we tend to operate in a groove to | |
| correspond to themechanical system of the segments. It's the | |
| armouring that has segments, not the person; andthe process of | |
| therapy is precisely one of rediscovering our individual | |
| uniqueness. | |
| Armouring and Illness | |
| We've used the word 'healthy' once or twice to describe the | |
| state of natural, unarmouredopenness. It's also the case that | |
| being armoured is the precondition for being ill in the | |
| medicalsense. When energy can't flow freely through the body, we | |
| get areas that are over-charged,where energy 'sticks' and | |
| stagnates, and other areas that are under-charged, where energy | |
| can'tget to at all. Over time, this sets up a chronic imbalance | |
| in the tissues and organs, whichallows infection or functional | |
| disorder to take hold. | |
| 13The sort of ailment which results is by no means random: our | |
| illnesses express, in vividdumb-show, the issues around which we | |
| tense and close off. To pick some trivial examples,most people | |
| who have a cough are suppressing anger - if you pretend to | |
| cough, and thenexaggerate it, you will find yourself roaring. | |
| Similarly, most colds have to do withunexpressed grief - the | |
| tears have to find some way out.This is a tremendous | |
| over-simplification: every illness is the expression of a | |
| complex andlongstanding set of issues. But we do see physical | |
| symptoms as the bodymind's attempt toresolve conflict, to break | |
| free from the constraints of the armouring. In Chapter 4 we | |
| shalllook in more detail at the relationship between specific | |
| illnesses and specific forms of armouring. | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 6:59 am | |
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| 3 SURRENDER | |
| Disappointment is a good sign of basic intelligence. It cannot | |
| be compared to anything else: it is so sharp, precise, obvious | |
| and direct ... Once we open ourselves, then we land on what is. | |
| Chogyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual MaterialismIn the | |
| last chapter we saw that what Freud (or his translators) called | |
| the Ego can beunderstood as 'the grip we get on ourselves', the | |
| self-image which knits together bodilyimpulses and sensations | |
| into a whole. In practice we do this by rejecting a whole crowd | |
| of impulses as 'not | |
| really | |
| me', thus making these feelings unconscious. This is what | |
| happensmentally; the bodily parallel is that we take on a | |
| pattern of chronic tension which is constantlypreventing certain | |
| movements and expressions - they 'just don't feel natural'. The | |
| 'spastic I',with its terror of letting go, is identical with the | |
| spastic musculature, | |
| unable | |
| to let go becausethe holding-on isn't even conscious.But the 'I' | |
| doesn't | |
| have | |
| to be like this - or we would be in a real mess. It is possible | |
| to have asense of self that is relaxed, flexible, open to change | |
| and spontaneity, able to surrender to ourown impulses and to the | |
| reality of the world around us.Any sort of self-awareness and | |
| intention is going to carry muscle | |
| tone | |
| - the differencebetween a limp, flaccid arm, and one which is | |
| relaxed but energised and ready for action.However, if we keep | |
| ourselves | |
| permanently | |
| ready for action, we tend to lose the capacity torelax; this is | |
| what is called a chronic anxiety state, or stress. It produces a | |
| rigid, inflexiblebody, and an 'I' to match.So what makes | |
| possible a relaxed 'I', a subtle, flexible, pulsating bodymind? | |
| The keyword is'surrender': not to anyone or anything | |
| else | |
| , but to | |
| ourselves | |
| .For some people the idea of surrender to ourselves, to our own | |
| feelings, will make immediatesense. For others it needs more | |
| explanation: it involves one of the central ways in whichtherapy | |
| is different from everyday ways of being in our society - one of | |
| therapy's | |
| radical | |
| aspects.If it's raining outside, we don't generally say - or | |
| not at least without conscious childishness -'But it | |
| mustn't | |
| rain any more, it's been raining all day and I don't | |
| want | |
| it to!' However, peopleconstantly take this sort of attitude | |
| towards their emotions: 'I can't go on crying like this'; | |
| 'I'veno right to feel so angry'; 'I must stop being frightened'. | |
| 14We suggest that your feelings are like the weather: there's no | |
| sense in arguing with them.If I am in a state of sorrow, for | |
