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       Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) about Size Acceptance

This document contains information about size acceptance and other
issues relevant to large folks. If you don't find what you're looking
for here, try one of the related FAQs (see question B1 for
a complete list).

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Updated March 01

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Contents

SECTION A:  FAQ about size acceptance and being large
A1)     What is size acceptance anyway?
A2)     What are some fat positive artists, musicians, sculptors,
       etc.?
A3)     Who are some famous fat people?
A4)     What is International No-Diet Day?
A5)     What are some responses to the standard offensive things said
       to fat people?  Do you know any *positive* fat jokes? What
       are some slogans for size-acceptance?
A6)     Are there any movies/videos on fat acceptance and fat people?

A7)     Are there any mainstream movies/videos that portray fat characters
positively?

SECTION B: Information about this FAQ
B1)     Are there other related FAQs?
B2)     Posting information
B3)     Contributors

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SECTION A: FAQ about size acceptance and being large

A1)     What is size acceptance anyway?

Size acceptance is the notion that people are OK (and should be treated
with respect and feel good about themselves and enjoy life) at whatever
size they are: thin, fat, or in-between. Size acceptance usually
includes the notion that consciously manipulating one's weight (either
gaining or losing) is not desirable and may even be harmful and the idea
that dieting for weight loss usually leads, in the long term, to higher
rather than lower weights.

The political side of size acceptance includes calling for public
accommodations and public products to be accessible to all people,
regardless of size. (This means, among other things, that movie theaters
should have seats that are wide enough for large folks, and clothing
stores should carry attractive clothing in large sizes.) Size acceptance
addresses the discrimination that fat people often face because they are
fat; promotes a wider range of beauty standards than is usually shown in
the media; publicizes the studies that indicate harmful effects of
dieting; and educates people (e.g., doctors) about interacting
respectfully with large folks.

On the personal side, size acceptance involves feeling good about one's
body, treating oneself well (e.g., enjoying good food, fun
activities, nice clothing), and expecting to be treated well by others
(i.e., not accepting, or at least not internalizing, size-hating
remarks). Not everyone who believes in size acceptance completely
accepts their size. This is a problem of a fat-hating culture, and one
we are working to minimize.

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A2)     What are some fat positive artists, musicians, sculptors,
       etc.?

See also the list of web sites in the Online Resources for Big Folks
FAQ. Some of the web sites feature fat positive art.

4 Big Girls
       Deb Parks-Satterfield
       343 1/2 17th. Ave.
       Seattle WA  98122
       or
       PO Box 2134
       Seattle, WA  98111
       African-American lesbian comedy troupe.

Candye Kane
       103 N. Hwy 101  #247, Encinitas, CA 92024.
       Fat, bisexual welfare mom from East L.A., a former stripper and
       ex-porn star, now a blues singer. Her web site and shows are
       full of affirming, size-positive, uppity-fat-girl talk. Her CD
       includes songs such as "You Need a Great Big Woman" and "All You
       Can Eat (and You Can Eat it All Night Long)".

Fernando Botero
       Contemporary South American artist whose works feature very
       round and pear-shaped men and women. Works in a variety of
       media: drawings, paintings, and monumental sculpture.

FatChanceBellyDance
       FCBD-RAD
       PO Box 460594
       San Francisco, CA 94146
       Phone: (415) 647-6035
       Send SASE with two 32-cent stamps for catalog.
       Belly dance troupe. Catalog features videos, music, costumes,
       jewelry, accessories. They offer classes in Berkeley and San
       Francisco.

Fat Chance Theater
       Mimi Orner
       418 Marston Ave
       Madison, WI 53703
       Fat performance theater.

Fat Lip Reader's Theater
       PO Box 29963
       Oakland, CA  94604
       Email: [email protected]
       Phone: (510) 658-3300
       Legendary fat feminist performance theater. Travels around the
       country performing at feminist and lesbian gatherings to raise
       awareness of size discrimination and size esteem issues. Video
       of selected performance pieces available, titled *Nothing To
       Lose*. Cost is $22 + $3 shipping. Mission statement: "Our
       mission is to end fat oppression and promote size acceptance
       through education and theatrical performance. We are a
       collective of fat women who present exciting, dynamic theatrical
       performances about what it's really like to be a fat woman in
       today's society. We also offer educational workshops and
       in-service trainings for organization and community groups."

The Fatimas
       Ronda Wood
       Mor-2-Luv
       9302 Valley View Ave
       Whittier, CA  90602
       Phone: (310) 693-1844
       Fat belly dance troupe.

Frankly Carmen
       1442 N Mandalay Rd
       SLC, UT 84116
       Phone: (801) 531-8280
       Email: [email protected]
       Fat-positive comic -- "America's Most Wanted Comic at Large." "A
       comedian that brings a new exciting perspective to life in the
       90's, as a one of six large women married to a polygamist
       mormon. Drawing upon this unusual background, her refreshing wit
       covers a variety of topics from the women's movement to
       Polygamy."

Dawn French
       British actress, best know for her double act with Jennifer
       Saunders (French and Saunders). Owner of the women's store
       1647 in London.

R.C. Gorman
       Painter who specializes in scenes of the American southwest and
       whose works often include large women.

This Heavy Heart
       Cynthia McQuillin and Jane Robinson
       Unlikely Publications
       PO Box 8542
       Berkeley, CA  94707
       Phone: (510) 843-6559
       Email: [email protected]
       Fat feminist singers/songwriters. CD and tape titled *This Heavy
       Heart* about dieting/body image/size issues. Cynthia and Jane
       appear in Women En Large.

Barbara Lavallee
       704 Sunset Dr.
       Anchorage, AK 99501
       Phone: (800) 764-ARTS (US)
       Alaskan artist who creates lithographs, mugs, T-shirts and
       Christmas ornaments from her vibrantly colored watercolors. Her
       subjects are fat, beautiful Eskimo women. Call or write for a
       catalog.

Ama Menec
       Lesbian Sculptor, specialising in the beauty and grace of fat
       women. Her sometimes lifesize works defy gravity as they balance
       on their toes. A ceramic artist, her work is unique, as pieces
       are hand thrown and joined to create stunning characters. Her
       work has rarely been seen outside of India. She hopes to create
       even larger works in the future.
       Interview

Fran Peavey
       Atomic Comic -- uses comedy to effect social change.

Daniel Pinkwater
       Writes children's books and grown-up books. Commentator for
       National Public Radio. A fat man who makes no apologies for his
       size.

The Roly Polys
       A British dance group composed of older, larger ladies, founded
       in 1980. Four of the five are average height and about UK size
       18-20. The fifth, Big Mo (Mo Moreland) is 4'11" and UK size
       28-30. She's the "darling dumpling" of the Roly Polys. She's
       also very fat-positive.

Peter Rubens
       Belgian artist of the Renaissance period. Source of the term
       "Rubenesque".

Saffir
       Diana Mackin
       Seattle Now Body Image Task Force
       4649 Sunnyside Ave N, Rm #222
       Seattle, WA  98103
       Phone: (206) 784-1004 (home), (206) 632-8547 (work)
       Saffir performs size-positive street theater for public
       education.

Sistah Monica
       Fat-positive blues singer from the Northern California area.

Judy Small
       Singer. Wrote "A Song for the Roly Poly People."

