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What To Do When You Hit a Brick Wall in Life6 min read

  by [16]Dan | Feb 10, 2020 | [17]Philosophy and Mindset | [18]0 comments
  What To Do When You Hit a Brick Wall in Life6 min read

  Life is full obstacles. Big and small. Permanent and temporary. Serious
  and trivial. If you live any sort of a long and decent lifetime, you
  are going to experience plenty of all of these. A simple search online
  will [19]reveal some of the toughest challenges that people you may
  know have faced.

  These obstacles aren’t something to fear or bemoan though, they’re
  something to celebrate. The struggles we face and the obstacles we
  overcome often end up defining who we are. Sometimes though, that
  doesn’t make them any easier to deal with at the time. And brick walls
  aren’t exactly ideal, no matter when you experience them.

  Obstacles, struggles and hitting brick walls are all inevitable in your
  lifetime. Whether you are facing one now, helping someone facing one
  now or preparing for one in the future, this article will help you
  decide what to do when you hit a brick wall in life.


Identify the brick wall


  One of the first things that you need to when you hit a brick wall in
  your life is to identify exactly what the wall is. This is often easier
  said than done though because the metaphorical walls that we hit are
  often professional shape-shifters.

  They make you think that you have a chocolate obsession, when the real
  wall is a habit of [20]procrastination.

  They make you think that your short arms are stopping you from being
  good at pull-ups, when the real wall is your willpower in the moment.

  It’s important to identify your wall for what it really is. There is
  often only one or two major things that are holding you back, and all
  of the other symptoms stem from those. Is it your routine? Is it your
  work? Is it yourself? Is the [21]wall even real? Or is it just a bad
  week/month? The brick wall isn’t always what it seems and it may not
  even stick around for that long, so it’s important to know what you are
  dealing with before you get too stressed out.


Evaluate the brick wall


  Once you have a decent idea about what the roadblock you are facing is,
  it’s time to decide how you are going to deal with it.

  Is the wall surmountable? Or is it eighty-feet high?

  If it’s surmountable, say you realise that the wall is your
  self-confidence or your inability to kick with your left foot, then all
  you need to do is start building a ladder over the top. Practice
  speaking in front of the mirror and then in front of people. Spend
  extra time practising with your left foot until it is at a level that
  you are happy with.

  If the wall is eighty-feet high, say there isn’t another worthwhile
  promotion opportunity at your work without it meaning much more
  responsibility and only a small pay rise, is there an alternate route
  you can take? Either around the wall or a new path entirely?


Practice Resilience


  Resilience is an interesting word because it is made up of many more
  parts than people initially think.

  Sometimes, resilience means having faith in what you are doing. It is
  when you have confidence in your methods, your process, your habits and
  you just weather the storm that will inevitably come – like a strong
  ship made for handling the harshness of the seas. It is where time and
  repetition are the key factors in getting where you want to go.
  Resilience and patience often go hand-in-hand and this is the classical
  sense of the word.

  The other, lesser-known side to resilience is the ability to step back
  and re-evaluate your situation. It is taking another look at your
  methods, your process and your [22]habits and deciding whether they are
  building you up to ride and survive ferocious waters or if they are
  building you something feeble to travel in.

  Stepping away from the metaphors, resilience is knowing when to push
  through and also knowing when to reflect, adjust and pivot. In order to
  overcome any set of obstacles in your life, it is important to know
  when to use both. If you don’t know yet, you just have to keep
  practising until you do.


Recognise that brick walls aren’t unique to you


  It may not come as a surprise to you when written down as bluntly and
  as obvious as this, but that is usually what we need. Personally, when
  I get wrapped up in a problem, hit a big obstacle or suffer in any way
  in my own life, I often slip into the mindset of thinking that the
  problem is unique to me. This envokes a sense of self-pity – which
  doesn’t help anyone – rather than a plan of action.

  It’s really important to realise that everyone hits brick walls in
  every area of life: health, career, finance, relationships, you name
  it. The fact of the matter is that nobody knows what they are
  doing all of the time and for most of us including myself, we have no
  idea what we are doing most of the time, either. You need to let your
  [23]impostor syndrome step to one side for a little while.

  That’s just the way life goes. You can either sit at the foot of the
  wall in pity or start trying method after method for finding a way to
  get past it. I don’t know anyone who has gotten past a wall with the
  first method.


Speak to people you trust


  This is perhaps the most important point in this list. As well as
  speaking to people you trust such as close friends or family, you can
  try taking advice from [24]mentors that you’ve never met but who you
  know give good advice. In essence, get a different perspective on the
  big obstacle standing in your way that isn’t involved with the
  obstacle.

  By nature, our walls are personal and unique to us. We can become
  attached to them, loathe them and see them as either enemies that we
  can never conquer or convenient stopping points so we don’t need to
  push ourselves further. Whatever role the wall is playing in your life,
  it is useful to get an outsider’s perspective – someone who isn’t
  wrapped up with the obstacle like you might be.

  This is why it is easy to give great advice to your friends but why it
  is so [25]hard to take your own advice. It’s easy to assess the
  situation in a non-emotional manner when we aren’t involved and choose
  the right plan of action – even when it isn’t the easiest plan of
  action. When it’s you, you get all of the same mental barriers that
  your friend has. That’s why in order to get over your brick wall in
  life, it is useful to get advice from people who aren’t facing it
  themselves (and ideally, have faced something similar in the past and
  won).

  The wall that you are facing in your life might be extremely specific
  or very vague. Either way, these principles are designed to be applied
  to whatever obstacle that you face.


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