Subj : Facebook & online stuff
To   : Arelor
From : Boraxman
Date : Fri May 23 2025 08:00 am

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Ar>   Re: Facebook & online stuff
Ar>   By: Boraxman to Arelor on
Ar> Thu May 22 2025 08:08 am

>   not going out, staying at home was known in the 90s.  I recall someone
>  talking  of "cocooning" in the early 90s, where people were choosing to
> stay at home,
>   eat in, etc, instead of going out.  So it was talked about back then, and
>  that was before the Internet became popular in households.

Ar> Kids in the 90s I grew up with would play soccer all afternoon long
Ar> after homework. Usually they would play soccer all afternoon long
Ar> skipping homework altogether.

Ar> I think people in Spain still go out with outstanding frequency, but
Ar> the nature of social interaction is specially shallow. People goes out
Ar> specifically for getting drunk with others and that is what friends are
Ar> good for. I don't think you can have friends who get interested in your
Ar> life projects or who you get to help with their life projects anymore.


>   Is this trend towards unsatisfactory romantic relationships relatively
>  recent, or a longer term trend?  I can see how it is true but I'm
> interested in when it started.

Ar> It depends on how you define "recent". I think the first ones I read
Ar> were 5 to 10 years old at the most. I remember thinking a lot of the
Ar> secondary issues pointed out in those studies seemed linked to Tinder
Ar> and Tinder-like dating applications.

I've heard first had from people who had been in the dating scene a long, long
time that these apps have indeed completely changed peoples expectations.  They
report exactly which this study said, that people aren't really looking for
relationships.  Its treated more like an online store where you can arrange a
meal for the night or a one off visit.


... BoraxMan
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