Sapphire: The Uppity Blues Women
       One black and two white women in the 30's and 40's, all of whom
       apparently abandoned careers to hit the road and sing the blues.
       Fabulous, fat-positive entertainers.

Throwing Our Weight Around
       BAFL
       PO Box 308
       Kendall Square
       Cambridge, MA 02142
       Video about fat liberation.

Dari Walker
       Phone: (800) 484-2762
       Limited edition sculptures and silver jewelry featuring fat
       female bodies, priced $50-$95.

Wry Crips
       Pandoura Carpenter
       PO Box 21474
       Oakland, CA  94620
       Phone: (510) 601-5819
       Size-positive and disability awareness performance group.

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A3)     Who are some famous fat people?

This is a list of famous fat folks whose names have come up on a.s.b-f
or s.s.f-a. I make no claims that the information here is correct. The
folks on this list are varying degrees of fat (from just slightly above
average to supersize). Some have been fat only at certain times in their
lives. Since I don't know who all of these people are, some of them may
never have been fat. Please send corrections and additions!

Michael Anthony         Bassist, Van Halen
Dan Aykroyd             actor (Ghostbusters, Blues Brothers)
Kirstie Alley           actress
Louie Anderson          comedian, author, Sports Authority spokesperson
Maya Angelou            U.S. poet laureate
Annabelle               U.S. cartoon character, appears on Eeek
Thomas Aquinas          Christian theologian
Roseanne Barr Arnold    U.S. TV/movie actor (Roseanne, She-Devil)
Roscoe Conkling
 "Fatty" Arbuckle      silent film star
Louis Armstrong         jazz musician from New Orleans
Tom Arnold              U.S. TV actor (Roseanne)
James Avery             US TV actor.
Nick Bakay              US TV actor
Pearl Bailey            singer, stage actor
Josiane Balasko         French actor (Too Beautiful for You, French
                       Twist), writer and director
Barney the Dinosaur     children's TV character
Ethel Barrymore         movie actress
Lionel Barrymore        stage and early movie actor
Kathy Bates             actor (Misery, Fried Green Tomatoes)
Ned Beatty              actor (Deliverance, Homicide)
John Belushi            actor (SNL, Animal House, Blues Brothers)
Sarah Bernhardt         actress
Joe Besser              comic in 1930s films and on Abbot & Costello
Brian Blessed           actor on stage, television and film
Francis Bavier          actor (Andy Griffiths Show)
Jo Brand                UK standup comedian
Marlon Brando           movie actor (The Godfather, Apocalypse Now)
Jay Brazeau             Canadian movie actor (We're No Angels)
Michael Bruce           guitarist, ex-Alice Cooper
Garth Brooks            Country Music superstar
Victor Buono            movie actor (The Strangler, Whatever Happened
                       to Baby Jane?), published poems about being fat
Barbara Bush            former U.S. First Lady
Delta Burke             U.S. TV actor (Designing Women, Women of the House)
Raymond Burr            U.S. TV/movie actor (Perry Mason, Ironside,
                       gangster movies)
Lord Byron              poet
Cabbage Patch Dolls     children's toy
Sebastian Cabot         TV actor (Family Affair's Mr. French)
Sarah Caldwell          conductor, Boston orchestra
John Candy              Canadian movie actor (Planes, Trains and Automobiles)
Nell Carter             singer, U.S. TV and stage actor (Gimme a Break,
                       Ain't Misbehavin' on Broadway)
Darlene Cates           movie and TV actor (What's Eating Gilbert Grape)
Chubby Checker          early rock-n-roller, pioneer of the Twist
Winston Churchill       U.K. Prime Minister during WWII
J.J. Clarke             Canadian CJOH weathercaster
Grover Cleveland        U.S. president
Bill Clinton            U.S. president
Rosemary Clooney        big band singer, actor
James Coco              U.S. actor
Mindy Cohn              actor (Facts of Life, The Second Half)
Samuel T. Coleridge     poet, philosopher
Kim Coles               actress (In Loving Color, Living Single)
Robbie Coltrane         British actor (The Pope Must Die)
Darlene Conley          U.S. soap actor
William Conrad          U.S. TV/radio actor (Gunsmoke, Jake and the Fat Man)
Jackie Coogan           actor (Uncle Fester on The Addams Family TV show)
Lou Costello            Abbott and Costello
John Crosbie            Canadian politician
David Crosby            rock singer, Crosby, Stills, & Nash (& Young)
Richard J. Daley, Richard M. Daley
                       Mayors of Chicago (father and son)
Dom DeLuise             U.S. comedian and character actor (The End)
Peter DeLuise           U.S. TV actor (21 Jump Street)
Lori Beth Denberg       actress (Nickelodeon's "All That" and film "Good
                       Burger").
Brian Dennehy           actor (Cocoon, Best Seller, Perfect Witness,
                       Presumed Innocent)
"Curly Joe" DeRita      actor (The Three Stooges)
Andy Devine             actor
Danny DeVito            U.S. TV and movie actor and director
Colleen Dewhurst        actor
Divine                  female impersonator, actor (Orlando, Hairspray,
                       Pink Flamingos)
Fats Dominoe            blues/rock musician
Marie Dressler          stage, film actor (Min and Bill)
Minnie Driver           British movie actress
Mike Duffy              Canadian CBC political commentator
Harvey B. Dunne         actor (Ed Wood films)
Christopher Durang      playwright, cabaret singer
Charles Dutton          actor
Jane Eaglen             opera singer
Roger Ebert             film reviewer
Cass Elliot             singer (Mama Cass of The Mamas and the Papas)
Missy "Misdemeanor"
       Elliott         rap singer
Fabulous Sports Babe    Sports Talk Show host on ESPN radio
Chris Farley            US TV/movie actor (SNL, Tommy Boy, Wayne's World,
                       Black Sheep)
Conchata Farrell        U.S. TV actor (L.A. Law, Hearts Afire)
Sarah Ferguson          Duchess of York
Gianfranco Ferre        clothing designer
Cecil Fielder           U.S. baseball player
Totie Fields            comedian
W.C. Fields             movie actor/comedian (My Little Chickadee)
Harvey Fierstein        actor, playwright (Torch Song Trilogy)
Ella Fitzgerald         jazz singer
Fred Flintstone         animated cartoon character
Aretha Franklin         singer
Dennis Franz            TV actor (NYPD Blue, Hill Street Blues)
Dawn French             British comedian, author of *Big Knits* and
                       *Great Big Knits*
Frosty the Snowman      character in song and cartoon
Stephen Furst           US TV actor/comedian (Babylon 5)
Artemisia Gentileschi   Renaissance painter of the Caravaggist school;
                       painted sturdy, realistic women
Jack Germond            political columnist/commentator (Baltimore Sun,
                       McLaughlin Group TV show)
Dizzie Gillespie        jazz musician
Newt Gingrich           U.S. politician, Speaker of the House
Jackie Gleason          actor, comedian, composer (The Honeymooners)
John Goodman            U.S. TV and movie actor (Roseanne, Barton Fink)
Sidney Greenstreet      character actor from the 30s-40s
Buddy Hackett           U.S. comedian and actor
Alan Hale Sr.           actor in many old movies (Little John in
                       Errol Flynn version of Robin Hood)
Alan Hale Jr.           actor (Skipper in Gilligan's Island, West Point
                       Story, To the Shores of Tripoli)
Oliver Hardy            actor/comedian (Laurel and Hardy)
Jackee Harry            actress (227 and Sister, Sister)
Jo Anne Hart (Mother Love) US TV personality
Heavy D                 rap singer
Henry VIII              king of England; founded Church of England
Bobby Hill              cartoon character, "King of The Hill"
Hank Hill               cartoon character, "King of The Hill"
Alfred Hitchcock        film director
Mara Hobel              TV/movie actress, Claire Makes It Big
Billie Holliday         blues and jazz singer
Bob Hope                comedian, movie actor (The Road Movies)
