Subj : Re: BBS People
To : Dream Master
From : ryan
Date : Tue Feb 09 2021 11:49 am
DM> The term "disappointed" was not one of my favorites my father would use.
DM> After I knocked up a girlfriend of mine at 16, he used that word. It
DM> royally screwed me up and I stopped to think more frequently before
DM> acting.
When I had a scare once (turns out I can't have kids so she was cheating.
Whore!) my dad had a chat with me where he said people screw up, and it's ok
to screw up, but always be cautious of making one stupid decision in the heat
of passion that could change my entire life.
That's not to say having a kid is a screw up, nor is it a knock against your
or your family. I just think, in retrospect, it was a very profound thing he
told me which I've referenced throughout my life since.
DM> Today, my oldest son has heard me use the word "disappointed" once. The
DM> rest of my children have never heard it. After being disappointed in my
DM> oldest, he turned around and started making better choices.
Yeah. And it's not anger influencing him, or fear. It's the true consequence
of disappointing those you love. It's powerful.
