Subj : Absent parents
To : Arelor
From : mseifert
Date : Sun Feb 07 2021 02:30 pm
)-> Quoting Arelor, who said to mseifert <-(:
Ar> Re: Re: BBS People
Ar> By: mseifert to Arelor on Sat Feb 06 2021 07:53 pm
> Hey, I get it.. I was both a victim of peer pressure and bullyinhg as a kid
Ar> There is this idea that mean people is mean because they lack a solid
Ar> social foundation.
Ar> I don't buy that theory.
I agree that some parents don't take an active enough part in raising their
children not to be a problem, and some times it's because the kid is too much
of an hassle and sometimes they just don't care. In either case they shouldn't
be parents because they're also the first to complain when little Hitler junior
(ok to say, my family is from Germany) comes home with an injury because his
victim finally snaps.
Ar> People reaffirms their group identity by both scoring points within
Ar> their own social group and trashing outsiders. Kids are no different.
Ar> If there is group with a heavy identity (think "gang like") they are
Ar> going to have a solid social network (the gang) and their mean actions
Ar> are going to be driven by the fact they are acceptable for the gang.
Ar> You can see this principle at work in the workplace for that matter.
Ar> I have a bit of a problem when people starts worrying their kids are
Ar> not going to socialize because oftentimes, this people is the sort of
Ar> people who believes that educating kids means letting "society" educate
Ar> them. Which means letting them loose in the school or park to their own
Ar> whims. Let's face it, parents have been waaaay more lazy than they used
Ar> to be in the 90s. They want a well-behaved kid without having to put
Ar> work into it so they delude themselves into thinking "the system" will
Ar> do the work for them.
Ar> Then kid goes back home with a stab wound because he pushed some nerd
Ar> past the breaking point or whatever, and it is deemed society's
Ar> failure.
Ar> Geeeeez, modern schools make me long for General Franco's military
Ar> camps for kids.
thanks.
Mark.
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