Bob Hoskins             British TV and movie actor (Mona Lisa, Roger Rabbit)
Curly Howard            actor (The Three Stooges)
Howlin' Wolf            Mississippi bluesman (recorded "Three Hundred
                       Pounds of Joy" and "Built for Comfort")
Sammo Hung              martial-arts actor (Martial Law; Enter the Fat
                       Dragon; Skinny Tiger, Fatty Dragon)
Tony Iommi              guitarist, Black Sabbath
Burl Ives               actor
Jabba the Hut           evil alien in _Star Wars_
Mahalia Jackson         singer
Jigglypuff              cartoon character, "Pokemon"
James Earl Jones        actor (Star Wars, Lion King)
Mother Jones            feminist, labor organizer
Star Jones              attorney, Inside Edition correspondent
Wynona Judd             country wester singer, The Judds
George Kennedy          actor (Naked Gun)
Brian Keith             TV actor (Uncle Bill on Family Affair)
Ted Kennedy             U.S. Senator, D-Massachusetts
B.B. King               singer
Wayne Knight            U.S. actor (Seinfeld, Jurassic Park)
Konishiki               largest (and perhaps most popular ever) sumo
                       wrestler, from Hawaii
Yaphet Kotto            actor (Homocide, Midnight Run, Alien)
John Kruk               U.S. baseball player
Fiorello LaGuardia      former New York City mayor
Greg Lake               lead singer, Emerson Lake and Palmer
Ricki Lake              U.S. TV/movie actor and talk-show host (Hairspray,
                       Ricki Lake Show, China Beach, BabyCakes)
Judy Lamarsh            Canadian politician
David Lange             former New Zealand Prime Minister
Mario Lanza             opera singer in 50s movies, "The American Caruso"
Queen Latifah           rap singer
Charles Laughton        actor (Hunchback of Notre Dame, Mutiny on the Bounty)
Blackie Lawless         Guitarist/vocalist, shock rockers W.A.S.P.
Rush Limbaugh           U.S. right-wing political commentator
Tone Loc                rap artist
Rita MacNeil            Canadian singer
Marjorie Main           character actor (Ma Kettle of The Egg and
                       I and Ma and Pa Kettle movies)
Camryn Manheim          U.S. TV/Movie Actor (The Practice, Road to
                       Wellville); writer (Wake Up I'm Fat); teacher
Hattie McDaniels        movie actor (Gone with the Wind)
Spanky McFarlane        60s pop musician
William McKinley        Former U.S. president
Meatloaf                rock singer (Bat Out of Hell, Rocky Horror Picture
                       Show, Leap of Faith)
Ethel Merman            actor/singer, (Annie Get Your Gun,
                       No Business Like Show Business)
Michelin Man            advertising mascot
John McCoy              Member of "Mammoth" heavy metal band
Barbara Mikulski        U.S. Senator, Democrat from Maryland
Bette Midler            singer, comedian, actor
Oliver Miller           U.S. basketball player
Michael Moore           Movie and TV director (Roger & Me, TV Nation)
Nicky Moore             Member of "Mammoth" heavy metal band
Zero Mostel             comedian, actor (A Funny Thing Happened on the
                       Way to the Forum, Waiting for Godot)
Alison Moyet            singer / songwriter ("Only You", "Is This Love",
                       "Whispering Your Name")
Jenny Murray            (Woman's Hour - UK)
Kathy Najimy            comedian, actor (The Kathy and Mo Show,
                       Sister Act, Witches of Eastwick)
Nero                    ancient Roman emperor
Stevie Nicks            pop singer (Fleetwood Mac)
Jessye Norman           opera singer
Carroll O'Connor        U.S. TV actor
Rosie O'Donnell         U.S. movie actor (A League of Their Own,
                       Now and Then)
Vince Neil              vocalist, Motley Crue
Tip O'Neill             U.S. politician, former Speaker of the House
Jimmy Page              guitarist, ex- Led Zeppelin/Coverdale/Page
Sandi Patty             contemporary Gospel singer
Vinnie Paul             drummer, heavy metal superstars Pantera
Luciano Pavarotti       opera singer
Mary Jo Pehl            Writer and actress (Mystery Science Theater 3000)
William
 "Refrigerator" Perry  U.S. football player
Rikishi Phatu           WWF wrestler
Miss Piggy              Muppet character
Pillsbury Doughboy      advertising mascot
Matt Pinfield           ex-MTV veejay
John Popper             musician (Blues Traveller)
Elvis Presley           rock star
Paul Prudhomme          chef
Anthony Quinn           actor
Ma Rainey               jazz & blues singer
Ramanujan               early 20th-century mathematician
Rob Reiner              U.S. film director/actor (When Harry Met Sally,
                       Bullets Over Broadway)
John Rhys-Davies        TV actor (Sliders)
Edward G. Robinson      movie actor (gangster movies, The 10 Commandments)
Rolly                   cartoon character, 101 Dalmatians
Linda Ronstadt          pop/country music singer
Chad Rowan              (aka Yokozuna Akebono) top-ranked sumo wrestler
                       from Hawaii
Babe Ruth               Former U.S. baseball player
Marianne Sagebrecht     movie actor (War of the Roses, Bagdad Cafe,
                       Sugarbaby, Rosalie Goes Shopping)
Santa Claus             mythological character
Alexie Sayle            Comedian
Beverly Sills           opera singer and director
Gene Simmons            Bassist/ vocalist, heavy metal superstars KISS
Homer Simpson           cartoon character (The Simpsons)
Bart Simpson            cartoon underachiver and proud of it man.
Anna Nicole Smith       large-size model (she is not, by any
                       reasonable standard, fat)
Cyril Smith             British politician now in the House of Lords
Kate Smith              singer (sang God Bless America during WWII)
Mel Smith               of Smith and Jones
Matt Sorum              drummer, ex-Guns N' Roses/Cult
Burno Ve Sota           actor in B-Grade horror movies
Wendy Jo Sperber        U.S. TV/movie actor (Bosom Buddies, I Wanna
                       Hold Your Hand, 1941, Hearts of Fire)
Elizabeth Cady Stanton  19th century feminist writer and lecturer
David Ogden Stiers      actor (MASH, Beauty & The Beast, Perry Mason)
Sally Struthers         singer, actor
Sharon Sweet            operatic soprano
William Howard Taft     Former U.S. president
Danny Tamberelli        US TV comedian ("All That")
Elizabeth Taylor        actress
Teletubbies             children's show characters
Kenan Thompson          US TV comedian ("All That")
Big Mama Thornton       blues singer
"Tiny"                  world champion sumo wrestler
Mel Torme               jazz singer
Liz Torres              U.S. TV actor (Mahalia on John Laroquette)
Friar Tuck              character in story "Robin Hood"
Peter Tuiasosopo        actor (sumo in Street Fighter)
Big Joe Turner          blues shouter
Abigail Van Buren       Newspaper advice columnist Dear Abby
Vivien Vance            actress (I Love Lucy)
Luther Vandross         singer
Reginald velJohnson     actor (Die Hard, Family Matters)
Fats Waller             musician/composer
Martha Wash             singer (Two Tons of Fun, The Weather Girls)
Al Waxman               Canadian actor
Orson Wells             actor, writer/director (Citizen Kane)
George Wendt            actor
Leslie West             guitarist, ex-Mountain, aka "The Great Fatsby"
Mae West                actor, comedian (My Little Chickadee)
Forest Whitacre         film actor
Barry White             soul singer
Oscar Wilde             poet, novelist, playwright
Ann Wilson              singer (Heart)
Brian Wilson            singer (Beach Boys)
Carnie Wilson           TV personality, singer (Wilson Phillips)
Nancy Wilson            singer (Heart)
Oprah Winfrey           U.S. TV/movie actor (Women of Brewster Place,
                       The Color Purple), talk-show host
Jonathon Winters        comedian, actor (It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad,
                       Mad, Mad World)
Shelley Winters         actor
Nero Wolfe              fictional detective in Rex Stout novels
Victoria Wood           UK comedian and comedy writer
Yokozuna Takanohana     top-ranked sumo wrestler

