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Some parents are conducting drills at home to teach their children what | |
to do during a mass shooting | |
By Faith Karimi, CNN | |
Updated: | |
6:30 AM EDT, Fri August 29, 2025 | |
Source: CNN | |
Gunfire crackles and screams echo through Eeka McLeod’s home in | |
Phoenix, Arizona. | |
McLeod is issuing rapid instructions to her 7-year-old daughter Ella, | |
who is sprawled on her back on a bedroom floor. | |
“Stop breathing so heavy. Don’t move … little breaths, less, | |
less,” she tells the girl. “Relax your face … no smiles, no | |
nothing. Relax every muscle in your body.” | |
The dramatic scene isn’t a real shooting. The gunshots and anguished | |
cries come from a video playing on McLeod’s phone. Mother and | |
daughter are rehearsing for the unthinkable: what to do if a gunman | |
enters Ella’s school. | |
McLeod captured their shooting drill on video and on social media last | |
September, including TikTok, where it has been viewed more than 34 | |
million times. She’s one of a number of moms around the country who | |
are taking extra steps to protect their children in an age of mass | |
shootings. | |
CNN spoke to several of these parents, who say they have been holding | |
such drills for months. But their grim rehearsals have taken on a new | |
urgency in the wake of at a Catholic school in Minneapolis, where two | |
children were killed and another 17 people were injured. | |
Many schools conduct active-shooter drills in which students are taught | |
to hide in locked, darkened classrooms. But parents like McLeod say | |
their home drills add an extra layer of protection. | |
McLeod’s video shows her teaching Ella how to feign death during a | |
potential shooting by remaining motionless, often in an awkward pose, | |
and holding her breath. | |
As part of the drill, she guides Ella through various scenarios, | |
including how to smear herself with someone else’s blood to appear | |
fatally wounded. | |
“We practice falling on her back, on her side, on her tummy,” | |
McLeod says. “I run the drills the same way I would if I was coaching | |
her team. My focus is not on emotions but on making sure I give her the | |
skills she needs to survive.” | |
McLeod says she has received criticism from people who say she is | |
traumatizing her daughter, and she recognizes such drills aren’t for | |
everyone. But she believes they are necessary in a country where mass | |
shootings are a recurring headline. | |
“My perspective is … why are teachers responsible for this? This is | |
my child. That is my responsibility,” she says. “And if she’s old | |
enough to go to school and die … because our schoolchildren are dying | |
… she’s old enough to know the truth.” | |
McLeod describes Wednesday’s deadly shooting at Annunciation Catholic | |
School as another stark reminder of America’s gun crisis. | |
“It’s our nation’s children who pay for the decisions of our | |
nation’s adults,” she says. | |
She started home drills after a deadly school shooting in Georgia | |
McLeod started her home drills in September 2024 after that left four | |
people dead and nine injured at a high school in Winder, Georgia. | |
The shooter, a 14-year-old student, hid an AR-15-style rifle in his | |
backpack and took it to school, where he fired into a classroom and | |
down a hallway before he was arrested. Ella’s elementary school | |
conducted an active-shooter drill days after that incident, McLeod | |
says. | |
Roughly 98% of K-12 schools in the United States conduct lockdown | |
drills, the Rockefeller Institute of Government, although the methods | |
vary in different states. Such drills cover a range of threats inside | |
the school, including criminal activity and active shooters. | |
Ella recounted how students hid in darkened classrooms and squeezed | |
behind desks and cabinets as part of the drill, McLeod says. But when | |
McLeod asked her if she knew the reason for the lockdown drill, she | |
shrugged her shoulders. | |
She told her mother the teacher had described it as a “mild practice | |
thing” to avoid making the students anxious, McLeod says. | |
“I kind of sat there … and decided the best course of action for me | |
as a parent was to be as honest as possible,” she says. | |
Choosing her words carefully, and avoiding loaded words such as | |
“murder,” she tried to explain. | |
“I told her, ‘The reason you’re actually doing these (drills) is | |
because people are coming into schools with guns and they are shooting | |
children.’” | |
McLeod says her daughter laughed it off and assumed it was her | |
mother’s dark sense of humor. That’s when it hit McLeod that Ella | |
did not fully grasp the seriousness of the threat. | |
“It occurred to me just how asinine the concept of school shootings | |
is. How ridiculous and insane it sounds to (a young child) that people | |
would come in and kill children in a school.” | |
Days later, she says, she had her first active-shooter drill at home | |
with Ella and has conducted them regularly since. | |
In the TikTok video, Ella lies with her arms at her sides and stifles a | |
giggle. | |
“Dead people don’t smile,” her mother says. | |
McLeod says she hasn’t yet talked to her daughter about Wednesday’s | |
shooting in Minneapolis. She’s aware that the play-dead drills | |
wouldn’t likely help Ella in such a case, because the Minneapolis | |
shooter did not enter classrooms but fired into windows from outside | |
the building. | |
So she’s planning a new kind of lesson: She’ll take Ella and her | |
10-year-old sister to a shooting range so they’ll be quicker to | |
recognize and react to gunfire – even if they can’t see the | |
shooter. | |
One mom considered buying a bulletproof backpack for her daughter | |
CNN spoke to three parents who conduct active-shooter exercises with | |
their children at home. Two of them did not want to be identified for | |
fear of backlash. | |
One mother in St. Louis says the 2012 school shooting at , where 26 | |
people died, was a turning point for her – even though she was not a | |
parent at the time. | |
As soon as her daughter was old enough to understand, she says she | |
started teaching her to run and hide if someone started shooting. | |
After the May 2022 shooting at , she says their drills became more | |
frequent. Her daughter was in elementary school at the time, so the | |
Uvalde shooting hit close to home. | |
“We started teaching her how to play dead,” she says. She also | |
taught her daughter that her focus should be on saving herself – not | |
anyone else – if a shooter shows up at her school. | |
