I quit my job. I had been fed up for awhile. We had been
bought out and they laid off over half of our engineering
team. Not sure why they kept me, but they did. I stayed
for longer amount of time than I should have. In part so
that we could get through escrow on our house. But our
toddler switched to one nap (and resists taking that one),
which has made it impossible for my wife and I to both
get work done. Meanwhile a co-worker was taking the new
situation to exert dominance in "how we should do things".
I really disagreed with them and had an eventual confront-
ation in a pull request. In the end they decided that having
an arbitrary and meaningless formatting thing was more
important than keeping me as a co-worker. I gave my notice
and last week started being a stay at home dad.
This corresponded with a sleep regression for my daughter
and she has not been sleeping at all. She also has managed
to get past all gates, blocks, impediments, etc we have
placed to block the stairs and keep being awakened in the
middle of the night to her on the stairs or in our room
(which is upstairs). She also learned how to climb out of
her crib. It is actually quite impressive, but she wont
stay in bed unless one of us stands there until she falls
asleep.
Staying at home with her has been WAAAAAY more work than
an actual job. Like, a shocking amount more. I am only
getting this time now because I stood at her cribside for
40 minutes to get her to fall asleep. But I am glad to
have the time and glad to have her getting the sleep she
so clearly needs. I have also been ironing out a schedule
to our days with time outside, crafts/coloring, reading,
resting, and eating. It is exhausting.
I hope all of you in gopherspace are doing well.
My plan is to ride out the pandemic (which I define as
being over when we feel safe putting my daughter in
day care or having some help come to the house during
the day). It is a shame grandparents do not live close
enough as they are now vaccinated and would very much
like the time with her. Anyway, once we get to that
point I will be looking for work again I suppose. Part
of my wants to open a restaurant, but that part also
knows how bad an idea that is. I'll probably get another
tech job... hopefully for a company doing something I
can actually feel good about. The money is less of a
concern for us at this point (I could take a large pay
cut from what I was making at the last place and we'd
be fine since the mortgage on the house is less than
half what we were paying for rent before). I may decide
to go the web accessibility route like my wife did. Or
I may just try to get a lazy php/wordpress job or
something like that. We'll see.