| instance, then it makes no difference how 'good' or 'bad' | |
| thereasons are. The sorrow is | |
| there | |
| , a unitary bodymind state, woven of ideas, | |
| emotions,physiological changes, energy flows. I can't expunge it | |
| by an act of will. All I can do is stopmyself | |
| expressing | |
| it, and perhaps blank out my consciousness of it. What this | |
| ensures is that | |
| my sorrow will continue | |
| - forever, quite possibly; locked up in the muscles I've tensed | |
| to stopmyself sobbing and weeping; locked up in my unconscious | |
| mind. It won't simply go away.The paradox is that feelings | |
| change through and in their expression. It's by opening to | |
| mysorrow, or anger, or fear, or whatever, by truly accepting | |
| that this is, for now, my reality, thatI am able to move beyond | |
| it. To complete themselves, feelings generally have to pass | |
| throughconsciousness and out again: it seems to be the only | |
| exit.We experience this extraordinary miracle over and over | |
| again: just by surrendering to ourfeelings, we see them change. | |
| The trap that seemed inescapable, the wound that | |
| seemedunhealable, the dilemma that seemed insoluble - suddenly | |
| they are different - smaller, softerand more malleable; because | |
| our whole bodymind is softer and more flexible in its approachto | |
| the world.Surrendering to our feelings is not about giving in to | |
| difficulties, but about liberating ourenergies to confront them | |
| in whatever way is appropriate. To face the world we need to | |
| faceourselves, as we are rather than as we would like to be. | |
| Neither is this to say that we shouldswitch off our | |
| intelligence. We have to acknowledge sometimes that our | |
| emotional reaction isover the top, irrational, that we are | |
| responding to old memories and not to present facts. Butthis | |
| acknowledgement provides the context in which we can effectively | |
| let go to the feelingsand thus let go of them - knowing them for | |
| what they are.Emotions | |
| always | |
| have a rational basis. Fear is the bodymind's shrinking away | |
| from realthreat; anger is the mobilisation to blast away | |
| whatever blocks our creative expression -nature's Dynorod! | |
| Often, though, this rational basis is in the past not the | |
| present: we areresponding in ways that were appropriate for | |
| vulnerable children, but are no longerappropriate for adults | |
| with a potential for strong and independent action.So it is | |
| often helpful to have a safe space in which we can express our | |
| feelings away from thepeople who may have sparked them off: for | |
| instance, a therapy session where we can beat upa cushion rather | |
| than our lover. At other times, though, the appropriate form of | |
| discharge is inreal life action, by getting angry with whoever | |
| is oppressing us and making them stop.We can use our heads, and | |
| other people's, to work out which sort of situation is which, | |
| todisentangle the mixture of past and present which is usually | |
| involved. We can deal with theSocial Security much more | |
| effectively if we aren't seeing them as our mother, giving | |
| orwithholding vital nourishment! Often it's good to try hitting | |
| the cushion first and see whatrational here-and-now core of | |
| feeling is left afterwards.The key point is that emotions are | |
| e-motions, movements | |
| out | |
| , their natural function isprecisely to clear what stops us | |
| moving on. Feelings are value-neutral, neither good nor | |
| bad,simply | |
| there | |
| . It's not our feelings that cause us trouble, but our feelings | |
| about | |
| feelings, ourshame, embarrassment, denial - our resistance. | |
| 15'Resistance' is a word for all the ways in which people seek | |
| to avoid their own movement,their own living process. And one | |
| paradoxical form that resistance can take is to beatourselves up | |
| about our own resistance! 'Oh God, I'm so blocked. why can't I | |
| let go, why can'tI change?' It is important to see that | |
| resistance in therapy is like resistance in politics - | |
| itoriginates in | |
| fighting oppression | |
| .If a child finds its feelings invalidated by the adult world in | |
| the ways we discussed in the lastchapter, this is oppression of | |
| a very powerful kind. It's a life-threatening experience, and | |
| thechild responds like a resistance movement in an occupied | |
| country - by going underground.We have all built up defences | |
| against outside threat and inside emotion for the best | |
| possiblereasons, and in the best possible way. So let's | |
| congratulate ourselves, and respect ourresistance as we might | |