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A4)     What is International No-Diet Day?

The annual International No Diet Day is May 6.
The main web site is http://www.eskimo.com/~largesse/INDD/

International No-Diet Day is a day to:

       Declare a moratorium on diet/weight obsession.

       Learn the facts about weight-loss dieting, health, and body
       size.

       Celebrate the natural beauty and diversity of our sizes and
       shapes.

       Affirm every*body*'s right to health, fitness, and emotional
       well-being.

       Recognize how dieting perpetuates violence against women.

       Honor the victims and survivors of eating disorders and
       weight-loss surgery.

       Work to end fat oppression and size discrimination.

International No Diet Day is sponsored by a network of size rights,
anti-diet, feminist, and lesbian activists and organizations.

A5)     What are some responses to the standard offensive things said to
       fat people? Do you know any *positive* fat jokes? What are some
       slogans for size-acceptance?

This list is compiled from posts to s.s.f-a and a.s.b-f. If you have
additional slogans/jokes/responses, please do send them in.

COMEBACKS/RESPONSES

Some of these responses are intended to put off criticism, some are
intended to educate the critic, some are just intended to blow off
steam, some are intended to simply get the critic to shut up. Think
about what message they'll send before you use them.

If you are ever physically threatened (or hit) by someone who is
harassing you for your weight, have someone call the cops, and have the
person arrested for assault and/or battery. Someone once slapped a fork
out of Lee Martindale's hand while she was eating in a restaurant. She
had the restaurant owner call the police and had the woman arrested for
assault.

And now that I've warned you of know the potential penalties for
physical assault, here is one person's response to offensive statements:

          For an extremely fat person, I've been very lucky.  I'm 6'4", so
       regardless of how fat people think I am, they rarely mention it
       for fear that I'll kill them or something.  But every once in a
       while, someone will take it upon themselves to correct me at the
       store, or mention that I don't "need that."
          When that happens, I do something.  See, I got tired of being
       the only one in the room who was humiliated when someone was
       rude.  So when someone says something rude, I pull out a squirt
       gun and let them have it right in the face.  Four or five
       squirts.
          The reaction to this is amazing.  They get a look of abject
       horror, as if I'd sprayed them with acid.  Then they're
       humiliated, because nobody's sprayed them with water in a public
       place since they were seven, and they don't know how to handle
       it.
          I tell them I used to work in a pet store, and when the dogs or
       the cats acted up, I'd squirt them with water to get them back
       into line. Then I say "It works on all dumb animals, as you can
       see.  Was there anything else you wanted to comment on?"
          This pulls the rug out from under these people with such
       totality that I've never had anyone say a damned thing.  I must
       say, it's quite satisfying to ruin THEIR day for once. -- Don
       Derwin ([email protected])


Sue Widemark wrote: "I remember my mom, always around 300 lbs (our
family is all genetically large), deciding one day that she was tired of
the word 'fat' and would substitute the word, 'slender'. She was then
becoming more slender even if she ate a bunch of slender-ing foods.  And
she could then call us (when she was annoyed at us), 'slender'-heads. It
did make for some funny situations."


Another web site with comebacks for people who bug you about your size:
They are all relatively polite, and some may function to  make the
people stop and realize their rudeness. (You can add to the list.)


In response to "That big fat man just went for his THIRD bag of popcorn."
        "PARDON me, but I want to just let you know, my husband and
       I are going over to La Pinata to eat right now, in case you
       wanted to come along and take notes on what he has to eat for
       dinner."

In response to pointing, giggling, and whispering:
        "You must be staring at me because of my 'super' model
       qualities. Do you have a camera? If you take a picture of me I
       would be more than glad to autograph it."
        (if teenagers are doing it) "EEEEWWWW LOOK! TEENAGERS!"

In response to "You have such a pretty face."
        "Thank you! It goes along with my pretty body!"
        "Yes, I look far more pretty now than when I was skinny!"
        "You should see how beautiful my *body* is!"
        "No, no... It's too late for flattery."
        "Keep trying.  Maybe you can get one too."
        "Yes, your (husband, wife, mother or whatever) mentioned it
       at the motel last night."
        "Did YOU ever have one?"
        "If only everyone were as nice as you are to mention it!
       Thanks, for being such a nice person. You look good too!"
        "You think my face is something, you should see my ass!"
        "And you have such a great body, if only your face didn't
       look like it was set on fire and put out with an axe. Have you
       considered plastic surgery?"
        (One woman reports talking to a man who said, "You have
       such a pretty face..." Assuming this was a backhanded
       compliment, she began to finish for him "If only...", when he
       interrupted her with, "If only you were mine." :)

In response to "You have such a pretty face, if only..."
        "Why would I want my body to match your narrow mind?"
        "Oh, I used to have a pretty body and an ugly face, but the
       damn Genie said it was an either/or situation."

In response to "Look at that fat ass!"
        "I'd rather have my fat ass than your narrow mind!"

In response to "Oh, you'd be such a pretty girl if you just lost all
that weight."
        "Gee, you'd be such an intelligent person if you didn't make
        statements like that."
        "I am beautiful just the way I am."
        "I'm pretty now."
        "But I don't need to lose weight. Do I look like I need to
       lose weight?"
        "No, then I'd look like you (your mother, your sister,
etc.)."
        "And in a perfect world you wouldn't be insensitive and
insulting."
        "And if you had bigger tits and no head you could be Jayne
       Mansfield."
        "Lose weight?  Why, then I'd be only half the woman I am
now!  Don't you know how much time and effort goes into all this
wonderful fat?"

In response to "You would feel much better if you lost weight."
        "Actually, I'm very comfortable with my weight; it's YOUR
       manners that are the problem."

In response to "You carry your weight so well."
        "Like what else am I going to do with it?  Leave it in the
       car while I go shopping?"