Her daughter is now 9, and they continue to conduct the drills at home. | |
But it never gets easier, she says. | |
“She’s very sensitive and I am not able to keep myself together | |
while we have these talks — we usually cry together and talk about | |
why it’s so important,” she says. “It’s not possible to not | |
cause fear and anxiety. This, unfortunately, is the reality of life for | |
schoolkids in the US now.” | |
Amanda, who lives in Puyallup, Washington, says she’s teaching | |
similar lessons to her 8-year-old daughter. The lessons sometimes | |
require difficult conversations. | |
When her daughter said she planned to save her best friend if a shooter | |
came to their school, her mom was blunt in her response. | |
“I had to, in no uncertain terms, tell her that if she tried to | |
protect her friend, she would also likely die,” she says. | |
Amanda says she started teaching her daughter while she was in | |
kindergarten how to stay quiet and motionless during a shooting. She | |
briefly contemplated buying her a bulletproof backpack but ultimately | |
opted for a multicolored book bag. | |
Her child sees a therapist to address her anxieties, she says. | |
“Unfortunately, it isn’t an irrational fear,” she says. “All I | |
can do is lean on the tools we practice in therapy and our daily | |
routines to help her manage it.” | |
Wednesday’s Minneapolis shooting hit Amanda especially hard because | |
one of the children killed is the same age as her daughter, she says. | |
Her daughter is at summer camp and likely doesn’t know about the | |
shooting yet, she says. She tries to limit how much news exposure she | |
gets. | |
Her daughter starts school next week, and they usually have a safety | |
talk the night before. But she says she’s not planning to mention the | |
Minneapolis shooting. | |
“I think more than anything, this (shooting) will reinforce my | |
messaging about being aware of your surroundings and people,” she | |
says. “I’ve been trying to help her strengthen that situational | |
awareness for everyday things like grocery shopping … getting her to | |
apply that in school might be a challenge, but beneficial.” | |
Critics say active-shooter drills can traumatize children | |
As of this week there have been 44 school shootings so far this year in | |
the US — half of them on K-12 school grounds. Eighteen people have | |
been killed, and dozens injured, according to by CNN. | |
The unpredictability and trauma of school shootings poses a huge | |
challenge for parents and teachers, says Lisa Morgan, president of the | |
Georgia Association of Educators. | |
“Parents are being forced to make some very hard decisions about what | |
they share with their children,” she says. “We have accepted that | |
there will be violence in our schools. And so our efforts are toward | |
anything we feel like we personally can do to ensure we survive.” | |
School shootings account for less than 1% of the more than 44,000 | |
annual gun deaths nationwide, according to Everytown for Gun Safety, a | |
nonprofit that advocates for gun control. | |
But they have an outsized impact on communities, forcing schools to | |
take action. | |
While the vast majority of schools now hold them, there are no uniform | |
regulations for lockdown and active shooter drills. | |
“It gets very confusing because it varies by state law and then it | |
goes down to the individual school districts and then even individual | |
school preferences,” says Dr. Annie Andrews, a pediatrician and | |
senior advisor at Everytown for Gun Safety. | |
Some schools have used pellet guns and fake blood to mimic the scene of | |
a shooting, she said. | |
Everytown and other gun-safety groups there’s insufficient research | |
that active-shooter drills are effective in protecting students and | |
staff during actual shootings. | |
In 2022, Everytown for Gun Safety partnered with the American | |
Federation of Teachers and the National Education Association to | |
produce . It linked the drills to increased depression, stress and | |
anxiety in children. | |
Andrews said she empathizes with McLeod and other parents who fear for | |
their children’s safety. | |
“My heart breaks for parents who are trying to grapple with this | |
public health crisis that is gun violence … and trying to feel some | |
sense of agency over what they can do to protect their children,” she | |
said. | |
But she’s not convinced that active-shooter drills, especially those | |
involving children, make students safer. Children could face long-term | |
effects from losing their sense of physical and psychological safety in | |
a classroom, Andrews says. | |
“As a pediatrician, I’m also always going to be thinking about | |
compounding trauma for children with drills that … cause anxiety and | |
stress,” she says. | |
She suggests instead that parents protect their kids by securing | |
firearms at home. The majority of school shooters under age 18 get | |
their guns from the home of a parent, friend or relative, she says. | |
And if children must take part in drills and emergency planning, | |
parents and teachers should consider their age, developmental stage and | |
how they handle crises, Andrews says. | |
“Assure them that it’s our job to protect them and keep them | |
safe,” she says. “Validate their feelings of fear and anxiety.” | |
She tries to strike a balance between fear and readiness | |
McLeod is unfazed by criticism that her home drills are too graphic for | |
her child, calling them an essential survival tool in today’s world. | |
“Just like we were taught ‘stranger danger’ as kids… but with a | |
gun,” she said. | |
She has since made her TikTok account private due to ongoing | |
harassment, she said. | |
“Not everybody agrees with what I’m doing … but I will do | |
anything it takes to give my child any leg up in life that they need to | |
stay alive,” she says. | |
Ella’s pet chicken, Barbie, died last fall, which has made the | |
concept of loss a little easier for her to grasp, McLeod says. | |
McLeod says she’s struggled with finding the right balance between | |
teaching her child how to survive a shooting and making sure she’s | |
not traumatized. All the parents CNN spoke with share similar concerns. | |
If she does nothing, McLeod fears her daughter will freeze if violence | |
strikes. But if she does too much, she fears harming the child she’s | |
trying to protect. | |
But even with this uncertainty, she says she’s positive that she’s | |
doing the right thing. | |
“I would rather have my kids scared and alive than naive and dead,” | |
she says. | |
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