| respect a guerrilla leader from some past war of liberation. The | |
| onlytrouble is that the guerrilla leader may have got stuck in a | |
| posture that actually obstructs theliberation for which she was | |
| fighting!Therapy is one way of investigating this sort of | |
| situation. Almost certainly our circumstanceswill have changed | |
| since childhood, and it would probably make sense to revise some | |
| of ourpast decisions, let go of some of our resistance, let go | |
| of some of the limitations we haveplaced on our | |
| self-expression.What we are really talking about is surrender to | |
| reality | |
| , the reality of our own feelings, and of the interactions which | |
| spark them off: the reality of the past, and of the present; the | |
| reality of our body's need for breath, for pleasure, for rest, | |
| for activity. Because the reality whichconfronts us is | |
| constantly changing, we need to be very flexible in order to | |
| deal with it: weneed to be secure enough to face the bad along | |
| with the good, rather than run away intofantasy. That security | |
| and flexibility are rooted in a sense of | |
| belonging | |
| , being part of theuniverse, being fed by it in a constant | |
| pulsating exchange of energies: a sense that is part of our | |
| natural birthright, and is inherent in full free breathing. | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 7:01 am | |
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| Sex and Surrender | |
| To stay soft and open, we need the capacity to discharge | |
| tension that builds up in us throughthe stresses of living. Free | |
| breathing helps to minimise this build-up - we let go of | |
| tensionwith each out-breath. But the 'I' needs periodically to | |
| let go completely, to 'melt' as thearmoured muscles melt, to | |
| relinquish control and allow the spontaneous rhythms of | |
| theorganism to emerge. A natural, innate, powerful way of doing | |
| this is through lovemaking andorgasm: insofar as we can | |
| surrender to our own body, its pleasure washes us free of | |
| thetensions and blockings that have built up. The movements of | |
| orgasmic release are wavelike,pulsating, an involuntary | |
| contraction and relaxation of the whole body that | |
| transcendsconsciousness.So can we all get healthy or stay | |
| healthy by making love? If only it was that simple. For a | |
| fewpeople it is, or nearly so. It's one of those Catch 22 | |
| situations: the more soft and open you arealready, the easier it | |
| is to stay so. The way our body seeks to move in orgasm is | |
| totallydifferent in nature from the controlled, circumspect | |
| movements of the armoured bodymind.The 'spastic I' perceives | |
| involuntary movement - in sense, quite rightly - as a dreadful | |
| threat toits survival. It panics, and clamps down even harder - | |
| perhaps tries to take control of theorgasmic movements, to 'let | |
| go on purpose'. For most of us, making love creates tension at | |
| thesame time as releasing it. | |
| 16Orgasmic surrender cannot really be separated from surrender | |
| to life and spontaneity ingeneral, surrender to our selves. The | |
| way we relate to sexual excitement matches the way werelate to | |
| other sorts of stimulus: the way we live our lives. So the work | |
| that we do is not 'sextherapy'; but neither do we seek to | |
| disguise the central role of sexuality in life, and of orgasmas | |
| a form of discharge. We are also well aware that much of | |
| people's unconscious anxiety andtension has a specifically | |
| sexual content.Orgasm in the sense of surrender to the | |
| involuntary is something rather different from simplemechanical | |
| spasm or heavy breathing. Many people influenced by Reich's | |
| ideas have madesomething of a fetish out of the 'Total Orgasm', | |
| treating it as a specific goal, something youeither 'get' or | |
| 'don't get'. This is unrealistic, and very much at odds with | |
| Reich's central pointabout letting go and saying yes to our | |
| pleasure wherever it takes us. (Reich himself was notable to | |
| follow through consistently with his own best insights.) Sexual | |
| release is a primaryform of discharge, a way to stay soft and | |
| sweet. But it can be directly worked for and learntonly in | |
| limited ways: it is above all a function of our overall openness | |
| and capacity to handlepleasure and excitement.So our therapy | |
| doesn't simply work on sexuality as such, or on tension in the | |
| pelvic areaalone. It seeks to encourage an overall loosening of | |
| the armour, a release of anxiety whichwill make it possible to | |