In response to "You don't need that."
        "You're absolutely right. I don't *need* it. I *want* it.
       If I needed it, it would mean that I was addicted to it, the way
       you seem to be addicted to making stupid remarks."
        "Sure I do. You just don't know what you're talking about."
        "In the same way that I don't need your butting in."
        "I'd pay you for that advice, if I thought it were worth anything."
        "Well I'm sure as hell not going to let YOU have it."
        "Are you a doctor?  Do you play one on TV?"

In response to unsolicited diet advice:
        "Mom? (Dad?) Is that you?"  Look the person right through
       the eyes as if trying to see the inside of their skull, to see
       if they are the reincarnation of that long-lost nagging parent.
        "How dare you assume I'd rather be thin!"
        "That's great. Do you have any tips for removing pet odors
       from carpeting?"
        "Oh, I can't diet -- my doctor told me I had to gain some
       weight!" They know I'm pulling their leg but then I look so
       serious that they don't want to go against my doctor.

In response to some comment about "ugly fat":
        "The only ugly fat in this room is in your head."
        "I used to think it was ugly too, then I heard what you
       said, and now I know what ugly really is."

In response to "You shouldn't be eating that":
        Spit the food out onto them, then say:
       "Thank God you told me that! Why, that food could have killed me!"
        "But if I don't, I'll have to rub it into my hair, and you
       know how messy that can be.  No, I think it's best if I go ahead
       and eat it."

In response to "Do you know how many calories that has?"
        "Yes."
        "How many?"
        "No, but give me a little time to research it, and I'll try
       to find out for you."
        "No, I'm not a musician. And that's a stupid name for a song."
        "Fifty percent less than it used to. I've already eaten half
       of it."

In response to "You know that isn't good for people like you":
        "I'm shocked. I'd never thought of you as a racist."
        "Yes it is. You're just not up on the latest research."
        "Are you sure?  It TASTES good."
        "What about for YOUR kind of people?"

In response to "I'm so faaaaaaat!":
        (pretending to see barely detectable fat) "Yes."
        "Yes, you are getting fat."
        "I know how you feel. I used to have a weight problem myself."
        "So what. Even at 110, you wouldn't look like Christy Brinkley.
        I like you just as you are, wrinkles and all. Why can't you?"
        "That's OK. I still like you."
        "Hell, that's nothing. I've got cellulite bigger than that."
        "Yeah, you're such a cow!  What do you wear, an 8?  If I
       were that big, I'd just kill myself!"

In response to "I'm having a 'fat day'":
        (cheerfully) "Me too! Isn't it wonderful?"
        "Is that it?  I thought you were suppressing flatulence."

In response to a worried question "Have I put on weight?":
        "Yes! You look terrific! Someday, maybe the two of us will
       shop for clothes together."
        "Well I'm no expert..."

In response to "I feel HUGE!":
        "Would you like to accompany me to the next NAAFA meeting?
       NAAFA is a place where huge folk can really relax."
        "You want to feel me for comparison?"

In response to "I'm getting so fat":
        "Subconsciously, you are trying to broaden that narrow mind
       of yours, but you have expanded your 'middle' instead of your
       'mind'."
        "No, you're just a lot shorter than you used to be."
        "What does that make me, the mother ship?"
        If the person saying this is pregnant: "No, you're
       pregnant. *I* am fat!"

In response to "I need to get in shape!":
        "Choose the shape 'triangle' and save your energy for more
        important problems."
        "That's a relief. I knew it was one of us."

In response to "I'm going on Optifast":
        "I've decided to give the $5000 I would have spent on Optifast
        to end world hunger.  My contribution to the world as a
        'decorative' thin person would be so much less."
        "Don't bother.  I'll teach you my plan."
        "I gargle with that, after I eat enough for four people."
        "I ate five dozen doughnuts for breakfast, and I'm still
       going on them."

In response to "I look like a beached whale":
        "I have a theory that the emotional response people have to
        whale beachings is due to transference of the need to preserve
        maternal symbols."
        "No you don't... but have you ever seen a manatee?"
        "But you have a pretty face, like me."

In response to "You look like a whale":
        "And I have seen wonders in the deep you haven't dreamt of."
        "And I can sing, too."

In response to grousing about how awful it is to diet:
        "Yeah, isn't dieting awful. That's why I just don't do it any
        more!"
        "But it's better than a sharp stick in the eye... no, wait a
       minute..."
        "But if you don't keep going on diets, you can never look
       like me."

In response to the accusation that people who are attracted to large
people have a "fetish":
        "Many men are attracted only to women who weigh between 105 and
        120 pounds. I, on the other hand, am attracted to women who
        weigh between 150 and 500 pounds. Now you tell *me* who has a
        'fetish'!"
        ""No, wanting to dress a fat person in a gorilla suit,
       sitting naked in front of them, trying to dice potatoes with
       your genitals, while reciting the pledge of allegence in a
       Cockney accent... THAT'S a fetish!"

In response to "You'd rather be fat than thin?":
        "I'd rather be me than you."
        "Yes."
        Maybe. How thin are you talking about?
        "I didn't know you were going to give me a choice. Let me
       get back to you."
        "I'd RATHER be in Hawaii."
        "Did it ever occur to you that maybe I LIKE to be fat?"

In response to any comment not spoken directly to you, but clearly
intended for your hearing:
        "You know, I'm fat. I'm not deaf." (accompany with a withering
       stare)
        "I'm sorry, but I couldn't help overhearing you. You might
       want to hold it down, so others won't know what an asshole you
       are."

In response to "Inside you there is a thin person screaming to get out":
        "Just the one, dear?"
        (burp slightly into one's fist) "He's not screaming anymore."
        "Shhhh... I'm hiding Jimmy Hoffa."
        "And I'm not letting him/her out until there's a reward."
        "That's my conjoined twin."
        "No, I have a huge navel."
        "Outside every thin person is a fat person screaming to get in."

In response to "You've gained weight" (a suggestion from the venerable
Miss Manners):
        "Why, thank you; how kind of you to notice."

In response to "Are you pregnant?":
        "No, just fat!"  (beaming at them like a proud parent)
        "No. Are you?"
        "No. Why?"
        "No, but I have been thinking of painting my living room" (or
        some other completely unrelated comment...)
        "No, but the night is still young..."
        "No, just voluptous."
        "No, just cuddly."
        "No, but I am tired" (or hungry or sleepy or anything else that
        you really are)
        "What a personal question!"
        "What a pick-up line!"
        "I can't believe you asked me that!"
        "Is THAT where babies come from?  Finally!"
        "Why? Is a star rising in the East?"
        To a child: "No, I'm fat. People come in all kinds of shapes and
       sizes."
        "I think it's just fat, but stick your head up my ass and
       see if you can tell."

In response to "When's the baby due?":
        "In about ten years."
        (huge, proud grin) "He's 15."
        "In about nine months, but we have to get started right away!"
        "Due for what?"

In response to "What have you got in there, a baby?" said to a man:
        "No, an elephant." [reaching for zipper] "You wanna see the
       trunk?"

In response to the insult "You're fat -- take up jogging!":
        "You're rude -- take up eating soap!"
        "You're right -- step in front of a train."
        "I'm beyond fat, so I figure I'm also beyond jogging."
        "I did.  What do you think made me so fat?"

