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“Do not feed the hermits”
> Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet
> conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation
> to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk?
> Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to
> recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with
> pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?
>
> If so, do you tell this person he is “too serious,” or ask if he is okay?
> Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?
>
> If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an
> introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly.
> Science has learned a good deal in recent years about the habits and
> requirements of introverts. It has even learned, by means of brain scans,
> that introverts process information differently from other people (I am not
> making this up). If you are behind the curve on this important matter, be
> reassured that you are not alone. Introverts may be common, but they are
> also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved groups in America, possibly
> the world.
>
“Caring for Your Introvert— The Atlantic (March 2003) [1]”
Yes, I know someone who needs hours alone every day. Me. Thankfully, I don't
have to worry about getting “alone time” but just in case you need “alone
time” and have trouble getting it across, here you go (or, if you are
mystified as to why your friend/significant other/family member needs “alone
time” this too, is for you).
[1]
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch
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