| give in to our own impulse for genital pleasure. Breathing is | |
| anaccessible yardstick of openness and spontanei- ty, and Reich | |
| noticed that when a person isrelaxed and breathing freely and | |
| fully, the movement of her body is similar, in a gentle | |
| andunchanged way, to the movement of orgasm. As we breathe out, | |
| lying on our backs, thepelvic rocks | |
| forward | |
| and | |
| up | |
| , while at the same time our throat comes forward as if to | |
| meetour pelvis. Our head and shoulders fall back and open in a | |
| vulnerable gesture of surrender.This is identical for men and | |
| women | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 7:02 am | |
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| 17'correctness'. Reich called this full, free breath the 'orgasm | |
| reflex'; by definition, a reflex issomething which bypasses | |
| conscious control.Full, free breathing is not a state, but a | |
| direction: we can always breathe more or less than weare doing | |
| at the moment. Exploring what happens as we try to alter or | |
| increase our breath - orrather, to stop holding it back and | |
| distorting it - is a direct route to the heart of | |
| therapy,involving us in a long term project of melting armour in | |
| all parts of our body, all aspects of our character. When we | |
| find ourselves, for a while, breathing very freely, we | |
| experience allsorts of strange and pleasurable sensations in our | |
| bodyminds, an opportunity to directlyperceive the flow of life | |
| energy in ourselves, which Reich called 'streaming'.The flow of | |
| Orgone is immediately experienced as pleasure; its blocking as | |
| unpleasure.But pleasure, for most people, is very often bound up | |
| with anxiety. It makes the 'Spastic I' feelthat it is losing its | |
| identity; it brings back bodymind memories of childhood | |
| situations whereour pleasure was frustrated, together with the | |
| associated feelings of grief, fear and rage. If ourfirst | |
| reaction to pleasure beyond 'a certain limit is | |
| no | |
| rather than | |
| yes | |
| , then our wires needuncrossing. We need to unpeel, layer by | |
| layer, the different negative feelings that have cometo overlay | |
| our innately joyful, playful response to energy flow.But it's | |
| plain too that making love isn't | |
| vital | |
| to being in a good state (as Reich seems to say itis). There are | |
| many people, for example, who are celibate but who use | |
| meditation or otherbodymind disciplines to keep themselves soft | |
| and clear. It's also | |
| very | |
| plain - as Reich waswell aware - that sexual activity as such is | |
| no measure of health or pleasure - frantic fuckingcan be | |
| precisely an avoidance of surrender.So if you don't seek | |
| orgasmic surrender, perhaps the best question is 'Why not?' Some | |
| reasonsare better than others. A long term relationship may go | |
| through effectively 'asexual' phases -and yet both partners feel | |
| it would be destructive to look for sexual satisfaction | |
| elsewhere.Also. sex and sexuality in our culture carry a | |
| tremendous weight of | |
| political | |
| meanings whichmake it hard to simply follow our feelings - our | |
| feelings may be contradictory. Above all,heterosexual love - and | |
| therefore, homosexual love in a hetero society - is intimately | |
| boundup with power and patriarchy. We'll come back to these | |
| matters in Chapters 6 and 9; for now,we just want to say that | |
| because of this political charge, sexual surrender becomes even | |
| morefrightening. Surrender to our own feelings is not easily | |
| separated from surrender to someoneelse, or to a particular | |
| sexual ideology. It can be difficult to disentangle saying 'yes' | |
| to ourbodies from saying 'yes' to patriarchy, because in a sense | |
| we may experience our bodies ascolonised and imperialised by | |
| society's models of sexuality, power and pleasure.The way | |
| forward through this jungle, hard though it is, is surely to | |
| stay with exactly whatcomes up for us when we try to let go, | |
| breathe, and feel ourselves. If we can accept and ownour | |
| sensations and emotions, without judgement or denial, then we | |
| can eventually find theway through to our truth, a truth based | |
| on far more solid foundations than any intellectualmodel. This | |
| means being able to face the pain and fear of our original | |
| childhood confrontationwith sexual roles and rules.In the next | |
| chapter, we shall look at the way we tighten up each area of our | |
| body, eachsegment of armouring, against surrender to feeling, to | |
| pleasure, and to reality | |