In response to the insult "You're fat!":
        "And you're rude. Which is worse?"
        "I'm fat but I can lose weight. You'll always be
        stupid/mean/rude."
        "Yes, I am."
        "Yup and some day if you're lucky you'll be fat too!"
        "Oh yeah?  So what am I?"
        "Is that it?  I thought I'd been looking in a funhouse mirror."
        "Oh, you're just saying that because I'm obese."
        "Do you want me to sit on your face?"

In response to "You're too fat!":
        "Too fat for what?" This works quite well if you say it in
       a really serious, quizzical way, and look at the person as if
       you expect an answer. I've never yet seen anyone come up with an
       answer that makes any sense when put on the spot. If they just
       say "you know, too fat!", keep shaking your head in a friendly
       way, like you just don't understand what they could possibly
       mean. And if you're feeling really sassy, add a big smile and a
       "What did you have in mind, honey?"

In response to a comment to a woman about how she looks masculine:
        "Yeah, sometimes I get mistaken for a man. Do you?"
        "I'm more man than you'll ever be, and more woman than you'll
        ever have."

General purpose comebacks:
        "People come in all sizes. So do minds."
        "Do you think you still feel the same way if you were
       intelligent?"
        "I hope you're not talking to me ... and so do you!"
       (delivered with a cold, cutting gaze, and a no-nonsense voice)
        "My doctor said I'm going to die in the next two months, and
       I'm really worried. I hope you'll have a wonderful life though."
        Miss Manners's catchall answer: "I BEG your pardon!"

In response to "You look like you've lost weight!":
        "No. In fact, I've actually gained some. Do I look sick or
        something?"
        "You think so? I hadn't noticed."
        "No, but I'm glad you think I look *good*. I do *feel* really
        good."
        "I've lost weight? Really? Oh no!!!! Is there a lost and found
        here?"

In response to "You've gained weight!":
        "And you are as observant as ever!"
        "And I'm so much happier now that I don't obsess about it."
        "Are you absolutely sure about that?"
        "And your point?"
        "Yes."
        "Yes, and I've never felt better."
        "How sweet! You noticed!"
        "I was starting to miss my womanly figure."
        "Yeah, that's right. I like the curvy look"
        "Yeah, I decided it was more fun being happy and fat than thin
        and miserable."
        "Yep, look, test how huggable I am now!!"
        "My goodness! You know, you're absolutely right!"
        "It was the result of a freak eating accident."
        "I tried gaining Spanish doubloons, but weight was all I got."
        "And 'you've got mail.'"

In response to "Don't eat that, you'll get fat."
        "I already am fat."

In response to a child asking why you're fat:
        "There are all kinds of people in this world. There are bigger
        people, and there are smaller people. And I am one of the
        bigger people."

In response to a child declaring "You're fat" in a way that is obviously
not intended as an insult:
        "Yes, I am.  And you're {small, short, whatever}"

In response to a parent punishing a child for making an observant
comment about your being fat:
        "Excuse me, I don't have a problem with me being fat. Why do
        you?"

In response to someone pointing out to you that you're fat:
        "Oh my god, when did that happen??????"
        "Alert the media!"

In response to "Why are you still fat if you are vegan?"
        "Because my two wonderful grandmothers gave me these genes."
        "So _someone_ can be living proof that not all fat people
       eat junk food."
        "To survive better in the next famine than thin people."
        "Because my ancestors lived through lots of hunger and
       their bodies learned how to store food."
        "So I can be voluptuous and curvy, and jiggle when I walk."
        "Because I like not fitting into airplane seats and having
       people ask rude questions."

In response to "I wouldn't wear that outfit if I were you":
        "You're right. I don't think it would look anywhere near as nice
        if it was on you."

In response to "why don't you just exercise?"
        "Every time I get the urge to exercise, I just lie down
       'till it goes away."
        (Whipping out gym card) "More than 5 times a week?
       I'm game, meet you there?"
        "And what makes you think I don't get any exercise?"
       -- If they reply "because you're fat," give the names of some
       big athletes or weightlifters

In response to "I'd date you if you lost some weight":
        "Oh, no problem, I was looking for something a bit higher up on
        the evolutionary ladder anyway."
        "Thank goddess!  Since I'm staying this way, you're one less man
        I have to turn down gracefully!"
        "If I had wanted to date you, I would have asked you out by
        now."
        "I wouldn't date you if: (fill in the blank)

                "You grew a brain."
                "You offered me a million dollars."
                "You paid me."
                "You begged."
                "You were the King of Siam."
                "You quit being a horse's ass."

        "Oh that's all right, with a husband, two boyfriends and a
        girlfriend, I've got enough dates already!"
        "There is really nothing you could do in return that would make
        me consider dating you."
        "That's OK. I don't date beneath me."
        "I'd date you if you were smarter."
        "Thanks for saving me the trouble of rejecting you later."
        "Whatever made you think I'd want to be seen with you?"
        "I'm sorry, were you talking to me?"
        "Then it's a good thing I wasn't planning on dating you, isn't
        it?"
        "How kind of you to say so."
        "If you don't take me fat, you won't get me thin!"
        "You're not good enough to go out with me now, so why do you
        think you'd be good enough to  go out with me if I lost
        weight."

In response to "If you don't lose weight, you'll never find a man."
        "Eeewwww!  A _man_?  No way!"

In response to "You have a weight problem":
       "I don't have a weight problem. I'm fat. *You* have a weight
       problem."

To obnoxious people in general:
        "If you don't like me fat, what makes you think you will like me
        thin? I am the same person inside and out!"
        "If you're so much better than me, then how come I am a happy
        and successful business executive with a husband I love, and
        you are a piece of shit who can only make himself feel
        worthwhile by belittling others?"

In response to comments about another person who has "really let
themself go" (and gotten fat):
        If the person does not seem to be "letting themselves go", point
       out that they seem happy, that they still wear nice clothes, and
       that they still groom themselves carefully. If the person does
       seem to be "letting themselves go", redirect the conversation to
       point out genuine signs of "going to seed", and voice concern
       about the real problem: unhappiness, stress, ill health,
       whatever.

In response to relatives you hassle you about your weight:
        Look down at the floor, dejected, and say quietly "I'm sorry you
       can't love me the way I am". And repeat it to every "helpful"
       thing they say. Guilt. It's not just for relatives anymore!
        "I'm a [blank] year old woman, and I believe I can decide
       what I do and do not need to do, but thank you for your input."

For comments when someone is making a point and the statement ends with
"...because you're fat":
       In a sarcastic manner, respond, "and here we thought you
       were a blind rocket scientist."

For comments that you should lose weight to improve your health:
       "I was born in 1947 and all my life I've been told my weight
       was a health hazard although I've had hardly a day's illness in
       my life, but many people born the same year as me and who've
       been thin all their lives - are dead."
        "I must have missed something. Where did you say you went
       to medical school, Doctor?"  [And if you ever get someone who
       turns out to BE a medical doctor, you can always ask: "And did
       they teach you to give medical advice without taking any medical
       history and without any tests?" If they ever answer yes to that
       you can ask for their card, and add that you will take care
       never to consult them, because you prefer an MD who thinks
       before giving advice.]

For people who push herbal fat remedies:
        "Forget to take your rude sob herbal cure this morning?"
        "I'm not really interested in that, do you have one that
       will bring world peace and end [latest media obsession]?"
        "Last time that happened to me, I asked the helpful lady
       what percentage of her lean body weight she could bench press.
       She didn't know, so I told here that unless it was 100% or
       better, I didn't take workout program advice from weaklings."

For salespeople who say "We don't have anything in YOUR size":
        [holding up a pair of tiny stretch pants] "If I want to
       wear these as socks it's my business, now go away."


FAT-POSITIVE FAT JOKES

Fat-related ASCII codes (Contributed by Robin King):

Weight loss clubs:                      $fat
Fat acceptance:                         =fat
Internet resources on fatness:          @fat
Bodybuilders:                           %fat
Fat hotline:                            *fat
Liposuction:                            -fat
Fat-accepting Masseurs/Masseuses:       #fat

"She's SOOOOO fat!"
"How fat is she?"
"She works at the airport kick-starting 747s."
        Contributed by Sharon Curtis, who likes it because she feels
       it conveys an image of *power*.
At about 300 pounds, William Howard Taft was our fattest president.
Wiseacre Chauncey Depew once quipped that he looked like he was about to
give birth. Taft replied, "If I give birth to a son, I shall name it
John. If I give birth to a daughter, I shall name it Mary. But if it is,
as I suspect, nothing but a great bag of wind, I shall name it Chauncey
Depew."
        Contributed by Lenore Levine.

"How many fat-acceptance zealots does it take to change a lightbulb?"
"I don't know, how many?"
"You can't change a lightbulb."
        Contributed by Stef Jones

"How many fat-acceptance zealots does it take to change a lightbulb?"
"I don't know, how many?"
"First, we have to write letters of protest to the company that made
the ladder, because it's only rated to 200 pounds...."
        Contributed by Sator Arepo

"How many fat-acceptance zealots does it take to change a lightbulb?"
"I don't know, how many?"
"The lightbulb is just fine, darkness is great!"
        Contributed by Rachel Priebee

How many fat-acceptance zealots does it take to change a lightbulb?
I don't know, how many?
Change? Why does the lightbulb need to change? It's so lovely and round
and sensual the way it is!
        Contributed by Araiguma

I have a very young tabby kitten (8 weeks) who has a tubby little
tummy. How can I tactfully convince him to switch to vertical stripes
which would be more flattering than his current horizontal ones?
        Contributed by Mark Denman

I, personally, prefer my former-skinny-stray-now-obese-Charley's choice
of tasteful black with a tidy white throatpiece. Black, after all, is
so slenderizing.
        Contributed by Phyllis

(A joke from Scientific American.  Equally balanced towards thin and
fat people, and not hurtful to either):

They were reporting on some whizzy new computer program that could model
how fabrics hang. Warp, weft, weight and other factors all affect the
way that fabrics hang. They had a little picture of a cloth draped over
a table, and a computer image that showed how well the simulation
matched reality. I think the idea is that eventually it'll be used to model how clothing will hang from people. But the article warns that this isn't available yet. So far the hang has only been tried on tabletops and spheres. So they said unless you're very thin or very fat, they wouldn't bother just yet :-)
        Contributed by Sharon Curtis

Big, Bold and Beautiful, a Toronto clothing store and mail order place
has recently made a commercial which will be airing in southern Ontario.
Apparently in the commercial starring Jacqueline Hope, the President of
BBB and a BBW herself she looks seductively into the camera and says
"Some men will try and tell you that more than a handful is wasteful,
but you know what they say about men with small hands..."
        Contributed by Sherry Anderson

I was with my 11th year (11th grade) class on the birthday of one girl,
and was asked to sing her my own version of Happy Birthday, which I'd
sung when these folk were much younger. I was planning to do it when the
class quieted down, before they left. I feel pretty safe with this
group, we have a pretty good relationship. So when one student said, a
bit prematurely, "Can we leave, sir?" I said, nice and loud: "The class
isn't over till the fat man sings!" It got a big, hesitant laugh. There
was something good about me acknowledging with some pride that I am
"fat", and not ashamed of it or try to keep it as a taboo word or
subject, as long as it's used with respect.

A man was hassling his wife about going on a diet.
She sez: "Last time I was at the doctor's, he said I had a good body for
my age."
He sez: "And what did he say about your big ass?"
She sez: "Your name never came up."
        Contributed by Martha Koester

SLOGANS

Some of these slogans are available on
buttons, magnets, and keychains from SeaFATtle (http://www.wolfenet.com/~marymc/buttons.htm)
or from NAAFA
(http://naafa.org/Html_web_store/html_web_store.cgi)

More slogans are available at the International No Diet Day web site:

One woman was sick of people in her aerobics class assuming she was
trying to lose weight. She had a T-shirt printed up with the slogan: HOW
DARE YOU PRESUME I'D RATHER BE THIN! (Also seen on a button.)

KISS MY FAT ASS (stickers available in 2 sizes 1x5 and 3x11; small are
free with a stamped, self-addressed envelope; big are $1 US with SASE.
Donations accepted. Send to: Max Airborne 2215-R Market St. #193 San
Francisco, CA  94114  USA)

Fattitude Adjusters (tm) Fat-positive business cards that say "Thank you
for your assistance with my size-related needs." $1.25 per 10 plus 33
cents postage to S R Productions P.O. Box 832571 Richardson, TX 75083

Seen on a T-shirt (from Castles Direct) "If this were the 1500s, I'd be
a goddess!"

Lee Martindale was identified in a column in the Dallas Morning News as
a "fiery fatvocate".

"A waist is a terrible thing to mind."

"Being a model means wearing clothes and not eating. I'd rather eat and
take off my clothes." (Seen on a button.)

Seen on a bumper sticker: "Scales are for fish, NOT women."

Seen on a bumper sticker: "I'm built for comfort, not for speed."

"Fat isn't a fault, it's a feature."

"Fat people are harder to kidnap."

"Everything is beautiful -- in its own weigh."

Been there, done that, outgrew the T-shirt.

And the brains are even bigger!

Butch Nerd -- soft body, hard mind

Vertically challenged and horizontally gifted -- can't reach the shelf
and can't see my feet!

Seen on a button: Fattitude!

Seen on a button: Fat free? I don't THINK so!

Fighting Fit- Not fighting Fat

Fit, Fat and Forty+

Let's make a deal: I won't worry about your (small) mind, if you won't
worry about my (larger) body

For a button: If you don't like looking at fat people, how come you're
reading this?

Just Say Fat!

Livin' Large

No, I DON'T want to hear about your latest weight-loss miracle product.

Don't live hungry

Perfect exactly the way I am

Fat and Sassy

Wild Fat Grrrl

Chubby Chaser

Fuck Dieting

Life is a banquet...Why are you starving yourself?

Big! Bold! Beautiful!

Straight, but DEFINITELY not narrow!

Phat

Warning: I sit on fat bashers!

Fat & All That!

Flabulous!

Beware the Diet Nazis, for they are hungry and mean!

NO, FAT CHICKS
wouldn't have you!
(first three words in a different color or larger size; takes the p***
out of the 'No fat chicks' slogan)

Large and in Charge

Don't Weigh Your Self-Esteem

Fat by Nature, Proud by Choice

Women of Substance

Diets (surrounded by international No symbol)

Other names for fat women (and fat people):
        Big, Bad Bitch
        Big, Beautiful Woman
        Fabulous Fat Babe
        Gravitationally Enhanced
        Person of Flesh
        Person of High Calibre
        Plumpsuous
        Sizeable Woman
        Substantial Woman
        Woman of High Caliber
        Woman of Size
        Woman of Stature
        Woman of Substance
        Women of Weight
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A6)     Are there any movies/videos on fat acceptance and fat people?