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| Re: Reichian Growth Work by Nick Totton | |
| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 7:03 am | |
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| 4 THE SEGMENTS | |
| The segmental arrangement of the muscular armour represents the | |
| worm in man. | |
| Wilhelm Reich, Character AnalysisNow let us look at how | |
| armouring works in practice; where the different 'segments' | |
| arelocated, the sorts of emotions that tend to be stuck | |
| unexpressed and unexperienced in thetense muscles of each body | |
| area, and the sorts of physical symptoms that tend to | |
| accompanythese tensions. We need to remember that people usually | |
| don't know about their ownarmouring: the muscle tension exists | |
| to protect us from conscious realisation of our needs | |
| andfeelings, which may come as an extreme shock to us when the | |
| armouring gives way. It alsotends to make us unaware of the | |
| tension itself, which through long familiarity feels 'normal'.We | |
| must also bear in mind that as well as being choked up with | |
| intense held feeling, asegment can in effect be 'emptied' of | |
| charge by spastic muscles around the area keepingenergy and | |
| feelings | |
| out | |
| , in an alternative strategy for self-control. There is more | |
| than onelayer of musculature in any given area of our body; we | |
| may be relaxed at one level, tight atanother.What follows is | |
| necessarily simplified. Although the seven segments can be a | |
| tremendouslyuseful way of seeing patterns of holding, they are | |
| only a tool - only one way of seeing things.As we go through the | |
| segments, we will be constantly pointing out interlinkings | |
| betweenthem - other, equally valid, ways of understanding our | |
| bodies. The segments are to a largeextent artificial, reflecting | |
| the artificial bodymind pr~ of self-armouring.The seven | |
| segments, as shown in the illustration, can be identified by the | |
| main feature of eacharea: the eyes; the jaw; the neck; the | |
| heart; the waist; the belly; and the pelvis and legs. Weshall | |
| look at each in turn, working down the body in the direction | |
| that an embryo grows in thewomb, the direction that our bodywork | |
| tends to move, from crown to base. | |
| 19 | |
| The eye segment ('ocular') | |
| The first and uppermost segment includes the scalp, forehead, | |
| eyes, cheeks, ears, and the baseof the skull. It is an area of | |
| intense charge, containing as it does two crucial 'windows' on | |
| theworld, our organs of sight and hearing. Whether because of | |
| this, or because of the location of the brain, most people | |
| mentally place their '1' in this segment; this is where we watch | |
| the | |
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| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 7:04 am | |
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| Such notions and experiences are themselves a product of | |
| armouring. They show the extent of cut-offness from our heart, | |
| guts and sex. The mind is a bodymind - not a headmind - | |
| however'natural' it may seem to be 'in our heads'.One very | |
| common effect of working to melt the armour is that people's | |
| centre of awarenessshifts downwards, into the 'heartlands' of | |
| the body. We begin to experience our heads, weirdlyat first, as | |
| just another limb like our arms or legs. We start to realise how | |
| stiffly we have beenholding our head, so as to stay's' it; and | |
| how tension in and around our eyes represents theneed to 'hold | |
| ourselves up' through seeing, rather than through the support of | |
| our legs and feet- desperately gripping on to the world with our | |
| eyes, in the same sort of way that whenwewere learning to stand | |
| we kept ourselves erect by gripping onwith our hands.As well as | |
| being a vital channel for information and contact eyes and ears | |
| have also been asource of | |
| threat | |
| in our lives. Scary and existence-threatening energy has invaded | |
| us throughour sight and hearing - the coldness in the look of | |
| adults who should be caring for us, forexample, the anger or | |
| pain in their voices. Most of us came into the world in the | |
| agonisingglare of hospital lights, the cacophony of hospital | |
| noises, later, we may have tried to minimisedangerous excitement | |
| by 'not looking', 'not seeing' stirring images, 'not hearing' | |
| the confusingsounds of our parents making love.So very often the | |
| eyes and ears are in a permanent state of blocking which says 'I | |
| won't see -won't hear - won't understand'. Muscles inside and | |
| around the eye sockets, and at the base of the skull, are in | |
| constant tension, stopping us from really focusing on the world | |
| around us,from opening up to reality. | |
| Exercise 2 | |
| Try an experiment yourself.. sit upright, and bum your head as | |
| far as it will comfortably go toone side. When it reaches a | |
| stopping point let your eyes carry on round until they too reach | |
| 21 | |
| their comfortable limit - no need to strain, then bring the eyes | |
| very slowly back round until, asthey face forward again in the | |
| head, they 'pick up' the head and both continue moving back | |
| round to the front of the body. The illustration should make | |
| this clear. The point is that theeyes should move continuously, | |
| without jumping, so they 'sweep' the field of vision, | |
| carryingthe head along with them. Keep breathing while you do | |
| it! | |
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| By: truthaboutpois Date: April 15, 2015, 7:05 am | |
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| 21 | |
| their comfortable limit - no need to strain, then bring the eyes | |
| very slowly back round until, asthey face forward again in the | |
| head, they 'pick up' the head and both continue moving back | |
| round to the front of the body. The illustration should make | |
| this clear. The point is that theeyes should move continuously, | |
| without jumping, so they 'sweep' the field of vision, | |
| carryingthe head along with them. Keep breathing while you do | |
| it! | |
| Most people find this exercise very difficult - to let their | |
| eyes move slowly and continuouslyrather than jumping forward in | |
| spurts, impatient to see 'what's next'. This impatience has | |
| aquality of fear in it, and repeating the experiment a few times | |
| to each side can make usconscious of a great deal of anxiety | |
| about seeing, | |
| really seeing | |
| , the world around us. We tendto filter reality through a screen | |
| of prior judgement so as to protect ourselves from | |
| dangerousexcitement or pain, and this anxiety is bound into | |
| tense muscles around the eyes.A similar process happens with the | |
| ears, and with our thinking processes. The words we useabout | |
| thinking embody these connections: 'I see what you mean', 'I | |
| don't like the sound of that'. In French, 'entendu' means both | |
| 'heard' and 'understood'.The core of the armouring is actually | |
| inside | |
| the head, in the small muscles that move our eyes,and in the | |
| muscles behind our ears and at the base of the skull, some of | |
| which are reflexly co-ordinated with subtle eye movements. | |
| Blocking in all these areas can give a hard, blank,superficial | |
| expression to the eyes, or a cloudy 'absent look - both masking | |
| deep fear.Shortsightedness, longsightedness, deafness, etc., are | |
| very much bound up with armouring of the eye segment, and the | |
| same goes for inability to smell - a very powerful and | |
| fundamentalsense linking us with our animal heritage.Repression | |
| of contact with the world through eyes, ears and thinking covers | |
| up a deeper | |
| neediness | |
| . Eye contact which is loving and supportive gives us a | |
| fundamental anchoring inthe world: it says 'you exist, I see | |
| you'. When the channels are open, the heart speaks throughthe | |
| eyes, and comforting sounds and smells can give an almost | |
| equally deep reassurance. If this sort of validation is missing | |
| in very early childhood, then someone's ability to make | |
| 22proper contact through the eye segment can be profoundly | |
| injured. They tend to 'go away inthe eyes' and in their | |
| thinking: closeness can be experienced as invasive, threatening | |
| - only inisolation are they safe.Similarly. they may develop | |
| ideas which are bizarrely isolated from how most people see | |
| theworld.With less extreme damage, the urge for contact may | |
| simply take a diversion, and expressitself in a way which is | |
| distorted and therefore less threatening: as with people whose | |
| life isorganised around a | |
| need to see | |
| - voyeurs, intellectuals, detectives, journalists - and | |
| therapists!Which is a good moment to stress that reaching out | |
| with eyes, ears and mind is a healthy,creative process - unless | |
| it coincides with a block to making deep emotional contact.As | |
| well as being windows, the eyes are doors: they are a channel | |
| for emotional expression. | |
| All | |
| feelings, to be fully released, need to come out through the | |
| eyes. Besides the obviousexample of crying, the eyes must | |