Some videos are also listed in section A2 on famous
fat artists, and in the Publications FAQ.

The Famine Within
       Documentary about weight as a cultural and class issue. Not
       entirely pro-fat, but good nonetheless. It was made in 1990 by a
       Canadian film maker, and appears occasionally on PBS in the US.

Fat Chance
       A film made by the Canadian National Film Board. A true story
       about Rick Zakowich, a 400 lb man who does music therapy for
       abused children, in addition to playing in a band and being an
       abstract painter. At the start, he is told he must lose 200 lbs
       for health reasons; he is also depressed, feeling isolated and
       alone. He ends up going to a conference on fat acceptance, and
       later begins a support group for overweight men. He comes to
       accept his body and discovers a fat-positive community in which
       he gets the support he needs to live his life as he is. The
       movie includes stills (of Rick and others) by a photographer he
       met at the conference who takes wonderful pictures of overweight
       people. Highly recommended.
       The movie is available from Bullfrog Films:
               PO Box 149
               Oley, PA  19547
               Phone: (800) 543-3764, (610) 779-8226
               Fax: (610) 370-1978
       For schools and libraries, with public performance rights, price
       is $275. For individuals and home video purchases, the price is
       $29.95 + $5 shipping.

Fat Chance in a Thin World
       NOVA episode, made by PBS. Features obesity researchers.

Fat World
       Lorna Boschman
       Phone: (604) 872-8337
       Fax: (604) 876-1185
       25-minute video about being fat, from a fat perspective.

Gracious Flab, Gracious Bone
       Evie Leder
       199 Riverside Dr.
       Northampton, MA  01060
       Phone: (413) 586-9012
       $12
       15-minute video about Susan Stinson and her work.

Killing Us for Our Own Good: Dieting and Medical Misinformation
       Body Image Task Force
       PO Box 934
       Santa Cruz, CA 95061-0934.
       Check or money order for $19.95 plus $5 shipping and handling.
       All proceeds go to BITF for further distribution of the film.
       Comes with a set of educational brochures.
       Lecture by Dawn Atkins. Production quality isn't high, but the
       material is timely and important. Includes Cozy Sheridan's song
       "The Losing Game." Running time is 1 hr. 45 min. Purchase
       includes the right to show the video publicly for educational
       purposes.

No Apologies
       PO Box 21474
       Oakland, CA  94620
       Phone: (510) 601-5819
       30-minute video by the size-positive, disabled-positive
       performance troupe Wry Crips.
       Individuals: $25-$35. Institutions: $55. Include $4 for shipping.

Nothing To Lose
       Fat Lip Reader's Theater
       PO Box 29963
       Oakland, CA  94604
       Phone: (510) 658-3300
       Email: [email protected]
       Video of selected performance pieces by this legendary fat
       feminist performance troupe.
       $22 + $3 shipping.

Slim Hopes: Advertising and the Obsession with Thinness
       Media Education Foundation
       Phone: (800) 659-6882
       By Jean Kilbourne (creator of "Still Killing Us Softly").
       $250 for universities/colleges; $215 for high schools and
       non-profit health centers.

Throwing Our Weight Around
       BAFL
       Sandy Dwyer
       PO Box 1836
       Jamaica Plain, MA  02130
       Phone: (617) 491-1549
       Video about fat liberation.
       Individuals: $30. Groups/institutions: $40. Add $5 shipping.
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A7)     Are there any fat-positive mainstream movies/videos?

Feature movies that feature fat characters portrayed (more or less)
positively or that have a (mostly) fat-positive message. Some folks may
disagree with some of the items in this list.

Analyze This -- Kyle Sabihy playing Michael Sobel
Babycakes (US remake of Sugarbaby) -- Ricki Lake
Bagdad Cafe -- Marianne Sagebrecht
Claire Makes It Big -- Mara Hobel
Crybaby -- Rikki Lake
Exit to Eden -- Rosie O'Donnell
Fantasia -- hippo ballerinas sequence
French Twist (Gazon Maudit) -- Josiane Balasko
Fried Green Tomatoes -- Kathy Bates
The Full Monty -- Mark Addy
Hairspray -- Rikki Lake
League of Their Own -- Rosie O'Donnell
Muriel's Wedding  -- Toni Collette
Nutty Professor -- Eddie Murphy in a fat suit {sigh}
Rosalie Goes Shopping -- Marianne Sagebrecht
Return To Me --
Sugarbaby/Zuckerbaby -- Marianne Sagebrecht
What's Eating Gilbert Grape? -- Darlene Cates


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SECTION B: Information about this FAQ

B1)     Are there other related FAQs?

There is some overlap in the topics covered by the FAQs. If you don't
find what you're looking for here, try the other FAQs.

The latest version of the following FAQs can be found at:
http://www.cat-and-dragon.com/~stef/Fatfaqs/

       alt.support.big-folks newsgroup FAQ
       soc.support.fat-acceptance newsgroup FAQ
       soc.support.fat-acceptance.moderated newsgroup FAQ
       Clothing for Big Folks in Canada
       Clothing for Big Folks in the U.S. (parts 1 and 2)
       Organizations for Big Folks
       Online Resources for Big Folks
       Other Resources for Big Folks
       Publications for Big Folks
       Resources for Dealing With the Physical Aspects of Being Fat
       Size-acceptance

The following FAQs can be found at:
http://www.sover.net/~astarte/fa/faqs.html

       Big Folks and Fitness
       Big Folks and Health
       Big Folks and Sports
       Research on Big Folks

The latest versions of following FAQs can be found at the following
locations:

       Clothing for Big Folks in the U.K. at
http://www.thegrapevine.co.uk/Avalanche/FAQ-UK.htm
       Clothing for Big Folks in Europe at
http://www.thegrapevine.co.uk/Avalanche/FAQ-Europe.htm

       Plus-Size Pregnancy Website at
http://www.teleport.com/~rvireday/plus/

You can also find (sometimes slightly older versions of) the above FAQs
(except the plus-size pregnancy FAQs) at the following locations:


  ftp://rtfm.mit.edu/pub/usenet/news.answers/fat-acceptance-faq/

(Note: The big-folks FAQ is listed separately at these locations.)

You can also get FAQs from rtfm.mit.edu via anonymous FTP or via the mail
archive server. For information about the mail server, send email to
[email protected]
with the word "help" (without the quotes) in the body of the message.

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B2)     Posting information

This document is posted bi-weekly to alt.support.big-folks,
soc.support.fat-acceptance, and soc.support.fat-acceptance.moderated.

Stef Maruch ([email protected]) maintains this FAQ.

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B3)     Contributors

These are the people who contributed significant chunks to the FAQ:
Sasha Wood              ([email protected])
Largesse                ([email protected])

Also, lots and lots of other people (too many to credit) contributed
information that appears herein, some via email and some on s.s.f-a or
a.s.b-f.  Thanks to them all.

Suggestions for additions/improvements are always welcome.
Send suggestions to Stef Maruch ([email protected])

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