| release fear, anger, joy, and so on in appropriate ways inorder | |
| to stay soft and open. Different people tend to be able to show | |
| different feelings throughtheir eyes, and to block other ones; | |
| and these tendencies can often be seen in the way we holdthe | |
| muscles of this segment | |
| Exercise 3 | |
| Look in a mirror, and raise your eyebrows as far as you | |
| possibly can. What does this look like? What emotion does it | |
| convey? Now screw your eyes up tight, lower the brow: see what | |
| the apparent emotion is now. Keep breathing, and move as fast as | |
| you can between these two positions, several times; how does | |
| this make you feel? Is it easy for you to do? Is one | |
| positionharder than the other? Relax into your normal eye | |
| position for a moment, let yourself breathe,and see how you look | |
| in the mirror and how you feel inside. | |
| As we hope you will agree, the wide open eyes show an | |
| expression of | |
| fear | |
| ; and if you keptbreathing in this position, you may even have | |
| felt some of this fear. People who habituallykeep their eyes | |
| like this are generally unaware of it, getting them to | |
| exaggerate, or converselyto screw their eyes up tight can make | |
| them suddenly aware of the extreme tension there, andof the | |
| underlying fear and sadness. It's a position which helps one | |
| cope with being seen, andis common in politicians, but also in | |
| people who have had very frightening visual experiencesin | |
| childhood.Screwed-up eyes may convey several different emotions: | |
| anger. desperation to see, anxiety.Notice whether your cheek | |
| muscles also screw up tight, turning your face into a mask. | |
| Whenpeople habitually use their faces in this way. it's as if | |
| their eyes have retreated into their head -'I can see out, but | |
| you can't see in'. Flat, stiff, heavy cheeks, on the other hand, | |
| are oftenholding tremendous grief and unshed tears.Another | |
| emotion often held in the eye segment is | |
| worry | |
| : the wrinkled brow and fixed gaze of compulsive thinking. It | |
| doesn't matter what the person is thinking about | |
| now | |
| - it could beabsolutely anything; but originally they will have | |
| taken refuge in thinking as an escape routefrom intolerable | |
| childhood pressures - for example. trying to work out how to | |
| satisfycontradictory demands from mother and father.The 'ivory | |
| tower intellectual' is demonstrating a similar, perhaps more | |
| successful, form of escape: the skull is a literal ivory tower, | |
| high and dry above the scary and confusing world of | |
| 23the body. Intellectuals who try to ignore body and emotions | |
| have concentrated on the genuineerotic pleasure of thought to | |
| the exclusion of most other things.Thinking is a real, healthy | |
| pleasure, but surely only in harmony with other functions, not | |
| inisolation from them. Often there is considerable panic bound | |
| up in this stance - about sexualfeelings, and also about bodily | |
| assertiveness and rage. The opposite form of defence is foundin | |
| people who fog up their own thinking processes as a protection | |
| against painful realities, | |
| making | |
| themselves stupid and incompetent, and giving their eyes either | |
| a dull smug look, or apeering vagueness.These are some examples | |
| to stimulate your own observation of what people do with | |
| theireyes. The eye segment will be involved in suppressing any | |
| and all feelings; but thefundamental blockings here are of very | |
| young | |
| emotions and experiences, our primalinteractions with the world, | |
| starting at birth or earlier. Through the crown of our heads and | |
| thespace between our eyes, we are linked to sky and cosmos, to | |
| webs of subtle energy, tosomething much bigger than our | |
| individual self. Pain and danger may make us close thesechannels | |
| down, or may make us retreat into a 'spirituality' which is | |
| ungrounded in the realityof our bodily life.Apart from defects | |
| of vision and hearing, the most obvious physical symptom | |
| connected witheye segment armouring is chronic headaches - | |
| stemming from tense muscles at the base of theskull and around | |
| the eyes. We believe as well that specific ailments like styes, | |
| conjunctivitis,sinusitis and so on can be linked with eye | |
| segment armouring; often they all occur when aspecific feeling | |
| is being held back about some life situation, and in particular | |
| when someoneis not allowing themselves to cry | |
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